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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago

What are you expected to put in a first message to women ?? How are you ? Fancy a shag ?? I've tried both advice greatfully received

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

They’re both extremely imaginative, not sure how neither worked.

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
6 weeks ago

Swansea

OP,

Do a forum search for first messages and you will find loads of previous threads with lots of opinions and advice

Mrs

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By *elix SightedMan
6 weeks ago

Cloud 8


"What are you expected to put in a first message to women ?? How are you ? Fancy a shag ?? I've tried both advice greatfully received "

Almost there OP. Now try both in the same message and you’re golden. Can’t fail.

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair

This will help, OP.

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-search/First%2bmessage

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By *ansoffateMan
6 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Put their name in, chicks love the personal touch.

E.g.

Fancy a shag, Debbie?

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
6 weeks ago

Swansea


"Put their name in, chicks love the personal touch.

E.g.

Fancy a shag, Debbie?

"

Especially when it's a copy & paste message and you're not Debbie 😂

Mrs

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By *iaisonseekerMan
6 weeks ago

Liverpool


"What are you expected to put in a first message to women ?? How are you ? Fancy a shag ?? I've tried both advice greatfully received "

Both are great opening lines, OP. Just garnish them with a dick pic and watch the clunge roll in

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
6 weeks ago

Coventry

I really think people overthink the first message thing.

The first thing to understand whatever your message they'll look at your profile. If they like your profile they won't need much of a message to be intrested in return. Likewise if they don't like your profile it doesn't matter how much time and effort you put into a message. The moral of the story is concentrate your efforts on a cracking profile. Then just send a simple, short, freindly hello type message and let your profile do the talking?

Second thing just don't put dodgy stuff and dick pics in your opening message. Again keep it simple and freindly and totally not creepy or over familiar.

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

As said above, most will look at a profile before a message. If it doesn't appeal or doesn't have much to go on, they'll likely not even read it op.

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By *enk15Man
6 weeks ago

Evesham

I like to list all the reasons I’m not a psychopath

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By *ddie1966Man
6 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

You need to use text speak.

How r u....

Etc..... They're all on their phones you see, flitting between bean's.

Time is bonks....

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I find sending both as the same time works best.

Polite, but also straight to the point.

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By *ornucopiaMan
6 weeks ago

Bexley


"I really think people overthink the first message thing.

The first thing to understand whatever your message they'll look at your profile. If they like your profile they won't need much of a message to be intrested in return. Likewise if they don't like your profile it doesn't matter how much time and effort you put into a message. The moral of the story is concentrate your efforts on a cracking profile. Then just send a simple, short, freindly hello type message and let your profile do the talking?

Second thing just don't put dodgy stuff and dick pics in your opening message. Again keep it simple and freindly and totally not creepy or over familiar."

I've got it. Obviously send

"Please look at my profile"!

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By *ansoffateMan
6 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"Put their name in, chicks love the personal touch.

E.g.

Fancy a shag, Debbie?

Especially when it's a copy & paste message and you're not Debbie 😂

Mrs"

Damn, you can tell if it's copy and paste? It's almost like you have a brain or something. 🤔

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By *rT25Man
6 weeks ago

Rotherham

FAF

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By * Mrs ShyButNotShyCouple
6 weeks ago

Stafford


"What are you expected to put in a first message to women ?? How are you ? Fancy a shag ?? I've tried both advice greatfully received "

For me it's something that makes me laugh.

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By *vars68Man
6 weeks ago

Peterborough

Baby oil is best at first I think 🤔

From my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago


"Baby oil is best at first I think 🤔

From my experience "

Goodman ivars.😂😂 He's right, baby oil is a good conversation starter. 😅😅

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By *vaRose43Woman
6 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"I really think people overthink the first message thing.

The first thing to understand whatever your message they'll look at your profile. If they like your profile they won't need much of a message to be intrested in return. Likewise if they don't like your profile it doesn't matter how much time and effort you put into a message. The moral of the story is concentrate your efforts on a cracking profile. Then just send a simple, short, freindly hello type message and let your profile do the talking?

Second thing just don't put dodgy stuff and dick pics in your opening message. Again keep it simple and freindly and totally not creepy or over familiar."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I’ve tried different ways of messaging women on here and had 0 messages back.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
6 weeks ago

Stoke

Put what you want, if they don't fancy you they're probably not replying.

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By *lasgowMinxWoman
6 weeks ago

glasgow


"I really think people overthink the first message thing.

The first thing to understand whatever your message they'll look at your profile. If they like your profile they won't need much of a message to be intrested in return. Likewise if they don't like your profile it doesn't matter how much time and effort you put into a message. The moral of the story is concentrate your efforts on a cracking profile. Then just send a simple, short, freindly hello type message and let your profile do the talking?

Second thing just don't put dodgy stuff and dick pics in your opening message. Again keep it simple and freindly and totally not creepy or over familiar."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago


"Put what you want, if they don't fancy you they're probably not replying. "

Pretty much this.

They like the look of you, a simple hi could work.

They don't reply because they don't like the message, it's probably just you.

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