FabSwingers.com forum: Coming out as a swinger

By (user no longer on site) OP
3 weeks ago

Anyone ever done this?

How did it go with friends and family?

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By *evon dynomiteMan
3 weeks ago

paignton

U genuinley dont. Its a secret

Met a couple we knew out side of swining at a party and it added way more passion

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By *ellinever70Woman
3 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I just don't know why anyone would need to tell their friends or family about their extracurricular sex life

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By *partharmonyCouple
3 weeks ago

Ruislip

Not in general. We have told people we thought would be fine with it and they were.

I do know a couple who came out to their oldest child, a teenager, and she kind of already knew. They are forumites and might care to comment.

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By *lue NotebooksCouple
3 weeks ago

Merseyside

Nope we would never, we love the secret life

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By *eliWoman
3 weeks ago

No. Why would I? I don't discuss my sex life with people. Not that I am a swinger but... nope.

I am thinking about my introducing my sister/a brother to the boyfriend when I'm next down. He's the first one I've had where I've felt safe and secure enough and trusted him enough to be open about the poly side of things with my family. It's a lovely feeling.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
3 weeks ago

Brum - ish

I’ve only ever told one friend. I kind of wished I hadn’t as she made hints in front of another friend - wanting to suggest that she knew something the other friend didn’t.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
3 weeks ago

The Continental

"I just don't know why anyone would need to tell their friends or family about their extracurricular sex life "

I don’t even need to tell them about the curricular one let alone the extracurricular.

My sex life is between me and the people I’m doing it with.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

My family know I'm enm.

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By *nomeforyourboneWoman
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

Only one of my friends know and that's because she had done this kind of thing too. Anyone else in my life doesn't know, their mind would be blown

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By *aitonelMan
3 weeks ago

Liverpool

Facebook status update, job done.

Easy and swift.

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By *a1970Man
3 weeks ago

East cork

I'd have no interest in sharing that. Although a close friend revealed it to me that she was. She was very vulnerable at the time with a broken heart. We are still great friends and no I didn't as the age gap is too much.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
3 weeks ago

Wherever

Why would you though.

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By *iscombobulated1523Couple
3 weeks ago

Worcestershire

Our families and friends don't need to know the ins and outs of our private life

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Nope. It's not as if it's the same as telling friends and family you're gay, that's letting them know something basic to your being, swinging isn't that

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By *rHotNottsMan
3 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Nope. It's not as if it's the same as telling friends and family you're gay, that's letting them know something basic to your being, swinging isn't that "

For some it is that central to who they are, it’s not just a hobby.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Nope. It's not as if it's the same as telling friends and family you're gay, that's letting them know something basic to your being, swinging isn't that

For some it is that central to who they are, it’s not just a hobby.

Swinging is? Ok add 'for me' at the end

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
3 weeks ago

Perpignan and cap

I've told a couple of friends that I'm kinky but generally no. It's none of their business, why make it so?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
3 weeks ago

Leeds

Some friends are aware for safety purposes and my dad which was an accident but he's all good with it.

Mrs

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By *herrybakewellCouple
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I don't tell family, but I announced it to my friends over a curry.

Mixed reviews from them....most find it really exciting. Yet bizarrely the younger who are all on tinder meeting lots of different people really don't get it at all.

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By *rK MrsJCouple
3 weeks ago

Kidderminster

"Only one of my friends know and that's because she had done this kind of thing too. Anyone else in my life doesn't know, their mind would be blown

It was one of our friends introduced us to swinging, we had an idea, but we've not looked back since

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By *hatCoupleNextDoorCouple
3 weeks ago

nearby

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

What is the modern obsession with broadcasting and publicising every aspect of our lives, including our sex lives?

Nobody, and I mean nobody, including your nearest and dearest, needs to know you're a swinger. Unless they're in a room where swinging might take place.

In other news, I hope it goes well.

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By *batMan
3 weeks ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I've told new partners about it as honesty is important. Some are very interested, some are not!

Plus I've told my closest mate, but that was as part of a much longer conversation about my relationships and emotions. Bit of unpaid counselling!!!

Gbat

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
3 weeks ago

Cheshire

I have to tell any partner about my crossdressing as it’s something that will eventually come out. The majority of the time it’s fine but relationships in the early stages have failed for this one reason alone. Only a select group of friends know about me and they are very trustworthy.

But unless it’s something you intend to carry on with a new partner I can’t understand why you would want to ‘out yourself’.

It’s your sex life not something you have a compulsion to do, so in my opinion keep it to yourself.

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By *entleman JayMan
3 weeks ago

Wakefield

I like being part of a secret club. I want it to stay that way.

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By *ourtney CocksWoman
3 weeks ago

fabland

Not everyone needs to know everything about you

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By *elly and daveCouple
3 weeks ago

gateshead

I'd rather tell people I was a manchester united supporter, than a swinger!

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
3 weeks ago

Wolvo

Nah i like to keep things separate. I make swinging friends to have those discussions with and vanilla ppl stay vanilla 😁

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By *ubMissNorfolk89Woman
3 weeks ago

Downham Market

I can’t imagine a situation where I would want too.

This is my secret life.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"I'd rather tell people I was a manchester united supporter, than a swinger!

Come on, take it seriously or just don't comment. Such obvious bullshit is just an insult to the OP... Play fair.

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By *vonne5exMan
3 weeks ago

Doncaster

The secretive is part of the buzz, I've always joked if you bumped into someone you know just fuck them.

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By *ags73Man
3 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Nope nopity nope.

Although if I did, no one could criticise me.

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By *elly and daveCouple
3 weeks ago

gateshead

'Dry wit and a penchant for sarcastic banter'! You've changed your tune!

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By *orthern StarsCouple
3 weeks ago

Durham

Our 2 best friends (2 couples) know about it but no one else. They are very curious and ask us questions about that lifestyle. It's good to have friends to confide in from time to time and is the source of some fun and entertaining conversations, all good though.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

No. It would completely shatter my family's idea of who I am. I don't see any good reason to do that.

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By *ornycougaWoman
3 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

My family and friends know I am ENM and won't be in inviting anyone to join our Christmas dinner table anytime soon

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