FabSwingers.com forum: Do you let

By *obilebottom OP Man
5 weeks ago

All over

bygones be bygones or subscribe to an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth when it comes to interactions with others ?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
5 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Letting bygones be bygones implies just allowing bad behaviour to continue.

I'm not interested in an eye for an eye and getting people back, but I do stop interacting with people who repeatedly show harmful behaviours 💜

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By *urry BlokeMan
5 weeks ago

Stalybridge

I don't think anyone has done anything so bad to me that I have been unable to forgive

Forget is another matter

There are people in my life who I keep at arms length and wouldn't get close to again but still recognise that there are bonds there for a reason

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By *he return of meMan
5 weeks ago

Leeds

Let by gones by by gones. Life too short for petty feuds

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Mostly I just won’t invest the energy but there are red lines. Pass those and yes things are gonna get medieval.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
5 weeks ago

Ends

Literally, most of the people that have wronged me that I don’t even care enough about them to do anything bad to them.

But there’s one person that wronged my fiance and I and I know I would gladly be a prick to her if given the chance.

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By *ernow1982Man
5 weeks ago

Plymouth

I just walk away. Haven't got the time, patience, energy or mental health to deal with arseholes. Not worth my effort. 😆

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By *hadowtoothMan
5 weeks ago

Glenrothes

Forgive us our tresspasses as we forgive them that tresspass against us.

O, and forgive yourself as well.

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By *ansoffateMan
5 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I'm quite happy to let bygones be bygones. If they're not and I have to poke their eye out before they leave me alone, then so be it.

Blue moon these days, I'm much better at avoiding getting involved, in the first place.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
5 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I used to eye for an eye. As I've gotten older I just cut them off

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
5 weeks ago

Leeds

No, I don't invite poor behavior and I don't excuse it, I like a peaceful easy life and if people make that difficult they are gone.

Time is precious I don't spend it with petty squabbling/revenge etc.

Mrs

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By *ink vixenCouple
5 weeks ago

Medway

My response is always disproportionate to the slight.

Revenge will be mine.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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5 weeks ago

East Sussex

I just turn my back physically, emotionally or both . I always remember a fiery, Portuguese woman I knew pretending to spit on the floor and saying "she's dead to me" about someone and that stuck with me

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
5 weeks ago

Coventry

Depends. Its calculation of how hurt or wronged I've been vs the effort or negative blowback doing something about it will have. With the addition calculation of if action will improve a situation or deter future problems. My thinking is not so much revenge but a calculation of outcomes.

However there is an intrinsic default in my to hit back even when doing so would cut my nose of to spite my face. However taking a step back and letting logic step in helps me to make better and more calculated options.

And I have a long memory. If my decision is retribution its not necessarily instant. Sometimes it can be way down the line, calculated and saved for the time of optimum effect. If I'm set on retribution it's often very cutting.

But most of the time best calculation is to simply let it go and not waste my time and energy on such negative things.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
5 weeks ago

Stoke

I'm a nice guy and I treat everyone as I'm treated, but I'm not one to be messed with. I'll scorch your sole and settle a score if I have to, no worries there.

Mrs F is way too nice to everyone, she's just a beautiful person who cares for everyone.

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By *amie HantsWoman
5 weeks ago

Atlantis

I don’t really have a great deal of negative interactions. I’m pretty laid back most of the time.

The rest of the time is different. I currently have one nemesis and 3 enemies. My nemesis took a tone with me in March 2024 and I haven’t forgotten.

Besides that pretty chill

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By *eavilMan
5 weeks ago

Stalybridge

As I have gotten older I have found that bearing grudges or plotting vengeance gets you nowhere. Life is too short - just move on.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
5 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

It all depends on how much I let it get under my skin, I normally chunter on for a while and then let karma take over

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By *ornucopiaMan
5 weeks ago

Bexley

I've always had a byg one and very content with that sytuation!

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By *olly MistlehoeWoman
5 weeks ago

Somewhere

Mostly ignore it...

If someone's generally a shitty person to others, they probably won't recognise it about themselves.

Don't bother wasting your own energy on trying to get back at them, or trying to make them realise they're a dick.

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