FabSwingers.com forum: How to get my first swinging experience

By *oginald OP Man
12 weeks ago

Chelmsford

I’m after some after some new and wild experiences.

Just wondering what my way in is as a rather average (From a physical standpoint anyway) guy is.

Seems like 90% of the members here are single guys flooding all the couples/womens inboxes. How can I stand out? Am I best off just to go to a club or a meet? Or is that more of the same 😅

I’m ok looking, in reasonable shape I cycle a lot and go to the gym,but a bit of a belly. my dick is probably on the small size of average (5in)

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By *ubikslongswordMan
12 weeks ago

Rubiksville

Get yourself to clubs/socials you'll do fine

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By *bi HaiveMan
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12 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Welcome OP.

Don't worry about what others are doing as you can't influence them, just your own experiences.

Your best approach is to make sure your profile gives a good insight into you, your visuals are appealing and interesting and any messages you send not focused about sex and meets. People like to be talked to as human beings rather than a target for sex. Look at your profile and put yourself in your target audiences shoes and think 'would i message this person'?

Aside from that? Same advice I always give. Organised group socials and clubs are great for meeting people and networking.

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By *oginald OP Man
12 weeks ago

Chelmsford

My initial thought was who is looking at my profile anyway unless my message is interesting. So far I’ve only had a handful of women (and like 20 single guys) even look at it.

I’ve been focussing more on my opening message but will also try and make my profile more interesting.

Any suggestions on opening messages? I’ve never lead with “ Hi” or something quite so boring. I try and pick something from their profile to comment on but don’t know how forward to be. Clearly everyone here is pretty much here for the same thing so I feel like I can be more forward than usual. I just don’t know where the right mark is.

I deffo don’t like the idea of sending dick picks off the bat but do have a friends only pic on my profile.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
12 weeks ago

Reading

I dont think moustaches are very popular. That might be hurting your chances.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"My initial thought was who is looking at my profile anyway unless my message is interesting. So far I’ve only had a handful of women (and like 20 single guys) even look at it.

I’ve been focussing more on my opening message but will also try and make my profile more interesting.

I deffo don’t like the idea of sending dick picks off the bat but do have a friends only pic on my profile. "

Don't stress over the 'who's looked at me' function.

Single women and couples generally browse in stealth mode so you'll never know they looked.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
12 weeks ago

Wales

Most women look in ninja mode - I just looked at your profile but it won't show. I always look at the file before even considering replying to any message.

Reading your bio, I get mixed vibes from you looking for wild experiences.. translates to me you're wanting notches on the bedpost. Could just be me.

And you mention twice in and as many sentences that you don't know what you're here for. So is any hole a goal?

Have a think what it is you're actually looking for try to scape it around that. And inject some personality into it.

Your bio is blending into a sea of people that "don't know" what they're letting themselves into.

Get more pics up torso pics are always a good hit and you don't have to be of athletic build for that.

Of course this is all just my opinion but thought you may appreciate a ladies perspective.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
12 weeks ago

Wales

As others have already suggested. Clubs and socials will be the best way to get yourself verified, which helps a lot.

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By *ubikslongswordMan
12 weeks ago

Rubiksville

"Get more pics up torso pics are always a good hit and you don't have to be of athletic build for that. "

To build on this, I'm not athletic, and have plenty of torso pics, for some reason women seem to like my chunky somewhat hairy body so Bella is onto something here

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By *he naughty pairCouple
12 weeks ago

Bicester

I agree with what everyone else is saying, you need to make your profile sound less of a any holes a goal profile to something a bit more appealing.

As for meeting, try getting to a few socials and the odd single night at a club, just be prepared to be one of many looking for the same thing, try not to be to pushy or creepy (don't follow people around) and try talk to people, far too often we see single men just gravitate to playing couples and try touching without permission.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
12 weeks ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"I’m after some after some new and wild experiences.

Just wondering what my way in is as a rather average (From a physical standpoint anyway) guy is.

Seems like 90% of the members here are single guys flooding all the couples/womens inboxes. How can I stand out? Am I best off just to go to a club or a meet? Or is that more of the same 😅

I’m ok looking, in reasonable shape I cycle a lot and go to the gym,but a bit of a belly. my dick is probably on the small size of average (5in)"

The easiest way is not to rely on this (or any other) website.

Websites are just one tool in the box, handy at times but not as a stand alone.

Clubs and socials open a lot more doors and once you get known the site will help as well.

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By *oginald OP Man
12 weeks ago

Chelmsford

More like I don’t really know what I’m going to enjoy until I try it. I’ve not tried anything outside of regular 121 sex.

I’m confident in the bedroom, But I’m on here for some different experiences. I’ve watched a lot of group stuff online and they seem to have a great time. But for all I know I might find the reality quite different not get into it at all. I was trying to be honest but maybe not detailed enough. I really don’t know what to expect.

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By *tticusukMan
12 weeks ago

Formby

valtteri bottas should have no issue getting women!

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By *orthernJayMan
12 weeks ago

DXB / SG / Thailand Krabi

"valtteri bottas should have no issue getting women!"

He’s doesn’t have any issue “getting women “, although his Australian girlfriend clearly likes the Queenslander tash & mullet; he looks absolutely ridiculous!

Maybe it’s her way of keeping a multi millionaire to herself

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