FabSwingers.com forum: Mens pictures on couples profiles?

By *lamboyantPear OP Couple
12 weeks ago

Bristol

Just an observation but why do most couples profiles have next to no pictures of the male half of the couple?

There could be 20 pictures of the lady and if you are lucky 2-3 of the man! Are women not interested in the men's bodies at all? Do they only want to know he's got a working cock and don't care what its attached too?Or is it that men are shy about having their picture taken?

It can be very frustrating for couples when searching for another couple to play with?

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By *oralltherightreasonsCouple
12 weeks ago

WELLINGBOROUGH

Women are just better to look at and get the most attention

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By *riar BelisseWoman
12 weeks ago

Bliss

I've found some are because, he likes/is only agreed, to watch in their dynamic

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By *randmrs 1st timeCouple
12 weeks ago

bolton

"Women are just better to look at and get the most attention"

Exactly and seeing it’s the wife who plays the most in our profile that’s why pics are of the wife and not the husband

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
12 weeks ago

kent

We’re fairly evenly split on our profile - we don’t always play as a couple, but we are very much together x

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
12 weeks ago

Stoke

Ours are roughly 3 of me to 1 of the fella because we're mainly after couples, but some couples are just after singles so they may be different.

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By *r SmartypantsMan
12 weeks ago

London

"We’re fairly evenly split on our profile - we don’t always play as a couple, but we are very much together x"

Classy and Tactile. #NailedIt

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By *aggy dollsCouple
12 weeks ago

bradford

We've tried to get a balance however I like taking pics of luna and taking pics of me is the furthest from her mind, add to that there's usually a greater array of lingerie/sexy outfits for females you have to get quite inventive to get a "sexy" pic of a guy.

Mr H

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By *aitonelMan
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

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By *aitonelMan
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

"Women are just better to look at and get the most attention"

Better to look it is HIGHLY debatable.

Regardless of that, the gen pop and nature of the place just gravitates towards what gets the attention as you say, and when you actually look what are MOST (not all) couples looking for? A bi woman or a straight man, or both. And other couples of course. They are definitely in the majority camp.

Play to your target audience.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"Women are just better to look at and get the most attention"

Disagree!

Nothing beats a hot guy.

If your other half isn't hot, makes sense to not show him

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By *WANDTGCouple
12 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

I think it's up to the couple. There's roughly double the amount of my partner's pics , but there are more facial ones of me. I suppose it's what you're comfortable with.

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By *issmorganWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I've found this frustrating for years, as a straight woman who is half a couple.

We just use it as a filter now & don't engage with those profiles that have 99 pics of the lady and just a token cock pic.

I get it if only the lady plays, but otherwise don't understand why a couple looking for women or other couples wouldn't want to show both parties.

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By *ink vixenCouple
12 weeks ago

Medway

Have you asked admin to make everyone’s profile meet your requirements?

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I get message from couples and they seem to expect me to go on a blind meeting by not showing any pics of the male half.

Most of the time if I see a couple profile and there are no pictures of the male half then I assume it's another fake profile of time waster and don't even bother answering.

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By *EAT..85Woman
12 weeks ago

Nottingham

It is often missing pictures of men in couples profiles that put me off them. I like it when there are shots of them cuddling or linking arms or similar, rather than all action and sultry. It makes them more couply to me.

Thinking on it, there are probably more single male accounts with two people in the photos than couples accounts!

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By *oodtoshare2Couple
12 weeks ago

harrogate

I really don't like having my picture taken. But there are quite a few of me on our profile.

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By *parkle1974Woman
12 weeks ago

Leeds

The women are clickbait

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By *amierebelMan
12 weeks ago

My own little world

Shyness. Or realise who’s going get the attention

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By *r SmartypantsMan
12 weeks ago

London

"The women are clickbait

This is it!

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By *AF2020Couple
12 weeks ago

Central Scotland

"I've found this frustrating for years, as a straight woman who is half a couple.

We just use it as a filter now & don't engage with those profiles that have 99 pics of the lady and just a token cock pic.

I get it if only the lady plays, but otherwise don't understand why a couple looking for women or other couples wouldn't want to show both parties."

Couldn’t agree more!!

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By *rdere OpusCouple
12 weeks ago

Brum - ish

Absolutely agree. If you’re looking to play as a couple, why not put both of you out there?

We’ve aimed for a balance and find it frustrating when initially promising profiles turn out to include Mr Invisible.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
12 weeks ago

Coventry

It's a constant frustration for Mrs Misfit and thus one for me too. Because if Mrs Misfit can't gauge physical attraction for the guys we're unlikely to message first or reply.

As others have pointed out it's not just quantity of photos but what's in the photos of the guys. Or more what's not in the photo of the guys. We understand online privacy but we would like a flavour for the bodies of both of them. Not just the guys bits, even 10 times over. We don't mind it not being 50/50 obviously there's often more scope to show off Mrs. But please just give us something we can go off. It's not a game of blind date.

I hate this attitude that the guy is not important. That as long as he brings an attractive woman the other couple will potentially take one for the team. That's not how it works is it? I know personally I don't want to be with a couple of single female unless their attracted to me too not just because I come with the lovely Mrs Misfit. That doesn't work for us and why it's so important there's a good range of pictures of me too.

Personally it's not 50/50 exactly but we hope there is a decent range of both of us separately and together in our photos so people can get an idea of us both and gauge attraction to us as a couple.

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By *ivingadream..Couple
12 weeks ago

Peterborough

We also find this an issue.. at one point we even had a paragraph dedicated to it on the profile. X

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By *eronikapaulCouple
12 weeks ago

Reading

Hi OP...yes we completely agree with you regarding the lack of pics of "him" on many couple profiles. We think there is truth in many of the replies on this thread. Some have simply sent the wife out to thumb the lift before rushing out of the undergrowth. Some perhaps just want a watching role. A lot may just view themselves as unattractive and since they do all of the fabmin dont include themselves. Many possibilities.

So you then look at our profile and find just the one pic of each of us which is not particularly enticing? However it is enough to tell you that we are real, and in keeping with your original post that both of us are real.

Not many people contact us and that is great. Perfect. We are not shy or inarticulate and are very happy to reach out to others who we find interesting..which we do. If they reply intelligibly then great and we happily offer further proof of fabulous desirability. If they don't, or can't, then no loss.

The net result is that if we are currently in conversation with you on here then you KNOW that we genuinely find you interesting and we know that you are smart enough to jump the limited pics hurdle. It's not perfect but like the genius single guy tactic of "fab the oldest pic" it works ok and we find nice people.

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By *-jonMan
12 weeks ago

London

"The women are clickbait

I 💯agree with you, quite often messages coming through “couples” profiles turn out complete BS. It’s a way to bypass “not looking for men” on a profile 🙄

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By *eyeYCouple
12 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

We hope ours is relatively balanced, I think D is hot and we both play equally, so feel it's right he's represented.. 😘 Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

It’s straight culture to see women as objects and men as subjects

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

People can post what they want on their profiles of course.

But it's always been the same.

Likewise there's plenty of single male profiles where there's more shots of random women in them than the profile owner. Strangely you never see the same on single women's profiles......🤔

The best fun to be had is when you have to play 'body part jigsaw' to try and work out what someone would look like. Takes ages to print out various body parts and stick them together with tape. 🤷‍♂️

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By *unlovinCouple
12 weeks ago

Midlands

We try and mix our pics up , after all it’s a couples profile , with no hidden surprises

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By *is and hers 2024Couple
12 weeks ago

york

Majority of couples have a bi female or are looking for a bi female, therefore they show the females.

It's mainly the woman that plays so they only show the woman.

It's probably why on alot of couples profiles you'll see them asking to direct messages at both of them, otherwise it's just the women that get spoken to.

Mrs x

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By *viatrixWoman
12 weeks ago

Redhill

"Women are just better to look at and get the most attention

Disagree!

Nothing beats a hot guy.

If your other half isn't hot, makes sense to not show him "

This.

Whuch is why I don’t really pay attention to couples anymore. Only the lady is hot 95% of the time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

East Sussex

We're both straight. If I can't see the guy I'm supposed to be meeting even just for coffee, I won't meet. I find it insulting if anyone is happy to provide pictures for my husband and not me.

Experience has shown us that if a man is reluctant to show pictures of himself he's reluctant to meet and quite often only wants to watch his wife with another man.

I know not all profiles that don't have pictures of the guy are like this but it's happened enough times to make me very wary.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
12 weeks ago

Brum - ish

"People can post what they want on their profiles of course.

But it's always been the same.

Likewise there's plenty of single male profiles where there's more shots of random women in them than the profile owner. Strangely you never see the same on single women's profiles......🤔

I’ve images of you busy with a 3D printer now Obi 😂

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By *erfHerder74Man
12 weeks ago

Inverclyde

Maybe the lady needs more attention?

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"Just an observation but why do most couples profiles have next to no pictures of the male half of the couple?

It can be very frustrating for couples when searching for another couple to play with?"

When my wife and I were still living together and on the site YEAR'S ago I would do the same, many of Sheila but only a few of myself...not all of us are confident about our bodies, I certainly am not.

Example..I met my wife when I was 27yrs old, she 33yrs, I had been working out since 13yrs BUT never once let anyone see me in a t-shirt 👕, not even my parents.

Then I met Sheila and she questioned me as to why I kept covered, I explained I'm not good enough to be seen in a t-shirt, she persuaded me to wear one out in public, I had some surprising complements which shocked me, so from 27yrs old I didn't hide away, felt horrible at first...like being naked in public

but now it doesn't bother me and even allow pictures taken, but I still feel insecure about my body.

I have learnt over the year's that many/most of us bodybuilders do suffer some mental issue's in one way or another.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"People can post what they want on their profiles of course.

But it's always been the same.

Likewise there's plenty of single male profiles where there's more shots of random women in them than the profile owner. Strangely you never see the same on single women's profiles......🤔

I’ve images of you busy with a 3D printer now Obi 😂"

I can barely cope with a 2D one.

3D would send me off the scale.

Printers are the cats of the tech world. They're dicks.......😂😂😂

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By *rdere OpusCouple
12 weeks ago

Brum - ish

"People can post what they want on their profiles of course.

But it's always been the same.

Likewise there's plenty of single male profiles where there's more shots of random women in them than the profile owner. Strangely you never see the same on single women's profiles......🤔

I’ve images of you busy with a 3D printer now Obi 😂

I can barely cope with a 2D one.

3D would send me off the scale.

Printers are the cats of the tech world. They're dicks.......😂😂😂"

Long live the ‘add to wallet’ ticket option.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
12 weeks ago

Lake District

We have pictures of both of us.

Generally speaking, the women's pictures gain more attention and traction to a profile than pictures of just him. Of course, pictures of both him and her together are excellent.

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By * WillisMan
12 weeks ago

London

It’s to utilise the woman as bait

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By *punk n gushCouple
12 weeks ago

deal

"Just an observation but why do most couples profiles have next to no pictures of the male half of the couple?

It can be very frustrating for couples when searching for another couple to play with?"

Op we find couples and singles only ever look at the lady no 1 ever looks and perves over me the Mr so is disheartening for me

The lack of interest

Mostly bi men or bi couples so as a straight couple it's hard to find trust worthy friends or fbs

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
12 weeks ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East

"I get message from couples and they seem to expect me to go on a blind meeting by not showing any pics of the male half.

Most of the time if I see a couple profile and there are no pictures of the male half then I assume it's another fake profile of time waster and don't even bother answering. "

I’m pretty much the same with this - when a couple both want to play if there is very little of the male on the profile or just a cock pic then I will delete their message.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Dartford

There are some of the oldman on our profile but he is shy x

I am shy but he loves taking pics of me and does so even when I'm not aware sometimes x I try to take some of him but I don't seem to be good at getting decent photos x

But the ladies we meet always tell us that he is underrepresented and they want to see more of him. I feel like he is really the star of the show and those that have met us will usually agree with me xx

If anyone does photography and needs some models we'd be up for getting some better pictures.

Mrs x

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
12 weeks ago

There and Here

If a couple want to meet me then I want to see both of them. If they can't or won't, then I won't engage with them. I've heard all the excuses and none of them fly.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Dartford

"If a couple want to meet me then I want to see both of them. If they can't or won't, then I won't engage with them. I've heard all the excuses and none of them fly.

We are always happy to do a video call to show us both, we know how frustrating it is dealing with fakes on here. They soon disappear if they are fakes when confronted with a vid call!

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By *hat.coupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Dartford

On a separate note, we met a lady we'd chatted to for a while this weekend, and the first thing she exclaimed was "OMG! You look exactly like your pictures!" She later explained that she was sick of meeting people to discover they look nothing like thier pics. We don't use filters for this exact reason.

Mrs x

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
12 weeks ago

There and Here

"If a couple want to meet me then I want to see both of them. If they can't or won't, then I won't engage with them. I've heard all the excuses and none of them fly.

We are always happy to do a video call to show us both, we know how frustrating it is dealing with fakes on here. They soon disappear if they are fakes when confronted with a vid call!"

I won't do a video call either. I don't need to prove myself. If people can't provide me with the basics here I'm happy to move on to those who can.

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By *lamboyantPear OP Couple
12 weeks ago

Bristol

Well that got more responses than we expected! Thankyou to everyone who took the time and made the effort.

It’s good to see we are not alone in our thoughts, we understand that everyone is different and for a multitude of different reasons profiles look different and have varying amounts of effort put into them.

The whole point of the question posed was that as a couple looking for other couples to chat to, meet, socialise with, potentially play with why are so many profiles of supposedly like minded couples who are looking for the same thing completely one sided and void of almost any pictures of him! We wouldn’t ever consider going any further without establishing that he was more than just a dick!

We atleast now don’t feel alone

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

East Sussex

"It’s to utilise the woman as bait "

If that's the case and they're fishing for straight couples they're not going to catch much

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By *unnyandthebookkeeperCouple
12 weeks ago

bristol

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By *unnyandthebookkeeperCouple
12 weeks ago

bristol

"We've tried to get a balance however I like taking pics of luna and taking pics of me is the furthest from her mind, add to that there's usually a greater array of lingerie/sexy outfits for females you have to get quite inventive to get a "sexy" pic of a guy.

Mr H"

Very much rings true.

I always grab my.cameta in action and snap her. However i find it hard to do worthwhile self portraits while in action.

But it does seem unduly weighted towards the woman.

I adore showing her off. But have a (possibly incorrect) feeling that fewer people are intetested in me.

It is something I should think about at least covering.

Bookkeeper

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By *lamboyantPear OP Couple
12 weeks ago

Bristol

You could be the hottest couple, the funniest couple, the most enigmatic, charming and real but without pictures of both halves of the couple we wouldn’t even consider conversation let alone anything else!

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By *rdere OpusCouple
12 weeks ago

Brum - ish

A common trend we've encountered is being winked by couples that have decent profile text, an attractive or fairly attractive female, but no pictures of him besides cock shots either by itself or in action.

Our first thought is that the male half isn't attractive, hence no pictures. Ultimately those winks go ignored.

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