FabSwingers.com forum: Can ladies share what their DM looks like?

By *azzman OP Man
11 weeks ago

ryhl

So i was chatting with a lady friend here, who gave me an idea of what her DM looked like. She had almost 300 messages on her inbox and more kept pouring in by the seconds (mostly from single guys and some couple).

She told me she had almost 700 that was deleted just a week ago

I mean, I knew women get overwhelming messages, but I didn't imagine it to be that much.

For guys here always moaning about your messages not being replied. Here lies your answers. 😂🤣😅🤣😂.

Ladies, please give us an idea of what your inbox looks like.

(I'll appreciate a screenshot in my inbox BTW) 😂😂🤣

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By *riar BelisseWoman
11 weeks ago

On Holibobs

Empty ta, good use of fab filters deters mass messaging being received

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By *inger_SnapWoman
11 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I've got 5 conversations, that's it.

I've never had hundreds of messages.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
11 weeks ago

Wales

495. I've had my filters dropped for a few weeks for a couple of threads.

I will be mass blocking and deleting, now that my filters are back in place

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

489 unread

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By *azzman OP Man
11 weeks ago

ryhl

"I've got 5 conversations, that's it.

I've never had hundreds of messages."

Extremely hard to believe. Perhaps you have your filters on.

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By *azzman OP Man
11 weeks ago

ryhl

"495. I've had my filters dropped for a few weeks for a couple of threads.

I will be mass blocking and deleting, now that my filters are back in place

Hahahahah😂🤣😅😂. That is crazy!!! 😂🤣😅

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
11 weeks ago

Wolvo

"Empty ta, good use of fab filters deters mass messaging being received

Same….

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By *orphia2003Woman
11 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Mine is virtually empty. I deleted it all this morning. Just few messages from 2 friends.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
11 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

I answered about 40 in the last 24 hours

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By *rsMxCouple
11 weeks ago

Glasgow

Filters are key!

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By *eroLondonMan
11 weeks ago

Mayfair

I cannot wait for the aforementioned ladies to close their filters, raise their drawbridges and lower their portcullises...so that I may reconvene some of the most ardent and flirtatious dialogue that I've come to expect of them.

I have been languishing in the Fab wood-panelled parlour like an errant Knight † waiting for his salacious summons. 💌 ⚔️ 💌

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By *ueen_MeadhbhWoman
11 weeks ago

sligo

Empty

Filters are set tight, maybe get a message a day

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By *midnight-Woman
11 weeks ago

...

961..my profile is just 2 weeks old

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By *tress toyWoman
11 weeks ago

leinster

Dangermouse?

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
11 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

Profile been hidden for a while to deter new messages, I’m down to 946. Poor use of filters I guess 🤷‍♀️

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
11 weeks ago

London

1489 unopened messages atm

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By *ittleMissMinionWoman
11 weeks ago

La La Land

"Empty ta, good use of fab filters deters mass messaging being received

Same

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By *emma200Woman
11 weeks ago

Warwickshire

262 unopened messages, they will be bulk deleted.

I only tend to go on to messages if I’m talking to someone.

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By *vaRose43Woman
11 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

I’ve taken to deleting daily right now. Average 100 ish new messages a day. The vast majority are bulk deleted

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By *runette n JayCouple
11 weeks ago

bilston

Ok we are a couple but just mass deleted 430 messages and we haven't been online as much.

It can get pretty mental.

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By *IXEN200Woman
11 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

I don't get many messages as my filters stop most of them so I only get 5 or 6 thankfully

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By *mmaleiaWoman
11 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I have my filters on the majority of the time, I do lift them in the early evenings for a few hours, then get up 100 messages, most just say along the lines of ‘hey xxxx’ ‘sexy xxx’ ‘amazing bum’ & that’s it, out of those 100, I may reply to the 1 that’s made an effort with their message & profile, but it rarely goes further than small talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Zero.

It's not hard at all to keep numbers fairly low, if you're moaning you have hundreds and they just keep coming, maybe it's time to put the brain in gear and use the filters the site has.

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By *rthur30Man
11 weeks ago

Warrington

"Zero.

It's not hard at all to keep numbers fairly low, if you're moaning you have hundreds and they just keep coming, maybe it's time to put the brain in gear and use the filters the site has.

There are not many eligible to contact you if your age range is set at 99 to 99!

On behalf of all male Fabbers, I’m pleased we were able to help with your household economy but I would not wish you a Miss Haversham style withdrawal from society. Please keep your enigmatic posts and pics going.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"Zero.

It's not hard at all to keep numbers fairly low, if you're moaning you have hundreds and they just keep coming, maybe it's time to put the brain in gear and use the filters the site has.

There are not many eligible to contact you if your age range is set at 99 to 99!

I put filters on when my messages get to a certain amount. I could just leave them and then moan I have hundreds, maybe next week.

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By *rthur30Man
11 weeks ago

Warrington

"Zero.

It's not hard at all to keep numbers fairly low, if you're moaning you have hundreds and they just keep coming, maybe it's time to put the brain in gear and use the filters the site has.

There are not many eligible to contact you if your age range is set at 99 to 99!

I put filters on when my messages get to a certain amount. I could just leave them and then moan I have hundreds, maybe next week.

I’m never quite sure if you want to attract admirers or not! You post sexy pics but don’t allow them to be Fabbed as well as the filters.

By the way, I particularly liked your Christmas pyjamas.

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By *afkaMan
11 weeks ago

Nottingham (ish)

Well this is an eye opener, when you hear the girls on here mention that they have lots of messages to wade through I had no idea that it was quite so many - assuming that you are actually on here looking for the sex and not just for having your ego massaged how do you even begin to tackle that amount of admin?

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By *vaRose43Woman
11 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

"Well this is an eye opener, when you hear the girls on here mention that they have lots of messages to wade through I had no idea that it was quite so many - assuming that you are actually on here looking for the sex and not just for having your ego massaged how do you even begin to tackle that amount of admin? "

Blanket rules

Before I’ve even opened the message….

No public pics or only dick pics - insta delete

Blank or sparse bio - insta delete

Something off putting in pics - insta delete

Something off putting in bio - insta delete

That accounts for maybe 98%

Then I open what’s left. Most of those will be either 1 word or some crap about them staying nearby… as if proximity to their cock is the key

Those get binned too.

The final few messages are usually other forumites, ladies or guys I chat to socially or one of those very very rare messages that is worth my time to reply to.

If I didn’t do blanket rules I’d need to use my filters and block all guys from messaging - which I do occasionally (or hide my profile).

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By *he MinionMan
11 weeks ago

An ex partner of mine was a page 1 fabbed pics regular. If she posted a pic she would often recieve over 800 messages in a few hours. As mentioned above many would be simply Hi, delete. Or phwrooar type stuff. Most would be rubbish, some amusing and the odd one or two of interest.

But the pain was finding those one or two amoungst the rubbish.

I totally understand how decent messages get missed and the sheer admin involved and genuinely laugh at those who say, why cant ladies simply reply if they are not interested, its only manners!

Good luck ladies and I thank you for your efforts x

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
11 weeks ago

North West

Blanket rules

Before I’ve even opened the message….

No public pics or only dick pics - insta delete

Blank or sparse bio - insta delete

Something off putting in pics - insta delete

Something off putting in bio - insta delete

That accounts for maybe 98%

Then I open what’s left. Most of those will be either 1 word or some crap about them staying nearby… as if proximity to their cock is the key

Those get binned too.

The final few messages are usually other forumites, ladies or guys I chat to socially or one of those very very rare messages that is worth my time to reply to.

If I didn’t do blanket rules I’d need to use my filters and block all guys from messaging - which I do occasionally (or hide my profile).

This is why I mainly have my filters up. Because I get enough nice messages where people have taken the time to read my profile and then I don't have the head space or time to reply. And I feel bad.

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By *vaRose43Woman
11 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Blanket rules

Before I’ve even opened the message….

No public pics or only dick pics - insta delete

Blank or sparse bio - insta delete

Something off putting in pics - insta delete

Something off putting in bio - insta delete

That accounts for maybe 98%

Then I open what’s left. Most of those will be either 1 word or some crap about them staying nearby… as if proximity to their cock is the key

Those get binned too.

The final few messages are usually other forumites, ladies or guys I chat to socially or one of those very very rare messages that is worth my time to reply to.

If I didn’t do blanket rules I’d need to use my filters and block all guys from messaging - which I do occasionally (or hide my profile).

This is why I mainly have my filters up. Because I get enough nice messages where people have taken the time to read my profile and then I don't have the head space or time to reply. And I feel bad. "

Yes! I feel awful if I don’t have time to reply to a nice message. That’s when the filters have to go on

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
11 weeks ago

Wherever

I have a few conversations going but other than that I don’t get many messages, no more than maybe 5 new per day, and most from people who didn’t read the profile. Filters and pre blocking is enough.

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By *usty kayCouple
11 weeks ago

Burnham

I came back a month ago to see if I was ready to start meeting again. I had 40 messages within 20 minutes and very quickly decided I was not able to cope with it. I'm back to not answering messages because it's just too overwhelming

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By *iss DevilWoman
11 weeks ago

Bedford

None at present as I am not looking for anything currently. Only messaging with my partner on here and some friends.

From time to time, I still get an odd message or two, and some get really arsey with me when I reply to remind them my profile was clear I was not looking. It's their own fault for casting a very wide net rather than specifically targeting people they are interested in. I usually chuckle to myself at all the ones saying "I find your profile very interesting/I read your profile" as they very clearly didn't.

Some messages go straight in the "blocked" list with no reply as they are just awful.

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By *aybeLadyWoman
11 weeks ago

West Dublin

2 at the min.

I use thr filters.

Following that can whittle it down fairly quick once I view their profile.

I'm picky and this helps.

I would guess if I get 100 messages, 98 of them could be deleted.

Women receiving 100's of messages can be avoided. Just saying 😏

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
11 weeks ago

There and Here

I get about 5 - 10 messages per day. My inbox is currently sitting at approx 100 unread but only because I've neglected to deal with them.

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By *nsatiableindelibleWoman
11 weeks ago

Newport

1114, and I do have some filters on. Obv I need to whittle them down more, but I’ve met a few good people who wouldn’t meet my own criteria usually, and don’t want to miss out on that - shrug -

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By *azzman OP Man
11 weeks ago

ryhl

"1114, and I do have some filters on. Obv I need to whittle them down more, but I’ve met a few good people who wouldn’t meet my own criteria usually, and don’t want to miss out on that - shrug -"

Wow!!! Unbelievable 🙂

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By *issmorganWoman
11 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I use several filters, so only 2 at the min & that's how I like it

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By *ugarCumFairyWoman
11 weeks ago

Fuckerville, Oxon

19 unread currently… filters are the thing…

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By *issmorganWoman
11 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I always check a senders profile before the message too, if I don't like it, I don't tend to answer.

On some messages you can see what they say without even opening them ie hi, hey, you free now. Delete.

As some of the others have said, most messages are deletes, as they have dick pics in, are crude or they've clearly not even had a skim of my profile.

Filters are there to stop anyone getting over run with messages, so unless you like getting inundated, you don't have to.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
11 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I've got 5 conversations, that's it.

I've never had hundreds of messages.

Extremely hard to believe. Perhaps you have your filters on. "

No, it's where I live.

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