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"Someone like that spoils it for all the decent single guys on here " No, it really doesn't. | |||
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"Not all of us single guys are like that and they do ruin it for the good guys. " Again, it doesn't. | |||
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"Someone like that spoils it for all the decent single guys on here No, it really doesn't." This. 💯 Nothing anyone else does reflects on me and vice versa. OP, just use your filters. Block incoming mail from men and when you're in the mood for one, send messages yourself. A simple and effective solution. Alternatively just block anyone who pesters. They won't do it again. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"So we're a returning couple, who predominantly want to play with other couples. We have however had a couple of meetings with single males. We get a lot of messages from single guys who want to meet. Sometimes we chat with these guys, sometimes not. We often get the answer "I have a FB that I can bring" which we would be happy with. Invariably however this never happens, and in one case recently this guy became pushy and aggressive to the point of getting blocked. We must've said no at least six times to this guy for a single meet. So my point is this. Is this a common experience here on fab? We're finding more negative experiences than positive so far. Although when things work out they work out REALLY well. Why push things so far that you become an aggressive arsehole that gets blocked. Discuss. " Your experience on Fabs is entirely controlled by you - if you're finding some, or many pushy guys, you're doing things wrong. There's the whole range of people on here from lovely to dangerous, bear that in mind and use your block button generously. K. | |||
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"So we're a returning couple, who predominantly want to play with other couples. We have however had a couple of meetings with single males. We get a lot of messages from single guys who want to meet. Sometimes we chat with these guys, sometimes not. We often get the answer "I have a FB that I can bring" which we would be happy with. Invariably however this never happens, and in one case recently this guy became pushy and aggressive to the point of getting blocked. We must've said no at least six times to this guy for a single meet. So my point is this. Is this a common experience here on fab? We're finding more negative experiences than positive so far. Although when things work out they work out REALLY well. Why push things so far that you become an aggressive arsehole that gets blocked. Discuss. Your experience on Fabs is entirely controlled by you - if you're finding some, or many pushy guys, you're doing things wrong. There's the whole range of people on here from lovely to dangerous, bear that in mind and use your block button generously. K." Its not always down to you, you cannot tell someone is going to be pushy until youve replied to them, why should i block all men and do my own search just because some idiots ruin it i could potentially miss out on some great guys.. yes i just block nowadays but the abuse is still given beforehand | |||
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"It’s a real shame that there are people like that on here - who spoil it for everyone else." Not quite. The transgressions of other people have never affected my experiences on here. "...but that does give us single men a bad reputation." I'm sorry to hear that you have a bad reputation on the back of other people's unacceptable behaviour. My reputation remains intact and I'm sure other's remain equally so. "As a newbie here and this lifestyle I’m finding it really difficult because of this perception. I’m a discreet honest restful guy but don’t even get chance to chat because of the perception. " Your lack of engagement is unrelated to the perceived 'perception' of men on here. I would suspect it's because it's a numbers game and men far outweigh the women on here, amongst other reasons... "Just keep blocking the bad ones but give us good guys a chance." Don't wait for chances from other people. Instead carve your own opportunities. | |||
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"So we're a returning couple, who predominantly want to play with other couples. We have however had a couple of meetings with single males. We get a lot of messages from single guys who want to meet. Sometimes we chat with these guys, sometimes not. We often get the answer "I have a FB that I can bring" which we would be happy with. Invariably however this never happens, and in one case recently this guy became pushy and aggressive to the point of getting blocked. We must've said no at least six times to this guy for a single meet. So my point is this. Is this a common experience here on fab? We're finding more negative experiences than positive so far. Although when things work out they work out REALLY well. Why push things so far that you become an aggressive arsehole that gets blocked. Discuss. Your experience on Fabs is entirely controlled by you - if you're finding some, or many pushy guys, you're doing things wrong. There's the whole range of people on here from lovely to dangerous, bear that in mind and use your block button generously. K. Its not always down to you, you cannot tell someone is going to be pushy until youve replied to them, why should i block all men and do my own search just because some idiots ruin it i could potentially miss out on some great guys.. yes i just block nowadays but the abuse is still given beforehand" You do however know that someone is pushy if they don't take no for an answer - you can then block. And I didn't say block all men - I just said use the block button generously - i.e. at the first sign that they're pushy, not after the sixth no. K | |||
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"I think if possible the site could benefit from a system where if you send a message to someone you can't send another message until you have received a reply back. Hence cutting out any abusive messages from people who can't take no etc." Bloody good idea | |||
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"I think if possible the site could benefit from a system where if you send a message to someone you can't send another message until you have received a reply back. Hence cutting out any abusive messages from people who can't take no etc. Bloody good idea" Se can get 100s of messages within a short space when we have a Meet up... some people just get missed. So we wouldn't like that | |||
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"I think if possible the site could benefit from a system where if you send a message to someone you can't send another message until you have received a reply back. Hence cutting out any abusive messages from people who can't take no etc. Bloody good idea Se can get 100s of messages within a short space when we have a Meet up... some people just get missed. So we wouldn't like that " only other way would be single guys can't message until they receive a message from a single female or couples that way cuts out the huge inbox of single females and couples. | |||
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"I think if possible the site could benefit from a system where if you send a message to someone you can't send another message until you have received a reply back. Hence cutting out any abusive messages from people who can't take no etc. Bloody good idea Se can get 100s of messages within a short space when we have a Meet up... some people just get missed. So we wouldn't like that only other way would be single guys can't message until they receive a message from a single female or couples that way cuts out the huge inbox of single females and couples. " The majority are respectful, again we wouldn't want that either. If people don't want messages of certain sexes then use filters to stop them. | |||
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"I wouldn't be giving anyone 6 no's before I block. First sign of not respecting boundaries and they're gone, I've also had pushy married men and women... So it's not just the single guys! " This! I have had pushy couples and females also on my case who have been very demanding and abusive when I've said no. | |||
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"I don't like pushy people. Very annoying when they suggest something that you would never try and then say things like maybe you should stick to tinder this site isn't for you. I have on my profile straight no men. And it's men messaging me telling me to meet them now with some graphic details" You can put up a filter to stop them messaging | |||
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"I don't like pushy people. Very annoying when they suggest something that you would never try and then say things like maybe you should stick to tinder this site isn't for you. I have on my profile straight no men. And it's men messaging me telling me to meet them now with some graphic details You can put up a filter to stop them messaging " I would but I don't mind talking to people without anything sexual expected. Just as a chat | |||
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