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By (user no longer on site) OP   
4 weeks ago

My partner and I are visiting our first club in December.

What's the etiquette on people playing on a large bed together?

If we were to join the group or we were on the bed first, do others ask before touching or take it for granted that because we're on the bed in the first place it's routine so to speak.

We are aware that consent is always a priority, We're curious to see how things progress.

Any ideas help would be much appreciated.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
4 weeks ago

wonderland.

They should always ask.. regardless of which bed.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
4 weeks ago

Dartford


"My partner and I are visiting our first club in December.

What's the etiquette on people playing on a large bed together?

If we were to join the group or we were on the bed first, do others ask before touching or take it for granted that because we're on the bed in the first place it's routine so to speak.

We are aware that consent is always a priority, We're curious to see how things progress.

Any ideas help would be much appreciated. "

Always ask before you do anything regardless of the situation I say x

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
4 weeks ago

Thanks for sharing, we weren't 100% sure what the rules were for group play...

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
4 weeks ago

Swansea

As above poster advised, always ask.

Mrs

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Central

Each person should ask and get consent, before any contact. Beware of those who may look to muscle in, when they see several people about to engage.

And potentially be prepared to close doors, subject to the arena, when you might want to limit it to the current group, which can mean that you can relax more, as you won't get interlopers randomly joining in, leaving you incorrectly thinking that it's someone else that's doing something to you

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
4 weeks ago

Coventry

Alot of couples who want to join in genrally will position themselves on the bed and start playing together as a couple first. This genrally gives the message to others you're in (as opposed to being a spectator).

From here this is where others may aproach you or you may aproach them. The etiquette is actually rather simple and something that becomes easier with experience.

From our experience orgy beds are a bit like when to have a few seperate puddles of water that slow move towards each other until they join to become a few bigger puddles or even one big one. It's sometimes just beautiful to watch how people connect in an orgy room and how the action grows. So maybe a good tip is to spend a bit of time in the orgy room first just watching and seeing how others go about it.

It's a lot about judgement and reading people. If people are interested they may move closer towards you first to test the waters. Likewise if you're intrested you may do the same. Consent of course is key. And it's not always verbal. Sometimes it's just a smile, some eye contact. Sometimes it's just a hand gesture or movement towards someone's body with a pause to check its ok before going in and touching. Generally you know when it's OK and your presence/kiss/touch is welcome. However if you are in any doubt it's really OK to ask can I join in, may I touch you, may I kiss you. Always ask if there's doubt. Then it's just the same communication and cautious feeling your way as with any other first time with someone new.

Just also be OK if someone says no thanks. It's not a personal rejection. It's just you're not their type, they're happy with what is going on as it is or they maybe just in it for the pure exhibitionism and ambiance as a couple. Likewise you may have time when others want to join in but they are not for you. Simply be polite but clear and assertive in saying no thank you.

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