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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago

Mini rant I fuckin hate being neurodiverse some days

I can either plan 3 days in advance with military precision or my body can go on strike for what feels like months at a time

It's why the self care is major for me as it gives me a fighting chance with everything else 🙂

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
6 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

I’m not diagnosed but I believe I’m either ASD or have AuDHD. I have realised I really struggle with transitions and would benefit from daily structure, but I can’t maintain it!

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By *oubleSwingCouple
6 weeks ago

Anglesey

I feel this! Undiagnosed though.

~ Mrs. DS

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By *cnugatugMan
6 weeks ago

Chatham

I was diagnosed with A D.D at 11 years old before it became this whole thing and thrown around like it is now I was on retilin, concerta and numerous other medications non of it helped it just turned me into a shell so I came off all meds when I turned 17 and never looked back I listen to the A.D.D instead of hiding it away and it makes me feel free

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By *eliWoman
6 weeks ago

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Yeah, when people say it's a superpower it's mildly irksome isn't it? You learn over time how to cope, mask, deal with being neurodiverse in a world that's not really ND friendly. Even that's exhausting. I try and make sure I balance things so I avoid burn out.

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By *adeiteWoman
6 weeks ago

Stafford

Diagnosed this year. It's hard to tell if id have been off keeping the mask on or not.

I feel like my life got way more complicated when the mask started to slip.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
6 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"Diagnosed this year. It's hard to tell if id have been off keeping the mask on or not.

I feel like my life got way more complicated when the mask started to slip. "

You'll find your feet. It took me and my son a while after our diagnoses, but we figured it out eventually.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago


"I’m not diagnosed but I believe I’m either ASD or have AuDHD. I have realised I really struggle with transitions and would benefit from daily structure, but I can’t maintain it! "
sooooo me 💯💯 I'm realising the trick is not being hard on myself on those days I am crap , it takes some doing though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago


"I feel this! Undiagnosed though.

~ Mrs. DS"
it's still valid , some people don't need the diagnosis and that's all good as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago


"I was diagnosed with A D.D at 11 years old before it became this whole thing and thrown around like it is now I was on retilin, concerta and numerous other medications non of it helped it just turned me into a shell so I came off all meds when I turned 17 and never looked back I listen to the A.D.D instead of hiding it away and it makes me feel free "
there's a lot more awareness now . I sometimes wonder if things would have been different if there has been better awareness when I was younger

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago


"Yeah, when people say it's a superpower it's mildly irksome isn't it? You learn over time how to cope, mask, deal with being neurodiverse in a world that's not really ND friendly. Even that's exhausting. I try and make sure I balance things so I avoid burn out. "
it's a hard lesson I've had to learn , I only got diagnosed this year so it's all very new to me finding ways of managing properly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago


"Diagnosed this year. It's hard to tell if id have been off keeping the mask on or not.

I feel like my life got way more complicated when the mask started to slip. "
I look at unmasking as being my authentic self now , I understand the need for masking at times but I also find it bloody exhausting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago


"Diagnosed this year. It's hard to tell if id have been off keeping the mask on or not.

I feel like my life got way more complicated when the mask started to slip.

You'll find your feet. It took me and my son a while after our diagnoses, but we figured it out eventually. "
I'm really glad you've both found that path as it's tricky at the best of times

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
6 weeks ago

London (She/Her)


"I was diagnosed with A D.D at 11 years old before it became this whole thing and thrown around like it is now I was on retilin, concerta and numerous other medications non of it helped it just turned me into a shell so I came off all meds when I turned 17 and never looked back I listen to the A.D.D instead of hiding it away and it makes me feel free

there's a lot more awareness now . I sometimes wonder if things would have been different if there has been better awareness when I was younger "

I wonder that, if I had known what was happening how different could things have been - both about me (like always feeling an outsider and interpreting that as me being an awful person) but also my parents - for eg realising my mum is AuDHD doesn’t take away everything that’s happened but when she physically recoils from me touching her hand I can now think, “that’s her autism disliking touch, not a sign she’s repulsed by me”

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago


"I was diagnosed with A D.D at 11 years old before it became this whole thing and thrown around like it is now I was on retilin, concerta and numerous other medications non of it helped it just turned me into a shell so I came off all meds when I turned 17 and never looked back I listen to the A.D.D instead of hiding it away and it makes me feel free

there's a lot more awareness now . I sometimes wonder if things would have been different if there has been better awareness when I was younger

I wonder that, if I had known what was happening how different could things have been - both about me (like always feeling an outsider and interpreting that as me being an awful person) but also my parents - for eg realising my mum is AuDHD doesn’t take away everything that’s happened but when she physically recoils from me touching her hand I can now think, “that’s her autism disliking touch, not a sign she’s repulsed by me” "
for me I've realised I get certain traits from my parents , in that sense it's helped me discover parts about myself as a person .

I do feel if I'd been born 10/15 years later than I was I'd have had an earlier diagnosis so would possibly be better able to cope with certain things

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By *orthernTruckerMan
6 weeks ago

Trucker (live in Newcastle)

I've got a diagnosis appointment soon, not sure what the doctors etc are going to come out with but they've said I'm potentially along the lines...

The part I struggle to understand is how do I even know what's what any more. Like am I showing sings of ADHD or am I just having a bad day as anxiety is through the roof, ptsd has fucked with me or am I just being a misery who just can't be arsed with people that day.

I genuinely feel for you all, because its a proper head fuck... and not the head fucking I like haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago


"I've got a diagnosis appointment soon, not sure what the doctors etc are going to come out with but they've said I'm potentially along the lines...

The part I struggle to understand is how do I even know what's what any more. Like am I showing sings of ADHD or am I just having a bad day as anxiety is through the roof, ptsd has fucked with me or am I just being a misery who just can't be arsed with people that day.

I genuinely feel for you all, because its a proper head fuck... and not the head fucking I like haha"
I get it mate , hindsight is both wonderful and a bitch because finally getting the diagnosis for me made realise a lot

Good luck with finding out it's not for everyone but it can help for sure

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By *orthernTruckerMan
6 weeks ago

Trucker (live in Newcastle)


"I've got a diagnosis appointment soon, not sure what the doctors etc are going to come out with but they've said I'm potentially along the lines...

The part I struggle to understand is how do I even know what's what any more. Like am I showing sings of ADHD or am I just having a bad day as anxiety is through the roof, ptsd has fucked with me or am I just being a misery who just can't be arsed with people that day.

I genuinely feel for you all, because its a proper head fuck... and not the head fucking I like hahaI get it mate , hindsight is both wonderful and a bitch because finally getting the diagnosis for me made realise a lot

Good luck with finding out it's not for everyone but it can help for sure "

Honestly I'm not even sure if I want to find out... like is there any perks to knowing? Do I get to Queue jump at Alton Towers? Can I get a wheelchair in ASDA to run people over? Seriously though, does it make things different?

Just think things are hard enough as it is, do I need another "title".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
6 weeks ago


"I've got a diagnosis appointment soon, not sure what the doctors etc are going to come out with but they've said I'm potentially along the lines...

The part I struggle to understand is how do I even know what's what any more. Like am I showing sings of ADHD or am I just having a bad day as anxiety is through the roof, ptsd has fucked with me or am I just being a misery who just can't be arsed with people that day.

I genuinely feel for you all, because its a proper head fuck... and not the head fucking I like hahaI get it mate , hindsight is both wonderful and a bitch because finally getting the diagnosis for me made realise a lot

Good luck with finding out it's not for everyone but it can help for sure

Honestly I'm not even sure if I want to find out... like is there any perks to knowing? Do I get to Queue jump at Alton Towers? Can I get a wheelchair in ASDA to run people over? Seriously though, does it make things different?

Just think things are hard enough as it is, do I need another "title". "
haha if only you got the perks eh . It did help me have a better understanding overall but again everyone is different with it all

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