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By *runette n Jay OP Couple
12 weeks ago

bilston

How many times have you had someone agree to meet and been messed about?

We have had 5/6 arranged meets where they haven't turned up and just not come back online or they blocked us.

I mean it's fine to change minds for any reason at all but guys let people know!

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By *WANDTGCouple
12 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

I think the majority of us have been in your position. Luckily we've never had anyone not turn up, but had people cancel an hour or so before suggested time. Some have even said they can't do the date, saying they had family issues, but like idiots posted a verification from another couple on the date we were supposed to meet !

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan
12 weeks ago

Cheshire

I cancelled a meet on last Thursday for a meet today,just wasn't feeling it,but did message her to say.

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By *orthern BeardMan
12 weeks ago

Preston

Happened a couple of times. Even been stood up and blocked when I was already at the meeting spot

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Only three thankfully.

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By *hunky GentMan
12 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I've had too many to count.

Unfortunately, it's a part of Fab life.

The best we can do is try to filter out the time wasters.

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By *ayRyuMan
12 weeks ago

Harrogate

Luckily only the once. Just part of fab life!

Just keep telling myself it's her loss

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I've never had anyone just not turn up or cancel on the day.

I've had guys cancel with plenty of notice for varied reasons, most are rearranged.

I think how you meet has a larger chance of this happening, couples in general don't need the connection as such so perhaps don't chat that much, higher chances of people flaking out.

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By *enk15Man
12 weeks ago

Evesham

Zero. Lucky me

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
12 weeks ago

The Continental

It’s happened a few times, from women, couples and guys.

I guess some are just too shy, scared, or embarrassed to say “sorry, changed my/our minds”.

No big drama for me, it’s part of fab life.

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By *issmorganWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Years ago, when single I was stood up for a social meet.

He left the site shortly afterwards, when he rejoined months later, he cheekily messaged asking to meet. He was quite suprised when I said no 2nd chance & tried to claim he lost his nerve.

I did have people ask to meet then go offline around the time we'd potentially said we could meet..

I always put it down to those men not wanting a social, as some got other veries at the same time.

Thing is, that's fine, if they didn't want a social, they could have just said that & I'd know we weren't compatible.

I'm not meeting at the min, but I know it seems a common problem due to the many threads on it. People are flaky unfortunately.

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By *orthern BeardMan
12 weeks ago

Preston

"I've never had anyone just not turn up or cancel on the day.

I've had guys cancel with plenty of notice for varied reasons, most are rearranged.

I think how you meet has a larger chance of this happening, couples in general don't need the connection as such so perhaps don't chat that much, higher chances of people flaking out.

I’m always quite forgiving as things do come up. I cancelled recently when I was feeling under the weather.

Thing as long as you’ve chatted with someone a good amount they usually always reschedule

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By *issmorganWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I agree ops just be honest with others and it would make things so much easier.

You can always tell someone you've changed your mind and block afterwards if worried about any backlash.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

3 from what I remember. One didn't message at all on the day, messaged a few days after like nothing happened. Another said sorry not feeling great asked to meet on a sunday, can't do sundays and got blocked. And the other was busy apparently

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By *oodmessMan
12 weeks ago

yumsville

Zero that I can think of, but it's been a while. There have been two from memory that messed me out, one who wanted a bottle of wine, where 5 mins after sitting down an emergency happened so left her with it but it was obviously bs. The other a late night meet now, where she was still in a party so asked me to wait an hour or leave.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
12 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I've lost count a long time ago.

Never even get a message with an excuse or a cancellation just pure ghosted

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By *ertcoupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Hatfield

Yep too many. Get we're not for everyone but is a bit disheartening when you think you've found a couple too have fun with then they vanish. We've booked hotels about 5-6 times now for meets and ended up alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Luckily never happened to me, but I do sympathise with all that have been messed around.

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By *vonne5exMan
12 weeks ago

Doncaster

I travelled 30 miles with a FB for a meet, landed at the meeting point to be told the couple couldn't meet but they'll send a male friend instead, wouldn't have been to bad but it was 30 miles into rural Lincolnshire nowhere near a club.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
12 weeks ago

On Holibobs

Once and that was enough for me to bring in my no chances rule.

I've better things to be doing than be messed around by people

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By *aizyWoman
12 weeks ago

west midlands

I got stood up once, he went UNLOS soon after, then rejoined about a year later, same username same pics and asked if I wanted to meet, the answer was no.

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Mayfair

"How many times have you had someone agree to meet and been messed about?"

Zerø.

"they haven't turned up and just not come back online or they blocked us. I mean it's fine to change minds for any reason at all but guys let people know! "

In four years - once. They gave me sufficient notice to cancel/change their mind. I don't consider that as being messed about though. It's a healthy trait to change your mind. 🩶

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By *aomilatteCouple
12 weeks ago

Midlands

We've had 100+ say they're coming to meet us in a club but don't. We take such messages with a pinch of salt now as we're used to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

0 as they never agreed to meet to start with

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By *eordieJeansCouple
12 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

None. We’ve had a few agree to agree to meet and then disappear or come up with excuses but I don’t think we’ve ever been let down once the meet has been fully arranged.

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
12 weeks ago

Hatfield

"How many times have you had someone agree to meet and been messed about?

We have had 5/6 arranged meets where they haven't turned up and just not come back online or they blocked us.

I mean it's fine to change minds for any reason at all but guys let people know!

So someone agree to meet you guys and didn’t attend? Most be mad .. dead or both

I’d turn up ….

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By *inkygentkentMan
12 weeks ago

Maidstone

I've clearly been lucky as I've never been stood up - however there is always plenty of communication beforehand.

I have had people go UNLOS on me though when getting down to the nitty gritty of actually trying to arrange a meet and that has happened even when they have appeared eager to meet.

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By *orphia2003Woman
12 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Lots.

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
12 weeks ago

Hatfield

"Lots."

Lots ? That’s criminal ….

How did the jumper challenge go?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"How many times have you had someone agree to meet and been messed about?

We have had 5/6 arranged meets where they haven't turned up and just not come back online or they blocked us.

I mean it's fine to change minds for any reason at all but guys let people know!

Very, very rarely.

But then I take an age to sort private meets out and usually it's with friends of friends or via 'networking' through club buddies or people I've known an age. I suspect if I was looking to meet random folk via messages, at shorter notice, then I'd have more problems.

I'm too lazy to rush in to anything these days. 🤷‍♂️

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