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Giver or receiver or both

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In a relationship are you the giver, the receiver or both

Not sexually

Are you the person who needs all the attention, the affirmation or are you the one who does all of this or is it mutual and when required

How do you feel about needy people, people who say negative things hoping for positive attention or needing that constant affirmation

How do you feel about people who constantly want to please, in some ways feel they can change you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first time you need attention from your partner, there's something wrong. I think people use the word needy to deflect their lack of giving to a relationship to make it their partners issue. Time and attention is important in any relationship to some extent but it's essential to have an equal give and take of it.

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By *sWyldWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Giver and as much as I love it, I'm actually tired of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always seem to give 110%, and then I get hurt when people don't put in the same amount of effort. It's my own doing, I've tried different approaches but relationships always pan out the same 🤦‍♀️

One of the many reasons I'm done with all of that

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'd find it very draining to be with someone who did themselves down in the hope I'd be complimentary

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By *ildTimes.Man
over a year ago

Wherever I May Roam


"I always seem to give 110%, and then I get hurt when people don't put in the same amount of effort. It's my own doing, I've tried different approaches but relationships always pan out the same 🤦‍♀️

One of the many reasons I'm done with all of that "

Maybe if you'd have given 120% and tried a bit more 🤷🏻‍♂️ just saying....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always seem to give 110%, and then I get hurt when people don't put in the same amount of effort. It's my own doing, I've tried different approaches but relationships always pan out the same 🤦‍♀️

One of the many reasons I'm done with all of that

Maybe if you'd have given 120% and tried a bit more 🤷🏻‍♂️ just saying...."

Must try harder next time

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Garden of Eden

Always seem to be the giver. I'm way too independent to be needy but sometimes...just sometimes it would be nice for the tables to be turned x

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By *adKMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Id say both, it always works better when you give pleasure the more you give the more you recieve

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I don't like needy people. I don't like overly affectionate love bombing or excessive attention.

I tend to prefer relationships where it's pretty equal. Occasional meaningful expressions of feeling and the rest of the time just being who we are 💜

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a giver but I hate that about myself.

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By *imples24Man
over a year ago

tamworth

Prefer to be the giver

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I don't seek the validation or affirmation of others I must be a giver. However, I don't panda to the need of others for external validation either. The reality is a balance. I warm to those that understand that no matter how independent a person is, they welcome support their way and if you truly love someone then you'll seek to understand their unspoken language and speak it. They will also do the same with you.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Neediness is an instant turn off and deal breaker. I don't need that in my life.

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