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"I wouldn't travel purely for a meet. If I knew I was going to be in Manchester then I might look for a meet..... " I've met guys then - a few times. I have also met someone in London and in Kent as I was in that area at the time. That is perfectly understandable. But saying that you will drive for several hours for a meet and then head back? It's not realistic. | |||
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"I guess some will cancel, and others will travel. I met a guy off here, and he travels from glasgow to north of aberdeen to see me - about 190 miles each way! " I wonder if that is common though. Great that you have someone who genuinely will travel, though. I have had a few say they will and then don't. | |||
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"I wouldn't travel purely for a meet. If I knew I was going to be in Manchester then I might look for a meet..... I've met guys then - a few times. I have also met someone in London and in Kent as I was in that area at the time. That is perfectly understandable. But saying that you will drive for several hours for a meet and then head back? It's not realistic." That would be like being at work! | |||
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"My BF travels 450 miles to be with me...but I do put him up for the night and make him dinner ![]() That's not just a one off meet though - that's kind of what I mean. | |||
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"I accommodate meets but that doesn't mean that bed and breakfast is on the agenda. Plus I don't guarantee anything on a first meet anyway. Wouldn't expect anyone to travel miles to discover it just isn't going to happen. I wouldn't travel to far for a meet either. Now a party or a social is a different matter. ![]() That's what I mean! Imagine travelling miles like that only to find you don't hit it off and nothing is going to happen. Bloody long way for a coffee! | |||
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"I accommodate meets but that doesn't mean that bed and breakfast is on the agenda. Plus I don't guarantee anything on a first meet anyway. Wouldn't expect anyone to travel miles to discover it just isn't going to happen. I wouldn't travel to far for a meet either. Now a party or a social is a different matter. ![]() I'd be happy to skip the breakfast! ![]() | |||
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"I wouldn't travel purely for a meet. If I knew I was going to be in Manchester then I might look for a meet..... I've met guys then - a few times. I have also met someone in London and in Kent as I was in that area at the time. That is perfectly understandable. But saying that you will drive for several hours for a meet and then head back? It's not realistic." I agree with that too, work on the basis if I cannot travel to them, I don't want them travelling to me, after all the first meet is a social, long way for a coffee really and on that basis am thinking again of reducing my distance | |||
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"I've been getting a lot of guys wanting to meet who live quite far from me. I don't accommodate overnight so turn them down. They always say they can drive/travel but, when push comes to shove, I have found, in the past, that actually they don't and usually cancel - most often at the last minute. What do others think of this?" I travel but often combine with an overnight hotel stay which I make clear. I have no problem visiting or having them at my hotel as long as they don't wreck it. I think many problems occur when people aren't clear in expansing themselves. People don't usually take offence more the opposite if you are honest and open with them. | |||
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"I've been getting a lot of guys wanting to meet who live quite far from me. I don't accommodate overnight so turn them down. They always say they can drive/travel but, when push comes to shove, I have found, in the past, that actually they don't and usually cancel - most often at the last minute. What do others think of this?" Always been my experience that a guy is prepared to travel and have done up to 3 hours, one guy doing so two days in a row, the first day no play and second day no guarantee of play. I think if people are of the mindset they don't mind travelling then they will. | |||
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"I've been getting a lot of guys wanting to meet who live quite far from me. I don't accommodate overnight so turn them down. They always say they can drive/travel but, when push comes to shove, I have found, in the past, that actually they don't and usually cancel - most often at the last minute. What do others think of this?" I don't live far away ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I've been getting a lot of guys wanting to meet who live quite far from me. I don't accommodate overnight so turn them down. They always say they can drive/travel but, when push comes to shove, I have found, in the past, that actually they don't and usually cancel - most often at the last minute. What do others think of this?" I will travel for a meet (went from cambridge to plymouth for a weekend) but only if i've got to know the person via the site / phone etc. To arrange a meet with someone who's a fair distance away is a bit absurd in my opinion, especially if you aren't staying in the same town the night. I think the cancellations you are getting sort of says it all really. If I was in Manchester (or any town) for the day or night then perhaps arranging a meet would make sense, but even then it would more than likely try to be with someone i've been chatting to for a while or have pre-arranged it rather than last minute messages saying meet me now. I'd stick to what you're doing and avoid people making such claims of proposterous travel. It may limit who you play with but at least you'll have a better chance of actually playing with someone rather than getting a no show or someone totally tired out from the journey ![]() | |||
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"I've been getting a lot of guys wanting to meet who live quite far from me. I don't accommodate overnight so turn them down. They always say they can drive/travel but, when push comes to shove, I have found, in the past, that actually they don't and usually cancel - most often at the last minute. What do others think of this? I will travel for a meet (went from cambridge to plymouth for a weekend) but only if i've got to know the person via the site / phone etc. To arrange a meet with someone who's a fair distance away is a bit absurd in my opinion, especially if you aren't staying in the same town the night. I think the cancellations you are getting sort of says it all really. If I was in Manchester (or any town) for the day or night then perhaps arranging a meet would make sense, but even then it would more than likely try to be with someone i've been chatting to for a while or have pre-arranged it rather than last minute messages saying meet me now. I'd stick to what you're doing and avoid people making such claims of proposterous travel. It may limit who you play with but at least you'll have a better chance of actually playing with someone rather than getting a no show or someone totally tired out from the journey ![]() Erm, that's the point of my post. As I said 'in the past'. I quickly learned not to bother with people of quite some distance as, like I said, when push comes to shove they usually end up cancelling. I don't get 'no shows' like this anymore (only had one in the event anyway and learned from that). I simply asked what people thought of 'long distance' meets as I have been getting a lot of offers and wondered what other people's opinions were. | |||
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"I've been getting a lot of guys wanting to meet who live quite far from me. I don't accommodate overnight so turn them down. They always say they can drive/travel but, when push comes to shove, I have found, in the past, that actually they don't and usually cancel - most often at the last minute. What do others think of this? I will travel for a meet (went from cambridge to plymouth for a weekend) but only if i've got to know the person via the site / phone etc. To arrange a meet with someone who's a fair distance away is a bit absurd in my opinion, especially if you aren't staying in the same town the night. I think the cancellations you are getting sort of says it all really. If I was in Manchester (or any town) for the day or night then perhaps arranging a meet would make sense, but even then it would more than likely try to be with someone i've been chatting to for a while or have pre-arranged it rather than last minute messages saying meet me now. I'd stick to what you're doing and avoid people making such claims of proposterous travel. It may limit who you play with but at least you'll have a better chance of actually playing with someone rather than getting a no show or someone totally tired out from the journey ![]() erm didn't i give my thoughts on long distance meets when i started off saying "...I will travel for a meet (went from cambridge to plymouth for a weekend) but only if i've got to know the person via the site / phone etc. To arrange a meet with someone who's a fair distance away is a bit absurd in my opinion, especially if you aren't staying in the same town the night..." ![]() | |||
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"We used to meet a lady who lived around a hundred miles away. And she couldn't accom or drive. So we used to pick her up and have her over for a weekend then take her back . It was worth the effort. We became great friends and even tho she doesn't swing anymore we are still intouch" Thats a nice thing to do. I think that because I dont drive is one of my problems even for guys who live only 30 mins away from me, but saying that there is one special exception ![]() | |||
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"I've been getting a lot of guys wanting to meet who live quite far from me. I don't accommodate overnight so turn them down. They always say they can drive/travel but, when push comes to shove, I have found, in the past, that actually they don't and usually cancel - most often at the last minute. What do others think of this?" Im no expert but I think it sounds like they are just messing you about. If they have no intention of meeting you, unpleasant as it is sometimes, they should just say so. Someone genuine will pop up im sure ![]() | |||
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"The furthest i have traveled is Liverpool, but i did stay more than one night and only because i had met the guy on a couple of occasion's before. But I don't think that i would do it all the time, much prefer to be nearer home especially if you have not met the person before. After paying a lot for a train ticket only to be told "Sorry i don't think there's any chemistry to go further" Then you are stuck with the situation in trying to get tickets changed etc !! ![]() It makes going to Hove quite acceptable. | |||
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"The furthest i have traveled is Liverpool, but i did stay more than one night and only because i had met the guy on a couple of occasion's before. But I don't think that i would do it all the time, much prefer to be nearer home especially if you have not met the person before. After paying a lot for a train ticket only to be told "Sorry i don't think there's any chemistry to go further" Then you are stuck with the situation in trying to get tickets changed etc !! ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"We travelled back to the UK south east for our first ever meet,with another couple both very nervous, great night dinner, drinks onto a club back to the hotel to our own rooms, and left it at that but got the feeling the male was defiantly after more. In hindsight an expensive first social meet, you live you learn. ![]() All that..... for a SOCIAL..??? ![]() ![]() | |||
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"We travelled back to the UK south east for our first ever meet,with another couple both very nervous, great night dinner, drinks onto a club back to the hotel to our own rooms, and left it at that but got the feeling the male was defiantly after more. In hindsight an expensive first social meet, you live you learn. ![]() ![]() ![]() Got to start somewhere right ![]() | |||
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"We travelled back to the UK south east for our first ever meet,with another couple both very nervous, great night dinner, drinks onto a club back to the hotel to our own rooms, and left it at that but got the feeling the male was defiantly after more. In hindsight an expensive first social meet, you live you learn. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() True.... but.... ![]() | |||
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"We travelled back to the UK south east for our first ever meet,with another couple both very nervous, great night dinner, drinks onto a club back to the hotel to our own rooms, and left it at that but got the feeling the male was defiantly after more. In hindsight an expensive first social meet, you live you learn. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Lol did kill 2birds and one stone , saw family as well. ![]() | |||
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"I have travelled to Leeds, Manchester, soon going to London and planning a trip further North...for some play time, well I sure hope it won't be just coffee but nothing is ever certain. There is always something new to discover when travelling! For a social meet, a coffee and a chat? 45 mins max as the OP said." But its over a hour to meadowhall ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I've been getting a lot of guys wanting to meet who live quite far from me. I don't accommodate overnight so turn them down. They always say they can drive/travel but, when push comes to shove, I have found, in the past, that actually they don't and usually cancel - most often at the last minute. What do others think of this? Always been my experience that a guy is prepared to travel and have done up to 3 hours, one guy doing so two days in a row, the first day no play and second day no guarantee of play. I think if people are of the mindset they don't mind travelling then they will." I agree I will travel 200 miles for just a coffee nothing else expected except pleasant conversation with the right person.but would have got to chat with messages before hand to get to know them first | |||
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"I have travelled to Leeds, Manchester, soon going to London and planning a trip further North...for some play time, well I sure hope it won't be just coffee but nothing is ever certain. There is always something new to discover when travelling! For a social meet, a coffee and a chat? 45 mins max as the OP said. But its over a hour to meadowhall ![]() ![]() One the 125 bike Hunnie....first time I was in the car...35 mins only ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I've been getting a lot of guys wanting to meet who live quite far from me. I don't accommodate overnight so turn them down. They always say they can drive/travel but, when push comes to shove, I have found, in the past, that actually they don't and usually cancel - most often at the last minute. What do others think of this?" I get this too - one side quite flattered but as you say if you don't click then I'm worried that I'd be called a time waster. So I say we can message but that be all | |||
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"For me, it depends on how I've got on with the person I'm chatting with & how we get along. If I feel that we get along well, then I'd be inclined to travel about hour & half drive each way. " So not Aberdeen to Manchester or London to Manchester! That's kind of my point. I know some do and that's fine, but in my experience, once reality bites there's usually a cancellation so I avoid distance meets entirely. | |||
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"I travel all over the country so it's slightly different. Furthest I have done for a meet is 7 hours. 2 hours for a coffee but only because i was going to the general area. Obviously wouldn't travel that far solely for a one off meet with someone you didn't know. " looking at doing a road trip to Aberdeen from Chester ..but weve met before ![]() | |||
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"I travel all over the country so it's slightly different. Furthest I have done for a meet is 7 hours. 2 hours for a coffee but only because i was going to the general area. Obviously wouldn't travel that far solely for a one off meet with someone you didn't know. looking at doing a road trip to Aberdeen from Chester ..but weve met before ![]() In fact we met after a long distance social meet.....I might even be tempted to travel to Chester tonight ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I travel all over the country so it's slightly different. Furthest I have done for a meet is 7 hours. 2 hours for a coffee but only because i was going to the general area. Obviously wouldn't travel that far solely for a one off meet with someone you didn't know. looking at doing a road trip to Aberdeen from Chester ..but weve met before ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Clean sheets on the bed ready ![]() | |||
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