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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just asking, but does anyone honestly sometimes wonder why they are on here?

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton


"Just asking, but does anyone honestly sometimes wonder why they are on here?"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just asking, but does anyone honestly sometimes wonder why they are on here?

Yes."
phew. thought id get some different answers to that

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Not really...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just asking, but does anyone honestly sometimes wonder why they are on here?"

No I come on fab for a meet and on the forums when there is nothing on the TV.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Not at all despite all the not so nice people around

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

As in forums or the site as a whole?

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Just asking, but does anyone honestly sometimes wonder why they are on here?"

I did use to but now i'm actually quite content with what i'm doing on here, how i spend my time on here and what i'm looking for. Still have my moments but i always take a break from the site for a bit and only come back when i'm ready to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it on here have met some great people and money well spent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No to either the forums or the site, and imo if people question why then this isn't right for them.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"No to either the forums or the site, and imo if people question why then this isn't right for them. "
Ive taken breaks, think thats the best thing for the OP to do if shes feeling disillusioned

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive met one or 2 great people. tbh I think its me not the site, on a bit of a downer at the moment. have tried hiding before, only to come back on same day

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Ive met one or 2 great people. tbh I think its me not the site, on a bit of a downer at the moment. have tried hiding before, only to come back on same day"
Take a proper break....sometimes Fab is a great distraction, other times not so.....xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive met one or 2 great people. tbh I think its me not the site, on a bit of a downer at the moment. have tried hiding before, only to come back on same day"

My only advice to you, and no offence to you, you have openly said you are married and playing away. That you don't get what you need from your husband.

That in my opinion is what you are struggling with, deal with that issue and swinging will always be here should you choose to continue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive met one or 2 great people. tbh I think its me not the site, on a bit of a downer at the moment. have tried hiding before, only to come back on same dayTake a proper break....sometimes Fab is a great distraction, other times not so.....xxx"
short of deleting profile and I cant do that, how do I take a proper break. Im on here a lot daily for the distraction from my normal life. Its a addiction unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive met one or 2 great people. tbh I think its me not the site, on a bit of a downer at the moment. have tried hiding before, only to come back on same dayTake a proper break....sometimes Fab is a great distraction, other times not so.....xxxshort of deleting profile and I cant do that, how do I take a proper break. Im on here a lot daily for the distraction from my normal life. Its a addiction unfortunately"

No I believe it is burying your head in the sand, deal with why you are here not use it as an escape.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive met one or 2 great people. tbh I think its me not the site, on a bit of a downer at the moment. have tried hiding before, only to come back on same dayTake a proper break....sometimes Fab is a great distraction, other times not so.....xxxshort of deleting profile and I cant do that, how do I take a proper break. Im on here a lot daily for the distraction from my normal life. Its a addiction unfortunately

No I believe it is burying your head in the sand, deal with why you are here not use it as an escape. "
Im here because I want to meet some nice guys, not loads just maybe one or 2 regulars, who dont mind im married and cant get out every day but can get out more than once or twice a week with a bit of planning. What's wrong with it being a escape from mundane life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats si wierd as only this moment have i gave myself another 4 weejs and then i might say goodbye for good. Even lockdowned my face pics, i just cant be arsed looking and putting the effort into women on here at moment ppfffttt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive met one or 2 great people. tbh I think its me not the site, on a bit of a downer at the moment. have tried hiding before, only to come back on same dayTake a proper break....sometimes Fab is a great distraction, other times not so.....xxxshort of deleting profile and I cant do that, how do I take a proper break. Im on here a lot daily for the distraction from my normal life. Its a addiction unfortunately

No I believe it is burying your head in the sand, deal with why you are here not use it as an escape. Im here because I want to meet some nice guys, not loads just maybe one or 2 regulars, who dont mind im married and cant get out every day but can get out more than once or twice a week with a bit of planning. What's wrong with it being a escape from mundane life?"

Because I feel it is not making you happy and you are not benefitting from it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thats si wierd as only this moment have i gave myself another 4 weejs and then i might say goodbye for good. Even lockdowned my face pics, i just cant be arsed looking and putting the effort into women on here at moment ppfffttt "
I browsed the men the other day, noone new on there agewise. I dont ask men via msg to meet me. Have asked one and got told hes busy on day im free - ergo he dont want to, even though we have met before. not saying more will get told off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive met one or 2 great people. tbh I think its me not the site, on a bit of a downer at the moment. have tried hiding before, only to come back on same dayTake a proper break....sometimes Fab is a great distraction, other times not so.....xxxshort of deleting profile and I cant do that, how do I take a proper break. Im on here a lot daily for the distraction from my normal life. Its a addiction unfortunately

No I believe it is burying your head in the sand, deal with why you are here not use it as an escape. Im here because I want to meet some nice guys, not loads just maybe one or 2 regulars, who dont mind im married and cant get out every day but can get out more than once or twice a week with a bit of planning. What's wrong with it being a escape from mundane life?

Because I feel it is not making you happy and you are not benefitting from it."

This sounds highly judgemental. But then again, OP, you've left yourself wide open to this type of post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He might be busy hun how about arranging another day your both free x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive met one or 2 great people. tbh I think its me not the site, on a bit of a downer at the moment. have tried hiding before, only to come back on same dayTake a proper break....sometimes Fab is a great distraction, other times not so.....xxxshort of deleting profile and I cant do that, how do I take a proper break. Im on here a lot daily for the distraction from my normal life. Its a addiction unfortunately

No I believe it is burying your head in the sand, deal with why you are here not use it as an escape. Im here because I want to meet some nice guys, not loads just maybe one or 2 regulars, who dont mind im married and cant get out every day but can get out more than once or twice a week with a bit of planning. What's wrong with it being a escape from mundane life?

Because I feel it is not making you happy and you are not benefitting from it.

This sounds highly judgemental. But then again, OP, you've left yourself wide open to this type of post. "

Not trying to be at all, just to help and advise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats si wierd as only this moment have i gave myself another 4 weejs and then i might say goodbye for good. Even lockdowned my face pics, i just cant be arsed looking and putting the effort into women on here at moment ppfffttt I browsed the men the other day, noone new on there agewise. I dont ask men via msg to meet me. Have asked one and got told hes busy on day im free - ergo he dont want to, even though we have met before. not saying more will get told off "

No one on here owes anything to anyone. We have a few good mates that we've made and that's what WE have done. Nothing to do with Fabs. You can't blame the site for things not working out for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He might be busy hun how about arranging another day your both free x "
Hes got a request on his profile for next friday, im not free but am saturday I just said if he wants a coffee or a drink, I would be up for more but didnt say that. He said no because we have met before and after our meet he said I was too old for him, but my age is on my profile. so I know why he said no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got lost looking for something else but stopped cos its ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thats si wierd as only this moment have i gave myself another 4 weejs and then i might say goodbye for good. Even lockdowned my face pics, i just cant be arsed looking and putting the effort into women on here at moment ppfffttt I browsed the men the other day, noone new on there agewise. I dont ask men via msg to meet me. Have asked one and got told hes busy on day im free - ergo he dont want to, even though we have met before. not saying more will get told off

No one on here owes anything to anyone. We have a few good mates that we've made and that's what WE have done. Nothing to do with Fabs. You can't blame the site for things not working out for you. "
Nowhere did i say i was blaming the site. I posted that I said its me not the site that im on a bit of a downer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He might be busy hun how about arranging another day your both free x Hes got a request on his profile for next friday, im not free but am saturday I just said if he wants a coffee or a drink, I would be up for more but didnt say that. He said no because we have met before and after our meet he said I was too old for him, but my age is on my profile. so I know why he said no"

Then leave it. If he's too much of a puss to say outright he doesn't want to know then you have to read between the lines.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive met one or 2 great people. tbh I think its me not the site, on a bit of a downer at the moment. have tried hiding before, only to come back on same dayTake a proper break....sometimes Fab is a great distraction, other times not so.....xxxshort of deleting profile and I cant do that, how do I take a proper break. Im on here a lot daily for the distraction from my normal life. Its a addiction unfortunately

No I believe it is burying your head in the sand, deal with why you are here not use it as an escape. Im here because I want to meet some nice guys, not loads just maybe one or 2 regulars, who dont mind im married and cant get out every day but can get out more than once or twice a week with a bit of planning. What's wrong with it being a escape from mundane life?

Because I feel it is not making you happy and you are not benefitting from it.

This sounds highly judgemental. But then again, OP, you've left yourself wide open to this type of post.

Not trying to be at all, just to help and advise."
Just wanted some opinions, to see if anyone else felt like this. at least I know 2 people do and know how it feels. But any advice, judgemental or otherwise is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He might be busy hun how about arranging another day your both free x Hes got a request on his profile for next friday, im not free but am saturday I just said if he wants a coffee or a drink, I would be up for more but didnt say that. He said no because we have met before and after our meet he said I was too old for him, but my age is on my profile. so I know why he said no"

Ahhh chick,... Think its time to move on xx

Plenty more out there and im sure lots of peeps want to meet you x

Like others have said sometimes we need a break i am sure you n me will feel better in a few weeks x

Whatever you decide im sure things will work out in the end x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats si wierd as only this moment have i gave myself another 4 weejs and then i might say goodbye for good. Even lockdowned my face pics, i just cant be arsed looking and putting the effort into women on here at moment ppfffttt I browsed the men the other day, noone new on there agewise. I dont ask men via msg to meet me. Have asked one and got told hes busy on day im free - ergo he dont want to, even though we have met before. not saying more will get told off

No one on here owes anything to anyone. We have a few good mates that we've made and that's what WE have done. Nothing to do with Fabs. You can't blame the site for things not working out for you. Nowhere did i say i was blaming the site. I posted that I said its me not the site that im on a bit of a downer. "

You did indeed. But then spent the rest of the thread demonstrating just that.

Have a break. Drink some fine wine, take a turn around the garden, go swim in the lake. Do something.

Just not this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive met one or 2 great people. tbh I think its me not the site, on a bit of a downer at the moment. have tried hiding before, only to come back on same dayTake a proper break....sometimes Fab is a great distraction, other times not so.....xxxshort of deleting profile and I cant do that, how do I take a proper break. Im on here a lot daily for the distraction from my normal life. Its a addiction unfortunately

No I believe it is burying your head in the sand, deal with why you are here not use it as an escape. Im here because I want to meet some nice guys, not loads just maybe one or 2 regulars, who dont mind im married and cant get out every day but can get out more than once or twice a week with a bit of planning. What's wrong with it being a escape from mundane life?

Because I feel it is not making you happy and you are not benefitting from it.

This sounds highly judgemental. But then again, OP, you've left yourself wide open to this type of post.

Not trying to be at all, just to help and advise.Just wanted some opinions, to see if anyone else felt like this. at least I know 2 people do and know how it feels. But any advice, judgemental or otherwise is good"

I wish you well, just see how it goes, everyday in life can be a downer for one or other reason, just make this site what you want of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He might be busy hun how about arranging another day your both free x Hes got a request on his profile for next friday, im not free but am saturday I just said if he wants a coffee or a drink, I would be up for more but didnt say that. He said no because we have met before and after our meet he said I was too old for him, but my age is on my profile. so I know why he said no

Ahhh chick,... Think its time to move on xx

Plenty more out there and im sure lots of peeps want to meet you x

Like others have said sometimes we need a break i am sure you n me will feel better in a few weeks x

Whatever you decide im sure things will work out in the end x "
Thank you for your support its much appreciated. Am getting told to go do something else, but am meant to be meeting a guy this thursday, so if that happens and works out, then hopefully he will want to keep seeing me now and again. Must stop whinging too

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I only come on here to read or post utter bollox on the forums. It gives me a sense of wellbeing and serenity to know that there are other nutters in this mad world.

I also have to run the rule over many departments which does consume quite a considerable amount of my leisure time.

*courtesy of the informative department*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all feel deflated sometimes.... Could be anything, but like alot of folk its nicw to come in the forum and have a good ol moan,

Tomorrow is a new day and lets see what it brings

How about doing what i am thinking and just having sometime away for abit? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have changed my age range. watch this space lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He might be busy hun how about arranging another day your both free x Hes got a request on his profile for next friday, im not free but am saturday I just said if he wants a coffee or a drink, I would be up for more but didnt say that. He said no because we have met before and after our meet he said I was too old for him, but my age is on my profile. so I know why he said no

Ahhh chick,... Think its time to move on xx

Plenty more out there and im sure lots of peeps want to meet you x

Like others have said sometimes we need a break i am sure you n me will feel better in a few weeks x

Whatever you decide im sure things will work out in the end x Thank you for your support its much appreciated. Am getting told to go do something else, but am meant to be meeting a guy this thursday, so if that happens and works out, then hopefully he will want to keep seeing me now and again. Must stop whinging too"

No one has said to stop doing it but do it for the right reasons and only you can decide.

Re the guy Thursday try not to expect he will see you again and setting yourself up for a fall.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He might be busy hun how about arranging another day your both free x Hes got a request on his profile for next friday, im not free but am saturday I just said if he wants a coffee or a drink, I would be up for more but didnt say that. He said no because we have met before and after our meet he said I was too old for him, but my age is on my profile. so I know why he said no

Ahhh chick,... Think its time to move on xx

Plenty more out there and im sure lots of peeps want to meet you x

Like others have said sometimes we need a break i am sure you n me will feel better in a few weeks x

Whatever you decide im sure things will work out in the end x Thank you for your support its much appreciated. Am getting told to go do something else, but am meant to be meeting a guy this thursday, so if that happens and works out, then hopefully he will want to keep seeing me now and again. Must stop whinging too

No one has said to stop doing it but do it for the right reasons and only you can decide.

Re the guy Thursday try not to expect he will see you again and setting yourself up for a fall."
Im not - they were his words on cam other night. If we get on then can see each other again - are my thoughts now with any meet I am lucky enough to get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He might be busy hun how about arranging another day your both free x Hes got a request on his profile for next friday, im not free but am saturday I just said if he wants a coffee or a drink, I would be up for more but didnt say that. He said no because we have met before and after our meet he said I was too old for him, but my age is on my profile. so I know why he said no

Ahhh chick,... Think its time to move on xx

Plenty more out there and im sure lots of peeps want to meet you x

Like others have said sometimes we need a break i am sure you n me will feel better in a few weeks x

Whatever you decide im sure things will work out in the end x Thank you for your support its much appreciated. Am getting told to go do something else, but am meant to be meeting a guy this thursday, so if that happens and works out, then hopefully he will want to keep seeing me now and again. Must stop whinging too"

Well go on your meet and see how it goes x

What have you to lose?

And neverrrrrr do without a moan, does ya good now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He might be busy hun how about arranging another day your both free x Hes got a request on his profile for next friday, im not free but am saturday I just said if he wants a coffee or a drink, I would be up for more but didnt say that. He said no because we have met before and after our meet he said I was too old for him, but my age is on my profile. so I know why he said no

Ahhh chick,... Think its time to move on xx

Plenty more out there and im sure lots of peeps want to meet you x

Like others have said sometimes we need a break i am sure you n me will feel better in a few weeks x

Whatever you decide im sure things will work out in the end x Thank you for your support its much appreciated. Am getting told to go do something else, but am meant to be meeting a guy this thursday, so if that happens and works out, then hopefully he will want to keep seeing me now and again. Must stop whinging too

No one has said to stop doing it but do it for the right reasons and only you can decide.

Re the guy Thursday try not to expect he will see you again and setting yourself up for a fall.Im not - they were his words on cam other night. If we get on then can see each other again - are my thoughts now with any meet I am lucky enough to get"

People are inclined to say all sorts prior a meet, bear that in mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He might be busy hun how about arranging another day your both free x Hes got a request on his profile for next friday, im not free but am saturday I just said if he wants a coffee or a drink, I would be up for more but didnt say that. He said no because we have met before and after our meet he said I was too old for him, but my age is on my profile. so I know why he said no

Ahhh chick,... Think its time to move on xx

Plenty more out there and im sure lots of peeps want to meet you x

Like others have said sometimes we need a break i am sure you n me will feel better in a few weeks x

Whatever you decide im sure things will work out in the end x Thank you for your support its much appreciated. Am getting told to go do something else, but am meant to be meeting a guy this thursday, so if that happens and works out, then hopefully he will want to keep seeing me now and again. Must stop whinging too

No one has said to stop doing it but do it for the right reasons and only you can decide.

Re the guy Thursday try not to expect he will see you again and setting yourself up for a fall.Im not - they were his words on cam other night. If we get on then can see each other again - are my thoughts now with any meet I am lucky enough to get

People are inclined to say all sorts prior a meet, bear that in mind"
Yes I know. Am learning that, have had one cancellation on the day 2 weeks ago, about a hour before I was going to leave. strange reason too but there we go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of guys on here will sell their soul for a quick fumble n fuck. They will say anything to get into your panties, fuck you, then fuck off! That's fabs for you, as long as you bare that in mind with every potential meet, all will be good!?!?

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Positive people attract other positive people.

OP if you feel down on yourself and are full of self doubt, others can see this and not many find it an attractive quality.

Enjoy each meet for what it is. What if you don't want to meet them again? You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. Just enjoy yourself at the time and expect no more nor no less.

But l agree with Julie, fab cannot fill any void in your personal life. If you try to use it for that, I am sorry but I think you will always be dissatisfied.

But that is only my opinion. I do hide my account every now and again if I need a break. That works for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive slept on my grumpiness now. Had a good sleep even though very late to bed. Think it was probably the cam chat I had with a guy till 3am. He may have been saying what I want to hear but if it was, it made me feel a whole lot better, so going to take fab as it comes. If I get meet requests then thats great, if not, well ill just come in forums and see whats happening

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset


"Ive slept on my grumpiness now. Had a good sleep even though very late to bed. Think it was probably the cam chat I had with a guy till 3am. He may have been saying what I want to hear but if it was, it made me feel a whole lot better, so going to take fab as it comes. If I get meet requests then thats great, if not, well ill just come in forums and see whats happening "

Good attitude, good luck, hope it's good.

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