FabSwingers.com forum: Sexless marriage does it work

By *oyalmaleABC OP Man
9 weeks ago

leeds

Sexless marriage but it works for me at my time of life

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
9 weeks ago

Swansea

I am trying to understand OP, if it works for you then why are you here?

Mrs

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By *oyalmaleABC OP Man
9 weeks ago

leeds

Got a bit of performance anxiety in my late fifties that was the start and we never talked openly about it then it drifted along and never changed unfortunately

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

If it works for you, what are you on here for?

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
9 weeks ago

Swansea

Thanks for your openness, appreciated. I am still struggling to see how your sexless marriage works for you considering you're on here seeking sex.

I am not trying to catch you out, I just don't fully understand your OP.

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By *oyalmaleABC OP Man
9 weeks ago

leeds

Yes I’m on here ,don’t know why really as never meet anyone

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By *ilk_and_SilverCouple
9 weeks ago

Oxford

Does the other side of the sexless marriage think it’s a sexless marriage? Do they know you are on here? Not being funny/judging you just wondered.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

"Yes I’m on here ,don’t know why really as never meet anyone "

I'm guessing looking for sex? So, the sexless marriage hasn't worked out that well.

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By *oyalmaleABC OP Man
9 weeks ago

leeds

Yes your right

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Wll OP did this post work put how you planned hahah

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By *oyalmaleABC OP Man
9 weeks ago

leeds

It’s just good to talk

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By *opinovMan
9 weeks ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

"Wll OP did this post work put how you planned hahah"

Certainly doesn't look like that one did.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
9 weeks ago

in Lancashire

"It’s just good to talk"

Going to assume you've both talked the relationship through, the aspects that you are sharing on here?

Not easy to do, fully respect that..

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By *usie pTV/TS
9 weeks ago

taunton

I suppose if both partners are in agreement about not wanting sex with each other but still wish to remained married it may work, but if one wants an open relationship and one does not then I can only see trouble.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
9 weeks ago

North West

No offence OP but if it works, why you on here? No judgements mate just curious. Or do you feel like Fab is a way to chat to people?

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By *sWyldWoman
9 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I think for some there are more important things to them in the relationship.

However, i genuinely believe that when things aren't right in the bedroom, they probably aren't really right in the living room either...

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By *alm_one4Man
9 weeks ago

RM16

I find it entirely possible for two people to be in love with each other but not sexually attracted to each other. So yes I expect sexless marriage can work in my opinion. (And before you ask, I’m single so that isn’t my situation).

That doesn’t mean necessarily that one or both don’t have a sex drive, being on here secretly is an entirely different debate.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

East Sussex

Yeah sexless marriages work. Some are sexless by mutual agreement, some just drift in to it and can't be bothered to fix it an others because of medication, medical conditions or extreme old age.

I think problems arise for one or both partners when there's a lack of emotional or physical intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

It wouldn't work for me on two counts...

Sexless

Marriage

But that's for me. If it works for you, enjoy.

What brings you to FAB? For me it's the escapism of the forums and the sex-charged vurtual interaction with others.

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
9 weeks ago

Wales

Tbh I'm not married so I wouldn't know...

I do imagine there's a lot of marriages like this though and it's not surprising. I can imagine 10/20 years of sex with the same person to become somewhat tedious

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

"It’s just good to talk"

If you're here just to talk and not for sex, you don't need your penis on display.

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By *usie pTV/TS
9 weeks ago

taunton

Lol Dildo I think you have wacked the nail on the head. In fairness to the Op he has only implied that he happy not to have sex with his wife not that he does not want sex. Most folks in a sexless marriage especially the partner who may still want sex is going to find themselves in some kind of living hell.

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By *aughty driverMan
9 weeks ago

Romford

Im not goijg to lie personally i was really struggling when i was in a sexless marriage. After my second child we just completely stopped. We had our differences but things just didnt improve and overall our marriage was failing so going our seperate ways was i think the right thing to do as we have now found others i guess and parenting doesnt include arguments anymore

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By *oyalmaleABC OP Man
9 weeks ago

leeds

Yes that what happened to us

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By *ora the explorerWoman
9 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Of course it can work. It can work perfectly. Especially if the other person agrees for you to meet others. Not sure if that’s your situation or not. But yeah it can work.

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By *oyalmaleABC OP Man
9 weeks ago

leeds

Yes it can just have to work at it

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By *carlettsWoman
9 weeks ago

Harpenden

"Yes it can just have to work at it"

Yet profile states looking for safe fun so your not just here to chat it seems?

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By *ornycougaWoman
9 weeks ago

MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat

Most people who stop wanting sex with their partner do so for a reason - which may be related to sex with that person, or stuff outside the bedroom. That's OK if the feeling is mutual. But usually it isn't. Then it becomes a problem.

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By *ucka39Man
9 weeks ago

Newcastle

Sure they'll work, it's more about talking with each other, is what improves a relationship. Understanding each other

You can still have a strong intimate relationship without it being sexually

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By *erseykevMan
9 weeks ago

St Helier

Not had sex with my wife for over 10 years due to her arthritis making sex painful for her! We're happy but it would be nice to have some occasional relief! That's why am on here!

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
9 weeks ago

Norwich

"Sexless marriage but it works for me at my time of life"

Dosn't for me sadly

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By *aughty driverMan
9 weeks ago

Romford

I completely understand this. But i believe you have to push for a change. Either by communication with your partner. Its extremely uncomfortable chat. Then you can figure out where u stand

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By *cLovin2Man
9 weeks ago

Reading

Interestingly, I was reading recently that half of all marriages in Japan are sexless. Am I the only person to think this odd?

That's a lot of sexually frustrated people!

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By *vaRose43Woman
9 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

"Yeah sexless marriages work. Some are sexless by mutual agreement, some just drift in to it and can't be bothered to fix it an others because of medication, medical conditions or extreme old age.

I think problems arise for one or both partners when there's a lack of emotional or physical intimacy. "

This

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By *erseykevMan
9 weeks ago

St Helier

Yeah! It works for us to a certain extent. Wife is not bothered but I get frustrated at times!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
9 weeks ago

Leeds

Clearly not for you, you're here.

Mrs

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By *ellinever70Woman
9 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Given the high number of profiles that state they're not meeting ,I'm not sure why the op is getting questioned so much about his reasons for being here

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By *illy IdolMan
9 weeks ago

Midlands

"Given the high number of profiles that state they're not meeting ,I'm not sure why the op is getting questioned so much about his reasons for being here "

Because he's male and those are the rules!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
9 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"Given the high number of profiles that state they're not meeting ,I'm not sure why the op is getting questioned so much about his reasons for being here "

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By *carlettsWoman
9 weeks ago

Harpenden

"Given the high number of profiles that state they're not meeting ,I'm not sure why the op is getting questioned so much about his reasons for being here "

Those profiles probably aren't in a marriage and going behind someones back. At least people are clear they are not meeting for whatever reason that may be. I don't see anywhere on OP's profile saying attached/married?

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By *erseykevMan
9 weeks ago

St Helier

It says on my profile am married!

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By *ellinever70Woman
9 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"Given the high number of profiles that state they're not meeting ,I'm not sure why the op is getting questioned so much about his reasons for being here

It's there

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By *amierebelMan
9 weeks ago

My own little world

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By *ansoffateMan
9 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Yes

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By *oppet22TV/TS
9 weeks ago

huddersfield

Yes

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By *ittle_ray_of_sunshineWoman
9 weeks ago

Holywell

It seems to work for a lot of people x

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By *renzMan
9 weeks ago

Between Chichester and Havant

It can do, mine did for many years. Then I saw the light and got divorced!

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