FabSwingers.com forum: Age gap, is it frowned upon?

By *irralfun24 OP Man
5 weeks ago

merseyside

Hello All, I’m 46 and straight, my GF is 22 bisexual. She’s wanting a couple or female to join us, it’s hard work! Is the age difference frowned upon?

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By *nya NeesWoman
5 weeks ago

Brum

Each to their own. I have a 20 year gap between myself and my special person x

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

You'll find some to frown on anything on this site. Yes, some will see it as a problem, others won't. Just find your people and enjoy.

Also, I tip hat to you sir. I'm not looking for an LTR but do like the energy younger ladies bring to relationships.

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
5 weeks ago

London

We love age gaps ourselves, many people prefer similar ages. I think it's only frowned upon by some very specific types of people, but that's life!

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By *vonne5exMan
5 weeks ago

Doncaster

14 years between me and the special one

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By *eg33Man
5 weeks ago

Chippenham

I’m a big fan of the older women!

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By *allipygousMan
5 weeks ago

Leicester

When it looks like you're shagging your son/daughter or dad/mum then yes, age gap relationships are frowned upon by the swinging and non swinging community.

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By *vonne5exMan
5 weeks ago

Doncaster

"When it looks like you're shagging your son/daughter or dad/mum then yes, age gap relationships are frowned upon by the swinging and non swinging community."
I don't think it is, it happens every day in the clubs and I've never heard anyone make a comment on age difference

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By *nya NeesWoman
5 weeks ago

Brum

"When it looks like you're shagging your son/daughter or dad/mum then yes, age gap relationships are frowned upon by the swinging and non swinging community. I don't think it is, it happens every day in the clubs and I've never heard anyone make a comment on age difference "

Totally agree

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By *issmorganWoman
5 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It's not frowned on, unless under age, but it won't be for all.

It may be easier if you create a couple profile and add pics of you both there.

Most won't entertain a single male profile asking for someone to join him and another lady.

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By *hagTonightMan
5 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

No, age is just a number

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By *acky 999Man
5 weeks ago

London

I don't think so really.

I've always been attracted to the more mature lady

And have always felt more comfortable with older people.

Younger drive me mad lol

I adore mature ladys

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By *inkyones200Couple
5 weeks ago

leeds

I would love to see a ynger guy fk sub but she has an age thing

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By *lym4realCouple
5 weeks ago

plymouth

14 years between us and we've been together for 30 years now ( most gave us 2 weeks or a tad longer) but think some people think the older male some how influences etc etc the younger female ? and so yes some do have a problem with it ? but more insulting to the younger person if you think about be they male or female ?

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By *allipygousMan
5 weeks ago

Leicester

"When it looks like you're shagging your son/daughter or dad/mum then yes, age gap relationships are frowned upon by the swinging and non swinging community.

I don't think it is, it happens every day in the clubs and I've never heard anyone make a comment on age difference "

That's because people don't make public comment and it's more acceptable in clubs, but in general it is frowned upon and just because some don't think it isn't doesn't make it so.

Those of a more predatory* disposition will obviously go on about age only being a number and meaning nothing but obviously it does.

*not all, but some.

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By *unladforuMan
5 weeks ago

Wigton

If it works for you ... what are other folk to judge ? I know a few age gap couples and all are very happy ...

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By *oxy-RedWoman
5 weeks ago

pink panther territory

Yes it is and I think it always will be,and that age is just a number really gets my back up

Would it stop me getting with a younger man,no it's my life,my choice

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
5 weeks ago

There and Here

It will be a problem for some.

I'd imagine the bigger barrier is that you have a single male profile claiming to have a girlfriend who wants to be involved, with no evidence that she exists or, if she does exist, that she consents

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By *urge72Man
5 weeks ago

oxfordshire & Hull

First off I think it is important to make the distinction between play and relationships.

If you meet someone in a club that is of a significantly different age and both parties want to play, then I can see no problem. Everybody has their own taste, and let's be honest, there are plenty of us guys when we were younger who were totally smitten by older experienced ladies. I am in no doubt that there are young ladies (not all) in their 20's who have a desire to experiment with an older experienced guy..

If both parties are consenting and wish to play, then why not. Clubs are typically safe environments and as long as everyone is responsible and respectful then I see no issue.

When it comes to relationships, it can be a bit more challenging as you will be seen by others outside of the swinger world and you will face scruitiny and maybe disdain, but as long as you are both open to it and there is no coercive behaviour or pressure from either party, it can work. It will just likely take more effort then a relationship where the age difference is less significant. At the end of the day it is each persons free choice.

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By *irralfun24 OP Man
5 weeks ago

merseyside

Thank you all for your comments, very interesting to read. We will make a couples profile in the next day or two. She’s does exist lol it’s working in retail on the run up to Christmas has been manic for Sophie. I’m relaxing on the other hand as I’ve finished 😂😂

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By *iss DevilWoman
5 weeks ago

Bedford

There is way too many chancers on here where it's a single man profile but has got "gf/wife/FWB/FB" looking to join him to meet ladies or couples. Best to set up couple's profile when you can, OP.

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By *emorefridaCouple
5 weeks ago

La la land

It's hard enough finding mutual attraction between 4 people at the best of times. Finding a couple that are into large age gaps, is also limiting the pool so speak even further.

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By *ggdrasil66Man
5 weeks ago

Saltdean

I’ve always liked the older ladies. The problem is there are not that many older than me on the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

52 divorced, if anyone fancies a chat xx

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By *ellhungvweMan
5 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I dont think the age gap is the problem. The fact you are looking for a unicorn and doing it from a male profile are likely to be the bigger issues IMHO.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
5 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I wouldn't say it's frowned up, but it might restrict your audience.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
5 weeks ago

Wherever

Love an age gap myself, couldn’t care less what others think OP.

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By *ohnny DeeeepMan
5 weeks ago

durham

It depends on their age for me personally.

When I was 17 I lost my plates to a 37 year old.

The biggest gap younger than me was a 29 year old I was seeing a few months back.

I’ve had a few ladies between 21-23 proposition me for a D/S dynamic over the last month or so which is quite common in that dynamic.

Normally it would be a strong no from me but 1 of them explained her reasons in a way that really made sense so I’m more open to it now.

I’d have to meet them in person first though as realistically I don’t know how comfortable I would be.

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By *hillenCouple
5 weeks ago

Borehamwood

30 years between us, if anyone disapproves then do better and MYOB.

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By *eorgesdad69Man
5 weeks ago

Long Eaton

I had guy who was 18 and I was 57, we remained lovers for 2 years and even now we chat and exchange Xmas greetings last week but sadly no longer lovers. He developed a lot of skills in his time with me 🤪🤪

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
5 weeks ago

Cheshire

Just a thought but you are on a single male profile maybe if you had a couples profile you will soon find plenty more interest.

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By *ansoffateMan
5 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Someone put a rule in a post while back, I can't remember now, but it seemed similar to the conversion from Fahrenheit to Celsius.

Maths is always right, so there's no need to consider any other factors.

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By *JandCMCouple
5 weeks ago

cardiff

We have had guys join us for meets who are well over 25 years younger.

We find there ok for one off meets, but as for conversation or long term relationship find it quite hard as their a completely different generation to us.

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By *inkycouple19Couple
3 weeks ago

London

We like age gap but ive been like tld tht i must hav daddy issues jst cause people dnt undrstnd y i wuld wanna meet old guys

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

We don't disapprove of age gap couples however often the younger person is too young for us

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By *rHotNottsMan
3 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I love relationships with younger women, the energy & attitudes, but I’d be cautious of NSA for say under 25 , I expect that’s what’s happening with you it’s not frowned upon so much as maybe unwise,22 is extremely young to be introduced to others

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By *teve 18!Man
3 weeks ago

Workington

I was 18 and meeting a women 48 on my weekends off from the navy. Best thing I ever did as for 9 months had the biggest smile on my face and learnt a lot of lessons lol

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
3 weeks ago

Portstewart

Age preference is for everyone a personal preference we have our low end set at 25 because we have a 22 year old child and neither of us would take a chance that we might be talking to someone in her possible friends group if you understand what we mean. I'm sure there are lots 9f lovely people under 25 but it's just our preference that we don't want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"I love relationships with younger women, the energy & attitudes, but I’d be cautious of NSA for say under 25 , I expect that’s what’s happening with you it’s not frowned upon so much as maybe unwise,22 is extremely young to be introduced to others "

I was 22 and in an age-gap relationship when I started swinging so I'm not sure I'd agree that it's very young.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
3 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

It’s not frowned upon but you’ll probably find that many on Fab will be uncomfortable playing with young women or men who are the around the same age as their own children, myself included.

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By *oeBeansMan
3 weeks ago

Derby

Firstly... Legerrrrrrrrnd!

Secondly, and to be honest, I think it's frowned upon in general society and you will get a lot of judgement because it's generally not a done thing. There's more tolerance towards it on here but people will judge regardless because even though you're two consenting adults, there's always the question of the power dynamic in that situation.

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By *ruceyyMan
3 weeks ago

London

Any 10+ year age gap is hot to me as long as they are older than 21

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By *ripfillMan
3 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

Not a problem in fact in someways it has loads of extra benefits.

Plus or minus your own age

Caring to give pleasure is the ultimate goal in my view

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By *xperiencing-newCouple
3 weeks ago

Nottingham

There is 11 years between me and my gorgeous mr ( but we look the same age) hahaha

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By *ampireLoveMan
3 weeks ago

Essex & Bristol

"Hello All, I’m 46 and straight, my GF is 22 bisexual. She’s wanting a couple or female to join us, it’s hard work! Is the age difference frowned upon? "

Who cares what people think. You’re not living your life for them. Would they care for your opinion on them? Do what is right for you!

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By *ickedtiesWoman
3 weeks ago

limerick

14 years between us, but I don't think age matters, once your happy with that person 💜

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By *idnightMischiefMan
3 weeks ago

London

Last gf was 20 years younger than me, and before that I hooked up with someone almost 30 years younger than me.

If anyone makes it an issue, then great - it just proves I'm important enough for them to care. 😉

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By *urvybeautyandthebeastCouple
3 weeks ago

narborough

"When it looks like you're shagging your son/daughter or dad/mum then yes, age gap relationships are frowned upon by the swinging and non swinging community.

I don't think it is, it happens every day in the clubs and I've never heard anyone make a comment on age difference

That's because people don't make public comment and it's more acceptable in clubs, but in general it is frowned upon and just because some don't think it isn't doesn't make it so.

Those of a more predatory* disposition will obviously go on about age only being a number and meaning nothing but obviously it does.

*not all, but some."

Wild to call it predatory behaviour!

Different people like different things and it’s not fair to yuck someone else’s yum so long as there was no foul play and it’s all legal and consensual!

There is 12 years between myself and my partner. He likes older women and I prefer my guys younger with more stamina! It is what it is!

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By *rHotNottsMan
3 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I was 22 and in an age-gap relationship when I started swinging so I'm not sure I'd agree that it's very young."

You don’t have to agree for it to be right.

This is why they have challenge 25 for alcohol. Young girls will often lie about their age to get with older men. Plus someone with very limited independent life experiences away from their parents is not someone I want to have NSA sex with.

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By *B11Man
3 weeks ago

Burnley

I'm 46, wife 33

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By *allipygousMan
3 weeks ago

Leicester

"14 years between us, but I don't think age matters, once your happy with that person 💜"

Matters enough for one of you to lie about their age though, yes?

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By *tudgboy1981Man
3 weeks ago

Wigan

My ex gfs daughter had a bf he was 21 years older she was 19 when she met him

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
3 weeks ago

Loughborough

"14 years between us, but I don't think age matters, once your happy with that person 💜

Matters enough for one of you to lie about their age though, yes? "

Haha what an own goal! 🙈

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

" it happens every day in the clubs and I've never heard anyone make a comment on age difference "

I don't think I have ever seen a 22 year old in a club. Aren't some clubs 25+ ?

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By *anonfire96Man
3 weeks ago

Mansfield

Age does play a big part on fab mostly. That being said my last meeting was a mere 30 years old and I was 66 and that lasted almost a year. So there are people out there who prefer the older single male.

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
3 weeks ago

furnace

I’ve always been attracted to the older woman

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
3 weeks ago

Loughborough

"It’s not frowned upon but you’ll probably find that many on Fab will be uncomfortable playing with young women or men who are the around the same age as their own children, myself included. "

Agreed, we only have a small age gap but we get messages from men and men in couples who are old enough to be Florence's father.

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By *unnyandthebookkeeperCouple
3 weeks ago

bristol

Haven't had any issues with our age gap yet. But we don't feel it. We just get on like a house on fire.

Do find it a bit odd when single guys say that have a "young" friend who wants to play. Something of a turn off as they often have no personal dynamic with this person and simply using it as an access point to couples.

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By *illy IdolMan
3 weeks ago

Midlands

Don't worry about what others think. My fwb is much older than me and we're both happy. When out together, people often say to me "it's nice that you're taking your mother out". We just find it amusing.

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By *scaMan
3 weeks ago

St Albans

Age is but a number.

Trust your judgement

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By *arkus1812Man
3 weeks ago

Finedon ,

I have just found a lady on here who is the same age as me, sadly she lives 320 miles from me.

B T W I am 84

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By *edbath 5Man
3 weeks ago

london

What’s it got to do with other people what turns you both on.

If it’s legal it’s fine. Nothing to do with others.

Good luck x

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By *edbath 5Man
3 weeks ago

london

"I have just found a lady on here who is the same age as me, sadly she lives 320 miles from me.

B T W I am 84

Fantastic. Good luck to you both.

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By *irtydesires2024Man
3 weeks ago

West Midlands

I got loads of abuse, I'm now 58 she is 35. We held a joint party my 40th birthday and our 5th anniversary, the abuse was shocking.

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By *edbath 5Man
3 weeks ago

london

Just jealous.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

"I got loads of abuse, I'm now 58 she is 35. We held a joint party my 40th birthday and our 5th anniversary, the abuse was shocking."

Abuse from guests you invited to your party ? How awful.

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By *enk15Man
3 weeks ago

Evesham

"I got loads of abuse, I'm now 58 she is 35. We held a joint party my 40th birthday and our 5th anniversary, the abuse was shocking."

Your 40th birthday party was also your 5th anniversary?

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By *ell GwynnWoman
3 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Don't worry about it, OP. Age gap relationships are nothing new. My FWB has had such a tough life he looks about 75, even though he's nearly six years younger than me. A hot grandad... Think Paul Newman in his 70s. It's not all bad.

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By *allipygousMan
3 weeks ago

Leicester

"I got loads of abuse, I'm now 58 she is 35. We held a joint party my 40th birthday and our 5th anniversary, the abuse was shocking.

Abuse from guests you invited to your party ? How awful. "

Awful? Maybe. Warranted? Perhaps. If he's telling the truth he would have had his 17 year old girlfriend at his 40th birthday party. The fact he's saying he was also celebrating their 5th anniversary means he was with her since she was 12. I doubt this is all factual but...🤷🏾‍♂️

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By *illy IdolMan
3 weeks ago

Midlands

"I got loads of abuse, I'm now 58 she is 35. We held a joint party my 40th birthday and our 5th anniversary, the abuse was shocking.

Abuse from guests you invited to your party ? How awful.

I think his joke has been missed

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By *allipygousMan
3 weeks ago

Leicester

"I got loads of abuse, I'm now 58 she is 35. We held a joint party my 40th birthday and our 5th anniversary, the abuse was shocking.

Abuse from guests you invited to your party ? How awful.

I think his joke has been missed"

Ahhhh, ok.

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By *parkle1974Woman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

My ex husband was 21 years older than me, I would never do a big age gap situation again.

It's just my opinion but I'd feel like a predator going with anyone younger than 30 x

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By *irtydesires2024Man
3 weeks ago

West Midlands

Ffs😂

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

"Ffs😂"

What is this referring to please ?

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By *obilebottomMan
3 weeks ago

All over

Quick question. If anyone is 100 or over how do they put their age down on here as only seems to go to 99.

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By *ABflirtyWoman
3 weeks ago

Norwich

Well i have a thing for younger men .

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By *easeandplease99Man
3 weeks ago

exeter

"Well i have a thing for younger men .

I have a thing for hot women older than me...just like you 😜😜

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
3 weeks ago

your head

Possibly by some people. You're also looking for the more sought after demographic like bisexual women who meet couples which isn't easy.

There will always be someone that has an issue, you can't please everyone.

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By *oeBeansMan
3 weeks ago

Derby

"Well i have a thing for younger men .

And some of us are grateful for it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
3 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I don't think there is a problem just make yourselves a joint profile. Some will care but.i guess most wont

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By *ein-guyMan
3 weeks ago

Cowes

"Hello All, I’m 46 and straight, my GF is 22 bisexual. She’s wanting a couple or female to join us, it’s hard work! Is the age difference frowned upon? "

If two adults of legal age decide that they like each other then its nobody else's business. Good luck to them and well played I say

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

If two adults of legal age decide that they like each other then its nobody else's business. Good luck to them and well played I say

It is a problem if one is in a position of trust over the other eg GP, therapist, prison officer etc

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

Every lovely person I care deeply for in a romantic way is older than me. And I don’t give a fuck what anyone else thinks about my love. It’s not their business.

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By *eaAndBiscuit1989Man
3 weeks ago

Burnley

Age is just a number, you're as old as you feel.

As long as you're both happy then fuck the age gap.

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By *eoBloomsMan
3 weeks ago

Springfield

When I was 25 I had an affair with a 74 year old. It was great because half an hour after we'd had sex she'd forgotten all about it and we could do it again.

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By *ein-guyMan
3 weeks ago

Cowes

If two adults of legal age decide that they like each other then its nobody else's business. Good luck to them and well played I say

It is a problem if one is in a position of trust over the other eg GP, therapist, prison officer etc"

Well yes, there are some exceptions of course but that's stating the obvious

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
3 weeks ago

Gloucester

We have a 14 year age gap and while it’s not necessarily frowned upon it is making a 4 way attraction difficult.

Kink

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By *stwo55Couple
21 hours ago

leamington

"We have a 14 year age gap and while it’s not necessarily frowned upon it is making a 4 way attraction difficult.

Kink "

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By *ot so needyMan
10 hours ago

Galway

I am seeing an amazing younger woman and i don't think it's a big deal. Apart from the fact she is trying to kill me😈

Hours feel like minutes we just click so age has no influence it it at all.

If ye get in what difference does it make. And who cares what others think.

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By *inceIlkestonMan
9 hours ago

Ilkeston

"Love an age gap myself, couldn’t care less what others think OP."

me too, I've met younger lady in a couple and had one fwb younger than my kids. there's no correlation.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
8 hours ago

North West

As long as no one is underage, shouldn't be an issue surely

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