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By (user no longer on site) OP   
12 weeks ago

Have not been on here that long, but I do understand that a lot of women get a lot of messages daily and it is very hard to keep up with them, and many multi delete. but have sent messages before and they haven't been read, maybe due to not being seen, how many times would you say is appropriate to Keep messaging till you get a reply? Or is it a case they do see it and choose to ignore. Please don't shoot me down for asking what may be a silly question.

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By *agerMorganMan
12 weeks ago

Canvey Island

Once and once only. If they don’t respond or delete, take it as a polite no thank you and move on.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

No response is a no thanks OP.

Many people will look at a profile before opening a message. If the profile doesn't appeal, they don't open the message.

Good luck out there 💜

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
12 weeks ago


"Once and once only. If they don’t respond or delete, take it as a polite no thank you and move on.

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But many women claim that they missed messages hence people don't get a reply hence my question

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By *agic.MMan
12 weeks ago

Orpington

I believe you should message once...regardless if they read the message or not...regardless if they read it but don't reply. Once.. and only once. If a woman doesn't put in the effort to go through her messages, why would you put so much effort in getting her attention? Let's take a bit of pride in ourselves as men and not become so desperate

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By *uzzleMan
12 weeks ago

Hastings

Some people message and it doesn't even get read or deleted.

This could be for various reasons but typically because they've had a peek at your profile and you haven't met their criteria such as no beards or aren't 6' tall etc etc.

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By *issmorganWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

I'd say message once, if no reply or not read, try again, bit wait a while.

If you still get no answer, left on read, then leave it.

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
12 weeks ago

shankill

If I get no message back within say 5 minutes. I move on just like they have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
12 weeks ago


"Hi op

I'd say message once, if no reply or not read, try again, bit wait a while.

If you still get no answer, left on read, then leave it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago


"Once and once only. If they don’t respond or delete, take it as a polite no thank you and move on.

"

Exactly this.

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By *ildTimes.Man
12 weeks ago

Colchester/London

Just keep messaging until they reply or block you, at least you get a conclusion 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

5 times

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
12 weeks ago


"Once and once only. If they don’t respond or delete, take it as a polite no thank you and move on.

Exactly this. "

But what about people that multi delete and get 500 messages just cause they never saw mine doesn't mean to say they wouldn't be into me?

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By *tu.xMan
12 weeks ago

around

Once is enough if I didn't get a reply to me its a polite not interested same goes if I didn't reply but because us guys don't get inundated with messages its easier for me to reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
12 weeks ago


"Just keep messaging until they reply or block you, at least you get a conclusion 😂"

Not a bad shout

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By *imples24Man
12 weeks ago

tamworth

I message once if they don’t read or just delete or bulk delete it’s their loss. I’m sure eventually they’d find you if they wanted to 🤷‍♂️#knowyourworth 👊🏻

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By *parkle1974Woman
12 weeks ago

Leeds

Once is more than enough x

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By *otsossieMan
12 weeks ago

Chesterfield

I sometimes get interrupted then forget to reply.

So if I’ve ever done that to anyone - sorry - wasn’t lack of interest.

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By *WB85Man
12 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Once and only once.

Always take no reply, as a no thankyou.

When someone doesn't reply, it just shows they aren't the people I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

The general rule would be once.

But personally I know I've deleted/not replied to messages from guys I've gone on to meet. If I'm in a bad mood I ignore everyone, so sometimes another message is good.

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By *inkShyWoman
12 weeks ago

near Windsor

Generally once, however I don't mind if I get a second message that is polite as like you say, I sometimes miss messages.

What I don't like is when the first message is blunt or crude, and gets followed up by abuse or further crude messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
12 weeks ago

Fairpoint all thank you for your input. Nice just to get a bit of knowledge of how it works so I don't feel like I'm pestering.

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