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By *axwellGy OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Grimsby

The first message in my oponion is the most important, what do women prefer a nice polite message or something a bit more vulgar? I think it's nice to be polite but I also don't want to come across as a prude

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Mayfair

A polite message will open most doors to engaging with women, where a vulgar one will firmly shut any form of communication from the onset.

Whether your message is actually opened, regardless of quality, is anyone's guess, for nearly every woman who walks the corridors of Fab is often inundated with messages. Their ever-burgeoning inboxes remain insurmountable.

No one will think you're a prude. It's not by accident that you stumbled upon Fab when you were actually looking for the chess club at the local village hall. Good luck OP. ☮️🌈

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Try and tailor each message to the person you are messaging. Not that it’s worked for me. Ring here nearly 6 weeks and not even had a chat with anyone 🤷‍♂️

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Talk to women on here just like you would in person. Simples really.

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By *issmorganWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Definitely not vulgar op

It's an instant delete.

Read their profile and try and refer to something in it, plus only message those you're genuinely interested in.

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By *usty kayCouple
12 weeks ago

Burnham

It's not so much the message that's important but taking notice of whether you should message at all. Read the profile and check there is something in the profile that makes you think you'd actually be compatible.

My status says I'm not answering messages and not meeting but how many messages do you think I've had in 2 days that completely ignored that and how many do you think I've answered?

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By *ildTimes.Man
12 weeks ago

Colchester/London


"It's not so much the message that's important but taking notice of whether you should message at all. Read the profile and check there is something in the profile that makes you think you'd actually be compatible.

My status says I'm not answering messages and not meeting but how many messages do you think I've had in 2 days that completely ignored that and how many do you think I've answered?"

You know full well us guys don't read profiles !! 😂

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By *vaRose43Woman
12 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Definitely not vulgar

However if the bio is empty or lacking I won’t bother opening the message. I don’t need to be wasting both our times playing message ping-pong to get the very basics out of someone only to find we are completely incompatible

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By *hillingCouple
12 weeks ago

Near Chester

We get loads of very short messages and winks, despite our profile saying we will not respond to either.

As the female of a couple I look for someone who has read our profile and thought about whether they are a good fit for us. I want to know a bit about *you*, your personality, what makes you tick. I look at your profile and see whether it tells me anything I'm interested in, and I don't want to see dick pics. Believe it or not, for many (most?) women, your dick is not important

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By *axwellGy OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Grimsby

I do! But I have been told twice that I'm too polite?? Wtf. trying to find the balance and trying stand out when it's probably 15 blokes for every female on here is becoming difficult

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By *usty kayCouple
12 weeks ago

Burnham


"It's not so much the message that's important but taking notice of whether you should message at all. Read the profile and check there is something in the profile that makes you think you'd actually be compatible.

My status says I'm not answering messages and not meeting but how many messages do you think I've had in 2 days that completely ignored that and how many do you think I've answered?

You know full well us guys don't read profiles !! 😂"

It's infuriating. I see how hard it is from a guys side as I watch how much work my husband has to put in to get a single response so I totally get why some give in and just send random women cut and paste messages but I can't imagine that gets any better results

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By *axwellGy OP   Man
12 weeks ago

Grimsby


"It's not so much the message that's important but taking notice of whether you should message at all. Read the profile and check there is something in the profile that makes you think you'd actually be compatible.

My status says I'm not answering messages and not meeting but how many messages do you think I've had in 2 days that completely ignored that and how many do you think I've answered?

You know full well us guys don't read profiles !! 😂

It's infuriating. I see how hard it is from a guys side as I watch how much work my husband has to put in to get a single response so I totally get why some give in and just send random women cut and paste messages but I can't imagine that gets any better results "

I bet the difference in yours and his inboxes are telling. Well I keep trying and see if I can stand out a bit better 😁

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Mayfair


"I do! But I have been told twice that I'm too polite?? Wtf. trying to find the balance and trying stand out when it's probably 15 blokes for every female on here is becoming difficult "

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I'm afraid you are being played by whoever is telling you that you are too polite. Granted, there's probably a handful of women out of hundreds who will want the crass, the vulgarity, the filth and the inglorious cock photos. For me, personally, they represent the low-grade personality that I'm •not• looking for.

If it's your penchant, OP, knock yourself out.

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By *elix SightedMan
12 weeks ago

Cloud 8

Ignore everything above, OP, it’s timidness and, as you’ve already been told, too polite. You may not be aware but FAB actually stands for Filthy Abhorrent Beasts and messages of a graphic nature are encouraged.

Think about it - if women get 50 messages a day (at least) you need to stand out. Being polite and charming won’t do that. Alliterating utter filth in your first message will have them gushing and responding. Go into detail about your most depraved fantasy and how it involves their minge.

You are welcome. Update us with your success.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Ignore everything above, OP, it’s timidness and, as you’ve already been told, too polite. You may not be aware but FAB actually stands for Filthy Abhorrent Beasts and messages of a graphic nature are encouraged.

Think about it - if women get 50 messages a day (at least) you need to stand out. Being polite and charming won’t do that. Alliterating utter filth in your first message will have them gushing and responding. Go into detail about your most depraved fantasy and how it involves their minge.

You are welcome. Update us with your success."

[Glow makes notes]

[Glow decides use of ‘minge’ might be irrelevant]

A magnum opus will be composed.

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By *ou only live onceMan
12 weeks ago

London


"Talk to women on here just like you would in person. Simples really."

Begone with your common sense. There's no call for it here.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Talk to women on here just like you would in person. Simples really.

Begone with your common sense. There's no call for it here."

My common sense brings all the boys to the yard (where they nod agreeably and depart better, wiser people).

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By *amberwell45Man
12 weeks ago

North Shields

Read their profile and be courteous to reference it in your chat - let’s them know you have read it and digested it and you are genuine.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
12 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Polite.... Always polite!

Vulgar gets blocked.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
12 weeks ago

North West

Be polite, read the bios. Just talk normally as you would in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

As this is meant to be a sex site I prefer a message that reflex that.

I am not interested in small talk, save both our time by getting to the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I jump straight to message 4 and get blocked

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By *exxyyDy11Man
12 weeks ago

North West


"I jump straight to message 4 and get blocked "

How about message 5?

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By *reggSausageMan
12 weeks ago

derby

Add Shakespeare, the ladies love a lengthy piece of poetry so go all in ….. to be or not to be and so on and so forth, you can hear the panties drop from the next postcode

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By *elix SightedMan
12 weeks ago

Cloud 8


"the ladies love a lengthy piece, you can hear the panties drop from the next postcode"

FTFY

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Central

Respectful and polite please, if you want to be taken seriously

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By *rezzy876Man
12 weeks ago

St. Helens / Merseyside

Politeness goes along way some persons will never understand that but,hey, a lot of crazy people in this world ignore and move on. The block button do wonders in this site.

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