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By *oxy-Red OP Woman
4 weeks ago

high on a hill with a lonely goat herd

Do you send a first message or do you wait for the men to message you?

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
4 weeks ago

wonderland.

I have sent messages first when I was on my singles account x

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
4 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I wait... But mostly because alot of men's profiles don't tell you much. So you're going in blind... If they make an effort to fill them out and have decent pics it might be different.

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By *EAT..85Woman
4 weeks ago

Nottingham

I send messages when I'm of a mood to chat. That's rare though. And I rarely bother when the persons location is far away either. So that's pretty limiting!

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By *sWyldWoman
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Sometimes I do but to be honest, I'm not great at it

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By *oxy-Red OP Woman
4 weeks ago

high on a hill with a lonely goat herd

I always wait for a Guy to message me first

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By *aizyWoman
4 weeks ago

west midlands

I do.

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By *zChiefWoman
4 weeks ago

middle of somewhere

I wait for people to message me if they are interested .. not confident enough to make the 1st move even on here .

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By *issitCouple
4 weeks ago

Banbury

Either. If I like the look of a guy, I message

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By *oxy-Red OP Woman
4 weeks ago

high on a hill with a lonely goat herd

"Sometimes I do but to be honest, I'm not great at it "

I just couldn't though I wish I could

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By *oxy-Red OP Woman
4 weeks ago

high on a hill with a lonely goat herd

"I do."

That's because your bluddy gorgeous

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By *carlettsWoman
4 weeks ago

Harpenden

I think most women on here get so bombarded with messages but I would send a message first if someone tickled my fancy

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By *usty kayWoman
4 weeks ago

Burnham

I usually wait for them to message me. The one time I've messaged a guy first it didn't go well.

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By *andyCaneCuntWoman
4 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I usually have filters on a fair bit so yeah I do. Though they usually amount to nothing so I clearly have rubbish taste!

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By *oxy-Red OP Woman
4 weeks ago

high on a hill with a lonely goat herd

I'm not going to comment on each message,because this thread will just be filled with my name

I am reading all comments though ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Have only ever sent a message first off the back of forum threads.

Never sent a message direct to say I'm interested to anyone. 🤭

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By *weetiepie99Woman
4 weeks ago

cardiff

I don't. But I should.

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By *.T.Man
4 weeks ago

the Dromara hills

As a gent I can say I've had about 4 messages that are forum related and 1 message out of the blue complimenting my profile. So yes, it can happen.

Very rarely

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By *aybeLadyWoman
4 weeks ago

West Dublin

I have messaged first yes.

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By *Kcouple24Couple
4 weeks ago

milton keynes

both, depends if their profile has interested me or not x

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By *ookie46Woman
4 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I hardly message anyone and only one for all the flirting

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By *antas little minxWoman
4 weeks ago

essex

I have sent a few first, but normally wait, and wait, and wait, then give up!!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
4 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

I prefer to message first and go for who I like the look of, rather than filtering through messages sent to me

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By *hunky GentMan
4 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Women message first???

I thought it was a rule that they don't. 😆 🤣

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By *olly MistlehoeWoman
4 weeks ago

Somewhere

Semi regularly

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
4 weeks ago

Essex

I’ve messaged first. It all depends on my mood.

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By *oxy-Red OP Woman
4 weeks ago

high on a hill with a lonely goat herd

So it would seem that most of us Ladies wait for the gents to message first

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By *hunky GentMan
4 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"So it would seem that most of us Ladies wait for the gents to message first"

I very rarely message anyone away from the forums.

Probably explains a lot. 😆 🤣

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By *dam1971Man
4 weeks ago

Bedford

"I’ve messaged first. It all depends on my mood."

Let me know when it’s horny and desperate

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
4 weeks ago

Essex

"I’ve messaged first. It all depends on my mood.

Let me know when it’s horny and desperate

Otherwise known as “Tuesday”

🤣🤣🤣

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By *ell GwynnWoman
4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Definitely. I prefer it that way.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
4 weeks ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"Have only ever sent a message first off the back of forum threads.

Never sent a message direct to say I'm interested to anyone. 🤭"
what ,,all that flirting and no Ballz to back it up,, Tutt Tutt

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By *he AmbassadorMan
4 weeks ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Do any of ye ever look at a pic either on a profile from forums or new pics and think ,,ohhh wow and msg the owner with a quick , "that's amazing pic" via a quick one liner,??

Or am I a weirdo on here?

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By *he Forum Thread KillerMan
4 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

I thought the unwritten rule for ladies on FAB was play hard to get. Don't make it easy for um...

See what I did there... for...um...

Sometimes I crack myself up...

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 weeks ago

North West

I'll sometimes message first. I'm a bit shit at messaging on here full stop though.

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By *ellinever70Woman
4 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I think I've been the instigator with most guys I've met

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By *issBellaWoman
4 weeks ago

Wales

Mostly send first, unless we're talking about ladies. I'm not good at flirting with ladies

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 weeks ago

North West

"Mostly send first, unless we're talking about ladies. I'm not good at flirting with ladies

I'm not great at flirting at all. But flirting with women is so much harder. How do you know if they like you that way? How?!

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By *hunky GentMan
4 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Mostly send first, unless we're talking about ladies. I'm not good at flirting with ladies

I'm not great at flirting at all. But flirting with women is so much harder. How do you know if they like you that way? How?! "

I suggest the 3 of us get together and discuss it in person.

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By *issBellaWoman
4 weeks ago

Wales

"Mostly send first, unless we're talking about ladies. I'm not good at flirting with ladies

I'm not great at flirting at all. But flirting with women is so much harder. How do you know if they like you that way? How?! "

I've heard their nipples go pointy and grow 3 times their size. Might be a rumour?

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By *aitonelMan
4 weeks ago

Travelling

"Mostly send first, unless we're talking about ladies. I'm not good at flirting with ladies

I'm not great at flirting at all. But flirting with women is so much harder. How do you know if they like you that way? How?! "

Because women are all sorts of weird and impossible! Far too many variables and complexities for it to be possible.

Unless they already find you physically attractive, then you get a bit of a buffer to bad flirting choices.

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
4 weeks ago

Kent

I don't really get time to browse and send first s I'm usually busy answering messages.

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By *laytime_13Woman
4 weeks ago

Lincs

I’m not great at flirting with men but I’m even worse at flirting with women

I tend to have my filters up at all times, occasionally dropped and have had some good conversations and meets off the back of forum threads where I’ve been messaged.

I’ve sent a very rare occasional first message, depends on how you define success as to whether it’s been successful or not

I prefer to send a wink. Obviously slightly reliant on the person checking theirs, but it means they can get past my filters and message if they wish. And they then have the horrible task of sending the first message, not me

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 weeks ago

North West

"Mostly send first, unless we're talking about ladies. I'm not good at flirting with ladies

I'm not great at flirting at all. But flirting with women is so much harder. How do you know if they like you that way? How?!

Because women are all sorts of weird and impossible! Far too many variables and complexities for it to be possible.

Unless they already find you physically attractive, then you get a bit of a buffer to bad flirting choices."

There are bad flirting choices? Shit. 😭

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By *hunky GentMan
4 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I’m not great at flirting with men but I’m even worse at flirting with women

I tend to have my filters up at all times, occasionally dropped and have had some good conversations and meets off the back of forum threads where I’ve been messaged.

I’ve sent a very rare occasional first message, depends on how you define success as to whether it’s been successful or not

I'll just go and check for winks.......

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By *he AmbassadorMan
4 weeks ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"I’m not great at flirting with men but I’m even worse at flirting with women

I tend to have my filters up at all times, occasionally dropped and have had some good conversations and meets off the back of forum threads where I’ve been messaged.

I’ve sent a very rare occasional first message, depends on how you define success as to whether it’s been successful or not

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surely you are swamped with Msgs or are your filters fort Knox level stuff 😂

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By *he AmbassadorMan
4 weeks ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"Mostly send first, unless we're talking about ladies. I'm not good at flirting with ladies

I'm not great at flirting at all. But flirting with women is so much harder. How do you know if they like you that way? How?!

I've heard their nipples go pointy and grow 3 times their size. Might be a rumour?

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By *laytime_13Woman
4 weeks ago

Lincs

"I’m not great at flirting with men but I’m even worse at flirting with women

I tend to have my filters up at all times, occasionally dropped and have had some good conversations and meets off the back of forum threads where I’ve been messaged.

I’ve sent a very rare occasional first message, depends on how you define success as to whether it’s been successful or not

surely you are swamped with Msgs or are your filters fort Knox level stuff 😂 "

*blushes* hardly. But thanks

fort Knox level is probably accurate to be fair!

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
4 weeks ago

Northerner

It’s not something I do often but I have sent a first message before now and sent a message to compliment a profile or two when they have an interesting bio and great pics.

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I wait... But mostly because alot of men's profiles don't tell you much. So you're going in blind... If they make an effort to fill them out and have decent pics it might be different. "

But surely you would be focusing on the profiles that do actually "tell you much", and therefore disregarding those that don't?

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
4 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I do now and again if I can see clear face pictures on their profile and I fancy them.

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I think most women on here get so bombarded with messages but I would send a message first if someone tickled my fancy"

But you're hypothesising. The question is do you actually send a first message? Have you ever sent one?

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I usually wait for them to message me. The one time I've messaged a guy first it didn't go well."

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Only one time??

Is that "one time" truly representational of all men and similar outcomes? 🫤

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair

"So it would seem that most of us Ladies wait for the gents to message first"

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I know. It's quite enlightening this thread. 🙂

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Mostly send first, unless we're talking about ladies. I'm not good at flirting with ladies

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But messages aren't limited to flirting. Messages are simply about...chatting. 🤷🏻

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By *hunky GentMan
4 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I do now and again if I can see clear face pictures on their profile and I fancy them.

I'll get me coat.

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I’m not great at flirting with men...

You don't have to flirt. You just engage in friendly and convivial chat. Everything transpires from there.

"I tend to have my filters up at all times, occasionally dropped and have had some good conversations and meets off the back of forum threads where I’ve been messaged."

I shall wait for your drawbridge to be lowered and your portcullis to be raised. 🩶

"I’ve sent a very rare occasional first message, depends on how you define success as to whether it’s been successful or not

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A simple acquaintanceship is sufficient for success. Anything more is a bonus.

"I prefer to send a wink. Obviously slightly reliant on the person checking theirs, but it means they can get past my filters and message if they wish. And they then have the horrible task of sending the first message, not me

Sometimes it's an honourable task and not a horrible one. 🌈

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By *exySiren01Woman
4 weeks ago

RCT

If their profile interests me I happily send a message.....go for what you want I reckon...what's the worst that can happen

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By *amie HantsWoman
4 weeks ago

Atlantis

Both!

I appreciate a good message but I’m also happy to message first. I’m quite witty but it’s often overshadowed by my massive tits. It’s a curse being blessed with beauty and brains 😢

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By *eggieMarshmallowWoman
4 weeks ago

Cardiff

I would love to have the time to message more men first, I like the forums because I can see people's personalities and I have messaged a few men first based on forums and profiles, but a lot of the time I spend on fab is fabmin catching up on messages I've got

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By *orphia2003Woman
4 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I'll happily send first message. Same as I'll happily invite someone to meet / for drinks / dinner etc, and if I've invited, I'll pay.

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By *haiababeWoman
4 weeks ago

North devon

I dont normally no

I see you kessages me then read there profile and see if theu sparl my intrest

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By *eyeYCouple
4 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

No and I often feel bad for leaving it all to D!

He's just so much better with word's and 'reading the room' 🤦

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
4 weeks ago

Merseyside

Just depends on mood or scenario really

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By *ustBoWoman
4 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes I have sent quite a few first messages. I actually prefer to do that. I send it,delete it from my sent messages and if I get a reply great,if not no harm done.

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By *eliWoman
4 weeks ago

I'm happy to and have messaged first quite a few times. It's never in a FAF kind of way, sometimes it's off the back of a forum post.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
4 weeks ago

Leeds

I send messages on my singles account 1st, but not to men....

Mrs

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By *obandruthCouple
4 weeks ago

wolverhampton

On the odd occasion, but not very often.

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By *vaRose43Woman
4 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Outside of forum games I’ve sent a first message once or twice.

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