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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

How do you manage yours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years of learning self control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to loose it too often, but when I blow, I blow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just growl and throw a short left hook

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"How do you manage yours?"
Same with any other emotion, tried and tested strategies Ive learnt over the years.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

normally go for a walk or potter in the garden and tell myself to stop being silly..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Calmed down with age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you manage yours?Same with any other emotion, tried and tested strategies Ive learnt over the years.

And then you go in for the kill?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Years of learning self control."

Is it expressed in any way?

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"How do you manage yours?"

Having got rid of the ex I don't get angry....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not very well it seems

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"How do you manage yours?Same with any other emotion, tried and tested strategies Ive learnt over the years.

And then you go in for the kill?

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Exactly.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"normally go for a walk or potter in the garden and tell myself to stop being silly.."

Why is it silly to feel angry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go silent ............... its deadly!!!!

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Not very well it seems

Is it suppressed or expressed inappropriately?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"normally go for a walk or potter in the garden and tell myself to stop being silly..

Why is it silly to feel angry?"

depends on the issue..

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Anger is often a secondary emotion to being hurt and sad, but it is more acceptable in society to show anger than tears of sadness.

Anger management does not mean anger suppression as the pent up anger can focus inward and then lead to depression.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I go silent ............... its deadly!!!!

For you or for others?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I go silent ............... its deadly!!!!

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Errr.. yeah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you manage yours?Same with any other emotion, tried and tested strategies Ive learnt over the years.

And then you go in for the kill?

Exactly.

I know you so well!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Hard bear stares

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Hard bear stares"
Thats just evil, Marmalade Sarnies as well?

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Anger is often a secondary emotion to being hurt and sad, but it is more acceptable in society to show anger than tears of sadness.

Anger management does not mean anger suppression as the pent up anger can focus inward and then lead to depression."

But hurting others isn't on either.

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Hard bear stares"

I thought you gave hard bare stairs.

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By *azzaahhWoman
over a year ago

north wales / chester

havent been angry for ages..lifes too short

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Anger is often a secondary emotion to being hurt and sad, but it is more acceptable in society to show anger than tears of sadness.

Anger management does not mean anger suppression as the pent up anger can focus inward and then lead to depression.

But hurting others isn't on either."
No, of course not, it is not what I meant to say. Thanks for pointing out as I did not make it very clear.

Anger needs to be expressed safely so it does not end up hurting others, whether this is physically or emotionally.

Some people do have very short fuses and are struggling to follow a "count to 10" but even then there are techniques that can be taught/ learnt to allow them to vent their anger safely.

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Nr Biggleswade

I stroke my sausage till I calm down

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"havent been angry for ages..lifes too short"

I have not either - if I am it is for a short while only and then I tend to ask myself if it is worth it for that reason.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I very rarely get angry, trivialities in life are not worth getting too upset about.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go silent ............... its deadly!!!!

Errr.. yeah!

and then I become succint and they get it double barrelled

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"havent been angry for ages..lifes too short

I have not either - if I am it is for a short while only and then I tend to ask myself if it is worth it for that reason.

how do you address it when it occurs..

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I very rarely get angry, trivialities in life are not worth getting too upset about....."

Do you get annoyed?

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

The gym normaly keeps it a bay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anger is often a secondary emotion to being hurt and sad, but it is more acceptable in society to show anger than tears of sadness.

Anger management does not mean anger suppression as the pent up anger can focus inward and then lead to depression."

Thought provoking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What did you call me?

*foams at mouth*

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"What did you call me?

*foams at mouth*"

You're supposed to spit out the excess toothpaste.

Seriously, are you easy to anger?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Years of learning self control."

Not good for my stress levels or bp - so I have learned to control my temper a great deal. That's not to say I never lose it but it is far less often than it used to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I let everything go over my head and try not to let things bother me.

I think if you get mad about things you get bitter and life is too short.

I go and get some fresh air and count to 10 if i need to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What did you call me?

*foams at mouth*

You're supposed to spit out the excess toothpaste.

Seriously, are you easy to anger?"

I'm usually a calm person however I do love a good swearing session when I'm alone and pissed off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you manage yours?"
WHAT HELL HAS IT GOT TO DO WITH YOU

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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"How do you manage yours? WHAT HELL HAS IT GOT TO DO WITH YOU

Not a thing. That's the marvellous thing about these here fora - you post stuff and strangers answer. Or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get my whip out

Not often I get very angry, but if I do I put some sounds on plug my earphones in and go for a long stroll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

errrmm I'll get back to you on that one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you manage yours? WHAT HELL HAS IT GOT TO DO WITH YOU

Not a thing. That's the marvellous thing about these here fora - you post stuff and strangers answer. Or not.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"I very rarely get angry, trivialities in life are not worth getting too upset about.....

Do you get annoyed?"

Of course, things do annoy me all the time, but I think it's how you handle that feeling of being annoyed that is all important.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"havent been angry for ages..lifes too short

I have not either - if I am it is for a short while only and then I tend to ask myself if it is worth it for that reason.

how do you address it when it occurs.."
It depends, of course, on whether or not I feel that somebody deliberately offended/ attacked ... or whether it is more about me being hypersensitive which may be rooted in other things.

Dont get me wrong, looking at oneself is not comfortable sometimes, not an easy thing to look for a deficiency in yourself when actually you are quite angry at the time.

But I have learnt that taking a moment, taking a deep breath and walking away from a situation before responding really helps as it takes away (some of) the heat of the moment.

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By *aster of a mindCouple
over a year ago

York

We often get angry because we are not in control of a certain situation. A good way to calm ourself down is to recognise what it is that has annoyed us and then what WE are in control of, to change he situation.

Take positive action to improve the situation instead of being angry over someone elses short comings

That's my tip of te day....from a very relaxed and never angry man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take a bloody great big breath!

I've lost it big time once - my mum thought I was going to combust!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"We often get angry because we are not in control of a certain situation. A good way to calm ourself down is to recognise what it is that has annoyed us and then what WE are in control of, to change he situation.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"havent been angry for ages..lifes too short

I have not either - if I am it is for a short while only and then I tend to ask myself if it is worth it for that reason.

how do you address it when it occurs..It depends, of course, on whether or not I feel that somebody deliberately offended/ attacked ... or whether it is more about me being hypersensitive which may be rooted in other things.

Dont get me wrong, looking at oneself is not comfortable sometimes, not an easy thing to look for a deficiency in yourself when actually you are quite angry at the time.

But I have learnt that taking a moment, taking a deep breath and walking away from a situation before responding really helps as it takes away (some of) the heat of the moment."

not that different to my own way, find by taking myself away just a short distance i can look at the issue for what it actually is rather than whilst a bit heated...

its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant on fab

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

ANGER MANAGEMENT, WHAT'S THAT ALL ABOUT.

SHUT THE FUCK UP

oops, sorry, missed ma class today

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self..

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Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self..

Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think.

agreed even if am not sure what that means...

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self..

Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think.

agreed even if am not sure what that means...

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Me neither - just thought it sounded cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you manage yours?

Having got rid of the ex I don't get angry...."

Well said, im the same

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self..

Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think.

agreed even if am not sure what that means...

Me neither - just thought it sounded cool

would one have to wear a kaftan at all..

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self..

Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think.

agreed even if am not sure what that means...

Me neither - just thought it sounded cool

would one have to wear a kaftan at all..

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THink head gear would help;-)

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self..

Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think.

agreed even if am not sure what that means...

Me neither - just thought it sounded cool

would one have to wear a kaftan at all..

THink head gear would help;-)"

that'll do..

like your thinking..

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I rarely get angry but the last time was quite recent when I was accused, after running myself ragged for a colleague who was very late and then ponced about for the next few hours, of not doing anything all morning, BY THE SAME COLLEAGUE.

I immediately took myself away from the situation, whilst the urge to smack the stupid cow in the face was still rampant, and found an empty space to rage, stomp and cry in. Once the worst had blown over, I presented myself in my managers office, warned her I was angry and what I was about to say was me unloading and by no means a slight on her and then I let rip, in a controlled way of course.

I then arranged, via the proper channels, to meet with the colleague to inform her that any conversation between us would now only be on a professional basis. She declined to turn up as she whined that she doesn't like confrontation.

I'm surprisingly calm about it all now but I've not forgotten...

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"would one have to wear a kaftan at all..

B.A.Robertson had hits between 1979 and 1981 in the UK Singles Chart, the first of which – "Bang Bang" – reached number 2 in August 1979. Follow-up singles "Knocked It Off", "Kool In The Kaftan"

*courtesy of the cut & paste department*

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By *orkieMan
over a year ago

Who knows

My counsellor told me I had anger management issues.... my response.... "Fcuk off before I slap you"

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Yo, this song, yo

This song is for all the women out there

That have been lied to by their men

And I know y'all been lied to over and over again

This is for y'all

Yo, maybe you didn't break the way you should have broke, yo

But I break, know what I am saying, this is how it goes y'all, damn

Last year, Valentine’s day, you would spoil me, say

"Babe, I love you, love you babe I swear"

Held you when you were sick even’ (sucked your dick)

The whole time I think to myself, this isn’t fair

What is this I see (No)

You don’t come home to me (Oh, no)

When you don’t come home to me (Man)

Can’t deal, can’t bear

You keep tellin’ me lies

But to your surprise

Look, I found her red coat

And your (bitch) caught out there

I hate you so much right now

Ahh...

I hate you so much right now

Ahh...

So sick of your games, I’ll set your truck to flames

And watch it blow up, blow up, tell me (How you gonna see her now)

So far from sincere {I love you}, fabrications in my ear

Drive me so far up the wall, I come slidin’ down

What is this I see (I don’t believe this)

You don’t come home to me

When you don’t come home to me

I can’t deal, can’t bear (I won’t)

You keep tellin’ me lies

But to your surprise

Look, I hope you’re happy

Since you’re caught out there

Yeah, you’ve been caught

Yo’, come on

Come on

I hate you so much right now

Ahh...

I hate you so much right now

Ahh...

(She’s so) raunchy, so vulgar, not me, why the hell her

Look, she dresses (Look at her) a mess, what do you see (I don’t know)

It’s not all about cash (Hell, no), not how much you flash

How I dress is a reflection of me

What is this I see

You don’t come home to me (Uh-uh)

When you don’t come home to me

Can’t deal, can’t bear (Told you I won’t)

You keep tellin’ me lies

But to your surprise

Look, I got somethin’ for y’all

Since you’re caught out there

I hate you so much right now

Ahh...

I hate you so much right now

Ahh...

I hate you so much right now

Ahh...

Sorry, won't miss ma next appointment, honestly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anger is often a secondary emotion to being hurt and sad, but it is more acceptable in society to show anger than tears of sadness.

This! Without hurt or being hurt in any form anger doesn't come in, you get angry as a reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get angry at the wrong people and say really hurtful things when I don't mean too!!!!

Do it all the time and wish I didn't : (

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With my 5 yr old, count to 10.

Anyone else , it takes a lot for some to see the wrath of me, but when they do God help them!

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If im at work, It just boils away inside me because if I let it out, I think id walk out or get the sack. Usually just over something minor, but small or big things do wind me up easily, then I get home and either its gone away or the OH gets it in the neck when he gets in specially if he says something daft to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 point 6 2

Full

Metal

Jacket

There are many rifles, but this one is mine.

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