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Parental Alienation Awareness day

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By *or Fox Sake OP   Couple
over a year ago

Thornaby

Today is Parental Alienation Awareness day

"Parental alienation is a social dynamic, generally occurring due to divorce or separation, when a child expresses unjustified hatred or unreasonably strong dislike of one parent, making access by the rejected parent difficult or impossible.These feelings may be influenced by negative comments by the other parent and by the characteristics, such as lack of empathy and warmth, of the rejected parent"

In a nutshell it's where a parent turns a child against the other parent. It's about making a child scared to love the "other" parent, or teaching them to hate the "other" parent.

It's about taking one persons anger and hatred (the adult) and passing it on to a child. It's about stripping a childs love away and replace it with hatred and loathing, with the sole reason of using a child as a weapon to hurt an adult. It's the odd sly dig, the comment "your dad is rubbish", it's the chance taken to reduce contact or access, to make things difficult.

It's child abuse pure and simple.

I've seen it first hand and seen a man lose his daughter.

I'm sure everyone on here will have heard of it, or seen it or been exposed to it.

I'm taking an oath, a pledge, I will never teach my son to hate his mother. I'll never let my anger cascade into his life. He's too precious.

I'll always encourage communication, I won't put barriers up, I'll be careful what I say and when I say it.

If you see me doing it, stop me. If I slip or fall into bad habits, stop me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a good thing to be promoting. I worked for cafcas some years ago and saw it a lot. Courts do now take a dim view of it but not enough is done.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I am very careful what I say and do in regards to my ex in front of our son you would never think I despise the bloke!!

We chat and laugh and I invite him for dinner so he can spend more time with him when he's busy working so he doesnt get to take him out for a week or so etc.

I can pretty much guarantee that the same is not reciprocated when he is out with his dad but then he is a foul mouthed idiot and doesn't care who hears him say anything.

(Don't worry my lad can't see this! Lol)

I honestly think that my boys dad will be his own downfall because he reneges on most arrangements to take him out. He is meant a to have him 9-5 once every 6 days (that's his shift rotation) and since new year has only managed it twice! He's only 2 now so doesn't understand but won't be long till he starts wondering why he's never here when he says he will be. I feel sorry for the pair of them tbh, my boy because he deserves better and my ex because he had a terrible upbringing and it made him the same!! Selfish.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It happens sometimes even when the parents don't separate.

Good to see awareness promoted.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"It happens sometimes even when the parents don't separate.

Good to see awareness promoted."

I agree lickety. I know of a family where the mum is quite strict but the dad keys them do whatever they want so mum is viewed as an ogre and dad a superhero!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When my mum and dad split up when i was 11, neither of them ever called the other one in front of myself or my sister.

When my ex husband and i split up we where the same, we got on very well more for our sons sake, he did do some twattish thinks but i kept my son away from that.

I just cant understand people that put there children in between arguements, when the children are old enough they can make their own mind up what they want to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cost me a relationship. They were never turned against me but against my new partner, which I imagine is a common occurrence.

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