FabSwingers.com forum: FWB/FB

By *IXEN200 OP Woman
6 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

Whatever term you wish to use for someone you have sex with on a regular basis. Have you ever caught feelings for them, if so hav they been reciprocated or not?

If not what was the outcome of it?

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By *iker JackMan
6 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I can’t have sex without some kind of feelings. Maybe it’s more of an attraction but I still have to like them

For any FB or FWB, for me, communication is key, where one person wants or needs more than the other can give or wants.

At that point I walked away. I am not giving any unreciprocated feelings to someone or want them to give them to me because they think that’s what I need rather than what they actually feel

Did it hurt? Yes it did

Was I better for it? God yes

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I had one NSA situationship where yes I did catch feels and they were not reciprocated. After that I avoided long term FWB situations.

Met OH on here and became v clear early on that I was going to catch feels ..... I communicated that and that i could not see him long term if he did not feel the same .... it was very mutual ... so we are now in a full relationship and love each other.

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By *haiababeWoman
6 weeks ago

North devon

I kind of use both depending on how i interact with someone. For example one guy i sometimes see we mostly only talk about sex and the next time we meet etc. I do refer to him as a fb. Where another messages every day asks how thing are and we chat about other stuff not just sex. He is a fwb.

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By *eliWoman
6 weeks ago

Caught feelings? No. It sounds like feelings are an emotional STI. I've developed them before, yes. Then gone on to date the person. One I'm engaged to.

I've never had feelings not be reciprocated. In part, I think that's because I'm quite cautious. I put a wall up if I think there's a chance it's not reciprocated. Stops any potential hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

In some respects it's a strange question. If they are a FWB they are your friend, so naturally there are feelings for them. My last FWB was a friend for years (and we still chat online), the benefits were secondary to the friendship.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

In the past, yeah.

Now I don't meet anyone more than once so it doesn't happen.

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
6 weeks ago

St Leonards

I love feelings.

I also know they are, overwhelmingly and with only some very specific exceptions, sneaky little decepticons that like to play fascinating tunes on multiple instruments to enthrall and entrap you. So I play with them as they play with me, and I love it.

They're great. The music is great. The deception is thoroughly pleasurable.

And they're cheeky little fuckers you need to keep a close eye on, because they often reveal much darker motives behind their virtuosity.

So you wrestle them to the ground, stare them in the eye, shame them, and then let them play again. If they can.

Because they are fun.

But only a twit trusts they're fully real, honest, or everlasting.

Some very minor but notable exceptions, but none really in the world of romance and sexuality.

Those sands are far more exciting and fulfilling because of their ever-shifting and unreliable nature.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes of course. Don’t think I could have sex on a regular basis without some sort of feelings. Never been an issue. But I’m not a swinger so I suppose I have a different mindset 🤷‍♀️

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By *he AmbassadorMan
6 weeks ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

I had a RFB when I joined here first, and she told me that she fell for her previous FB, went into detail how she was willing to throw her marriage away for him but he dumped her at the 12th hour, she went into some details on how she fell for him. Few months later I saw the same trend happening with her, as I had come out of a long term relationship and was still headffked I had no interest in being BF material, lucky for me the job sent me states side for months and it fizzled out.but in short ,in the past if I feel the feelings coming on I'm getting itchy feet. No interest in being a happy hostage anymore.

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By *irtydesires2024Man
6 weeks ago

West Midlands

"Whatever term you wish to use for someone you have sex with on a regular basis. Have you ever caught feelings for them, if so hav they been reciprocated or not?

If not what was the outcome of it?"
Yes and it was fine we are both at that stage and have agreed that is where we will stay.

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
6 weeks ago

Swansea

When I was single I had 3 FB's at one point, and I didn't have feelings for any of them. I liked them but not enough to want to do anything other than have sex with them.

I would regularly check in with myself by asking "can you walk away?" the answer was always yes, easily. I regularly met 2 of them for over 3 years until I was ready to stop. I ended it with the 3rd person after a short time as some red flags regarding his personality began appearing.

Mrs

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By *ernow1982Man
6 weeks ago

Plymouth

Yeah, myself and a FWB caught feelings for one another very quickly, over a short period of time.

We were ridiculously perfect for each other. Everything was dialed up to insane levels and the whole thing was a bit of a shock to the system. It wasn't what we had planned out and would have been very difficult, given our situations at the time.

We talked about it maturely and decided that it would be best to part ways. Made us feel like shit, but it was the right thing to do.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

I probably develop feelings for most people that I interact with! I love emotional connection.

It's only been serious once. We started off as FWBs but it developed into a 14 month relationship. Definitely reciprocated. But it ended disastrously.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"I probably develop feelings for most people that I interact with! I love emotional connection.

It's only been serious once. We started off as FWBs but it developed into a 14 month relationship. Definitely reciprocated. But it ended disastrously. "

Sorry to hear it ended disasterously

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair

I sometimes develop strong feelings - not based upon love, but adoration and appreciation. I don't push away those feelings or pretend they aren't there but I'm also in full acceptance of any boundaries.

I instinctively catch feelings with my sensual net like catching butterflies. 🦋 Without feelings Fåb would be less interesting for me. Having feelings doesn't necessarily mean full blown romance or spousal conditions. It gives me substance for my dalliances.

Perhaps I'm old fashioned.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
6 weeks ago

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I have. They were.

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By *viatrixWoman
6 weeks ago

Redhill

Yes, of course… if I’m seeing them often it is because I enjoy their company apart from the sex®️so yeah, have fallen really hard for them. I fall in love very easily 🥲😂

One eventually vanished after a very long, painful, drawn-out process of going with “I love you but …”, and the other one- well, we said we’re adults, aren’t we, so we’re going to acknowledge these feelings, keep them there, but also be very realistic of our situations. So feelings have been parked and distance and a lot of work/keeping busy has really helped.

Still, my heart jumps whenever I see a catch-up message from him on here.

Time for coffee and toast! *exits left*

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By *ansoffateMan
6 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Feelings? Do you mean some kind of neural response to a stimulus? Yes this occurs during sexual activity with said person.

Reciprocated, it would seem probable that the individual also experienced a neural response. Given that they are human and alive.

Outcomes, the human began following me around, rubbing themselves on me, saying I'm hungry, fuck me and leaving their personal possessions in my abode. There are now shoes everywhere.

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By *usty kayCouple
6 weeks ago

Burnham

Going through this now, feelings very much reciprocated which makes it worse in my situation. Keep trying to hold onto something but inevitably we've got to let each other go. Trying to find a way to keep the friendship as that's the important bit

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By *nya NeesWoman
6 weeks ago

Brum

Feelings...yuk.

But yes and yes

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
6 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"Whatever term you wish to use for someone you have sex with on a regular basis. Have you ever caught feelings for them, if so hav they been reciprocated or not?

If not what was the outcome of it?"

Feelings developed with now partner..Well that hook up fucked up....🤣🤣🤣 mr

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By *IXEN200 OP Woman
6 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

Thank you for all the responses, I've read some very interesting posts, it's much appreciated that people take time in putting a reply to posts.

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By *igjonny090Man
6 weeks ago

blackpool and Manchester

I’ve had a couple of different fb and they’ve gone different ways, both times there were feelings involved but at the start one of them we made a rule that if we began to fall in love we had to stop it there and then, the other ended up in a relationship which lasted a few years but ended unfortunately

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
6 weeks ago

Swansea

"When I was single I had 3 FB's at one point, and I didn't have feelings for any of them. I liked them but not enough to want to do anything other than have sex with them.

Mrs"

The one she caught feelings for never got the chance to become a FB/FWB. It was meet, wtf happened there, it's complicated, dating, living together, married

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

Just once but he reconnected with the one who got away.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Met my dream woman here. Never saw her coming. Didn't think she would even look at me. Way way out of my league. Couldn't believe we went for coffee. Let alone what would materialize over the next few months.

Lots of feelings. I messed it up by getting to close, too emotional. Had to call it off. Kick myself for spoiling it but I have to be honest and be myself. I have so many memories and feel privileged to have been able to be a part of her life.

Made me so happy...still think of her now. An amazing woman. It's a dangerous game sometimes?....

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By *aarv80Man
6 weeks ago

Crumlin

Recently met someone on here, definitely in the realms of catching feelings for her.

But I'm also full awake of her situation and know full well it will never happen, so I'm just enjoying my time with her until it's over

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By *uriousscouserWoman
6 weeks ago

Wirral

Friendly feelings yes. Romantic feelings no.

One of my favourite ever FWBs unfortunately built up a huge romantic scenario in his head where we fell in love, got married and had babies and the let-down when I wasn't in the same place as him made for a horrid end to a gorgeous arrangement.

Well, in fairness he impregnated another woman when we were supposedly monogamous, so maybe the horridness wasn't entirely down to him catching feelings. It was a contributing factor though.

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By *ustMe123xWoman
6 weeks ago

Essex

I had a fwb for 18 months, use to chat every day meet up every few weeks. I fell for him in a big way, he knew but didn’t put a stop to it. Then one day just like that cut me off, said he was dealing with shit but nothing had changed with us just let him sort stuff out. I later found out he’d met someone else. It hurt like crazy as we always said we’d be honest with each other. He got back in touch a couple years ago and now he just pops up every couple of weeks I guess to keep me keen. I’m not strong enough to tell him to go do one so now my head is constantly messed up.

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By *IXEN200 OP Woman
6 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

"I had a fwb for 18 months, use to chat every day meet up every few weeks. I fell for him in a big way, he knew but didn’t put a stop to it. Then one day just like that cut me off, said he was dealing with shit but nothing had changed with us just let him sort stuff out. I later found out he’d met someone else. It hurt like crazy as we always said we’d be honest with each other. He got back in touch a couple years ago and now he just pops up every couple of weeks I guess to keep me keen. I’m not strong enough to tell him to go do one so now my head is constantly messed up. "

Sorry to hear this.

This has happened to me, so I know how you're feeling he stopped talking to me a few months back, it's a bitch when they just drop off the face of the earth with no reason behind it.

They don't quite get how hurt we feel, and I'd probably see him again if he got in touch again

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
6 weeks ago

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
6 weeks ago

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"Feelings...yuk.

But yes and yes "

that made me fart

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By *nya NeesWoman
6 weeks ago

Brum

"Feelings...yuk.

But yes and yes

that made me fart"

Dirty boy

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
6 weeks ago

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"Feelings...yuk.

But yes and yes

that made me fart

Dirty boy"

Look who’s talking

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By *nya NeesWoman
6 weeks ago

Brum

"Feelings...yuk.

But yes and yes

that made me fart

Dirty boy

Look who’s talking"

I am not a boy...don't go starting more rumours 😂

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
6 weeks ago

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"Feelings...yuk.

But yes and yes

that made me fart

Dirty boy

Look who’s talking

I am not a boy...don't go starting more rumours 😂"

You have man flu do you not?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
6 weeks ago

North West

I caught some feelings. Feelings are super infectious

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
6 weeks ago

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"I caught some feelings. Feelings are super infectious

"
like a common cold

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
6 weeks ago

North West

"I caught some feelings. Feelings are super infectious

like a common cold

Did you sneeze?

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By *nya NeesWoman
6 weeks ago

Brum

"Feelings...yuk.

But yes and yes

that made me fart

Dirty boy

Look who’s talking

I am not a boy...don't go starting more rumours 😂

You have man flu do you not? "
omg...it's just a bit of snot 😂

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By *nya NeesWoman
6 weeks ago

Brum

"I caught some feelings. Feelings are super infectious

like a common cold

Did you sneeze?"

He will be in approx 8 days

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
6 weeks ago

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"I caught some feelings. Feelings are super infectious

like a common cold

Did you sneeze?"

Yes! Immediately after

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
6 weeks ago

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"Feelings...yuk.

But yes and yes

that made me fart

Dirty boy

Look who’s talking

I am not a boy...don't go starting more rumours 😂

You have man flu do you not? omg...it's just a bit of snot 😂"
🙃

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
6 weeks ago

North West

"I caught some feelings. Feelings are super infectious

like a common cold

Did you sneeze?

Yes! Immediately after"

I think I caught something

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By *nya NeesWoman
6 weeks ago

Brum

"I caught some feelings. Feelings are super infectious

like a common cold

Did you sneeze?

Yes! Immediately after"

That was a snore

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