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Cuddle therapy: Verdict

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 weeks ago

The one thing I've missed since coming out of a LTR is the closeness and intimacy. Just simply kissing and cuddling was a fab way to spend a lazy Sunday afternoon even if it never went further but it's just not as readily available as a singleton. None of my circle would want that level of intimacy with a friend and people on here tend to be sceptical that it's not just a ploy to get an easy shag.

So, yesterday I took the plunge and booked a session with a cuddle therapist.

I had no idea what to expect other than there would be cuddles aplenty but there was a strict rule about where you couldn't touch and that kissing wasn't allowed.

Arrived and shown through to the bedroom of a flat. I have to say, the initial experience was not unlike visiting a professional in their flat. However, she invited me to sit on the bed with her and went through a disclaimer she wanted me to sign.

After that she asked what my expectations were and what I wanted to get from the session. I explained I had no expectations and was just looking forward to some closeness and intimacy. With that we embraced standing. I was a little surprised. I often hug friends upon greeting but it's very different to the hugs I used to enjoy with my SO. However, this cuddle was very similar. Lots of stroking and squeezing.

She then invited me to join her on the bed again and suggested a sitting cuddle. And then we lay down for a few more different cuddles in different positions such as spooning.

Upon reflection, it was really relaxing and just what I had hoped. The only awkwardness was that in some cuddle positions my arms would naturally rest in areas that were off limits but it wasn't an issue.

There was also a disclaimer on the website about getting aroused and this was accepted as normal but isn't a problem and will subside if ignored. The only caveat was to adjust position so it wasn't obvious.

All in all it was a very pleasant and positive experience. I did have to resist the urge to kiss as that comes naturally with an intimate cuddle but that didn't detract from the experience. The only real downside is the cost. At £70 for an hour session, it's not cheap.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
5 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

I’m glad you enjoyed your session.

Many years ago I went to a “cuddle workshop” essentially looking for the same thing. But I instantly found that while I love cuddling I only want to cuddle people who *I want* to cuddle. Being hugged intimately by random strangers turned my stomach.

Turns out cuddling is much more intimate for me than fucking

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By *ellinever70Woman
5 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I can't imagine ever craving a cuddle that much to pay for something like this

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
5 weeks ago

The Continental

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
5 weeks ago

The Continental

It’s good you got what you wanted from the session, even if the cost was a bit steep.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 weeks ago


"I’m glad you enjoyed your session.

Many years ago I went to a “cuddle workshop” essentially looking for the same thing. But I instantly found that while I love cuddling I only want to cuddle people who *I want* to cuddle. Being hugged intimately by random strangers turned my stomach.

Turns out cuddling is much more intimate for me than fucking"

I completely get that and that was what was missing from the experience. I imagine it would be something that would improve as I got to know her through repeated visits but it's a lot to shell out. I think an FWB is the way forward for the intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 weeks ago


"I can't imagine ever craving a cuddle that much to pay for something like this "

Needs must I guess... Break ups can be a head-fuck and sometimes you just need something to help you get through it.

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By *ansoffateMan
5 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I don't know about that one, I think that would be even weirder for me than sex.

we all different though OP if you got what you need and it works for you.

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By *eliWoman
5 weeks ago

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It's really good you had such a pleasant and positive experience from it OP - when you're feeling a bit meh, getting that oxytocin is important.

I don't think I could do it, I have to like the person, be on relaxed terms with them. That doesn't happen straight away.

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By *hrek101Man
5 weeks ago

Herts

That sounds greatTBH. I miss that so much too. My best friend who lives 100 miles away visited and I hugged her for ages before she left, it felt so good to have a loving hug, they are so rare these days in my life. Not ashamed to say I get a bit emotional these days when I get hugged.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
5 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

This makes me feel quite sad… I’m glad you’ve enjoyed your experience OP but £70 to help that yearning is quite a lot of money.

I’ve been fortunate in that most of the women I have met have also enjoyed the intimacy of cuddling - I’ve always loved the feeling of sleeping with women, overnight meets are as much about the opportunity of falling asleep entwined and spooning as it is about sex. As a single guy I really miss the feeling of being snuggled up with a partner. I recently realised I sleep so much better having a pillow that I can feel against my back or lay against. The pressure feels wonderful but no replacement for a soft, warm, naked female body especially on cold nights..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 weeks ago


"That sounds great TBH. I miss that so much too. My best friend who lives 100 miles away visited and I hugged her for ages before she left, it felt so good to have a loving hug, they are so rare these days in my life. Not ashamed to say I get a bit emotional these days when I get hugged. "

No shame there brother. It's not something guys open up about but realising that intimacy and sex are different, and it's the intimacy that I miss most has been a revelation.

For me, a divorce and messy break up, and a small family that are dying off have left me with a very small circle of friends, none of which would be people I'd want to cuddle or who would want to even if a I did. So whilst paying for a professional cuddle isn't ideal, it's better than nothing at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 weeks ago


"This makes me feel quite sad… I’m glad you’ve enjoyed your experience OP but £70 to help that yearning is quite a lot of money.

I’ve been fortunate in that most of the women I have met have also enjoyed the intimacy of cuddling - I’ve always loved the feeling of sleeping with women, overnight meets are as much about the opportunity of falling asleep entwined and spooning as it is about sex. As a single guy I really miss the feeling of being snuggled up with a partner. I recently realised I sleep so much better having a pillow that I can feel against my back or lay against. The pressure feels wonderful but no replacement for a soft, warm, naked female body especially on cold nights.."

Couldn't agree more. Even when things were coming to a head I would often struggle to sleep until she'd come home. And whilst I'd fake being asleep to avoid another row I was soon sleeping soundly once she'd got into bed.

But yes, to have what you described would be wonderful. I guess I'm still a way off being ready to find that FWB so I can enjoy that "soft, warm, naked female body" again so maybe my only option for now is to get my fix however I can.

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By *rLucky777Man
5 weeks ago

Leeds

Your love language is clearly physical touch. You should take up a sport for the human connection you crave. I’d recommend trying Jiu Jitsu.

Lots of intimate cuddles although getting a boner is definitely frowned upon. Sometimes you even get to cuddle a female whos often trying to triangle you between her legs. Still counts as a cuddle imo.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
5 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"Your love language is clearly physical touch. You should take up a sport for the human connection you crave. I’d recommend trying Jiu Jitsu.

Lots of intimate cuddles although getting a boner is definitely frowned upon. Sometimes you even get to cuddle a female whos often trying to triangle you between her legs. Still counts as a cuddle imo. "

😂 Get in wrestling matches but always lose?

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By *rLucky777Man
5 weeks ago

Leeds


"Your love language is clearly physical touch. You should take up a sport for the human connection you crave. I’d recommend trying Jiu Jitsu.

Lots of intimate cuddles although getting a boner is definitely frowned upon. Sometimes you even get to cuddle a female whos often trying to triangle you between her legs. Still counts as a cuddle imo.

😂 Get in wrestling matches but always lose? "

I never lose

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By *hrek101Man
5 weeks ago

Herts


"Your love language is clearly physical touch. You should take up a sport for the human connection you crave. I’d recommend trying Jiu Jitsu.

Lots of intimate cuddles although getting a boner is definitely frowned upon. Sometimes you even get to cuddle a female whos often trying to triangle you between her legs. Still counts as a cuddle imo. "

It's funny you mentioned Jiu jitsu I recently had to give that up after 13 years due to injuries. It really was a place I got my hug fix.

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By *amie HantsWoman
5 weeks ago

Atlantis

Glad you had a good experience, op!

I’m a touchy feely type of person and I enjoy the closeness and intimacy from cuddling so I can totally appreciate that when that needs not being met it can leave you a bit cold/flat.

Have you considered a cat? In winter they won’t leave your lap but come summer you won’t see them. Brilliant companions

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 weeks ago


"Your love language is clearly physical touch. You should take up a sport for the human connection you crave. I’d recommend trying Jiu Jitsu.

Lots of intimate cuddles although getting a boner is definitely frowned upon. Sometimes you even get to cuddle a female whos often trying to triangle you between her legs. Still counts as a cuddle imo. "

Given I had to resist my natural urge to kiss the cuddle therapist last night I'm pretty sure a clinch on the mats and forgetting myself as I plant one on Brutus the Bonecrusher would also be frowned upon, boner or not...

I might have to take that suggestion under advisement.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
5 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'm so glad you enjoyed it and feel better for the experience. People definitely underestimate the power of hugs and physical contact with another person.

I think people should look at it like going for a full body massage or something similar, you'd probably pay around the same!

I think my only problem would be cuddling a stranger... I can only cuddle people I'm fond of. And I completely agree, it's good to just do that and nothing else sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 weeks ago


"Glad you had a good experience, op!

I’m a touchy feely type of person and I enjoy the closeness and intimacy from cuddling so I can totally appreciate that when that needs not being met it can leave you a bit cold/flat.

Have you considered a cat? In winter they won’t leave your lap but come summer you won’t see them. Brilliant companions "

I like cats, I grew up with them, but not sure that's the kind of intimacy I'm after... I think I've still got a journey to travel.

That being said, the kids would love one.

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By *amie HantsWoman
5 weeks ago

Atlantis


"Glad you had a good experience, op!

I’m a touchy feely type of person and I enjoy the closeness and intimacy from cuddling so I can totally appreciate that when that needs not being met it can leave you a bit cold/flat.

Have you considered a cat? In winter they won’t leave your lap but come summer you won’t see them. Brilliant companions

I like cats, I grew up with them, but not sure that's the kind of intimacy I'm after... I think I've still got a journey to travel.

That being said, the kids would love one."

Looking forward to the cat updates, OP. Let us know when the kids settle on a name 🐈

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 weeks ago


"I'm so glad you enjoyed it and feel better for the experience. People definitely underestimate the power of hugs and physical contact with another person.

I think people should look at it like going for a full body massage or something similar, you'd probably pay around the same!

I think my only problem would be cuddling a stranger... I can only cuddle people I'm fond of. And I completely agree, it's good to just do that and nothing else sometimes."

Good way to look at it and I think you're quite right about the analogy. I also agree that it's better to cuddle someone there is genuine love and affection for but as that's not an option, this was a pleasant alternative option.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 weeks ago


"Glad you had a good experience, op!

I’m a touchy feely type of person and I enjoy the closeness and intimacy from cuddling so I can totally appreciate that when that needs not being met it can leave you a bit cold/flat.

Have you considered a cat? In winter they won’t leave your lap but come summer you won’t see them. Brilliant companions

I like cats, I grew up with them, but not sure that's the kind of intimacy I'm after... I think I've still got a journey to travel.

That being said, the kids would love one.

Looking forward to the cat updates, OP. Let us know when the kids settle on a name 🐈 "

Don't hold your breath... If my move pans out, a cat won't be an option.

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