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"Op everyone is individual we all have people that like us just how we are i have a mindset of you either like me or you don't I really don't care what other's think I'm comfortable in my own body and wouldn't change any part of it to please other's not even my 6"s if someone i like Is looking for that 12" beast then that's there preference "Also this. If people don't like you for who you are, they can fuck right off. I'm generally attracted to odd looking men, but it's their personality I fall for. Fab perusing rarely works for me. I get drawn in by torsos and they're often just bellends in personality  | |||
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"As a whole. No. " I’ve had a sneaky peek at your profile and I think you look bloody great 😁 | |||
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"Yes. I'm very lucky that I'm naturally pretty. I would be prettier if I lost some weight though, as currently my cheek bones and jaw line are disappearing. That's on me though. " I think you look great just the way you are 😁 | |||
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"Op everyone is individual we all have people that like us just how we are i have a mindset of you either like me or you don't I really don't care what other's think I'm comfortable in my own body and wouldn't change any part of it to please other's not even my 6"s if someone i like Is looking for that 12" beast then that's there preference
Also this. If people don't like you for who you are, they can fuck right off. I'm generally attracted to odd looking men, but it's their personality I fall for. Fab perusing rarely works for me. I get drawn in by torsos and they're often just bellends in personality "well my torso won't draw you in but if you would like my bellend I'm sure we could heat things up under the covers   | |||
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"Do you have confidence in your looks? I'm trying to be more comfortable in mine and less harsh on myseld but I just wish I could change my face sometimes" No, not really. I'm trying though. | |||
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"I'm a naturist, I'm very happy with my naked self. When I'm dressed smartly (which is most of the time), I feel very confident. Dressed in scruffs for DIY, I feel very relaxed and happy and when I'm in my cycling Lycra (yes, I'm a MAMIL), I'm very happy but I don't think it suits me that much; I have been told (many times) that it shows off my thighs - I do have great thighs "I forgot to add: OP, wear the clothes that help you feel good even if they maybe out of place for the occasion; I often wear my three piece suit to work when everyone else is dressed semi-cassual, I feel that lifts me and gives me an added confidence. | |||
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"I am generally confident that I’m attractive but today I feel so ugly and so pissed off at myself for it. " ❤️ | |||
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"I'd say mostly, with age comes confidence and I don't give a fck attitude " This ^ for me too. | |||
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"Do you have confidence in your looks? I'm trying to be more comfortable in mine and less harsh on myseld but I just wish I could change my face sometimes" This is a very difficult question  | |||
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"I like the way I look. I'm far from perfect. There's loose skin from weight loss, small tits, my eyes should be bigger, visible veins and all sorts of little bits I don't like. But Overall. I'm pretty fucking hot 💜" You certainly are 😁 | |||
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"I've recently lost 8 stone and actually really struggling with the changes to my body. It doesn't help that I have had so many messages from guys on here telling me how unattractive I am now that I'm slimmer than I was. " Don’t listen to them, you look amazing | |||
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"I'm struggling as I lose weight.. I was 26 stone at one point ( was probably bigger but didn't get on the scales) Now just over 19 and dropping ( Christmas / birthday period is affecting this currently... But as I lose weight I feel less confident in myself.. but i am happy with who I am and my looks. Just less confident " Well done on your weight loss you look amazing, how did you lose so much ? | |||
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"I'm struggling as I lose weight.. I was 26 stone at one point ( was probably bigger but didn't get on the scales) Now just over 19 and dropping ( Christmas / birthday period is affecting this currently... But as I lose weight I feel less confident in myself.. but i am happy with who I am and my looks. Just less confident " Exactly this. I thought I'd feel so confident with weight loss but loose skin etc is an issue I didn't even think about. Congratulations on your weight loss, you've done really well. I guess our brains have to catch up when a significant amount is lost. I was 25 stone but now 16 and it sucks that I now look in the mirror and hate myself for entirely different reasons. | |||
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"I'm struggling as I lose weight.. I was 26 stone at one point ( was probably bigger but didn't get on the scales) Now just over 19 and dropping ( Christmas / birthday period is affecting this currently... But as I lose weight I feel less confident in myself.. but i am happy with who I am and my looks. Just less confident Exactly this. I thought I'd feel so confident with weight loss but loose skin etc is an issue I didn't even think about. Congratulations on your weight loss, you've done really well. I guess our brains have to catch up when a significant amount is lost. I was 25 stone but now 16 and it sucks that I now look in the mirror and hate myself for entirely different reasons. " congratulations too on your loss... I think subconsciously mine is as i know I'm already the slimmest lady Mr has dated.... and I have a good load more to go yet.. I know that he won't leave me or not find me sexy as I lose weight but my silly little subconscious hasn't quite got the memo yet x | |||
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"Im a 6/10 in real life but I'm a solid 9.7 on here! 😂" Lol same | |||
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"Growing older can be a challenge to confidence in the way you look. It takes a fairly good level of realistic self assessment and acceptance of your changing body." This is was relatively happy, then I decided to loose a bit of weight and it seems my face has aged a lot quickly. It's probably less fat filling out the wrinkles but it's been challenging to accept nonetheless | |||
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"Not confident at all. I envy people who are " You look fantastic in your pics, it’s difficult if you do lack that self confidence, I’m sure there have been plenty of people who have told you how gorgeous you look | |||
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"Not confident at all. I envy people who are You look fantastic in your pics, it’s difficult if you do lack that self confidence, I’m sure there have been plenty of people who have told you how gorgeous you look " It's meaningless when you can't see it in yourself | |||
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"Growing older can be a challenge to confidence in the way you look. It takes a fairly good level of realistic self assessment and acceptance of your changing body. This is was relatively happy, then I decided to loose a bit of weight and it seems my face has aged a lot quickly. It's probably less fat filling out the wrinkles but it's been challenging to accept nonetheless " It's difficult in the face of advertising and the constant pressure applied to look younger than you actually are. Some of the most beautiful people are old and look it. | |||
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"Do you have confidence in your looks? I'm trying to be more comfortable in mine and less harsh on myseld but I just wish I could change my face sometimes" Nope not at all for me. | |||
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"Not confident at all. I envy people who are You look fantastic in your pics, it’s difficult if you do lack that self confidence, I’m sure there have been plenty of people who have told you how gorgeous you look It's meaningless when you can't see it in yourself " It is difficult but you can be confident in yourself trust me, I was like you used to get picked on about the size of nose and other things, but eventually I decided to not bother about what was said, I’m me and if you don’t like me for what I am then just don’t speak to me | |||
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"Weirdly, I’m much more confident (to a point) in my sex life persona than I am in my every day persona! Obviously there’s a lot I’d love to change, but I just accept now that I’m getting older and it’s not as easy to do lol My FWB thinks I’m hot so that’s all that matters!" don't change a thing your beautiful | |||
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"Yes. I'm very lucky that I'm naturally pretty. I would be prettier if I lost some weight though, as currently my cheek bones and jaw line are disappearing. That's on me though. " Yes you arr pretty and no you dont need to loose weight | |||
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"As a whole. No. " why your a good looking woman | |||
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"Do you have confidence in your looks? I'm trying to be more comfortable in mine and less harsh on myseld but I just wish I could change my face sometimes" There are bits I would change in regards to my whole appearance. Yes bigger boobs would be great, longer legs and losing weight all over too. Some I can't do anything about, but others I just can't be bothered to deal with right now. When I feel up to it, I'll start working again on loosing weight and toning up a bit, but there's no rush. In general though I'm really happy with my life at the moment. My appearance and quiet discontent with it at the moment aren't as important as other things. When that changes, I can work on that 😊 | |||
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"I'd change a few things, a fair few actually. " why would you want to change anything | |||
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"Not massively no, I’ve had multiple kids, lost weight, gained weight etc… I’m hitting fast to 40.. but I’m starting to regain my confidence slowly, hitting the “I’m actually not horrid… if someone else don’t like it, that’s their problem” phase 🤷🏻♀️😂 " Magic number is 40! They say life starts at.... well I can certainly say I do much more in the last 2 years but my body is screaming at me to stop! I guess you start appreciating how quickly time passes and stop worrying about what others may think. Live your life all and 🖕 to what anyone thinks. Jay | |||
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"Mostly, no, I don't, hit 40 and felt great and then started to lose my hair and it all went downhill, but I know it doesn't define me as a person. The odd day when you dress up sharp and look good, and you get that boost then yes i feel great." Embrace it. I started losing mine in my late 20s. Very slowly my hair got thinner and thinner. Doesn't seem to bother many people TBH. Jay | |||
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"Did have.... Been knocked down a bit recently so now don't know why anyone would even consider me anymore?" Remember it is a reflection of themselves not you! | |||
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"Do you have confidence in your looks? I'm trying to be more comfortable in mine and less harsh on myseld but I just wish I could change my face sometimes This is a very difficult question "To answer the very difficult question. I do, and I don't. I do believe the people who say they find me attractive. There are a select few who I believe, anyway. My face is alright, I have nice eyes and clear skin but it's often bright red, which I hate. I think my short hair suits me and I like that. My boobs are saggy but can be made to look decent with some kind of garment. I liked (past tense) my shoulders and arms but the recent period of enforced lack of gym and physical wheelchairing has seen my muscles fade. I want them back! I hate myself from the waist down. It's a total car crash. Fat, saggy and largely malfunctional. As I write, my left (worse) lower leg, ankle and foot are hugely swollen and bizarre colours of red and purple. My feet look awful. I can't bear the pain required to shave my legs or bikini line and I don't like how that looks either and am self conscious of people judging me. After all, my legs are front and centre. A mixed bag! | |||
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"Mostly, no, I don't, hit 40 and felt great and then started to lose my hair and it all went downhill, but I know it doesn't define me as a person. The odd day when you dress up sharp and look good, and you get that boost then yes i feel great. Embrace it. I started losing mine in my late 20s. Very slowly my hair got thinner and thinner. Doesn't seem to bother many people TBH. Jay" Cheers Jay | |||
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"Do you have confidence in your looks? I'm trying to be more comfortable in mine and less harsh on myseld but I just wish I could change my face sometimes" Not particularly but you have to make the best of what you've got | |||
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"You’re going to be in your skin until you die so you may as well get comfortable in it. Quote by (I can’t remember )"Boity Thulo | |||
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"You’re going to be in your skin until you die so you may as well get comfortable in it. Quote by (I can’t remember )"I like ^^ lots 👍. Things I know I have that many people are positively affected by, and some of these need something like "for a 57 year old" in your mind in order to make better sense of them: Appealing hands and forearms Intriguing eyes, which change colour a fair amount Good teeth top (and all there) Good teeth bottom (and not all there) Plenty of head hair Strong shoulders, chest, thighs Nice chin Enigmatic, slightly dirty smile "Confidence" in my carriage Things I have that I don't find too appealing: Big, wonky nose 4/5 stone overweight (22 stone) Increasingly manky toenails I look "good" at 18 stone, and "very good" at 17 stone (as in athletic, not "bulky" - I seem to lose 2 or 3 stone in my body that others don't, so I'm an athletic 17 stone when others my height are an athletic 14 stone). However, the last time I was 17 stone (2016) I got too much "positive attention" from others, and I didn't like it. Too many shallow and thick people hitting on me. So perhaps 19 stone is my comfortable-as-me-and-can-push-shallow-people-away zone, which is 3 stone away from now. Overall, I'm fairly OK with my looks. | |||
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