FabSwingers.com forum: I’ve been thinking

By *iker Jack OP Man
9 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I’ve been thinking and that in itself is dangerous!

When someone posts something, however daft or stupid or difference of your opinion to yourself what does making it personal or in some ways attacking of them prove?

Now, totally understanding there are somethings that politically or whatever disagree with you and you feel need to be called out but I’m referring to the more petty and personal attacks on people

On some occasions it leads the OP to go UNLOS, so the effect you have had on them is potentially huge

Isn’t it easier sometimes just to move on, ignore rather than, on some occasions, gang up on someone?

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By *hatKlungeEnigmaMan
9 weeks ago

St Leonards

Stop picking on me Jack!

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By *iker Jack OP Man
9 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"Stop picking on me Jack!"

I never would

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By *electableicecreamMan
9 weeks ago

The West

Some people do it for fun. Or they just spend so much time here that they've forgotten it's not their living room.

You only have to look at the flippant and irrelevant remarks new posters, particularly men, get when they have questions or want to say something that's not on the approved list of acceptable topics. Followed by the inevitable off topic derailing of the thread.

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By *ad NannaWoman
9 weeks ago

East London

I think people take a dislike to others and can't help making it known.

Some people are purely horrible creatures and that comes from their brains, through their fingers and onto the page.

Being on here really opened my eyes as to how awful people can be.

I don't know what they get from it though? A feeling of satisfaction? Ego boost? Empowerment?

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By *oodmessMan
9 weeks ago

yumsville

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By *ad NannaWoman
9 weeks ago

East London

"Some people do it for fun. Or they just spend so much time here that they've forgotten it's not their living room.

You only have to look at the flippant and irrelevant remarks posters, particularly men, get when they have questions or want to say something that's not on the approved list of acceptable topics. Followed by the inevitable off topic derailing of the thread."

I noticed, quite quickly,when I first started using the forums how single, not popular men were treated. Usually by the same group of people. It's why 'clique' became a thing.

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By *hatKlungeEnigmaMan
9 weeks ago

St Leonards

"Stop picking on me Jack!

I never would "

🤗💙🤗

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By *r99mr99Man
9 weeks ago

Ealing

What's unlos

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By *oodmessMan
9 weeks ago

yumsville

If people just ignored, only responding to rainbows and unicorn threads, it'd not only be a fake picture of reality but I think we'd all bore of it fairly quickly. Happiness in anything isn't a forever level field, you need to express dissatisfaction to realise a brighter side.

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By *oodmessMan
9 weeks ago

yumsville

^ that is my thought for the day

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By *ad NannaWoman
9 weeks ago

East London

"What's unlos"

user no longer on site

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By *r99mr99Man
9 weeks ago

Ealing

"What's unlos

user no longer on site "

Thank you

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By *vaRose43Woman
9 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

"What's unlos"

User no longer on site

To answer op I think it depends on the person. I’ve no time for xenophobia, bigots, racists and the like. That needs calling out. For the little things, I just block and move on knowing they’ll never land in my inbox

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By *ad NannaWoman
9 weeks ago

East London

"If people just ignored, only responding to rainbows and unicorn threads, it'd not only be a fake picture of reality but I think we'd all bore of it fairly quickly. Happiness in anything isn't a forever level field, you need to express dissatisfaction to realise a brighter side."

But, you can have a differing opinion and not resort to ad hominem responses. If it were allowed it would be carnage and not enjoyable for most of us on here.

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By *ellinever70Woman
9 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I think there's often a pile on in the lounge.

And I don't think it paints the joiner- inners in a very good light

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By *ayRyuMan
9 weeks ago

Harrogate

Frankly if I don't have anything nice to say about someone I won't say anything!!

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By *oxy-RedWoman
9 weeks ago

pink panther territory

I think that some people just can't help themselves nastiness is just second nature to some

And the Popcorn comments really do my head in

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By *obilebottomMan
9 weeks ago

All over

"Frankly if I don't have anything nice to say about someone I won't say anything!! "

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By *oodmessMan
9 weeks ago

yumsville

But, you can have a differing opinion and not resort to ad hominem responses. If it were allowed it would be carnage and not enjoyable for most of us on here. "

The forums are means to be fun not somewhere to settle world views. If people can take jokes, they can take the pokes, but when someone is that intent on raising an issue that is too far fetched, reasoning doesn't cut it and the opinion of the crowd often does. Not that I'm saying it's right.

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