FabSwingers.com forum: Has this site become more of a look and see site

By *jlondon78 OP Man
6 weeks ago

Suffolk

What is it with this site it seems its become a site for whoever to look at you send one or two messages then either block or vanish . There are genuine people on here as I've had the pleasure of meeting them but I don't understand why if they are not genuine why bother to start a conversation then vanish

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By *exxyyDy11Man
6 weeks ago

Darwen

Either they've been outed by their partner and fuck off.

Or... they get a kick out of wasting people's time.

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By *ony MannMan
6 weeks ago

Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura

It's fantasy, and some think it's all fantasy

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By *mmaleiaWoman
6 weeks ago

Trowbridge

"why bother to start a conversation then vanish "

Free wank fodder

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By *sWyldWoman
6 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I'm not sure I follow you. I chat with people and sometimes within a few messages I realise they really aren't for me or vice versa. That's just the nature of meeting people online.

There are far too many people here who seem to feel entitled or don't care about mutual attraction etc.

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By *jlondon78 OP Man
6 weeks ago

Suffolk

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By *jlondon78 OP Man
6 weeks ago

Suffolk

"why bother to start a conversation then vanish

Free wank fodder"
you may be right

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
6 weeks ago

The Continental

Connections on here are largely short term and throwaway for a lot of people. It’s something you just have to get used to now.

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By *jlondon78 OP Man
6 weeks ago

Suffolk

"I'm not sure I follow you. I chat with people and sometimes within a few messages I realise they really aren't for me or vice versa. That's just the nature of meeting people online.

There are far too many people here who seem to feel entitled or don't care about mutual attraction etc. "

So they wink you message you start a conversation . Then after initially speaking and showing interest in meeting with you they vanish

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By *ittall2020Man
6 weeks ago

Norwich

If it's single females you are referring to then they are spoiled for choice, for instance a local status right now from a single lady "Sorry! I had over 400 messages and had to delete to start again xx".

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Sending a few messages doesn’t lock you in to a guaranteed shag.

How do you expect people to know if they are compatible without having a conversation first?

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
6 weeks ago

your head

Some people just change their minds, it happens 🤷‍♀️

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By *sWyldWoman
6 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"I'm not sure I follow you. I chat with people and sometimes within a few messages I realise they really aren't for me or vice versa. That's just the nature of meeting people online.

There are far too many people here who seem to feel entitled or don't care about mutual attraction etc.

So they wink you message you start a conversation . Then after initially speaking and showing interest in meeting with you they vanish "

Yup, maybe they just changed their mind, got put off by something? That seems fairly normal behavior. Just because I chat to someone, wink them, fab a photo etc, it doesn't mean I'm somehow then obliged to have sex with them??

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By *jlondon78 OP Man
6 weeks ago

Suffolk

"Sending a few messages doesn’t lock you in to a guaranteed shag.

How do you expect people to know if they are compatible without having a conversation first? "
I understand that I've been on here long enough to know that . But in all respect 10 years ago you would simply say thanks but no thanks manners cost nothing

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By *exxyyDy11Man
6 weeks ago

Darwen

"Sending a few messages doesn’t lock you in to a guaranteed shag.

How do you expect people to know if they are compatible without having a conversation first? I understand that I've been on here long enough to know that . But in all respect 10 years ago you would simply say thanks but no thanks manners cost nothing "

I believe the added numbers of single guys has caused women and couples to get swamped with messages. So it can be difficult to reply to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

no clue pal

never been an issue for h

spend my time fighting them off

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By *osey WalesMan
6 weeks ago

Surrey

Doesnt it ?

Damn

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By *jlondon78 OP Man
6 weeks ago

Suffolk

"no clue pal

never been an issue for h

spend my time fighting them off "
well in 2 months with no pictures or verifications you must be the exception good for you

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"Sending a few messages doesn’t lock you in to a guaranteed shag.

You should probably inform the people who don’t know how to accept a “thanks, but no thanks”.

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair

"... ...why bother to start a conversation then vanish "

The only way to guage suitability, compatibility or interest is to start a conversation, surely? If they aren't enthused or not feeling the vibe then there's a reasonable expectation that they will kill the conversation or just vanish.

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By *ansoffateMan
6 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

They were bought Cindy instead of Barbie as children.

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By *ellhungvweMan
6 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I genuinely think I live in a different world as I don’t see so many of the issues that continually get raised in the fora.

I rarely have conversations that just disappear but then I am pretty quick to cut conversations that I have _any_ doubt about.

I think that if you are continually finding yourself in the same situation - such as disappearing conversations - then you need to look at what you are doing that is putting you in that situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

There are a lot of people on here who can talk all the talk, but when it comes down to it, they really don't deliver what they promised.

So I think from the shame of it most end up ghosting people now before the meets happen or delete profiles once they get outed.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
6 weeks ago

Southampton

"There are a lot of people on here who can talk all the talk, but when it comes down to it, they really don't deliver what they promised.

So I think from the shame of it most end up ghosting people now before the meets happen or delete profiles once they get outed. "

Yup..

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"no clue pal

never been an issue for h

spend my time fighting them off well in 2 months with no pictures or verifications you must be the exception good for you "

h could take you under his wing

you wouldn’t be the first

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By *eductive_chaosWoman
6 weeks ago

Northumberland

Window shopper...mad at me, I think I know why

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By *ony MannMan
6 weeks ago

Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura

Sometimes the site works for me,

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