FabSwingers.com forum: Do you care if people know

By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
12 weeks ago

Ends

That you’ve had sex with someone? Do you make it obvious? Is it a bad thing if people do? Are you even actually put off if someone lamppost pisses on someone you fancy?

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By *mmaleiaWoman
12 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I don’t kiss n tell

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By *enk15Man
12 weeks ago

Evesham

No to all of the questions.

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By *dam1971Man
12 weeks ago

Bedford

I don’t really mind, but the other person might, perhaps in the future, so for that reason I keep quiet about it.

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By *sWyldWoman
12 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I don't really care. It's part of the nature of the site, it's going to happen.

Graphic details are private though.

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By *imples24Man
12 weeks ago

tamworth

Not overly fussed but I’m a private person so won’t come from my end. Also respect the other persons wishes

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By *mizhereMan
12 weeks ago

chinnor area

Never kiss and tell xx

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By *onkeynutWoman
12 weeks ago

somewhere

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By *onkeynutWoman
12 weeks ago

somewhere

I don’t care as such, but I wouldn’t make it obvious I’ve had sex with someone- either here or away from fab.

I also don’t display my veris because it’s no one’s business who I have or haven’t had sex with.

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By *otmyrealname99Man
12 weeks ago

Manchester

I think that's a private thing tbh, some people might want to discuss it but I don't see why you'd broadcast it to the world

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
12 weeks ago

The Continental

Who I have sex with is something between the two/three/four of us participants.

My business, nobody else’s.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
12 weeks ago

Stratford

What I don’t like is the gossip and forced involvement of others who try to project their views and opinions and I also find lamppost pissing a bit odd.

I’m certainly not ashamed of anyone I’ve ever slept with though

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By *ad NannaWoman
12 weeks ago

East London

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By *ad NannaWoman
12 weeks ago

East London

"What I don’t like is the gossip and forced involvement of others who try to project their views and opinions and I also find lamppost pissing a bit odd.

I’m certainly not ashamed of anyone I’ve ever slept with though

Gossip doesn't bother me. I'll correct any falsehoods though.

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By *uperSalopian7Man
12 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

I prefer discretion

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By *ad NannaWoman
12 weeks ago

East London

"[Removed by poster at 04/12/24 10:31:57]"

Phew!

I think we're safe, Pickle. I don't think anyone saw that

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By *ad NannaWoman
12 weeks ago

East London

"I prefer discretion "

Yea, me too

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I am the epitome of discretion

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
12 weeks ago

City Centre

I don't share that info ever. Nobody ever asks me anyway and that suits me fine too.

I've been to a few socials in the past where I've been chatting to a guy, only to be approached by women to say that he's sound and a great fuck. I find that extremely odd.

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By *r.and.Mrs.DSCouple
12 weeks ago

N. Wales

Not applicable to us yet, but we'd prefer to be discreet when others are involved

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By *anonfire96Man
12 weeks ago

Mansfield

Yes it's nice to know someone else doesn't show veries.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Do I tell everyone or boast? No. I might mention I've met up with someone to a mate, but I won't go into details. That's between me and them.

If someone is boasting about their sexual conquest? It's not for me and I couldn't care less. I have a mate who used to do it constantly and bored the hell out of me. Thankfully he's got a missus now lol.

I think it's a bad thing, if anyone they've been with doesn't want to be talked about. It might cause some very negative events to appear.

Claiming a person for themselves? Good for them, if that's what was agreed upon by both. Perhaps it's their dynamic. But it's not for me. I love the freedom of us being able to move around as we please.

If there is jealousy involved and it's not part of the game between people, then I would avoid being involved.

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By *ungandMan
12 weeks ago

daveyhulme

If they ask for a verification I would gladly oblige if not it’s between me and them

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By *ansoffateMan
12 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Great question.

In simple terms no. If it was down to me it would be very much KTP. People talk about cheating, but it's a lack of transparency, which facilitates that.

I don't feel a need to declare it, but I also don't hide it and I certainly wouldn't from a partner.

When different partners have different expectations, one can end up becoming the vessel with which that gets expressed to each other. Lamppost pissing is quite timid, some prefer to leave more permanent marks.

In the end I just see it as a dramatic rather than verbal form of expression. Good or bad? Generally that comes down to intention not just action.

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By *ad NannaWoman
12 weeks ago

East London

"Do I tell everyone or boast? No. I might mention I've met up with someone to a mate, but I won't go into details. That's between me and them.

I think it's a bad thing, if anyone they've been with doesn't want to be talked about. It might cause some very negative events to appear.

If there is jealousy involved and it's not part of the game between people, then I would avoid being involved."

Is it boasting?

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By *up.its.meWoman
12 weeks ago

bolton

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By *up.its.meWoman
12 weeks ago

bolton

"Yes it's nice to know someone else doesn't show veries. "

But you don't have any lol

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"Is it boasting? "

I said IF they're boasting, as in "Oh yeah, I'm a legend, I fuck all the women!" type thing.

If it's normal conversation and everyone is happy talking about it, then no it's not boasting.

Context, atmosphere, willingness of participants. Everything plays a part, y'know.

If you're saying being told about every sexual partner someone has had and you're not interested in hearing it, that's bad. 😆

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Sat, not saying. Stupid autocorrect.

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By *oves a squirterMan
12 weeks ago

Plymouth

I'm very genuine and discreet

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By *ora the explorerWoman
12 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Yeah. I don’t like people knowing anything

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By *eckard2019Man
12 weeks ago

North West Durham

I'm a relatively private person, so I'm not going to kiss and tell and I hope nobody does it to me.

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By *ad NannaWoman
12 weeks ago

East London

"Is it boasting?

I said IF they're boasting, as in "Oh yeah, I'm a legend, I fuck all the women!" type thing.

If it's normal conversation and everyone is happy talking about it, then no it's not boasting.

Context, atmosphere, willingness of participants. Everything plays a part, y'know.

If you're saying being told about every sexual partner someone has had and you're not interested in hearing it, that's bad. 😆"

Sorry, you wrote do I tell everyone or boast. I must have misunderstood. If I did mention I've had sex with someone it wouldn't be a boast, or lamp post pissing. I'm a sharer and it would probably be an off the cuff remark .

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"Sorry, you wrote do I tell everyone or boast. I must have misunderstood. If I did mention I've had sex with someone it wouldn't be a boast, or lamp post pissing. I'm a sharer and it would probably be an off the cuff remark ."

Oh, it's alright. I kinda blended telling with boasting in that same line. 😅

But yeah, I'm the same. It wouldn't be any sort of boast or claim. Just a little comment on meeting up, to let people (those closest to me) that I've spent time with somebody. They don't want to hear everything anyhow, even though some are quite open and we've had all manner of conversation. There are limits lol.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
12 weeks ago

Ends

"I don’t kiss n tell"

One of my favourite Skepta songs

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
12 weeks ago

Ends

"Not applicable to us yet, but we'd prefer to be discreet when others are involved "
👀

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By *ensuallover1000Man
12 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

The only way you will know is if you can physically smell the scent of sex on me 🤭😇

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"The only way you will know is if you can physically smell the scent of sex on me 🤭😇"

Lynx Africa? 😄

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By *ensuallover1000Man
12 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"The only way you will know is if you can physically smell the scent of sex on me 🤭😇

Lynx Africa? 😄"

😂😂😂 🤭

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By *rHotNottsMan
12 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I find it funny like being at school, especially some guys they literally cannot help it, there like fizzing after a fuck…..

Also makes a great ‘who not to meet, fuck or tell anything private to’ list.

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By *umlover60Man
12 weeks ago

Cwmbran

Who I sleep with is no one’s business except me and my hand.

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By *ad NannaWoman
12 weeks ago

East London

"I find it funny like being at school, especially some guys they literally cannot help it, there like fizzing after a fuck…..

Also makes a great ‘who not to meet, fuck or tell anything private to’ list. "

Or they feel ashamed because they slept with the fat, ugly one and don't want anyone to know.

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By *HUSH-Man
12 weeks ago

London

I like to keep it private and I would appreciate the same in return.

We can all read between the lines. I know social meets can be platonic but none of us are looking for people to play Bridge with here.

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Cannock

This is why our verifications aren't displayed, to be honest there's nothing graphic in any of them and we don't put details in the ones we write either. We just don't feel the need to display them

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By *andt1Couple
12 weeks ago

wellingborough

don’t brag about it but do what if people know

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Mayfair

I tell everyone.

Self-aggrandisement and vainglorious traits are a dying årtførm, which should be embraced, framed and hung upon a wall for everyone to see.

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By *parkle1974Woman
12 weeks ago

Leeds

It's no-one else's business who I chose to spend time with. I prefer not to be involved in any drama that comes with people spouting their mouths off (had it a couple of times)....can't be arsed with games at this stage of my life.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
12 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"I tell everyone.

Self-aggrandisement and vainglorious traits are a dying årtførm, which should be embraced, framed and hung upon a wall for everyone to see."

😂😂😂👍🏻👍🏻

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By *iker JackMan
12 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

If someone knows I like someone and they then purposely set out to try and fuck them then they’re no longer on any type of friends list

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I tend to get an announcement placed in The Times. This is something worthy of publicity

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By *ad NannaWoman
12 weeks ago

East London

"If someone knows I like someone and they then purposely set out to try and fuck them then they’re no longer on any type of friends list "

People do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"I tend to get an announcement placed in The Times. This is something worthy of publicity

Very high brow

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

We can tell people we had sex?

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By *ad NannaWoman
12 weeks ago

East London

"We can tell people we had sex?"

Don't do it, Wonko! They'll all be after a piece of you

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By *im le2Man
12 weeks ago

AYLESTONE

Most guys want and expect discretion. Plus if you put anyone nobody would trust you again.

I have sex with a couple of local ppl but we never talk about it in public.

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By *aitonelMan
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

Only if the person I had sex with is much more hotter than me!

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By *ags73Man
12 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

If I have, I have 🤷‍♂️

I’m not sharing the deets. If I say something on a thread in here it’s from the life before usually.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
12 weeks ago

Reading

Neris tend to give the game away.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
12 weeks ago

Ends

"Neris tend to give the game away. "
I don’t like posting veris that include anything sexual. So not always. My veris from people I’ve had sex with and people I’ve met socially aren’t all that different.

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By *aitonelMan
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

"Neris tend to give the game away. "

Then Neris needs to keep her big mouth shut and not gossip!

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By *viatrixWoman
12 weeks ago

Redhill

I am an exhibitionist so I actually like it if people know

Re lamp pissing- I don’t really see forumites sexually, so it doesn’t happen at all. It amuses when I read other people’s though.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
12 weeks ago

Bliss

It doesn't bother me at all for who knows. Lampost pissing amuses me, it's such a pointless exercise. So many of us have shared sexual partners, knowingly and unknowingly on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I prefer if people don't know.

I like people I fancy getting attention.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
12 weeks ago

cardiff

Yes I do care, that's why I hate veri's. Be rid of them. Off with their heads!!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
12 weeks ago

North West

I wanna have sex on the beach. Come on everybody!

I'll leave us a veri so everyone knows

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By *rHotNottsMan
12 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I find it funny like being at school, especially some guys they literally cannot help it, there like fizzing after a fuck…..

Also makes a great ‘who not to meet, fuck or tell anything private to’ list.

Or they feel ashamed because they slept with the fat, ugly one and don't want anyone to know.

Hadn’t thought of that side of it tbh.

I’m not ashamed of anyone I’ve ever slept with on here, left a lot of veri's in the past and sine are still visible, but doesn’t mean I want people to know.

I think there was a time in the past I was cool with people knowing but then discovered how toxic it can be on here.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"That you’ve had sex with someone? Do you make it obvious? Is it a bad thing if people do? Are you even actually put off if someone lamppost pisses on someone you fancy?"

Do I care? No. If anyone has an issue with me choosing to sleep with someone else that's a them.problrm, not a me one.

Do I make it obvious? Only if you count having visible veris obvious. I don't put ads out in the broadsheet, or in those annoying ad breaks that now appear during movies on Netflix/Prime.

Is it a bad thing if people do? Nope. None of my business who people choose to have sex with and likewise what they choose to make public.

As for the lamppost pissing? Again - not bothered. It wouldn't put me off someone just because they see someone regularly, have a strong connection with someone else or because another person feels the need to openly display their feelings.

I'm too old for that shit. Let people do what they wanna do. 🤷‍♂️

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
12 weeks ago

Maidstone

I always burst into song

https://youtu.be/lQlIhraqL7o?si=tlOo_5bAjmTnln17

Everyone knows about it

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"That you’ve had sex with someone? Do you make it obvious? Is it a bad thing if people do? Are you even actually put off if someone lamppost pisses on someone you fancy?

Do I care? No. If anyone has an issue with me choosing to sleep with someone else that's a them.problrm, not a me one.

Do I make it obvious? Only if you count having visible veris obvious. I don't put ads out in the broadsheet, or in those annoying ad breaks that now appear during movies on Netflix/Prime.

Is it a bad thing if people do? Nope. None of my business who people choose to have sex with and likewise what they choose to make public.

I'm too old for that shit. Let people do what they wanna do. 🤷‍♂️"

Wise words

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