FabSwingers.com forum: Is it better to keep a fantasy than make it a reality ?

By *rivatelurker OP Man
4 days ago

Chelmsford

We all make the perfect scenarios in our head with sharing the wife etc in a stag and vixen relationship but is it gonna be how you imagined? Obviously in your head it's the perfect encounter

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By *midnight-Woman
4 days ago

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I've been someone's fantasy for 6 years and they've blown me out 4/5 times got a social coffee for various reasons.... I think at this stage reality would be a massive disappointment to them!

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 days ago

North West

So far the reality has exceeded each time. Picking the right people and good communication plays a huge part in that. Tonight B and I are going to discover if a certain one would've been better staying in my head but there's only one way to find out! 😬😈

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By (user no longer on site)
4 days ago

The truth is the reality rarely lives up to the fantasy, but that doesn't mean we in some cases we shouldn't make our fantasies real.

The problem is sometimes people overthink it and don't try.

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By *essaMayWoman
4 days ago

Fairytale Wood

Just remember that the reality can be very different from a fantasy and can go very wrong.

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By *ealitybitesMan
4 days ago

Belfast

I don't have the option of fantasising and never have done so for me everything is the reality, hence the thinking behind the choice of profile name.

I live in the present and take each day as it comes and am therefore rarely disappointed.

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By *oughmanMan
4 days ago

Sunderland

Considering that my fantasy is owning my own house and doing a job I love. If you mean sexualy, I don't delude myself.

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By *tevenTellyCouple
4 days ago

Newmarket

Did it turn out exactly as expected? No.

But it's pretty damn good once I stopped laying out expectations.

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By *moothshaftMan
4 days ago

Coventry

I think it's best to keep my fantasy's purely that, fantasy.

I'd be doing time otherwise.

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By *runette n JayCouple
4 days ago

bilston

Our first threesome was not long ago... did it go as expected? No.

I was very naive in thinking it would TBH, I was so so sure of myself of having zero jealousy yet there it was, I'm seriously as far from a jealous person as you could meet. It was only a small spike but it took me off guard. It was only at the start but it did hold me back a bit.

Alas it didn't hit that 'high' that I was expecting it to, however I still enjoyed it. I know now after speaking to many that it's rather common on firsts.

Would we do it again? For sure! We really want to and we are sure it will be explosive from the start this time.

Jay

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By *Raven.Woman
4 days ago

Not the North West...

This is why I never meet anyone.

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By *uffneck80Man
4 days ago

Eastbourne

It’s a very rare thing when the reality is better than the fantasy, but when it happens…….. out of this world

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By *egasus NobMan
4 days ago

Wandsworth

I have been thinking the same lately

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By *oughmanMan
4 days ago

Sunderland

"This is why I never meet anyone. "

Why's that? Because you build a picture in your head and then end up disappointed at the real thing?

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By *uffneck80Man
4 days ago

Eastbourne

"Just remember that the reality can be very different from a fantasy and can go very wrong."

I totally agree with you, and it is usually when people are out of their heads and thinking it’s a good idea at the time

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By *riar BelisseWoman
4 days ago

Delightful Bliss

Mine were all generic scenarios, that I didn't pad out with too many details, so for me they were all amazing when played out

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By *uffneck80Man
4 days ago

Eastbourne

"I've been someone's fantasy for 6 years and they've blown me out 4/5 times got a social coffee for various reasons.... I think at this stage reality would be a massive disappointment to them!"

Respectfully saying, they clearly don’t know what they were missing out on

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
3 days ago

North West

"So far the reality has exceeded each time. Picking the right people and good communication plays a huge part in that. Tonight B and I are going to discover if a certain one would've been better staying in my head but there's only one way to find out! 😬😈"

So, this one wasn't. It was until we both forgot about my shitty shoulder and there was actual horrible pain rather than discomfort. Shows the importance of having safe signals as well as safe words.

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By *Raven.Woman
3 days ago

Not the North West...

"This is why I never meet anyone.

Why's that? Because you build a picture in your head and then end up disappointed at the real thing?"

I'm the disappointment! 🤣

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By *aitonelMan
3 days ago

Away for Christmas

"This is why I never meet anyone.

Why's that? Because you build a picture in your head and then end up disappointed at the real thing?

I'm the disappointment! 🤣

Facts!

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By *midnight-Woman
3 days ago

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So, this one wasn't. It was until we both forgot about my shitty shoulder and there was actual horrible pain rather than discomfort. Shows the importance of having safe signals as well as safe words. "

My mind is boggling, what did you try!

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By *oughmanMan
3 days ago

Sunderland

"This is why I never meet anyone.

Why's that? Because you build a picture in your head and then end up disappointed at the real thing?

I'm the disappointment! 🤣

Ouch. Why the low self esteem? If you were closer I would have seen that for myself. Not that I'm a catch or anything.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
3 days ago

North West

So, this one wasn't. It was until we both forgot about my shitty shoulder and there was actual horrible pain rather than discomfort. Shows the importance of having safe signals as well as safe words.

My mind is boggling, what did you try!"

Messaged you. Not sure it's one for the forums 🫣

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