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By *ensual Desires OP   Man
30 weeks ago

Teesside/North Yorkshire

Ok ladies maybe you can help. What is a real good opening conversation to get a lady interested

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By *inballs99Man
30 weeks ago

Blackheath

How about asking if they fancy a chat ?

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By *il-redWoman
30 weeks ago

Glasgow

On here? Actually reading my profile and responding to something on it. I pay attention to those who pay attention 😉

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By *naswingdressWoman
30 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's hard to know what will interest a full 50% of the population. We're vastly different.

I like thoughtfulness and evidence that someone has read and understood my full profile, but others want other things.

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By *eroLondonMan
30 weeks ago

Mayfair

There are a multitude of varying answers. The general consensus is to read the profile and reference something from there, something of genuine interest or an ice-breaker that serves as an impetus to open up a chat.

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By *ensual Desires OP   Man
30 weeks ago

Teesside/North Yorkshire


"How about asking if they fancy a chat ?"
tried that one no responce

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By *ensual Desires OP   Man
30 weeks ago

Teesside/North Yorkshire


"On here? Actually reading my profile and responding to something on it. I pay attention to those who pay attention 😉"
that doesn't seem to work for the locals

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By *ensual Desires OP   Man
30 weeks ago

Teesside/North Yorkshire


"There are a multitude of varying answers. The general consensus is to read the profile and reference something from there, something of genuine interest or an ice-breaker that serves as an impetus to open up a chat."
ill keep trying

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

I can’t speak for every woman, but the first message doesn’t have to be all that interesting. If I like your profile, I’m going to reply.

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By *layful FoxMan
30 weeks ago

Falmouth/Penryn

I usually compliment, but usually get a blunt response.

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By *inkShyWoman
30 weeks ago

near Windsor

Reference my profile. We can spot a copy and paste a mile away.

If I fancy chatting, a basic hello can work tbh but I like something random like asking my top 3 cakes, fave movie, best holiday - normal chitchat you'd have with a friend, or d*unk in a pub!

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By *ucka39Man
30 weeks ago

Newcastle

Humour with a twist

How would you approach someone in a bar or night club besides offering a drink

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By *naswingdressWoman
30 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How about asking if they fancy a chat ?"

For me that's an instant delete

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By *aitonelMan
30 weeks ago

Liverpool

You would go insane trying to find a one size fits all.

Some will want an essay personalised to every detail of their life. Some want it straight to the point. Some want funny. Some want serious.

What I found was that you are best making sure it is directed at them as a person but don't go jumping through hoops. What kind of message would you want to see if they messaged you? Go from there.

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By *eroLondonMan
30 weeks ago

Mayfair


"There are a multitude of varying answers. The general consensus is to read the profile and reference something from there, something of genuine interest or an ice-breaker that serves as an impetus to open up a chat.

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ill keep trying"

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The other thing is that most women will look at the sender's profile before opening the message, if at all. If they find the profile appealing / enticing / interesting then they •may• be more amenable to engage with you.

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By *ensual Desires OP   Man
30 weeks ago

Teesside/North Yorkshire

Most seem to think at 58 your too old but have 99 as upper age but want 29. I'm lucky I don't look my age and told dont act it. They see age go no lol

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By *ensual Desires OP   Man
30 weeks ago

Teesside/North Yorkshire


"There are a multitude of varying answers. The general consensus is to read the profile and reference something from there, something of genuine interest or an ice-breaker that serves as an impetus to open up a chat.

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ill keep trying

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The other thing is that most women will look at the sender's profile before opening the message, if at all. If they find the profile appealing / enticing / interesting then they •may• be more amenable to engage with you."
just read yours it's a very good profile

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By *eroLondonMan
30 weeks ago

Mayfair


"There are a multitude of varying answers. The general consensus is to read the profile and reference something from there, something of genuine interest or an ice-breaker that serves as an impetus to open up a chat.

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ill keep trying

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The other thing is that most women will look at the sender's profile before opening the message, if at all. If they find the profile appealing / enticing / interesting then they •may• be more amenable to engage with you. just read yours it's a very good profile"

Thank you.

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By *naswingdressWoman
30 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Most seem to think at 58 your too old but have 99 as upper age but want 29. I'm lucky I don't look my age and told dont act it. They see age go no lol "

Whether for good or ill, preferences are sacrosanct and filters can't be evaded

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By *oubleswing2019Man
30 weeks ago

Colchester

Some might say a profile should "sell yourself". I personally disagree, because then you are fabricating a construct, and self-bias will always creep in.

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Since humour is subjective, I'd also recommend avoiding it as much as possible.

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Stick to the facts. Who you are, what you do, and what you are looking for.

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If in a particular situation, eg Open Marriage, then be upfront and clear.

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If certain activities interest you, be upfront about them too.

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The objective is to be as true to yourself as possible. So that if you do meet, the other person will be under no doubt that what it says is on the tin is IN the tin.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
30 weeks ago

North West

Fuck me right now is a good one I use. Success rate of 1%. Block rate of 99%. Very good stats.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago


"Fuck me right now is a good one I use. Success rate of 1%. Block rate of 99%. Very good stats. "

Damn right.

Even 1 shag out of 100 asks is a winner.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Pick something off her bio and start a conversation about an interesting piece of information that she’s shared about herself, and ask a genuine question about it. Or share your own thoughts about it too if you have your own experiences you can comment about it on.

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By *ortySwitchMan
30 weeks ago

london

“Hi, I’m world famous multi billionaire Mr Stiletto. inventor of, the stiletto.”

Works every time!

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By *exxyyDy11Man
30 weeks ago

North West


"Fuck me right now is a good one I use. Success rate of 1%. Block rate of 99%. Very good stats.

Damn right.

Even 1 shag out of 100 asks is a winner. "

Exactly. You still get a shag regardless

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