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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"When you’re meeting someone for the first time do you put a “safety net” in place? Let someone else know where you are?"
Not usually. I've been doing this a long time and have a good nose for trouble. If I ever felt any doubts, I wouldn't go.
"Public meets only or before you may go on to somewhere else?"
Absolutely prefer a public meet, usually a cuppa somewhere. If we've spent a longer time getting to know one another and there is clear chemistry, then I wouldn't mind meeting at their home. But again, I'd be cautious.
"Have you ever had a feeling where you think something’s just not right here?"
Nope, never. Funnily enough, the feelings of caution and worry always appear AFTER meeting and spending time together, when certain people can't hide their true nature for too much longer.
Never had any issues prior to meeting, always after. Used to think I was the catalyst for that, but have been reassured by everyone who knows me that it wasn't. Hard to not beat yourself up about these things, but nowadays I just walk away and carry on, if it goes sideways.
"And lastly what advice would you give people who are less experienced in regards to keeping safe?"
Never be desperate enough to put yourself at risk, or compromise your ideals and morals.
Take your time and get to know someone first. While you can't ever truly know a person, especially a stranger, at least you can eliminate some obvious red flags before meeting.
Use common sense and your instincts. It's easy to be blinded by all the pretty people and promises of sex. It doesn't always work out, so keep a logical head on your shoulders before exposing yourself to others.
If you have doubts whether you can do this, wait until you're certain. Speak to others about it, ask questions, but don't take every answer at face value. There are lots of high and mighty opinions here, some of which might be clouded by their own judgment.
Listen, absorb, form your own opinions and weigh up the pros and cons. In other words, just be sensible. Don't take unnecessary risks and try to enjoy the experience.
If you're not having fun, it's not always that you're doing it wrong (like I've seen said multiple times), you simply might not be suited to the lifestyle. |