FabSwingers.com forum: People winking

By *helovesitwet OP Couple
10 weeks ago

Brighton

Is it me or is it annoying getting winks .why do people not bother messaging..do these people just send 50 different winks a day to 50 different people and play the numbers game to see who responds.i put on my profile in bold letters please do not wink otherwise I will block ..that was last Thursday since then I have had over 200 different winks but not one has actually messaged .maybe they are just doing to wind me up.anyway interested to know other thoughts .but my block list is 205 more than last week

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
10 weeks ago

The Continental

It’s a little thing to get wound up about.

In the grand scheme of fab, they’re largely inconsequential.

Don’t delete them, the sender can’t do a repeat one. Don’t look at the who winked me page.

Sorted.

Fab’s a piece of piss to complete.

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By *rSircumsizedMan
10 weeks ago

Newport area.

I'm a serial winker

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By *usty kayCouple
10 weeks ago

Burnham

It funny how we all look at fab differently.

I don't want messages atm, I've asked for no messages but it wouldn't occur to me to ban people because they haven't bothered to look.

I like the winks because that implies to me maybe they have read it and decided to respect my wishes but have still left a little calling card so I can see if I'm interested.

For all the shit that is banded around on this site I wouldn't be wasting my time blocking people who wink, send friends requests or messages.

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By *imples24Man
10 weeks ago

tamworth

I’m happy for people to wink makes the first move which can be hard for some. Then you can send a little message and get chatting. Also least you know they prob want you to message 🤷‍♂️

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I would love to know the feeling of being winked at or even messaged but I’ve had neither 🤷‍♂️

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
10 weeks ago

Birmingham

Same is on ours. Wink and no message gets you blocked.

It just means they haven't bothered to read your profile. So block them lol

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By *istr3ssWoman
10 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees

I believe some think that if they send a wink you'll message them.

As suggested on here, I don't delete the winks. If they're that interested they'll have to message me.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
10 weeks ago

Wherever

I think winks are lazy and soulless. It would be better to have it as an option, like fabs, you could switch them off if you wish to not receive them.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"Is it me or is it annoying getting winks .why do people not bother messaging..do these people just send 50 different winks a day to 50 different people and play the numbers game to see who responds.i put on my profile in bold letters please do not wink otherwise I will block ..that was last Thursday since then I have had over 200 different winks but not one has actually messaged .maybe they are just doing to wind me up.anyway interested to know other thoughts .but my block list is 205 more than last week

Alot of people make similar posts here about recieving too many messages and such. So is a wink not to show interest without annoying them with a message. And if they send a wink back it's like an ok to message? I don't know, just what I was thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Just to add, I'm finding this site very contradicting depending on the post you read. Its great to see people here say they prefer a message. But I've read other post about prefer winks. It's such a confusing space to navigate.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
10 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Report them immediately. The perpetrators of winking can expect some serious Fabtime. Particularly serial offenders. I haven't winked in ages.

In fact I have just winked at yours now.

Dear God.

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By *rT25Man
10 weeks ago

South Yorkshire

Crazy idea!?

Don't look at your winks then?

🙈🙉🍿🍿🍿🤣🤣

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By *rSircumsizedMan
10 weeks ago

Newport area.

I know women constantly complain about the amount of messages they receive, so instead of using my brain and right thumb to write a message which will ultimately go unread for a week and then deleted without a reply, I'll bang in a cheeky wink. If they respond, great, if not there's no time lost on writing pointless stuff.

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By *obilebottomMan
10 weeks ago

All over

I like them, though nit always notice them till later

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By *oxy jWoman
10 weeks ago

somerset

i just ignore them used to mass delete now i leave them to gather dust ... i just delete and block those who send a wink and a unsolicited friends invite

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
10 weeks ago

Swansea

I don't find them annoying at all. However I tend not to take notice of them. So I click on them and then straight back off just to clear the notification.

My husband will go through them and will highlight any people of interest to me.

Mrs

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By *otsossieMan
10 weeks ago

Chesterfield

That’s just a red rag to a bull.

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By *HUSH-Man
10 weeks ago

London

I don’t mind single women winking. I’ll have a browse of their profile and if I think we might be compatible I’ll message them.

I ignore all winks and fabs from couples.

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By *layfullsamMan
10 weeks ago

Solihull

Oh to receive just 1 wink !

Complaining about receiving to many sounds crazy but hey ho it is what it is

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By *uriousscouserWoman
10 weeks ago

Wirral

I wouldn't block someone for sending a wink, but I don't check my winks so it's a bit of a wasted effort for me

What are you meant to do, wink back?

I've never bothered with it outside of threads here where people have asked for winks or complained about never getting them so I'm not sure how it all works.

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
10 weeks ago

Swansea

"That’s just a red rag to a bull. "

How so?

Mrs

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By *ornucopiaMan
10 weeks ago

Bexley

I am quite sure that if winks served no useful purpose Fab would have abandoned the facility by now...

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By *ornucopiaMan
10 weeks ago

Bexley

"That’s just a red rag to a bull.

What about to a cuckold?

Green flag?

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By *andPextraCouple
10 weeks ago

North West

Pointless exercise. Just message. I can only assume people do the blanket thing; send to loads in the hope that one responds back.

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By *ornucopiaMan
10 weeks ago

Bexley

"Pointless exercise. Just message. I can only assume people do the blanket thing; send to loads in the hope that one responds back. "

Why is there always this assumption that winking is a form of carpet bombing?

Surely winks can be targeted and used judiciously?

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
10 weeks ago

Always on the move

Fab rule 4589, don't bother sending a flirty little wink to initiate a potential wink back and a conversation, it'll only get you banned! Righto!

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By *helovesitwet OP Couple
10 weeks ago

Brighton

"I know women constantly complain about the amount of messages they receive, so instead of using my brain and right thumb to write a message which will ultimately go unread for a week and then deleted without a reply, I'll bang in a cheeky wink. If they respond, great, if not there's no time lost on writing pointless stuff."
I reply to every single message within 5 minutes of receiving it ..surely that's polite

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By *ilyandronCouple
10 weeks ago

Bristol

Prefer winks. We will contact if they appeal.

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By *andPextraCouple
10 weeks ago

North West

"Pointless exercise. Just message. I can only assume people do the blanket thing; send to loads in the hope that one responds back.

Why is there always this assumption that winking is a form of carpet bombing?

Surely winks can be targeted and used judiciously?"

Fair point and I’m sure they can. However. We regularly get the same cut and paste message from lots of different people, days, weeks or months apart. So carpet bombing of cut and paste messages exists. Logical it does (to a degree ) also exist with winks.

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By *xoticFrolicMan
10 weeks ago

Gosport

"I know women constantly complain about the amount of messages they receive, so instead of using my brain and right thumb to write a message which will ultimately go unread for a week and then deleted without a reply, I'll bang in a cheeky wink. If they respond, great, if not there's no time lost on writing pointless stuff.I reply to every single message within 5 minutes of receiving it ..surely that's polite"

I've received winks and take it as a compliment and a clear sign that if I want to talk then it's a go ahead. I only send if the profile asks for it. Included quote above as think that's a very decent thing to do. I've had some messages read and ignored, others just deleted. The few that have responded with a polite no thanks does seem a nicer way to say no than ignorance. Understand that couples and ladies do get a lot of contact though and can't spend forever on here. I guess each too their own.

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By *rSircumsizedMan
10 weeks ago

Newport area.

"I know women constantly complain about the amount of messages they receive, so instead of using my brain and right thumb to write a message which will ultimately go unread for a week and then deleted without a reply, I'll bang in a cheeky wink. If they respond, great, if not there's no time lost on writing pointless stuff.I reply to every single message within 5 minutes of receiving it ..surely that's polite"

Yep, it is polite. Not everyone's the same though. To be honest, I'm not sure why people get so wound up about receiving a wink.

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By *xoticFrolicMan
10 weeks ago

Gosport

Do agree it's a bit rude if OP has specifically asked for them not to be sent though.

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By *ndy12399Man
10 weeks ago

Horncastle

How many have you had since you posted this?

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By *he AmbassadorMan
10 weeks ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

maybe they are shy.

Maybe they only sent ye that 1 wink that day, maybe it took them a bit of effort to balls up to send that one wink. Or

Maybe they were perving away over tea and crumpets and came across you guys and thought ohhh yes and winked before reading the news print.

But it won't be long before ye have them, ,,The Winkers,, all blocked folks,and then all will be right in the world,

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By *weetiepie99Woman
10 weeks ago

cardiff

I find couples more annoying than winks

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By *he AmbassadorMan
10 weeks ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"I find couples more annoying than winks

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By *WANDTGCouple
10 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

I find it bewildering when someone winks , you then message saying thanks for the wink and proceed to chat, then they don't reply . What's that about ?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
10 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I find it bewildering when someone winks , you then message saying thanks for the wink and proceed to chat, then they don't reply . What's that about ?"

The 'proceed to chat' piece might not strike the right chord.

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By *adbod74Man
10 weeks ago

Dudley

I wink as a small ice breaker to show I'm interested to chat

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By *TK421-Man
10 weeks ago

Cheltenham

It's really interesting to see the negativity to winking.

I always viewed it as the soft approach taking up less time for the woman and certainly less mental load for her too. She can then read my profile and decide if she wants to initiate contact.

I haven't had any response to the winks I've sent but then I read a profile earlier this week where a woman had had 4000 messages since joing 2 weeks ago...so... Probably just keep winking.

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By *WANDTGCouple
10 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

"I find it bewildering when someone winks , you then message saying thanks for the wink and proceed to chat, then they don't reply . What's that about ?

The 'proceed to chat' piece might not strike the right chord."

Fair point, maybe they should initiate the chat and not wink then

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By *he AmbassadorMan
10 weeks ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"It's really interesting to see the negativity to winking.

I always viewed it as the soft approach taking up less time for the woman and certainly less mental load for her too. She can then read my profile and decide if she wants to initiate contact.

I haven't had any response to the winks I've sent but then I read a profile earlier this week where a woman had had 4000 messages since joing 2 weeks ago...so... Probably just keep winking."
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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I'm glad I'm not the only one who finds them so annoying. In capitals on my profile as well. They send them, reply with a wink nothing happens. Reply with a message, nothing happens. Will never understand people who wink, just waste both our time

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By *elix SightedMan
10 weeks ago

Cloud 8

Here’s a thing, OP, you have a profile on a site which has winking in its functionality. Whether or not you like or want winks, you’re gonna gettum!

Prolly best to just ignore that little tile and glide dreamily on through your fab journey as works best for you 😊

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
10 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I personally love a wink.

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By *obilebottomMan
10 weeks ago

All over

"I personally love a wink. "

Join my winkers only thread

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
10 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"I personally love a wink.

Join my winkers only thread

I’m coming!!!!! 👀 let me in

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By *oxy-RedWoman
10 weeks ago

pink panther territory

I also like a wink or two

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By *TK421-Man
10 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"I personally love a wink. "

If only I were a site supporter.

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By *tsJustKateWoman
10 weeks ago

London

I generally ignore winks and random Friend Requests.

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By *oupleSeducedCouple
10 weeks ago

Canterbury/Greenwich

We do wink and like receiving winks. We just don't get when you return a wink there's not always a return message. What's the point then?

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By *TRAY-CATMan
10 weeks ago

dundee

"I personally love a wink. "
... ... ... You do know you are now going to get bombarded with winks .. 😉.. it's now winkathon Wednesday.

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By *TRAY-CATMan
10 weeks ago

dundee

"I also like a wink or two

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... ... ... already sent. lol .

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By *xoticFrolicMan
10 weeks ago

Gosport

I like spreading smiles so going to wink you lovely ladies that have said you like them. Would tip you a wink if we passed in the street so you can definitely have one here. Nothing expected just spreading the love

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By *midnight-Woman
10 weeks ago

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Aww some people like to wink, let them be!!

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
10 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I find it bewildering when someone winks , you then message saying thanks for the wink and proceed to chat, then they don't reply . What's that about ?

The 'proceed to chat' piece might not strike the right chord.

Fair point, maybe they should initiate the chat and not wink then

Negating the purpose of the wink and therefore creating the 'Wink Paradox'

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By *helovesitwet OP Couple
10 weeks ago

Brighton

"How many have you had since you posted this? "
45 blocked 45 but I assume half were just wind ups

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By *artfordBlokeMan
10 weeks ago

Dartford

"Pointless exercise. Just message. I can only assume people do the blanket thing; send to loads in the hope that one responds back.

Why is there always this assumption that winking is a form of carpet bombing?

Because everyone knows fucking everything about everyone, apparently

The judgement and supposition from some on this site is just amazing, people need to look at themselves first

Surely winks can be targeted and used judiciously?"

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By *onno591Man
10 weeks ago

Brighton

Miss read that…. Winking….. got it. Lol

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
10 weeks ago

Maidstone

I find it amusing that some are annoyed by a wink.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
10 weeks ago

Maidstone

"I find it amusing that some are annoyed by a wink. "

It makes me want to wink them

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
10 weeks ago

Always on the move

"I find it amusing that some are annoyed by a wink.

It makes me want to wink them"

I'm not saying I do this...but...

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By *onno591Man
10 weeks ago

Brighton

You can wink me if you like 😂

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By *layfullsamMan
10 weeks ago

Solihull

"I find it amusing that some are annoyed by a wink. "

My thoughts exactly, I think it tells you a lot about someone that takes it so seriously

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By *ffervescentMan
10 weeks ago

winfrith

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Well think about it if he'd sent a long winded message based on your profile that exactly fitted your requirements and sent a face pic so spent say half an hour per message and sent 7 messages all based on the profile and you looked at the face pic and deleted all without answering how deflating is that for the sender, so instead now he sends a wink you look at profile send him a short message asking for a face pic then you delete the message without answering who's wasting who's time ?

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By *irebrand 1263Man
10 weeks ago

near you

I like a good wink

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By *ffervescentMan
10 weeks ago

winfrith

"I like a good wank

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By *TRAY-CATMan
10 weeks ago

dundee

"I find it amusing that some are annoyed by a wink.

It makes me want to wink them"
... ... wink away .. the more the merrier

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By *rdere OpusCouple
10 weeks ago

Brum - ish

We don’t mind winks - we’re happy to wink back if we like the profile.

We also wink occasionally and if it’s reciprocated, we’ll message. However, we do check and if the profile we’re interested in says no winks, we’ll message instead.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
10 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'm less likely to respond to a wink than a msg though, winks just get deleted.

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By *tu.xMan
10 weeks ago

around

Annoyed no its an easy fix

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By *TRAY-CATMan
10 weeks ago

dundee

Winking is just a little indication that I'm interested.. Ni pressure on tge other party to respond.. if they respond with a wink then I'll message further.

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By *iscombobulated1523Couple
10 weeks ago

Worcestershire

We don't mind a cheeky wink

It's the friend requests without a message first that annoy us

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By *ornucopiaMan
10 weeks ago

Bexley

"It's really interesting to see the negativity to winking.

I always viewed it as the soft approach taking up less time for the woman and certainly less mental load for her too. She can then read my profile and decide if she wants to initiate contact.

I haven't had any response to the winks I've sent but then I read a profile earlier this week where a woman had had 4000 messages since joing 2 weeks ago...so... Probably just keep winking."

The fact that a woman gets 4000 messages in two weeks can only mean that almost 4000 people messaging her are probably idiots.

Even if I happened to be looking for meets I would only message someone who is exceptionally likely to be suitable, is local, who has clearly stated that they are looking for someone very like me, meets various other criteria and, even then, I would probably start the ball rolling with a wink.

On dating sites,swiping right is effectively the same as winking. If interest is noted and reciprocated,then things can be ramped up a notch. That is a system which has worked well for me elsewhere. It could work here also but for the evident preponderance of unrealistic chancers pushing their luck.

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By *ittle_ray_of_sunshineWoman
10 weeks ago

Holywell

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By *ittle_ray_of_sunshineWoman
10 weeks ago

Holywell

I've got hundreds. Is there some way I can cash them in? 🤷‍♂️

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By *obilebottomMan
10 weeks ago

All over

"I've got hundreds. Is there some way I can cash them in? 🤷‍♂️"

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
10 weeks ago

Hounslow

It's people who wink , then when you message them you get nothing back. That's frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"I've got hundreds. Is there some way I can cash them in? 🤷‍♂️"

500 for a £1.50 voucher for Iceland

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By *ornucopiaMan
10 weeks ago

Bexley

"How many have you had since you posted this? 45 blocked 45 but I assume half were just wind ups"

It must be the lucky day for mischief making upwinders when people are daft enough to admit to being easily wound up by something as inconsequential as winks on here!

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By *ou only live onceMan
10 weeks ago

London

I like winks. If I like the winker, I'll wink back and go from there.

Winks are very easily ignored for those that don't them.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Central

It's a useful option and it could keep your inbox lighter, if you don't respond.

State on your profile if you don't want them and if they waste the effort, it's no loss.

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By *irebrand 1263Man
10 weeks ago

near you

Come and wink me

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

I've realised what it is. They wink, just as a way of letting you know they want to ignore you. Only logical reason

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By *haron1701ETV/TS
9 weeks ago

Southport

I don't mind getting winks. Shows they have a least a little interest in me.

I'll look at winkers profile and if it seems worth pursuing then I'll send a thanks message and see where it goes from there???

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