Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
Back to forum list |
Back to The Lounge |
Jump to newest |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Maybe, but our attitude to certain disorders has changed too. So has the way they are treated hence the increase in the use of the methods you describe." I think you are right. Mind you, when I posted this I was more thinking of "day toDay" stuff, growing up problems, the sort of stuff you would not need professional help for and you would always have a trusted adult around somewhere. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Also families have split up, due to work and such. Years ago families would lives close by to each other, now they live miles apart." Absolutely! That is what I meant really - we have for different reasons - lost the closer knit family and also extended family life. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Have to say, we have a huge family....., there's always someone to talk to...., again, having said that, my friend was thrilled that my parents casually adopted her...... her mother is a vile piece of work..... she now chats to my Mum on the odd occasions that she needs to." I was lucky to come from a large family and had a similar experience. And it is funny that my kids' friends have adopted me in a similar way and sometimes talked to me when they felt they could not talk to their own parents. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Have to say, we have a huge family....., there's always someone to talk to...., again, having said that, my friend was thrilled that my parents casually adopted her...... her mother is a vile piece of work..... she now chats to my Mum on the odd occasions that she needs to.I was lucky to come from a large family and had a similar experience. And it is funny that my kids' friends have adopted me in a similar way and sometimes talked to me when they felt they could not talk to their own parents." That's Mum all over | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Have to say, we have a huge family....., there's always someone to talk to...., again, having said that, my friend was thrilled that my parents casually adopted her...... her mother is a vile piece of work..... she now chats to my Mum on the odd occasions that she needs to.I was lucky to come from a large family and had a similar experience. And it is funny that my kids' friends have adopted me in a similar way and sometimes talked to me when they felt they could not talk to their own parents. That's Mum all over " Shhh there are one or two on here who treat me like their mum (And I am flattered | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"It doesn't happen much anymore my mother was talking about this a little while ago. When she was a child her mothers older 2 sisters one a widow and one never married both lived in her family home. And she said it was like having 3 mothers if she didn't get what she wanted from one she could go to the other and her and her siblings never were short of a cuddle or someone to fetch and carry. I know she was very close to one of the aunts and would always go to them for advice,maybe your'e right." Aphrodite nearly always right. Some very wise words on many topics... | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Someone mentioned we talk too much. I also believe we blame too much on certain conditions. I'm pretty chilled out and love life so I find it hard to understand how so many people get stressed and depressed so easily. Life's too short to live your life under a cloud and circumstances are easily changed." depression isn't just being a bit sad - its a chemical imbalance. People don't ask to become depressed, and many circumstances that lead to depression are not easily changed. Back on topic... Yes we maybe have lost something in not being close to family... but sometimes you end up with family who are damaging and not good for you... in which case, if you wouldn't pick them as a friend, you shouldn't feel compelled to keep them in your life just because you are related. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I sometimes wonder whether the disappearance of the larger family with more than 4 children and several generations living under the same roof or close together has in a way increased our need for counselling and various therapies. Who do we talk to - if anybody? " Dem Herrn Gott offensichtlich | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"not everyone gets on well enough with their families to be able to talk to them though. sometimes you are better off writing to an agony aunt in a womans magazine or someone who you have more respect for." I can completey see where you are coming from, MrsOverall - and that needs to be emphasised that sometimes "external" help/ advice is better for a host of reasons including that people you consult may well be biased. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"My dads the eldest of 7, my mum the eldest of 8 (from her mum) Growing up christmas's and birthdays were great, as family popped in, not because the latest I product was wrapped up. We spent many an evening playing cards and what not round the table. When my grandparents upgraded their kitchen table I offered to buy the old one, my grandma gave it to me free. She said it needed sanding down and repainting. I refuse to, the bottom bar of that table is worn from all of us putting our feet on it (and risking the slap from grandad) but there was always someone to talk to, to give advice and it was never lonely I think having many siblings taught you to get along and compromise more. Now my kids are happy to sit by themselves on their dsi'd, blackberries, compaqs, and even when I tell them we are going for a family day out, they want to bring said electrical's. 'Boredom' is not a bad thing Yes I am getting old " To me this sounds quite idyllic | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I sometimes wonder whether the disappearance of the larger family with more than 4 children and several generations living under the same roof or close together has in a way increased our need for counselling and various therapies. Who do we talk to - if anybody? Dem Herrn Gott offensichtlich " And sometimes it helps... at least some people | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Aphrodite nearly always right. Some very wise words on many topics..." I wish.... but thank you | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"My dads the eldest of 7, my mum the eldest of 8 (from her mum) Growing up christmas's and birthdays were great, as family popped in, not because the latest I product was wrapped up. We spent many an evening playing cards and what not round the table. When my grandparents upgraded their kitchen table I offered to buy the old one, my grandma gave it to me free. She said it needed sanding down and repainting. I refuse to, the bottom bar of that table is worn from all of us putting our feet on it (and risking the slap from grandad) but there was always someone to talk to, to give advice and it was never lonely I think having many siblings taught you to get along and compromise more. Now my kids are happy to sit by themselves on their dsi'd, blackberries, compaqs, and even when I tell them we are going for a family day out, they want to bring said electrical's. 'Boredom' is not a bad thing Yes I am getting old " I love your comment about the table. Worn down from feet and you want to keep it that way. I also love your comment about boredom not being a bad thing. So very true- kids today seem to need constant stimulation. In the olden days (when I was young!) we spent many a happy afternoon under a tree with maybe some sticks and boxes and making a den. It was more fun that it sounds... | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Post new Message to Thread |
back to top |