FabSwingers.com forum: that feeling

By *enegadeM OP Man
6 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

Do you go with your gut when it comes to meets?

As in do you tend to know if it’s going to actually go ahead? Or do you sometimes get that vibe something is going to get in the way? Or are you a ‘it’s happening until it’s not happening’?

Does that make sense ? 🤔

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By *urry BlokeMan
6 weeks ago

Stalybridge

It's never happening until I am literally stood in front of them

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

I’m learning to see the red flags quicker. I don’t rely on gut feelings alone.

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By *IXEN200Woman
6 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

I often get a feeling of it's not going to happen not sure if it's gut feeling or just women's intuition

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair

I leave the gut instinct out of it otherwise I get caught up in the oscillation of ambivalence and uncertainty.

Although I will admit gut instinct isn't a bad thing either. With me it's usually a forgone conclusion that it's going to happen because I'm a slow burn and weeks and, mostly, months have been spent discussing, amongst other things, what we're going to do with each other.

By the way - I presume this is about sex and not just a social?! 🙂

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I don't tend to give it much thought until the actual day, I've had numerous ones not happen so I don't get overly invested anymore.

Though I do also lose out this way as I get told I don't seem interested enough.

Meh, what can you do.

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By *ellhungvweMan
6 weeks ago

Cheltenham

My spidey sense knows when it isn’t going to happen. I listen to that. If I don’t get a spidey tingle then I am fairly sure it is on.

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By *aralluWoman
6 weeks ago

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I went with my gut recently. I was told I just had ‘low self esteem’ when I politely said ‘thanks but no thanks’ as the vibe/connection was waning and a meet didn’t appear likely - social or otherwise - and it was always excuses on their part. They convinced me I was being stupid and that we just needed to meet, so I ignored it. Turns out my gut was right all along!

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By *ansoffateMan
6 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I'd like to hope we've established a good enough quality of communication to be able to comfortably say we weren't feeling it ahead of time.

I probably wouldn't meet before that point anyway.

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By *imply_SensualMan
6 weeks ago

warrington

I am quite a positive person so will always go with the meet happening…. But, I have been on here a while and can pick up red flags a lot easier these days so know to be diligent at times.

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By *rHotNottsMan
6 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Most of mine happen months or even in a few cases years after chatting.

I tend to know fairly quick which people I’ll eventually meet and which ones will fizzle or just never happen.

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By *enk15Man
6 weeks ago

Evesham

I just assume it’s not happening.

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By *illy IdolMan
6 weeks ago

Midlands

It's happening until it's not happening kinda guy. I've been fortunate so far, but then again, I've not really rushed any of them. Plenty have fizzled out before getting to that stage.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
6 weeks ago

Southampton

I'm now at the point of it ain't happening until they're actually right in front of me ....

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By *aizyWoman
6 weeks ago

west midlands

"I often get a feeling of it's not going to happen not sure if it's gut feeling or just women's intuition "

I had this feeling, of course I ignored it and of course it didn't happen, I'll listen to my gut from now on.

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By *entleman JayMan
6 weeks ago

Wakefield

"It's never happening until I am literally stood in front of them"

This is my motto too. Sad that I can’t allow myself to get too excited beforehand.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
6 weeks ago

Ends

Plenty of people that are all talk.

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By *ucka39Man
6 weeks ago

Newcastle

My gut serves me well can smell a rat a mile away 😂

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
6 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

we get you, op.

We have met a few singles and couples over the months here, there was a time we met a couple, and knew instantly it just wasn't on.

Guess one out of many is no big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"I leave the gut instinct out of it otherwise I get caught up in the oscillation of ambivalence and uncertainty.

By the way - I presume this is about sex and not just a social?! 🙂"

Taking time really helps .... and as a woman it's always helped me work out if I am comfortable with someone or not. Sometimes the other person becomes too pushy and demanding .... I got called a time waster once because I would not meet them in half an hour for a fuck n go in a lay by or let them visit me at 5am on their way to work. So no I did not meet them.

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By *onkeynutWoman
6 weeks ago

somewhere

My gut feeling is usually right and I usually follow it.

Though I ignored it once even though I thought he was a timewaster and he was actually far from it and turned out to be one of the best people to have entered my life and he is still a friend 5 years on.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
6 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I’m 40 now and still none the wiser. My bio should say “if you’re going to stand me up at least tell me before I shave!”

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By *ell GwynnWoman
6 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I'm not sure my gut is very accurate tbh. I've had people cancel on me, always with a day's notice, minimum. Sometimes I've had an inkling, sometimes it's been totally unexpected. I think "hope for the best, prepare for the worst" is the pragmatic approach.

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
6 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

So the flakers are flakers because of, fantasism? trolling timewasters? found other options? etc etc? What's with someone being rude to someone else just because of a rejection? Jesus.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Nope as I don't get any to start with

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
6 weeks ago

Newcastle

I’d say my gut feelings on people are usually right but sometimes I just don’t listen to it. I do tend to spend quite a while getting to know people though so once it gets to the stage of meeting I would be feeling quite confident they are going to turn up.

I try not to get my hopes up too much about anyone these days.

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By *mf123Man
6 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

No if my guts talking im probly horngry

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By *enegadeM OP Man
6 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"I’m 40 now and still none the wiser. My bio should say “if you’re going to stand me up at least tell me before I shave!”"

IMPORTANT NOTICE

would they dress that bit?

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By *carlettsWoman
6 weeks ago

Harpenden

When I was meeting I would always chat for a bit never did last min meets, vid calls etc so got to know the people before I met then and vetted them I guess. Been very lucky will all meets apart from 1 so that's not bad

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By *oxy-RedWoman
6 weeks ago

pink panther territory

I always go with my gut and its never let me down as of yet

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By *eliWoman
6 weeks ago

Generally I'm of the belief that it's not happening until I'm with them. There have been two occasions where I got a feeling it wasn't happening so I awkwardly called it before they did.

You know when conversation dips and it doesn't feel like they're too interested in you? I guess I go with how I feel. I've never been wrong.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
6 weeks ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"I’m 40 now and still none the wiser. My bio should say “if you’re going to stand me up at least tell me before I shave!”"

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By *he AmbassadorMan
6 weeks ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Jesus I'm hoping there is not a trend of no shows, my next meet involves me hopping on a plane sometime in the new year,

I'd be some gobshite if I arrived over to a no show.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Yeah I’ve always known.

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By *enegadeM OP Man
6 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"Generally I'm of the belief that it's not happening until I'm with them. There have been two occasions where I got a feeling it wasn't happening so I awkwardly called it before they did.

You know when conversation dips and it doesn't feel like they're too interested in you? I guess I go with how I feel. I've never been wrong. "

Is there a fine line between them messaging too much as they’re keen and then messaging too much and it’s annoying ? My concern is that I like to chat as I like to interact and on fab there’s lots of interactions for ladies / couples so you almost have to ease of the messaging so you’re not pestering no?

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

"I’m 40 now and still none the wiser. My bio should say “if you’re going to stand me up at least tell me before I shave!”"

Oh, this.

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By *enegadeM OP Man
6 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"I’m 40 now and still none the wiser. My bio should say “if you’re going to stand me up at least tell me before I shave!”

Oh, this. "

Surely that doesn’t happen often?

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