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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

sat on a bus today with my 2 yr old when a bloke came and sat next to me ....all he kept saying was i know you from fab ....not on my friends list ....wont take the subtle and none so subtle hints to drop the subject ....in end got of bus and waited for next one .....was fuming cus i had my baby with me ....how would others have felt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first thing I would do, is to remove any photos that may show my face from public view.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"The first thing I would do, is to remove any photos that may show my face from public view.

"

not all on here as you seem to have discovered are discreet or sensible..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you should have reminded him this is 'The web of Trust' and he is breaking that trust. Its a pity you didnt know him as I am sure FAB would kick him off site.

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

eastliegh

That's aweful

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Honour doesn't come with membership....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"sat on a bus today with my 2 yr old when a bloke came and sat next to me ....all he kept saying was i know you from fab ....not on my friends list ....wont take the subtle and none so subtle hints to drop the subject ....in end got of bus and waited for next one .....was fuming cus i had my baby with me ....how would others have felt"

I would have felt extremely angry.

If I were you I'd remove my face pictures from public view though, it doesn't completely remove the risk of being recognised but it does minimise it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd remove your face pics immediately! It was really rude and ignorant of him. I give and expect a level of discretion on here. Most people do, I imagine. Pity he felt the need, he could have contacted you on here not in public.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Sorry to hear that and can understand why your angry especially with a little one near you.

Just remember though with your face pic as your avatar you run that risk. If your face pic is in friends gallery only then you control who sees it x

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

this unfortunately does happen...reporting is fine, depending on the how and why of things it may become a police matter if serious enough..all we can say is be very sure of whom you talk to on sites before sharing detailed information...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its only ever happened once in asda before. and my dad literally had to hold me back as i was going to go for the guys throat.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The first thing I would do, is to remove any photos that may show my face from public view.

"

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 1st rule of swing club is ......

Never shit on your back doorstep.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Look at the plus side..... if you didn't have a face shot and said he recognised you ..... THEN'S the time to worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I see you still have face pics on your profile still, we have tried to warn you

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Uncalled for when you were with a child. Wonder what his agenda was?

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

ahhh me and my phone .. didn't mean to remove that

I understand exactly where you're coming from but what I have come to learn off this site is that what I deem appropriate behaviour and what others deem appropriate behaviour can be oceans apart.

I would have also got off the bus with my child as I don't feel that is a suitable situation to make an introduction but hey ho .. were all different.

I would have come home and removed my face pics to a private gallery also to try and avoid repeat future episodes also

wish you all the best though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ahhh me and my phone .. didn't mean to remove that

I understand exactly where you're coming from but what I have come to learn off this site is that what I deem appropriate behaviour and what others deem appropriate behaviour can be oceans apart.

I would have also got off the bus with my child as I don't feel that is a suitable situation to make an introduction but hey ho .. were all different.

I would have come home and removed my face pics to a private gallery also to try and avoid repeat future episodes also

wish you all the best though "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

have changed pic ....even in vanilla relationships they dont get to meet my kids unless its very serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have changed pic ....even in vanilla relationships they dont get to meet my kids unless its very serious "

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Nr Biggleswade

Happened to me in confession very akward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sat on a bus today with my 2 yr old when a bloke came and sat next to me ....all he kept saying was i know you from fab ....not on my friends list ....wont take the subtle and none so subtle hints to drop the subject ....in end got of bus and waited for next one .....was fuming cus i had my baby with me ....how would others have felt"

Its lucky your child is so young and therefore unlikely to have understood or picked up on what the guy was saying. An older child may have and then repeated it in front of other people which could have created awkward situations.

A lesson learned maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

he waited until my 20 yr daughter had got off the bus ....did notice him staring but didnt think anything of it as he was my daughter age and out of my age range that i had set to blocked that age range

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"he waited until my 20 yr daughter had got off the bus ....did notice him staring but didnt think anything of it as he was my daughter age and out of my age range that i had set to blocked that age range "

See if you can find him on here and block him. If he contacts you on here tell him you will report both him and his IP address via a report to admin to the police. Avoid that busRoute for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people dont know the etiquette involved in being on these sites. I actually seen a work colleague on a similar site. Does she have a clue that I know? Nope.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Some people dont know the etiquette involved in being on these sites. I actually seen a work colleague on a similar site. Does she have a clue that I know? Nope. "

Yep, we were contacted by a colleague of mine, just blocked him and would never dream of telling him.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Sorry to hear that. Fingers crossed eventually the penny may have sunk x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people dont know the etiquette involved in being on these sites. I actually seen a work colleague on a similar site. Does she have a clue that I know? Nope.

Yep, we were contacted by a colleague of mine, just blocked him and would never dream of telling him. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

dont often use that bus route so can avoid it ....

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Time and time again women chunter on about how their safety is so important.... and yet so many are willing to have their face pic on display (next to half a dozen photos of their tits) with no idea who is looking and recognising them from their local area.

I'm surprised this doesn't happen more often.

One lucky thing OP.... at least it was on a bus and not on the street outside of your home.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Honour doesn't come with membership.... "

Indeed.

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By *smCouple
over a year ago

Liskeard

I had a message from a guy. saying he know me... I just asked him where he thought he know me from? he just said around...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id have knocked him out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its probably the guy in your cleavage hes been around with you ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had some one telling me they knew me in work but wouldn't say how .i blocked them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id of made him look stupid and asked him what he was on about and acted dumb! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive seen someone on here i bump into at work from time to time in fact its acouple but they dont say owt to me and i dont say owt but i no they no im on there its like a swingers secret code lol and i canrt help but look at his wife and think ppphhooorrr ive seen you naked sexy lady lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"id have knocked him out lol "

was very tempted ....but did the safest thing getting off bus with baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a gobshite and you had the nipper with you double gobshite

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"you should have reminded him this is 'The web of Trust' and he is breaking that trust. Its a pity you didnt know him as I am sure FAB would kick him off site."

Why would you think that complete strangers would be trustworthy. Hell I don't even trust some of the people that I actually know.....

Unfortuntely this is what can and does happen. More likely when clear face pics are on full display or from going on cam in open rooms. Even from attending clubs and parties it can happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a prick, should have asked his name and reported him! Dickhead!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the reasons I don't have public face pictures. I don't even like sending a face pic to someone in my area till I know for sure their not part of my social and professional life

Sorry it had to happen to you though matey

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By *he Enigmatic MagnetMan
over a year ago

Glasgow West

It beggars belief that someone could breach your privacy like that. It also makes me wonder what would have happened if he had mistakenly said that to an innocent party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism "

She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism

She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool"

Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism

She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool

Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is. "

If someone is prepared to say things like that they could easily say anything else inappropriate. Plus going up to a single woman with a child and saying things like that could be scary for the woman.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism

She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool

Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is. "

That is totally beyond the point and if you dont understand that then thats a damn shame. Its just totally innapropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism

She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool

Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is.

If someone is prepared to say things like that they could easily say anything else inappropriate. Plus going up to a single woman with a child and saying things like that could be scary for the woman. "

Things like what? Op has not said he said anything bad. He just said he recognised her from fab. Yes I totally agree it was not right thing for him to do but it was him being a bit stupid and not grasping that others may want there fab status kept private. He wasnt trying to be cruel or giving her hard time etc. Hr just needs to lear fab etiquette thats all. Dont see why he got so much abuse thats all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i dont hate him because i dont know him ...i can say for certain i would never have meet him because he was out of my age range ...but after once been told that wasnt interested ...he should have left it at that .....just because im on this site doesnt give anyone the right to think that im easy and that i will drop my pants at a drop of a hat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism

She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool

Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is.

If someone is prepared to say things like that they could easily say anything else inappropriate. Plus going up to a single woman with a child and saying things like that could be scary for the woman.

Things like what? Op has not said he said anything bad. He just said he recognised her from fab. Yes I totally agree it was not right thing for him to do but it was him being a bit stupid and not grasping that others may want there fab status kept private. He wasnt trying to be cruel or giving her hard time etc. Hr just needs to lear fab etiquette thats all. Dont see why he got so much abuse thats all "

Exactly what he said. How did he know she wasn't with someone sitting on another seat. He got abuse because he has been a pilick going up to a total stranger and saying that. If the op felt uncomfortable that she had to get off the bus and wait for the next one the bloke is a tool and needs to give himself a shake

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

shame some people on here cant behave in vanilla mode or take the hint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont see why this guy is getting such negative comments. Yes, he doesnt understand the etiquette of being on site such as this but if you have a profile on here, thats the risk you take. If someone on street approached me and said 'I recognise you from fab' I wouldnt hate them for it. Some people are totally open about being on fab and maybe dont understand that others are very private about it. The guy lacked fab etiquette, nothing worse then that so ease up on the criticism

She had her child with her ffs! anyone that goes up to someone and says they recognise them off fab is a complete tool

Oh I forgot all two year olds are aware of what fab is.

If someone is prepared to say things like that they could easily say anything else inappropriate. Plus going up to a single woman with a child and saying things like that could be scary for the woman.

Things like what? Op has not said he said anything bad. He just said he recognised her from fab. Yes I totally agree it was not right thing for him to do but it was him being a bit stupid and not grasping that others may want there fab status kept private. He wasnt trying to be cruel or giving her hard time etc. Hr just needs to lear fab etiquette thats all. Dont see why he got so much abuse thats all

Exactly what he said. How did he know she wasn't with someone sitting on another seat. He got abuse because he has been a pilick going up to a total stranger and saying that. If the op felt uncomfortable that she had to get off the bus and wait for the next one the bloke is a tool and needs to give himself a shake"

Kk fair enough

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By *uxtapositionMan
over a year ago

CARDIFF

wow, bang, bang, bang out of order, especially so if you were with your child, photos/remove time !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

even if i had meet the man in a vanilla setting and this happened i would be just as angry cus unless i know someone really well they dont get to be near my children .....call me protective or paranoid but thats the way i am around my kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe some people. I would not attempt to chat a woman up if she had a kid with her, seems somehow weird/disrespectful, never mind mentioning that you have seen her on a swingers' site. Some people either have no common sense or are fucking nuts. I wonder if he thought it was a good way to get a shag? Defies common sense and seems stalkerish.

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"ahhh me and my phone .. didn't mean to remove that

I understand exactly where you're coming from but what I have come to learn off this site is that what I deem appropriate behaviour and what others deem appropriate behaviour can be oceans apart.

I would have also got off the bus with my child as I don't feel that is a suitable situation to make an introduction but hey ho .. were all different.

I would have come home and removed my face pics to a private gallery also to try and avoid repeat future episodes also

wish you all the best though "

As ever

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