FabSwingers.com forum: Winks….are they worth it?

By (user no longer on site) OP
31 weeks ago

Well are they?

Do you send them?

Do you like receiving them?

Do you think they are lazy?

Do you respond/wink back?

Do you even check them?

Have you ever met someone great off the back of a wink?

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By *vaRoseWoman
31 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

I never check

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By *NormalMan01Man
31 weeks ago

Harrogate

For some they work, for others they don’t. 🤷🏽‍♂️

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By *parkle1974Woman
31 weeks ago

Leeds

I never look tbh x

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I sometimes send them as i think they can be an icebreaker but rarely get one, a well written message works better I think

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By *imples24Man
31 weeks ago

tamworth

There was a similar thread the other day. I personally like a wink and when I get one I’d message. Someone might lack in confidence or just giving you a heads up that they like you and if the feelings mutual then hit them up. I’d like to say it could save the lady’s getting hundreds of messages but doubt that 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I just delete

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By *eroLondonMan
31 weeks ago

Mayfair

I've mentioned this in similar threads - I just interpret winks as some perfunctory action. I don't send winks. Indeed I haven't sent one for over three years, other than those which are part of a forum game or a challenge (an equally pointless exercise).

I've sat next to 'women friends' at a social who have shown me their 'wink tally', with the number varying between 350 and 600++ winks. A wink sent from a single man, no matter how well-intentioned with all the airs and graces, will simply languish like an abandoned child in some obscure orphanage.

No woman of substance has the time or the wherewithal to sift through an ever-increasing mountain of winks. Hence their limited use. In fairness they are useful to a small minority. I've heard that they seem to work well for Couples...

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By *aomilatteCouple
31 weeks ago

Midlands

We never wink first but will look at the profile of the winkee and return a wink if the profile appeals to us. About 1 in 500 winks we receive lead to a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

So I Wink because it's a soft touch approach that allows the woman to decide if she wants to make contact. Less mental load.

But this past week I've begun to think what's the point of the actual function. So many women proudly saying they ignore or bulk delete them. Is it actually worth having it as an option on fab.

Obviously the vast majority of messages also get ignored or bulk deleted too which is all fine (you do you on fab).

I don't think I'll stop being a massive winker regardless of all the negative comments to it.

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By *imples24Man
31 weeks ago

tamworth

"We never wink first but will look at the profile of the winkee and return a wink if the profile appeals to us. About 1 in 500 winks we receive lead to a meet."

Great odds 😬

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By *orkshire Couple2000Couple
31 weeks ago

Halifax

"I never look tbh x"

Probs why you never saw our wink when we sent you one

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By *lackcanaryWoman
31 weeks ago

Ipswich

Rarely look at them and never reply to them!

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I don’t mind ‘em. The function must be well used by people or Fab would get rid of it.

What I find laughable is the way some equate a wink to laziness, and would be an indicator of the level of effort put into the sex.

Ridiculous.

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By *ornycougaWoman
31 weeks ago

WHEREVER I LAY MY HAT

Never look at them. But then I rarely look at messages either!

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
31 weeks ago

west london

For females it's easy to ignore as there is more men than women here. For men a wink is like a golden ticket to willy Wonka's chocolate factory.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

Definitely not worth it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
31 weeks ago

"Never look at them. But then I rarely look at messages either! "

I know 😕

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
31 weeks ago

Birmingham

We just delete and block them. We can't be arsed with people who can't read lol

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By *artfordBlokeMan
31 weeks ago

Dartford

"I don’t mind ‘em. The function must be well used by people or Fab would get rid of it.

What I find laughable is the way some equate a wink to laziness, and would be an indicator of the level of effort put into the sex.

Ridiculous. "

The levels of assumption on here is laughable, I'm so glad everyone knows everyone else so intimately, based on a few pics and a couple of paragraphs. Bonkers

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By *irmelaterMan
31 weeks ago

Telford

I wink

I've been winked at

It's a show of appreciation in my eyes

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By *ellinever70Woman
31 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I've had a few fun adventures off the back of a wink

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By *aughty driverMan
31 weeks ago

Romford

I think winks are good. Its basically for me works as letting people know if there is interest and then start messaging

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By *imples24Man
31 weeks ago

tamworth

"So I Wink because it's a soft touch approach that allows the woman to decide if she wants to make contact. Less mental load.

But this past week I've begun to think what's the point of the actual function. So many women proudly saying they ignore or bulk delete them. Is it actually worth having it as an option on fab.

Obviously the vast majority of messages also get ignored or bulk deleted too which is all fine (you do you on fab).

I don't think I'll stop being a massive winker regardless of all the negative comments to it. "

They will find us when they seek my friend

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By *oomerangbobMan
31 weeks ago

stanhope

Rarely get them but mostly welcome

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
31 weeks ago

kent

We encourage people to wink us on our profile, but if I’m being honest, we rarely pay attention to them. Should probably delete that offer from the shop window x

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By *parkle1974Woman
31 weeks ago

Leeds

"I never look tbh x

Probs why you never saw our wink when we sent you one

Awww sorry

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By *eckard25Man
31 weeks ago

North West Durham

I like it when I receive one, and I like to send them occasionally. Have followed up with messages sometimes but so far never led to more than that.

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyesWoman
31 weeks ago

Stirlingshire

I haven't winked first yet. Doesn't seem to be a need as a solo woman since they all come to you 😅

I like a wink and I do look at them. I don't think it's laziness at all. I see it more as testing the water based on profile and pics before putting effort in to a message that will likely be ignored and deleted. I've never sent a message in response to a wink. If I'm interested I'll wink back and see if a follow-up message comes to me.

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By *Mclovin.Man
31 weeks ago

East Yorkshire

Winks, no I don't think they are lazy, when I read a profile and it says no winks, than I won't send.

I tend to message the vast majority of time, but do send winks on occasion if i receive a profile view after that, i will follow up with a nice little message.

I got my first wink the other day, I was just typing a message to the couple and as doing so received a wink from them.

so my mid message said, *and now you have just winked at me*.

Think it works for some but not everyone.

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By *ruebameMan
31 weeks ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

I don't use them but I just have to test a theory

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
31 weeks ago

Loughborough

Winks are getting annoying for us. Initially, if we sent one and received one back, we would message - but find it sits unread for ages! But if we receive one, then send one back, some just never send an opening message!

Strange old place this is becoming!

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By *antricSeeker60Man
31 weeks ago

Durham

Depends solely upon who’s sending them!

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
31 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"Well are they?

Do you send them?

Do you like receiving them?

Do you think they are lazy?

Do you respond/wink back?

Do you even check them?

Have you ever met someone great off the back of a wink?"

Yes I send them

Yes I like receiving them

No I don't think it's lazy, it's a good way to gauge if someone is interested

I wink back if I like what I see

Most of the time I check them

Probably lol

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

A wink is always nice for me - don’t get many to be fair - must be an age thing?

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By *iscombobulated1523Couple
31 weeks ago

Worcestershire

We don't mind a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I’d prefer a message, personally. I very rarely check winks and have only realised some people have winked me by chance when I visit their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I like a wink. They are underrated

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
31 weeks ago

Reading

I look at mine every now and then and will wink back if I think we are compatible

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By *agicfingers1Man
31 weeks ago

near Brighton

Are they worth?.....probably not

Will it stop me winking......nope

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

Each to their own. But prefer a message. Only open the folder to delete them. I don't like clutter

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

Have sent them, have never received much back.

Sometimes receive then, will always send something back.

Never met from wink..yet...🤷🏽‍♂️

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By *rHotNottsMan
31 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Id estimate about 1/5 the people I meet it started with a wink from me or from them.

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By *sWyldWoman
31 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I always forget to look at them

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By *rdere OpusCouple
31 weeks ago

Brum - ish

We like them - to us they’re an indicator of interest. We’ll wink back if the interest is mutual. If we wink first and it’s reciprocated, we message.

Many of our conversations have started with a wink. As a single woman, a number of my meets came from winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I'm sexually repulsed by people who keep an untidy winkbox so winking works well for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I absolutely hate them. I check them because I always have to check new notifications. I look and think what's the point? Clearly haven't read the profile as I say no winks in caps. Sometimes I'll just go along with it reply with a wink. Literally nothing happens, no further interaction. It's the exact same if I send a message to their wink. Nothing.

Actually could probably be that they saw it on my profile and just decided to be annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

Would be nice to have a reply to email let alone a wink

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By *ildTimes.Man
31 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

Swns them once in a blue moon, if I get sent one and like the look of the person I'll wink back and see if they message if not, I leave it at that, I don't really get the wink hate, it's kind of like testing the waters, 🤷🏻‍♂️

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By *aizyWoman
31 weeks ago

west midlands

I do look at them and if I like the look of someone I'll wink back, I also send winks, I really don't mind them

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By *midnight-Woman
31 weeks ago

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I don't usually check them, but found two friends have winked me which i find funneee

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
30 weeks ago

Central

Yes. I receive and reciprocate. Had many meets that started as winks.

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By *ene FairfaxMan
30 weeks ago

Dover

I like the idea, a polite message and fabbed pics generally follow as well, sometimes it works sometimes not

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By *nkedguy777Man
30 weeks ago

Manchester

I like to send a wink and hopefully if I get a wink back then I'll drop them a polite message

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Never send, never get...

FAB Wanks, now that's another story.

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By *tu.xMan
30 weeks ago

around

Probably the women hardly check them most men Probably do check them doesn't take much effort either way do I check them indeed I do 😉

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By *issmorganWoman
30 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I generally delete mine, as they're usually from men miles away,or who haven't read my profile.

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By *umagain58Man
30 weeks ago

London

"Probably the women hardly check them most men Probably do check them doesn't take much effort either way do I check them indeed I do 😉"

Agreed. Most get you no response but once in while can lead to fun- so worth it for me

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By *helovesitwetCouple
26 weeks ago

bognor

"Well are they?

Do you send them?

Do you like receiving them?

Do you think they are lazy?

Do you respond/wink back?

Do you even check them?

Have you ever met someone great off the back of a wink?"
instant block

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