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"So he was upset he’d paid for dinner etc and she didn’t put out? Sounds like she had a narrow escape and he decided to wave his red flags early on. Unless someone is a sex worker it’s not a transaction based on what the other person has spent (in time, money, effort - whatever). Consent is the key. As for fucking on a first date that’s really down to the individuals " My thoughts exactly x | |||
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"I will set the scene first before i am asking the question. i watched an episode in eastenders and there they argued back and forth about if they should or not have sex, they sat in the car, the guy was abit annoyed, because when he made a move, she didnt want to do it, he said how much he had splashed out on her, like dinner and everything, she didnt want anything to do with it and left the car. That got me thinking, when you are dating and if the other person dont want to have sex when you want it early on in the dating game, how would you take it, would you wait or leave after lets say 4 dates? I would wait, because some things are worth waiting for, like relationships, if you really like the person too " you lost me at east enders | |||
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"That's deep for this time of day" Just a bit but the answer is quite clear to me. Buying dinner, drinks or paying for a night out etc doesn’t buy you the right to have sex!! If she doesn’t feel like it and wants to wait, no pressure should be applied. Sometimes a great night out, with chemistry being felt by both of you leads to sex on the first date. No expectations should be had on both sides, it either happens organically or it doesn’t. That’s my two cents worth. | |||
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"So he was upset he’d paid for dinner etc and she didn’t put out? Sounds like she had a narrow escape and he decided to wave his red flags early on. " Luckily, it’s just a fictional show that would never happen in real life / FAB. If it was FAB, he would also be complaining that he shaved his pubes for nothing | |||
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"1st date I’d make my own way there, offer to go Dutch & probably arrange another date if I wanted to take it further. " 👏 | |||
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"If you want to. If someone took me out on a date and expected sex from me because they paid for dinner, they would leave disappointed. " Bravo | |||
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"I think in a situation like this it’s only going to be obvious how incompatible people are. Nobody should ever feel obligated to anything. " Hi _eeliciouschaos, yes, you are right there, nobody should ever feel obligated to anything | |||
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"I work on a 3rd date rule, by that stage you should know if you want to see the other person naked or not lol " I have a friend who uses the reverse 3 date rule: If she has sex before the third date she ends it as she's obviously too into them. It doesn't work but she is adamant it does. | |||
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"I tend not to put out on a "first date." Although I did once we had a date around the Christmas markets, went home got ready and met back up at our works' Christmas do. All I'm going to say is that the all-inclusive bar went down a treat, I ended the night at his telling him I liked anal 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️ I found out in the morning that his mum and dad had been home, so they'd heard it all too 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️😂😂😂😂 I thought he was home alone 😬😬😬😬" Hahahahaha Did his dad give him a fist bump at breakfast? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"Any question which starts with “should you” puts my hackles up. Shove off with those societal musturbations. I will do as I feel. Mrs TMN x" 🫡 well said Ma'am We should do as we feel Ma'am! Tell us more! | |||
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"Any question which starts with “should you” puts my hackles up. Shove off with those societal musturbations. I will do as I feel. Mrs TMN x 🫡 well said Ma'am We should do as we feel Ma'am! Tell us more!" 🤣🤣 | |||
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"Not if you have any self respect. I don’t by the way. " I'd never bang on the first date. | |||
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"If this was a date for a potential vanilla relationship, whilst it's in no way a judgement on anyone, personally I would wait. I've never gone on a 2nd date with someone who has put out on tge 1st. I just lose interest in them. As for the fact the character paid a lot for the date, any expectation of sex makes her a whore in his eyes so it's doomed anyway. Men always pay for booty, it's the unwritten tradition." I need to know what "I've never gone on a 2nd date with someone who has put out on tge 1st" means. It could make all the difference to planning a second date! | |||
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"I tend not to put out on a "first date." Although I did once we had a date around the Christmas markets, went home got ready and met back up at our works' Christmas do. All I'm going to say is that the all-inclusive bar went down a treat, I ended the night at his telling him I liked anal 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️ I found out in the morning that his mum and dad had been home, so they'd heard it all too 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️😂😂😂😂 I thought he was home alone 😬😬😬😬 Hahahahaha Did his dad give him a fist bump at breakfast? 🤣🤣🤣🤣" Don't, I've never wanted the floor to swallow me up more. Alcohol induced Bella gets me in trouble | |||
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"At this time in my life I'd rather have sex on the first date. I'm kinky, so I want to know if we are compatible. I'd rather not go on 4 dates, getting to know each other and then find out we are not good together sexually. Being friendzoned is not always received well..." Hi christabellend, yes, that is right, it is a good way to see if you are compatible with the other one too | |||
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"Should you have sex on the first date? " No. You should eat them all first, then have sex after | |||
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"If the chemistry is right why not " Yes, if the chemistry is right, it is good too | |||
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"At this time in my life I'd rather have sex on the first date. I'm kinky, so I want to know if we are compatible. I'd rather not go on 4 dates, getting to know each other and then find out we are not good together sexually. Being friendzoned is not always received well..." You make an excellent point, if you are seeing someone it's important to know if you're both sexually compatible, why wait until the 3rd date. Personally I have had sex on a first date, I didn't expect it. Nor should it be expected. But I do find the whole wait until the 3rd date thing somewhat of a ritual, if it feels right, just go for it. | |||
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"If I was asked out on an actual date I'd see red flags galore if the man assumed we were having sex afterwards. " Even on Fab? Perhaps I'm mixing up dates with meets! | |||
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"Was it Carole from the launderette? I would do her on the first date. It’s been about 20 years since I watched the EastEnders, Is she even still alive ? If not, then I retract the above comment." Did you mean carol jackson? No, it was ravis daughter avani who was in the car, the scene can be seen from the 17th october too. | |||
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"That's deep for this time of day" An actress said to the bishop | |||
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"I work on a 3rd date rule, by that stage you should know if you want to see the other person naked or not lol " Hi _olfandtaz, yes, that 3rd date rule is a good one too | |||
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"That's deep for this time of day An actress said to the bishop" Took you near three days for that. | |||
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"If you want to. Nobody should expect sex because they paid for dinner or did the washing up though" Hi nicecouple, yes, you are right there, nobody should expect sex because they have payed for dinner or done things too | |||
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"If you want to. Nobody should expect sex because they paid for dinner or did the washing up thoughHi nicecouple, yes, you are right there, nobody should expect sex because they have payed for dinner or done things too " I think it's a shame when people expect sex as a reward. It always concerns me a bit when a guy complains he's not getting enough sex and someone suggests he does more around the house as if his partner might reward him with sex for maintaining his own property. | |||
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