FabSwingers.com forum: Aesthetically pleasing swingers

By *ay W. Beau OP Woman
12 weeks ago

Wolvo

Has anyone ever attended a club or party, where all attendees had to be vetted and fit a certain type of ‘look’?

Compared to a club/party where attendees are more diverse in looks, how was it?

I only ask, as i’ve seen a few threads lately, where some of the comments have implied pretty, slim, handsome, gym fit folks are more appreciated in clubs/parties.

attraction is subjective. As open as swinging is supposed to be, there are still some unkind attitudes. Expressing someone isn't for you is fine - bringing down others for that end isn't.

What say you?

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By *oodmessMan
12 weeks ago

yumsville

Oh yeah, I didn't get in, they said my beauty was such I'd cause a flood.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
12 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Skirt club is like that. (Or at least it used to be a few years ago)

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
12 weeks ago

The Continental

I’m way too good looking for them.

Well……that’s what I tell myself anyway.

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By * and HCouple
12 weeks ago

Andover

Hitler tried to vet people too 😂 his guest list idea didn’t work for the rest of the world

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By *oupleSeducedCouple
12 weeks ago

Canterbury/Greenwich

Le Boudoir springs to mind.

Must be so bland going to clubs like this and actually paying a fortune in fees to inflate already fragile egos

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By *tticusukMan
12 weeks ago

Formby

"Le Boudoir springs to mind.

Must be so bland going to clubs like this and actually paying a fortune in fees to inflate already fragile egos

Why?

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
12 weeks ago

Stoke

Yeah we went to Chic, you have to be picture verified to attend. Just full of posey people walking around looking good, give us a normal club night any day.

Mr F.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
12 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

We've been to both mentioned above and much prefer the non-pretentious clubs

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Cannock

Neither of us prefer gym fit to be honest, Mr prefers curvy, bbw.

Mrs prefers average sort of dad bod on a guy.

We only attend 1 club and it's usually a pretty diverse mix.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"Hitler tried to vet people too 😂 his guest list idea didn’t work for the rest of the world"

😂

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By *ornycougaWoman
12 weeks ago

MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat

I have been to Le Boudoir a few times. When I joined I had no idea they turned people down on the basis of their photo or I would never have applied. But attractiveness is subjective and I have been and not found anyone I was attracted to. And tbh I have found people at Penthouse Playrooms a far more "gorgeous" bunch

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By *oupleSeducedCouple
12 weeks ago

Canterbury/Greenwich

"Le Boudoir springs to mind.

Must be so bland going to clubs like this and actually paying a fortune in fees to inflate already fragile egos

Why? "

Going through a "selection" process to be told by people who judge you if you can or can't attend their precious club. Then ending up at a club where everybody looks the same and are pretentious just because they fit someone else's ostentatious view with a bunch desperate applicants to boost their fragile egos

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By *hGlobbitsMan
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

Meh, I've got a good personality*

*Not really.

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By *ildTimes.Man
12 weeks ago

Colchester/London

Is it assessed on faces, bodies.. both?

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Wonko would never get in

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By *HUSH-Man
12 weeks ago

London

I didn’t know LB had a selection process?!?

Penthouse Playrooms is a great venue, I recommend it. Just a pain in the arse for me to get to though.

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By *illy IdolMan
12 weeks ago

Midlands

I have never been to one of these events but I'm sure there's a place for them. There's plenty of other events going on.

But let's be honest, swingers clubs have never been about equality.

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By *lack beauty 35Woman
12 weeks ago

West midlands

Have to chams is a great place

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By *he MinionMan
12 weeks ago

Many moons ago a then partner and I applied for a couples membership where you had to be photo verified (read, judged on worthiness). We got in. We split and i tried to renew my membership as a single and was declined 🤣🤣. Was i hurt, no, i found it highly amusing and still do.

These all perfect pretty people clubs can stay exclusive! Keeps all the peacocks in one place !

Much much prefer an all inclusive anyone welcome enviroment

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By *ealitybitesMan
12 weeks ago

Belfast

I've never been to a club but there used to be a club owner who posted regularly in the Ireland forum a few years ago.

He argued that it was his right to demand full frontal nude pics including face from any and all attendees at his events and became very aggressive when challenged and resorted to body shaming.

The club closed shortly after.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
12 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"Yeah we went to Chic, you have to be picture verified to attend. Just full of posey people walking around looking good, give us a normal club night any day.

Mr F. "

I agree, my Chic experience was that it was mostly a load of poseurs, most of the women (girls tbh) were so heavily made up that sex or the hot tub were never going to be an option, walked around to be seen and then left early. Yawn fest.

I have gone to hosted parties where the guests have been ‘curated’ and had a good time - the hosts have gone with personalities rather than looks though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

East Sussex

Never been to one but I'd like to although I doubt I'd get in.

There's an awful lot of inverted snobbery and inverted body shaming in the swinging world.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
12 weeks ago

Ends

I dunno. I’m that sexy.

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By *aitonelMan
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

I don't go to clubs because, well fuck clubs!

But if I did, I'd avoid that type of shit at all costs. Regardless of if I'd get in or not, the amount of... Vanity levels needed to be around people of that calibre I do not possess.

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By *eliWoman
12 weeks ago

I've been to Chic a couple of times. It looked beautiful, some really great lingerie sets. It was also very erm... poserish. I remember being so nervous about getting in and once I was there it was like... oh. Okay. Spoke to some lovely people, danced. Fucking was quite erm... staged? Looked nice, dried me up.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
12 weeks ago

Reading

Chuckle i wouldn't stand a chance.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
12 weeks ago

North West

I'm sure some club events want attendees to be gym fit. Is that what you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Even if I would get it, I wouldn't be interested in something so fake and filtered. Sounds like the club equivalent of Instagram. 🤨

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By *zeroMan
12 weeks ago

Glasgow

There was a short lived sauna event night that I enquired about going to once. They asked me to send a face and body photo so that I met "standards"

I didnt go ahead with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I’ve been invited to those type of parties and they do all look beautiful! But it’s just not something I’d be interested in attending. The vibes just aren’t for me.

Regular clubs (not that I go very often) are much more my scene.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I'm sure some club events want attendees to be gym fit. Is that what you mean?"

I think it means that you need to fit a certain body type and look. There are loads of threads on here that do just that and some clubs run events aimed at a particular body type. 🤷‍♀️

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By *imply_SensualMan
12 weeks ago

Widnes

I think Kissing Kittens used to vet people too on looks, and possibly more.

Definitely not for me, I prefer a more relaxed down to earth vibe.

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By *ondiego85Man
12 weeks ago

nottingham

Interestingly, the gym fit crowd is usually the most boring. No surprise that they want to stay between “peers”, all they talk about is abs and the latest vitamin mix they found on a dodgy forum.

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By *ay W. Beau OP Woman
12 weeks ago

Wolvo

"I'm sure some club events want attendees to be gym fit. Is that what you mean?

I think it means that you need to fit a certain body type and look. There are loads of threads on here that do just that and some clubs run events aimed at a particular body type. 🤷‍♀️"

Which is a good thing imho, as it gives people who would normally be excluded a chance to take part. What saddens me, is the attitude that swinging should only be about elite looking people, and the derogatory language aimed at those who don't fit the aesthetically pleasing elite look.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
12 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"I think Kissing Kittens used to vet people too on looks, and possibly more.

Definitely not for me, I prefer a more relaxed down to earth vibe."

Even if I looked the part I couldn’t afford it

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By *hat.coupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Dartford

Le Boudoir is like that, if you dont look a certain way they don't let you in. We went once and probably won't be going again. It eas OK inside but certainly not worth £90 for the ticket.

Mrs x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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12 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I'm sure some club events want attendees to be gym fit. Is that what you mean?

I think it means that you need to fit a certain body type and look. There are loads of threads on here that do just that and some clubs run events aimed at a particular body type. 🤷‍♀️

Is that the attitude? Who isn't easthetically pleasing to look at?

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