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By *ut of my depth OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Warwick

Has anyone been on fab and although receiving messages still felt really alone I love this site but it can be quite isolating too

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
12 weeks ago

Maidstone

I often feel like that. Unless I'm talking to someone I'm into it just all feels quite fake.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
12 weeks ago

The Continental

Loads of people have those feelings, and many will open their inboxes if only to chat for some company.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I have asked myself this loads of times in the past, meets and clubs alot of the time leaving you feeling empty especially when playing with couples. I suppose it's how you separate the lifestyle with real life.

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By *ungLad123Man
12 weeks ago

Basildon

Yes, I don’t feel this place is good for long term MH.

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By *igjonny090Man
12 weeks ago

blackpool and Manchester

All the time, particularly if I’m not getting any messages or anything back, in moments like that I tend to take a break and refund my motivation

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By *ustamanMan
12 weeks ago

weymouth


"Has anyone been on fab and although receiving messages still felt really alone I love this site but it can be quite isolating too"

That's true of any social media platforms - they're very good at isolating you and then you forget how to interact with strangers face to face. Not that I've ever been especially good at it but I've definitely got worse since the advent of an online existence

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By *im494Man
12 weeks ago

Westhill

Great question, I certainly feel lonely on here sometimes, not all the time but in those moment I take a step back, it's worse when I feel I'm putting effort in hitting a brick wall. Take time out for yourself try not too feel too down. That works for me 👍

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Social media (not just Friendface and such, all online interaction methods) is very fake indeed. We often try to only present the best versions of ourselves, without the flaws and showcase our lives as if they are perfect.

When in reality, it's often far from that.

The thing I do, is go out more and spend less time online. Even by myself, for a walk in the woods, or grab a pasty in town. Being around other people, even if I'm not actively speaking to them, had a positive effect on my wellbeing.

Online isn't how we are supposed to be living our lives, yet more and more people are doing so. Often sacrificing face-to-face socialising for messages and Likes.

Any and all long-term online interaction is not good for mental health, even if you believe you are immune to it.

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By *icknmix500Man
12 weeks ago

South Gloucestershire

Yes very much so !

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Has anyone been on fab and although receiving messages still felt really alone I love this site but it can be quite isolating too"

Can you describe what makes you feel alone?

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
12 weeks ago

Salford

I'm just here to fuck. I chill with my friends

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By *ut of my depth OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Warwick

I think it's the fact that the whole site is based upon fantasy which is fine and a good escape but then there is the reality of world in which we form part. Sometimes the two cross but often they are estranged from one another

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By *ut of my depth OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Warwick


"I'm just here to fuck. I chill with my friends "
. You are a lucky man. You have it all

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I think it's the fact that the whole site is based upon fantasy which is fine and a good escape but then there is the reality of world in which we form part. Sometimes the two cross but often they are estranged from one another "

I can understand that. I often read forum posts and verifications and think that I'm not a good fit for the site. Then I remind myself that a lot of it is fantasy.

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By *uzzleMan
12 weeks ago

Hastings

The problem with Fab and dating sites is it is all false. You have got to meet and see if you click on a dating site and take it from there.

Fab is slightly different in that it's a fuck site but people want to meet for socials first etc because turning up and finding you're not really attracted to one another would be very awkward I imagine.

Its the same at work for me, the only thing I have in common with my co-workers is that we all work at the same place. We are a group of strangers that spend 40+ hours a week together and friendships eventually form or common interests come out.

However, I am one of lifes loners so don't engage in that way.

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By *orphia2003Woman
12 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Yeah, happens all the time.

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Mayfair

Fab isn't utopia or a panacea for one's 'social ills', but no one should feel alone and isolated on here. The fora is full of people willing to listen, befriend or give a shoulder of support across the ether.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

Many online platforms can give you a fear of missing out as it feels most others are having more success and more fun and hence add to isolation feelings

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By *usty kayCouple
12 weeks ago

Burnham

Permanently. I have no idea why I keep coming back but the fun is worth it.

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By *YDB75Man
12 weeks ago

East Yorkie

I often feel like that. Feels sometime like your looking through a window and everyone elseis having a good time but your not invited. Then all of a sudden you get seen and someone approaches. You get all eager and excited but then they just close the curtains and your left alone again.

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By *ut of my depth OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Warwick

Thanks for all your comments. I know it's not just me now

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Central

I don't think that single men are great here, for their mental health, unless they are observant and take breaks, when they notice it impacts them negatively

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
12 weeks ago

Reading

I don't think it's the messages that is important but the quality of the messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I think this site is here for fun and to enhance your enjoyment of life, not to be any significant building block to it

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
12 weeks ago

Coventry


"Has anyone been on fab and although receiving messages still felt really alone I love this site but it can be quite isolating too"

I think it's important not to see this site as a fix for loneliness. This site works best when you're in a good and secure place yourself.

Also loneliness is a hard demon to fight. Sometimes even when you have a good social group in the physical world or even in a relationship some people can feel lonely deep down. So it's really important not to look to others to fix your loneliness. It's kind all on your shoulders to workout the route cause and how you can improve things. Because yes physical access to people and making freinds is part of it but its also to do with you, your perception and out look. Personally I believe the main thing is to concentrate on being your own best freind first. Maybe look to find some help and support.

Mr

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By *ary69321Man
12 weeks ago

Newcastle upon tyne

I try and get involved in the forum, I try and and give my opinion, I received one message the other day and that's it, I'm not talking with anyone on a regular basis, it is quite lonely, I'm single and don't have anyone really to talk to.

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By *eckard2019Man
12 weeks ago

North West Durham

A lot of people are lonely at least some of the time, and for a variety of reasons. But, there's always someone you can talk to, message etc, sometimes you just need to reach out.

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By *ornycougaWoman
12 weeks ago

MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat

Not alone - but questioning why I'm here

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
12 weeks ago

kent


"Not alone - but questioning why I'm here"

😘🌸

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By *agerMorganMan
12 weeks ago

Canvey Island

Certainly don’t feel alone, but lately I have questioned my reasoning for being here.

Coupled with the feeling I have that, outside of the forums, Fab has slowly become a place with extremely rude individuals. Not what it was a while ago.

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By *hGlobbitsMan
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

Yes. It's one of the strange dichotomies of Fab. There have been times when I've felt engaged and people have responded to my forum posts and my messages. When I've had friends with whom I've met regularly and truly felt i was getting the best out of the site.

There have been other times (like now) when I've felt like Bruce Willis in The Sixth Sense: observing everything but every attempt to engage seemingly going totally unnoticed.

You have to keep it in perspective. There are a lot of men on this site and comparatively few women. You're unlikely to get the attention you want and it can be taken away at any moment if you're not consistent. If you're not in a good place with your self-esteem, that can hit pretty hard.

I've been known to take long breaks from Fab when it feels like it's not working for me. It can start to feel like a lot of unpaid admin for very little return. Still, you get to see some pretty fantastic boobs and bums, so it's not all bad

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