FabSwingers.com forum: Why Message?

By *unInTheSun80s OP Couple
14 weeks ago

Costa Del Sol

Thought I would ask this question.

If you are not with driving distance, or visiting that area, or even in the same country?

Whats the actual point?

Waisting both users time??

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By *icecouple561Couple
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14 weeks ago

East Sussex

I guess it depends on the message. We often get messages from people in Scotland and Ireland. We often have a nice chat with them and that's all it is.

If you don't want to do that it's fair though

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By *aitonelMan
14 weeks ago

Liverpool

Waste of time is highly based upon opinion and perspective.

Plenty of reasons, decent ones at that, to contact others in certain areas ahead of time to actually being in that area.

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By *iker JackMan
14 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Some people don’t mind travelling for meets especially if it’s someone they really like or just click with

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By *oodmessMan
14 weeks ago

yumsville

I've met people from Wales, London, far South West and East.. people do meet and travel if you get on and willing to make an effort

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
14 weeks ago

Ends

Waistmen

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By *ansoffateMan
14 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Some people are happy travel. Others it's more finding the right people than the convenience.

I have travelled considerable distances for a few people I really liked. It's not the norm for me though, and that's really a reflection that I would struggle to maintain a relationship over such a distance, for practical reasons.

I don't think of it as a waste of time though, just because the outcome wasn't perfectly ideal.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
14 weeks ago

North West

I'm more than happy to travel. Even though I'm based in the North West (Lancashire). Distance isn't a problem. Of course will need a bit of planning beforehand. But not an issue.

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By *vaRose43Woman
14 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Some people are happy to travel

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By *ecky124TV/TS
14 weeks ago

Middlewich

I don’t mind sometimes it’s nice just to have a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

I messaged someone in Ireland and met them. Because I was going to be there a certain weekend and had a spare ticket to a gig

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

But I do get annoyed when they send a message saying like fancy a bj and they're like 200+ miles away

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By *didasmanukMan
14 weeks ago

Staines

I have had people 200 miles away asking for a meet up & been refused saying 30 is too far away.ill happily travel 100 miles if it feels right (depending on what the situation is,of course) mind you,having now turned down the 200 mile trip.sort of think now what could have been

Oh well,onwards and upwards

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By *eroLondonMan
14 weeks ago

Mayfair

All but one of my dates have been with women hundreds of miles away. Geographical disparities can be dispiriting but I've never let distance be a hindrance in meeting people.

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By *issmorganWoman
14 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm not sure on the answer either tbh op.

I wonder it too, when I get someone 200+miles messaging me, unless they visit near by regularly, I don't get it.

I had a man say he'd come from Dover to see me once, it's like a ten hour round drive.

I think some are after more pics or sex chat,just my experience, but I soon shut that down.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
14 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

What do you consider an acceptable driving distance, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Personally I go for people I like not those that are just convenient.

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By *tsJustKateWoman
14 weeks ago

London

"Thought I would ask this question.

If you are not with driving distance, or visiting that area, or even in the same country?

Whats the actual point?

Waisting both users time??

I ask that question every day. So frustrating having to delete them all.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
14 weeks ago

Ends

"Personally I go for people I like not those that are just convenient. "

We’ll make it work❤️

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By *ornucopiaMan
14 weeks ago

Bexley

"Thought I would ask this question.

If you are not with driving distance, or visiting that area, or even in the same country?

Whats the actual point?

Waisting both users time??

Where is it decreed that messages have to be related to meeting?

Most of the messages I get or send are forum related or of a general nature or are from existing friends.

Perhaps you are mainly talking about 'FAF?' type exchanges?

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By *unInTheSun80s OP Couple
14 weeks ago

Costa Del Sol

Ok definitely should have explained better.. it says on our profile we live in spain. Had countless messages like the following… can I come and please your mrs…..lives in Dundee and when asked… no not coming on holiday either… anyways sorry for the rant just wished ppl would read profile..

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By *arley QuimWoman
14 weeks ago

Somewhere

"Ok definitely should have explained better.. it says on our profile we live in spain. Had countless messages like the following… can I come and please your mrs…..lives in Dundee and when asked… no not coming on holiday either… anyways sorry for the rant just wished ppl would read profile.."

Your profile also states 'Greater London'... So that might cause some confusion?

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By *iss.BellaWoman
14 weeks ago

Wales

So, I'm only allowed to message people in north Wales now?

there's only six of us (and they've all shagged each other already).

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
14 weeks ago

Central

I think you find your own balance for what works for you here. And not everyone is here to do what they say are their objectives. Judge by behaviour and actions, not talk.

I've given some the benefits of the doubt a fair few times. I no longer do very long distance chat. I've learned a lot in 15 years here. The silliest was someone over 10,000 miles away, to fuck me within a day which they tried to start explaining as plausible.

. Some like the power.

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By *akingtheplungeMan
14 weeks ago

kent

I travel alot anyway also I'm happy to travel to meet but I've made friends with people that I may never meet

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

"So, I'm only allowed to message people in north Wales now?

there's only six of us (and they've all shagged each other already). "

That made me laugh

Added issue of risk of being related to those in the "Nearby" list.

If I'm meeting, 30miles is max.

If I want to chat shit without consequences, 200+ miles is good.

(I'm doing neither currently)

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By *etsbenaughty69Couple
14 weeks ago

somewhere

"I guess it depends on the message. We often get messages from people in Scotland and Ireland. We often have a nice chat with them and that's all it is.

If you don't want to do that it's fair though"

Ditto..

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By *xmman2023Man
14 weeks ago

wrexham

Maybe to pay a compliment x

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By *adeiteWoman
14 weeks ago

Stafford

Some people like to chat or flirt. I myself enjoy it. Some people use this to arrange meets only in clubs. Some only meet from here. Some never meet and just chat. There's really no right or wrong way to use this place.

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