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"Wondering how many people are on here without their partners knowledge and what people think about it? Is it better finding fun on here which is as it is fun or is having and affair worse which would include emotions. " 'Fun' for who ? It may be brief but it is still cheating. If it wasn't cheating , lying, dishonest, unfaithful, disloyal, deceptive, uncaring, selfish and untrustworthy why would anyone NOT tell their partner ? Like I said...... fun for who ? I don't care who is married but no one can convince me they are not LYING to th eir partners. Snakes........ on their bellies. | |||
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"Easy to say if your partner is part of your fun, but what if he/she isn't interested, " Yes this is my point ... do you leave him/her? Do you have an affair which involves more emotion? Do you simply look for discreet fun where everyone if looking for fun? | |||
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"Easy to say if your partner is part of your fun, but what if he/she isn't interested, " My partner isn't "interested" (currently, at least) but we still had an honest conversation about what we both wanted and what we're both happy to accept in a relationship. It wasn't easy work but it's much easier than the conversation you may land up having if they catch you cheating. I'm not judging, fwiw. I just think you need to do the hard work if you want to have fun without fucking things up. | |||
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"Having relationship problems and going on here to cheat is like having an open wound and going to play football. " No sure I agree with this analogy. I’d say it’s more like not turning your for midweek practice , getting kicked out the team and playing ‘away’ for another team at the weekend | |||
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"OP are you on here without your partners knowledge? Has your experience been fun or have you got emotionally attached? Mrs" Personally yes I'm on here without my partners knowledge, she isn't interested in sex ... so far this year we have had it 5 times ... do I leave her after 30 years despite being happy? Sex isn't everything for sure .. but none emotional with consenting others can be and can help you keep your marriage together With regards becoming emotionally attached to those I have met .. nope | |||
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"Easy to say if your partner is part of your fun, but what if he/she isn't interested, Yes this is my point ... do you leave him/her? Do you have an affair which involves more emotion? Do you simply look for discreet fun where everyone if looking for fun? " Everyone has to make their own decision on this one. If anyone is conflicted they need to take more time to think things through to their possible consequence. Would they get more 'fun' alone, what would happen if their partner found out they were on a swingers site alone or having an affair? How would they feel if their partner found out and left them? | |||
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"Of course she knows,actually fed up with Fake Profiles,men posting their personal pics without the wifes knowledge,pretty sad !!!" Ahh OK I thought some women were also on here without their partners knowledge as well ... didn't realise it was just men - darn those women I talked to were lying about their gender as well 😅🤷♂️ | |||
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"A good way of thinking about it is "if the KGB found out, could they successfully black mail me into betraying the monarchy". If the answer is yes then you probably shouldn't be doing it."  . The monarchs family are doing a pretty good job of that without the help of the KGB | |||
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"Wondering how many people are on here without their partners knowledge and what people think about it? Is it better finding fun on here which is as it is fun or is having and affair worse which would include emotions. " This is where being single has its benefits as theres no cheating involved for me i wouldnt do it myself and its none of my business if other folk do cheat or not | |||
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"OP are you on here without your partners knowledge? Has your experience been fun or have you got emotionally attached? Mrs Personally yes I'm on here without my partners knowledge, she isn't interested in sex ... so far this year we have had it 5 times ... do I leave her after 30 years despite being happy? Sex isn't everything for sure .. but none emotional with consenting others can be and can help you keep your marriage together With regards becoming emotionally attached to those I have met .. nope " You've been together since you were 15! Leaving would be hard on you both. How would you feel if she discovered your secret and left you? Relieved, happy, bereft, sad? | |||
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"A good way of thinking about it is "if the KGB found out, could they successfully black mail me into betraying the monarchy". If the answer is yes then you probably shouldn't be doing it." Since Ireland is a republic does that make it a safer place for cheaters? And does Putin really care about Charlie anyway. | |||
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"I don't really care if people cheat. But being on here, may just be 'fun' for you with no emotions. But I'm pretty sure if you're partner found out they'd be having a few emotions. It's still cheating, if you're gonna do it at least have the balls to own it and not make pathetic excuses. " Well said | |||
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"Thousands are on here without their partners knowledge. My opinion is that lying to conceal something that would cause hurt is bad, it doesn't matter how small the lie. The reasons behind the lie will vary and some will very rarely be good reasons. Whether anyone chooses to go down this route is entirely up to them, life is complicated, relationships are complicated but the biggest lies we tell are to ourselves. Whether it's better if there are no emotions involved is debatable because usually the only one who has no emotional investment is the person playing away. If discovered emotions will very much come in to it. I don't care much what people do, they must decide for themselves how best to get what they want from life. " Thank you I like that answer ... in reality others don't know your reasons for what you do, what goes on in others lives life isn't always clear cut | |||
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"A good way of thinking about it is "if the KGB found out, could they successfully black mail me into betraying the monarchy". If the answer is yes then you probably shouldn't be doing it. Since Ireland is a republic does that make it a safer place for cheaters? And does Putin really care about Charlie anyway." Putin cares deeply about Charlie but the Chinese care even more ... | |||
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"in reality others don't know your reasons for what you do, what goes on in others lives life isn't always clear cut" People also invent complexity when their situation has a simple answer they don't like. | |||
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"in reality others don't know your reasons for what you do, what goes on in others lives life isn't always clear cut People also invent complexity when their situation has a simple answer they don't like." They also 'like' answers that condone their intentions and align with they own protestations. | |||
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"Theres something about a cheating wife or girlfriend that i find hot being single it wouldnt bother me but if i was in a realationship and it was happing to me i would hate it so therefore im a hypocrite " Let me take that hypocrisy away for you. You said you wouldn't like to be cheated on ..... not that you think extra maritals are a no no in any situation. Ergo you are not guilty of hypocrisy. | |||
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"I think the marriage vows of this country need to be re-thought....... Get rid of Love, Cherish, Loyalty, Partnership and all the stuff that makes excellent partnerships and put in a vow like ..... uhmmmmmmmm I vow to be fucked day in day out or at least three times a week every week without fail until i'm 90 - so help me God..... I tire of hearing , ' oh we love each other but she won't have sex so will someone here do me ?' FFS ....... Just LEAVE. She deserves more. Going without sex doesn't kill people..... their stupid mixed up ideas of what marriage is does...... When you marry you do not sign up for a good fucking for the rest of your life but the number of blokes here who think it does .... they married no more than a milking cow in their eyes." You sound lovely ... but hide your profile 🤷♂️ | |||
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"OP are you on here without your partners knowledge? Has your experience been fun or have you got emotionally attached? Mrs Personally yes I'm on here without my partners knowledge, she isn't interested in sex ... so far this year we have had it 5 times ... do I leave her after 30 years despite being happy? Sex isn't everything for sure .. but none emotional with consenting others can be and can help you keep your marriage together With regards becoming emotionally attached to those I have met .. nope You've been together since you were 15! Leaving would be hard on you both. How would you feel if she discovered your secret and left you? Relieved, happy, bereft, sad? " Far more complicated than that including DV and controlling behaviours | |||
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"Theres something about a cheating wife or girlfriend that i find hot being single it wouldnt bother me but if i was in a realationship and it was happing to me i would hate it so therefore im a hypocrite Let me take that hypocrisy away for you. You said you wouldn't like to be cheated on ..... not that you think extra maritals are a no no in any situation. Ergo you are not guilty of hypocrisy. " i wouldnt cheat myself but i would hate if i had a partner and they were cheating on me but as im single i would have no problem sleeping with someones wife or girlfriend so its does make me a hypocrite surely | |||
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"Theres something about a cheating wife or girlfriend that i find hot being single it wouldnt bother me but if i was in a realationship and it was happing to me i would hate it so therefore im a hypocrite Let me take that hypocrisy away for you. You said you wouldn't like to be cheated on ..... not that you think extra maritals are a no no in any situation. Ergo you are not guilty of hypocrisy. i wouldnt cheat myself but i would hate if i had a partner and they were cheating on me but as im single i would have no problem sleeping with someones wife or girlfriend so its does make me a hypocrite surely " Not to me but I cba explaining at the mo x | |||
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"OP are you on here without your partners knowledge? Has your experience been fun or have you got emotionally attached? Mrs Personally yes I'm on here without my partners knowledge, she isn't interested in sex ... so far this year we have had it 5 times ... do I leave her after 30 years despite being happy? Sex isn't everything for sure .. but none emotional with consenting others can be and can help you keep your marriage together With regards becoming emotionally attached to those I have met .. nope You've been together since you were 15! Leaving would be hard on you both. How would you feel if she discovered your secret and left you? Relieved, happy, bereft, sad? Far more complicated than that including DV and controlling behaviours " A few posts up you said you were 'happy' | |||
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"Theres something about a cheating wife or girlfriend that i find hot being single it wouldnt bother me but if i was in a realationship and it was happing to me i would hate it so therefore im a hypocrite Let me take that hypocrisy away for you. You said you wouldn't like to be cheated on ..... not that you think extra maritals are a no no in any situation. Ergo you are not guilty of hypocrisy. i wouldnt cheat myself but i would hate if i had a partner and they were cheating on me but as im single i would have no problem sleeping with someones wife or girlfriend so its does make me a hypocrite surely Not to me but I cba explaining at the mo x " no worries  | |||
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"OP are you on here without your partners knowledge? Has your experience been fun or have you got emotionally attached? Mrs Personally yes I'm on here without my partners knowledge, she isn't interested in sex ... so far this year we have had it 5 times ... do I leave her after 30 years despite being happy? Sex isn't everything for sure .. but none emotional with consenting others can be and can help you keep your marriage together With regards becoming emotionally attached to those I have met .. nope " Do you think your marriage would still be "together" if she found out you were on here?? | |||
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"OP are you on here without your partners knowledge? Has your experience been fun or have you got emotionally attached? Mrs Personally yes I'm on here without my partners knowledge, she isn't interested in sex ... so far this year we have had it 5 times ... do I leave her after 30 years despite being happy? Sex isn't everything for sure .. but none emotional with consenting others can be and can help you keep your marriage together With regards becoming emotionally attached to those I have met .. nope Do you think your marriage would still be "together" if she found out you were on here??" In honesty yes ... as I say you never know what happens in people's lives .. everyone on here judging .. but without a clue | |||
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"OP are you on here without your partners knowledge? Has your experience been fun or have you got emotionally attached? Mrs Personally yes I'm on here without my partners knowledge, she isn't interested in sex ... so far this year we have had it 5 times ... do I leave her after 30 years despite being happy? Sex isn't everything for sure .. but none emotional with consenting others can be and can help you keep your marriage together With regards becoming emotionally attached to those I have met .. nope You've been together since you were 15! Leaving would be hard on you both. How would you feel if she discovered your secret and left you? Relieved, happy, bereft, sad? Far more complicated than that including DV and controlling behaviours " Are you unhappy? I would advise a woman in a relationship that involved DV and coercive control to leave. However I know that life isn't that easy. What's keeping you there? Money, habit, fear, loyalty? If you're truly conflicted I'd see a professional or speak to trusted people about everything not just the sex bit either alone or with your partner. You won't get much in the way of trying to understand the deeper reasons behind what you're doing on here because nobody really cares and nobody really knows you from the information you've given. | |||
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"Of course she knows,actually fed up with Fake Profiles,men posting their personal pics without the wifes knowledge,pretty sad !!! Ahh OK I thought some women were also on here without their partners knowledge as well ... didn't realise it was just men - darn those women I talked to were lying about their gender as well 😅🤷♂️ " In all my years on Fab (17 soon)....not once have I seen a single woman's profile posting in the forums about swapping photos of their partner who obviously isn't on Fab. Single men however...........🤷♂️ | |||
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"I forgot to add that I'm here with my partners knowledge. We first met on here over 8 years ago, it started as fun but then feelings got involved rather quickly. Mrs" That happened to me too except mine stayed on here without my knowledge. We ended up eventually with a profile together, then our own and it was a road to disaster. We have separate profiles here now but separate lives now too. Sad times, honesty and communication are key. | |||
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"Easy to say if your partner is part of your fun, but what if he/she isn't interested, " We all have our reasons for being on here - I thought one of the cornerstones of ‘swinging’ was not being judgemental about others sexual desires and behaviour? | |||
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"Easy to say if your partner is part of your fun, but what if he/she isn't interested, We all have our reasons for being on here - I thought one of the cornerstones of ‘swinging’ was not being judgemental about others sexual desires and behaviour?" Cheating isn't swinging though! | |||
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"OP are you on here without your partners knowledge? Has your experience been fun or have you got emotionally attached? Mrs Personally yes I'm on here without my partners knowledge, she isn't interested in sex ... so far this year we have had it 5 times ... do I leave her after 30 years despite being happy? Sex isn't everything for sure .. but none emotional with consenting others can be and can help you keep your marriage together With regards becoming emotionally attached to those I have met .. nope Do you think your marriage would still be "together" if she found out you were on here?? In honesty yes ... as I say you never know what happens in people's lives .. everyone on here judging .. but without a clue " So why not tell her then? | |||
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"Easy to say if your partner is part of your fun, but what if he/she isn't interested, We all have our reasons for being on here - I thought one of the cornerstones of ‘swinging’ was not being judgemental about others sexual desires and behaviour?" No, that's not really true at all. Expectations of behaviour are stricter than general society, and for good reason. Consent, respecting boundaries, etc. The keystone of the swinging community is trust and honesty within relationships. Cheating is generally especially offensive to swingers. | |||
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"The keystone of the swinging community is trust and honesty within relationships. Cheating is generally especially offensive to swingers." 👏 👏 👏 | |||
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"Easy to say if your partner is part of your fun, but what if he/she isn't interested, We all have our reasons for being on here - I thought one of the cornerstones of ‘swinging’ was not being judgemental about others sexual desires and behaviour?" Swingers are just as judgemental as everyone else as a group. Individually everyone is different of course. | |||
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"As a married man without my wife’s knowledge I find this is a very interesting thread with quite a few different opinions. Personally I’ve had abusive messages from women who’ve found out I’m married. My choices are my own for being here. I was a swinger before I met my wife and ive found leaving this lifestyle behind difficult amongst other reasons. I think it’s just too easy to label someone a cheater. You don’t know what’s going on in the background for them to be here. " Whatever their reasons they're still cheating. That's something that can't be disputed. I know next to nothing about almost everyone's life story on fab but if you're having sex with someone and deliberately keeping it from your partner, it's cheating. I don't care as I said above. | |||
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"As a married man without my wife’s knowledge I find this is a very interesting thread with quite a few different opinions. Personally I’ve had abusive messages from women who’ve found out I’m married. My choices are my own for being here. I was a swinger before I met my wife and ive found leaving this lifestyle behind difficult amongst other reasons. I think it’s just too easy to label someone a cheater. You don’t know what’s going on in the background for them to be here. Whatever their reasons they're still cheating. That's something that can't be disputed. I know next to nothing about almost everyone's life story on fab but if you're having sex with someone and deliberately keeping it from your partner, it's cheating. I don't care as I said above." What if someone was on here to communicate with like minded people and share fantasies without the intention of meeting someone? | |||
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"As a married man without my wife’s knowledge I find this is a very interesting thread with quite a few different opinions. Personally I’ve had abusive messages from women who’ve found out I’m married. My choices are my own for being here. I was a swinger before I met my wife and ive found leaving this lifestyle behind difficult amongst other reasons. I think it’s just too easy to label someone a cheater. You don’t know what’s going on in the background for them to be here. Whatever their reasons they're still cheating. That's something that can't be disputed. I know next to nothing about almost everyone's life story on fab but if you're having sex with someone and deliberately keeping it from your partner, it's cheating. I don't care as I said above. What if someone was on here to communicate with like minded people and share fantasies without the intention of meeting someone? " You have a published verification from someone you ostensibly met in person.. | |||
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"As a married man without my wife’s knowledge I find this is a very interesting thread with quite a few different opinions. Personally I’ve had abusive messages from women who’ve found out I’m married. My choices are my own for being here. I was a swinger before I met my wife and ive found leaving this lifestyle behind difficult amongst other reasons. I think it’s just too easy to label someone a cheater. You don’t know what’s going on in the background for them to be here. Whatever their reasons they're still cheating. That's something that can't be disputed. I know next to nothing about almost everyone's life story on fab but if you're having sex with someone and deliberately keeping it from your partner, it's cheating. I don't care as I said above. What if someone was on here to communicate with like minded people and share fantasies without the intention of meeting someone? You have a published verification from someone you ostensibly met in person.." Who said I was talking about myself? And you didn’t answer the question either. My question is based on talking to others why they are here | |||
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"As a married man without my wife’s knowledge I find this is a very interesting thread with quite a few different opinions. Personally I’ve had abusive messages from women who’ve found out I’m married. My choices are my own for being here. I was a swinger before I met my wife and ive found leaving this lifestyle behind difficult amongst other reasons. I think it’s just too easy to label someone a cheater. You don’t know what’s going on in the background for them to be here. Whatever their reasons they're still cheating. That's something that can't be disputed. I know next to nothing about almost everyone's life story on fab but if you're having sex with someone and deliberately keeping it from your partner, it's cheating. I don't care as I said above. What if someone was on here to communicate with like minded people and share fantasies without the intention of meeting someone? " If it was all so innocent and not involving meeting anyone....why not tell you other half?? | |||
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"As a married man without my wife’s knowledge I find this is a very interesting thread with quite a few different opinions. Personally I’ve had abusive messages from women who’ve found out I’m married. My choices are my own for being here. I was a swinger before I met my wife and ive found leaving this lifestyle behind difficult amongst other reasons. I think it’s just too easy to label someone a cheater. You don’t know what’s going on in the background for them to be here. Whatever their reasons they're still cheating. That's something that can't be disputed. I know next to nothing about almost everyone's life story on fab but if you're having sex with someone and deliberately keeping it from your partner, it's cheating. I don't care as I said above. What if someone was on here to communicate with like minded people and share fantasies without the intention of meeting someone? If it was all so innocent and not involving meeting anyone....why not tell you other half??" oh hello wife just to let you know I'm on a sex site but no need to worry I'm not cheating 😂😂 | |||
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"As a married man without my wife’s knowledge I find this is a very interesting thread with quite a few different opinions. Personally I’ve had abusive messages from women who’ve found out I’m married. My choices are my own for being here. I was a swinger before I met my wife and ive found leaving this lifestyle behind difficult amongst other reasons. I think it’s just too easy to label someone a cheater. You don’t know what’s going on in the background for them to be here. Whatever their reasons they're still cheating. That's something that can't be disputed. I know next to nothing about almost everyone's life story on fab but if you're having sex with someone and deliberately keeping it from your partner, it's cheating. I don't care as I said above. What if someone was on here to communicate with like minded people and share fantasies without the intention of meeting someone? If it was all so innocent and not involving meeting anyone....why not tell you other half??oh hello wife just to let you know I'm on a sex site but no need to worry I'm not cheating 😂😂" That’s a very narrow minded response and backs up my comment earlier. Is watching porn cheating? Is watching people having sex on this site cheating? Is talking to other people on this site about sex cheating? | |||
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"Easy to say if your partner is part of your fun, but what if he/she isn't interested, We all have our reasons for being on here - I thought one of the cornerstones of ‘swinging’ was not being judgemental about others sexual desires and behaviour?" Fabswingers is Judgemental City!! | |||
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"Easy to say if your partner is part of your fun, but what if he/she isn't interested, We all have our reasons for being on here - I thought one of the cornerstones of ‘swinging’ was not being judgemental about others sexual desires and behaviour? Fabswingers is Judgemental City!!" Ironic for a swingers site I find... | |||
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"As a married man without my wife’s knowledge I find this is a very interesting thread with quite a few different opinions. Personally I’ve had abusive messages from women who’ve found out I’m married. My choices are my own for being here. I was a swinger before I met my wife and ive found leaving this lifestyle behind difficult amongst other reasons. I think it’s just too easy to label someone a cheater. You don’t know what’s going on in the background for them to be here. Whatever their reasons they're still cheating. That's something that can't be disputed. I know next to nothing about almost everyone's life story on fab but if you're having sex with someone and deliberately keeping it from your partner, it's cheating. I don't care as I said above. What if someone was on here to communicate with like minded people and share fantasies without the intention of meeting someone? If it was all so innocent and not involving meeting anyone....why not tell you other half??oh hello wife just to let you know I'm on a sex site but no need to worry I'm not cheating 😂😂 That’s a very narrow minded response and backs up my comment earlier. Is watching porn cheating? Is watching people having sex on this site cheating? Is talking to other people on this site about sex cheating?" I see you bypassed answering my question.... | |||
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"As a married man without my wife’s knowledge I find this is a very interesting thread with quite a few different opinions. Personally I’ve had abusive messages from women who’ve found out I’m married. My choices are my own for being here. I was a swinger before I met my wife and ive found leaving this lifestyle behind difficult amongst other reasons. I think it’s just too easy to label someone a cheater. You don’t know what’s going on in the background for them to be here. Whatever their reasons they're still cheating. That's something that can't be disputed. I know next to nothing about almost everyone's life story on fab but if you're having sex with someone and deliberately keeping it from your partner, it's cheating. I don't care as I said above. What if someone was on here to communicate with like minded people and share fantasies without the intention of meeting someone? " If you're doing it without your partner knowing, it's still cheating. I don't get why people who are here behind someone's back get so offended that people think they're cheating or trying to. | |||
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" That’s a very narrow minded response and backs up my comment earlier. Is watching porn cheating? Is watching people having sex on this site cheating? Is talking to other people on this site about sex cheating?" Porn, no. Here just to watch sex? I mean. You can watch it all over the t'internet, why do you need to be on here? And you wouldn't need pictures or filters open if you're just here to watch. Talking to someone about sex off here? If you're asking for technical advice, maybe not, if you're engaging in the sex talk. Yes. You're welcome. | |||
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"Absolutely tons of fab singles on here. With only a smattering of them honest enough to admit it. It's the unsuspecting people they go for I feel sorry for, being unwittingly drawn Into drama, deceit and lies, through no fault of their own. At least if the married person is honest about it, people can make a choice about whether they want to play or not." Just a pity they are "honest" with strangers but not their partners! | |||
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"Wondering how many people are on here without their partners knowledge and what people think about it? Is it better finding fun on here which is as it is fun or is having and affair worse which would include emotions. At least it got good debate 😊 " | |||
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"Absolutely tons of fab singles on here. With only a smattering of them honest enough to admit it. It's the unsuspecting people they go for I feel sorry for, being unwittingly drawn Into drama, deceit and lies, through no fault of their own. At least if the married person is honest about it, people can make a choice about whether they want to play or not. Just a pity they are "honest" with strangers but not their partners! " Ridiculous idea. Why that could ruin Christmas! No it's much more ethical to accept the burden of that guilt and act like everything is perfect. Put up the tree, have a family dinner with her mum and tell her how wonderful the turkey is. Compliment her on her choice of crackers. It's hard, but sometimes you have to do hard things to protect those you love and care for. It's more self-sacrifice than cheating when you think about it enough to believe your own bullshit. | |||
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"Its funny how many so called single guys can't accommodate! Ok you may have the odd one still living with parents etc but imo if I was a female it would make me wonder." I disagree. I know plenty of men on here who are single and have their children at their house a lot. I much prefer a man who wouldn’t just let anyone in his house. Men are allowed to be careful too to try and avoid nutjobs. I wouldn’t let anyone at all in my house, ever. I don’t even give my real location to people. Why can’t men do this too without being accused of being attached? | |||
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"Absolutely tons of fab singles on here. With only a smattering of them honest enough to admit it. It's the unsuspecting people they go for I feel sorry for, being unwittingly drawn Into drama, deceit and lies, through no fault of their own. At least if the married person is honest about it, people can make a choice about whether they want to play or not. Just a pity they are "honest" with strangers but not their partners! Ridiculous idea. Why that could ruin Christmas! No it's much more ethical to accept the burden of that guilt and act like everything is perfect. Put up the tree, have a family dinner with her mum and tell her how wonderful the turkey is. Compliment her on her choice of crackers. It's hard, but sometimes you have to do hard things to protect those you love and care for. It's more self-sacrifice than cheating when you think about it enough to believe your own bullshit." I'm sure they could go to one of the plenty of other women who have no issues with facilitating someone to cheat....oh but wait...they love their wife so couldn't possibly do something so heinous as that  | |||
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"It's interesting to see the gender divide opinions, over the years I've seen a lot of profiles of women in here without their partners knowledge (probably same number of men),but the majority of replies here seem to assume it's mainly blokes cheating. " My answers would be the same if it were a woman cheating on her husband! | |||
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"Absolutely tons of fab singles on here. With only a smattering of them honest enough to admit it. It's the unsuspecting people they go for I feel sorry for, being unwittingly drawn Into drama, deceit and lies, through no fault of their own. At least if the married person is honest about it, people can make a choice about whether they want to play or not. Just a pity they are "honest" with strangers but not their partners! Ridiculous idea. Why that could ruin Christmas! No it's much more ethical to accept the burden of that guilt and act like everything is perfect. Put up the tree, have a family dinner with her mum and tell her how wonderful the turkey is. Compliment her on her choice of crackers. It's hard, but sometimes you have to do hard things to protect those you love and care for. It's more self-sacrifice than cheating when you think about it enough to believe your own bullshit. I'm sure they could go to one of the plenty of other women who have no issues with facilitating someone to cheat....oh but wait...they love their wife so couldn't possibly do something so heinous as that "And that's where the fab couples come from. 2 married people cheating on their respective partners with each other | |||
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"Having read through this entire diatribe it's just occurred to me that nearly all my 'meets'/dates and socials this year were with women who were attached, betrothed or married." Same. Don’t know why people are so bothered about what other people do. I couldn’t give less of a fuck what anyone on here does unless it affects me. Nor could I give less of a fuck what people think about what I do. Interesting reading though. | |||
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"As a married man without my wife’s knowledge I find this is a very interesting thread with quite a few different opinions. Personally I’ve had abusive messages from women who’ve found out I’m married. My choices are my own for being here. I was a swinger before I met my wife and ive found leaving this lifestyle behind difficult amongst other reasons. I think it’s just too easy to label someone a cheater. You don’t know what’s going on in the background for them to be here. Whatever their reasons they're still cheating. That's something that can't be disputed. I know next to nothing about almost everyone's life story on fab but if you're having sex with someone and deliberately keeping it from your partner, it's cheating. I don't care as I said above. What if someone was on here to communicate with like minded people and share fantasies without the intention of meeting someone? " That's up to the individual to decide. Would it hurt their partner if they found out? 🤷♀️ | |||
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"Absolutely tons of fab singles on here. With only a smattering of them honest enough to admit it. It's the unsuspecting people they go for I feel sorry for, being unwittingly drawn Into drama, deceit and lies, through no fault of their own. At least if the married person is honest about it, people can make a choice about whether they want to play or not. Just a pity they are "honest" with strangers but not their partners! Ridiculous idea. Why that could ruin Christmas! No it's much more ethical to accept the burden of that guilt and act like everything is perfect. Put up the tree, have a family dinner with her mum and tell her how wonderful the turkey is. Compliment her on her choice of crackers. It's hard, but sometimes you have to do hard things to protect those you love and care for. It's more self-sacrifice than cheating when you think about it enough to believe your own bullshit. I'm sure they could go to one of the plenty of other women who have no issues with facilitating someone to cheat....oh but wait...they love their wife so couldn't possibly do something so heinous as that
And that's where the fab couples come from. 2 married people cheating on their respective partners with each other"They deserve one another | |||
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"It's interesting to see the gender divide opinions, over the years I've seen a lot of profiles of women in here without their partners knowledge (probably same number of men),but the majority of replies here seem to assume it's mainly blokes cheating. " I've met guys that were cheating and probably will again. I don't really care. I think the difference in men and women doing it is most women don't feel the need to justify it or get the sympathy vote, they just do it. Men are constantly making these types of threads to justify their actions, if you're gonna do it. Own it and stop acting like a victim in the relationship. | |||
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"It's interesting to see the gender divide opinions, over the years I've seen a lot of profiles of women in here without their partners knowledge (probably same number of men),but the majority of replies here seem to assume it's mainly blokes cheating. I've met guys that were cheating and probably will again. I don't really care. I think the difference in men and women doing it is most women don't feel the need to justify it or get the sympathy vote, they just do it. Men are constantly making these types of threads to justify their actions, if you're gonna do it. Own it and stop acting like a victim in the relationship." Eh. I've sat through my fair share of women justifying their cheating with how their partner treated them - if I were being unfair I would say that women, instead of complaining about a lack of sex, complain about a lack of mind-reading skills 😇 But seriously, there isn't really a gender divide here. Women are just forgiven for it much more easily (on fabs, not in other walks of life). | |||
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"Having read through this entire diatribe it's just occurred to me that nearly all my 'meets'/dates and socials this year were with women who were attached, betrothed or married. Same. Don’t know why people are so bothered about what other people do. I couldn’t give less of a fuck what anyone on here does unless it affects me. Nor could I give less of a fuck what people think about what I do. Interesting reading though. " This! | |||
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"Thousands are on here without their partners knowledge. My opinion is that lying to conceal something that would cause hurt is bad, it doesn't matter how small the lie. The reasons behind the lie will vary and some will very rarely be good reasons. Whether anyone chooses to go down this route is entirely up to them, life is complicated, relationships are complicated but the biggest lies we tell are to ourselves. Whether it's better if there are no emotions involved is debatable because usually the only one who has no emotional investment is the person playing away. If discovered emotions will very much come in to it. I don't care much what people do, they must decide for themselves how best to get what they want from life. " WELL SAID | |||
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"OP seems to of gone all quiet guess he didn't like the response 😂😂" His wife maybe found his account | |||
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"I don't care much what people do, they must decide for themselves how best to get what they want from life. WELL SAID " Isn't a significant part of your profile whining about other people deciding for themselves to not take an interest in men your age. Or is that different. | |||
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"Wondering how many people are on here without their partners knowledge and what people think about it? Is it better finding fun on here which is as it is fun or is having and affair worse which would include emotions. " It was his idea, the dirty bastard  | |||
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"OP seems to of gone all quiet guess he didn't like the response 😂😂 His wife maybe found his account "Ha-ha .. sadly I don't spend 24/7 on Fab hence no recent response 😅😅😅 | |||
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"Easy to say if your partner is part of your fun, but what if he/she isn't interested, " Then you have to question yourself | |||
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"Wondering how many people are on here without their partners knowledge and what people think about it? Is it better finding fun on here which is as it is fun or is having and affair worse which would include emotions. 'Fun' for who ? It may be brief but it is still cheating. If it wasn't cheating , lying, dishonest, unfaithful, disloyal, deceptive, uncaring, selfish and untrustworthy why would anyone NOT tell their partner ? Like I said...... fun for who ? I don't care who is married but no one can convince me they are not LYING to th eir partners. Snakes........ on their bellies." agree | |||
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"Wondering how many people are on here without their partners knowledge and what people think about it? Is it better finding fun on here which is as it is fun or is having and affair worse which would include emotions. " I was wondering... when you posted this you were counting on a Christmas miracle, understanding and absolution? Don't be naive, you will never get that here... certainly not on the forum, officially... Do you know why? because everyone, sorry most people, love these threads, because they can present themselves as super honest, sincere towards their wives, while hiding their other lies that they don't talk about here. Think about how many people there are who have not deliberately cheated anyone in their lives? Everyone lies, cheating others that they are not cheaters... Remember, it's your life, your reasons and your conscience, your life is in your hands, life is one, everyone deserves happiness, try to choose the path to happiness without hurting others, don't go to your destination over dead bodies... If you have any doubts, stop, don't go any further... as if you were standing at a crossroads or at the edge of a precipice.as. Only when you are sure of your decision follow the path you choose, listen to yourself, your soul... be happy. Merry Christmas... | |||
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"A good way of thinking about it is "if the KGB found out, could they successfully black mail me into betraying the monarchy". If the answer is yes then you probably shouldn't be doing it." I wouldn't need to be black_mailed into getting rid of those parasites | |||
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"Easy to say if your partner is part of your fun, but what if he/she isn't interested, " Then you have to question why | |||
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"Both my left hand and my right hand know " Handy to know!!! | |||
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