FabSwingers.com forum: Men and self care

By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

I'm curious what men especially think of the whole self care thing mainly because it's too macho still for some of them .

I do the gym I take a few supplements have a massage gun etc

I also wonder if it's more common for self care on a place like fab in general as I'd say a fair few are more body conscious in general

Thoughts everyone ?

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Harry goes to the gym

as for the rest it’s a no from me, mans gotta be a man imo

not sure many fellas on here share the same opinion tho

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Mayfair

I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
12 weeks ago

The Continental

I think it’s just a bunch of stuff that we’ve always done, but someone gave it a title so they can sell more products related to it.

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By *allipygousMan
12 weeks ago

Leicester

"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people."

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements."
surely going to the gym and taking care of the physical is part of the mental health at least for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people."
I'm seeing the replies already and it's a fair comment as there's already differing opinions here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"Harry goes to the gym

as for the rest it’s a no from me, mans gotta be a man imo

not sure many fellas on here share the same opinion tho "
is why I've asked the question , guess how much is too much for some people

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By *ib.Man
12 weeks ago

Hampshire

I'm all done for self care, but mine aren't really vanity based.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I'm all done for self care, but mine aren't really vanity based."
what would you class as vanity based though ? For me the gym etc all goes to MH because I feel better overall and I do the stuff like meditation etc . Again I'm seeing differences in everyone's thoughts here

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By *allipygousMan
12 weeks ago

Leicester

"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements.

surely going to the gym and taking care of the physical is part of the mental health at least for me "

Yeah, I see that now. If you prioritise your physical fitness then that can be linked to mental health 🙂

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

I guess self care is giving yourself what you need whether that’s the gym or whatever it might be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements.

surely going to the gym and taking care of the physical is part of the mental health at least for me

Yeah, I see that now. If you prioritise your physical fitness then that can be linked to mental health 🙂"
it's all good , I'm genuinely curious hence the post. Its going to be too much for one person but not enough for someone else as to being the best for themselves here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I guess self care is giving yourself what you need whether that’s the gym or whatever it might be. "
absolutely, may I ask in your case would you apply that to something like doing the nails ? Something that looks good so you also feel good in yourself if that makes sense .

Again everyone is going to have totally different opinions on what self care is classed as here

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

"I guess self care is giving yourself what you need whether that’s the gym or whatever it might be. absolutely, may I ask in your case would you apply that to something like doing the nails ? Something that looks good so you also feel good in yourself if that makes sense .

Again everyone is going to have totally different opinions on what self care is classed as here "

I guess it does I had never thought of it like that.Tan, brows, nails, lashes. I guess they are self care.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

Again everyone is going to have totally different opinions on what self care is classed as here

I guess it does I had never thought of it like that.Tan, brows, nails, lashes. I guess they are self care. "
thanks for the answer 🙂 for myself I've learned the hard way that not looking after certain things for myself makes the rest about 10x more difficult

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By *elix SightedMan
12 weeks ago

Cloud 8

Fitness: Yes. But not excessively so, I run and go for long walks for pleasure.

Physical health. Kinda. I don’t drink alcohol or caffeine, or do drugs, but I don’t have the healthiest diet.

Mental health: No. But I recognise I should do much more. I believe it’s important to talk about things in life that cause stress.

Emotional. No. That’s the one bit of my life that is missing but I’ll deal with that next year.

Cosmetic. No. I wash but that’s about it, I'm not a mirror princess.

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I think it’s just a bunch of stuff that we’ve always done, but someone gave it a title so they can sell more products related to it. "

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I agree. Hence why asked.

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By *ife NinjaMan
12 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Take vitamin supplements. Walk a lot. Have a good long bath every day

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements."

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Agreed. It's just baseline normal everyday stuff. I also happen to breathe - is that self care?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

"Fitness: Yes. But not excessively so, I run and go for long walks for pleasure.

Physical health. Kinda. I don’t drink alcohol or caffeine, or do drugs, but I don’t have the healthiest diet.

Mental health: No. But I recognise I should do much more. I believe it’s important to talk about things in life that cause stress.

Emotional. No. That’s the one bit of my life that is missing but I’ll deal with that next year.

Cosmetic. No. I wash but that’s about it, I'm not a mirror princess."

When I lived in da countryside I used to love walking. Being in nature is a great way to destress I found.

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By *electableicecreamMan
12 weeks ago

The West

Absolutely. I do it for myself, my children, partners and friends.

I keep good hygiene and I take very good care of my hair and beard. I like to smell nice.

I sea swim year round and walk in the forest when I can.

At least once a week I eat my favourite junk food when the kids are away

I try to see at least one other adult socially or for sex a week.

I meditate and reflect.

I let any of the above slide if I need to go into sloth/cave mode when needed.

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By *avexxMan
12 weeks ago

cheshire

ive always kept myself fit mindset i guess love going for long walks with the dog,, helps me switch off find it great for my mental health

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I think it’s just a bunch of stuff that we’ve always done, but someone gave it a title so they can sell more products related to it.

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I agree. Hence why asked."
someone gave it a name or there's more awareness ? Sure more products are sold but do they improve the quality of life ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements.

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Agreed. It's just baseline normal everyday stuff. I also happen to breathe - is that self care?"
everyone's baseline is different here , someone might need a quick face wash and a brisk walk . Another person's deal care might be complex routines .

Again it's why I've done the post as I'm not really sure there's a right or wrong answer here

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By *elix SightedMan
12 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"Fitness: Yes. But not excessively so, I run and go for long walks for pleasure.

Physical health. Kinda. I don’t drink alcohol or caffeine, or do drugs, but I don’t have the healthiest diet.

Mental health: No. But I recognise I should do much more. I believe it’s important to talk about things in life that cause stress.

Emotional. No. That’s the one bit of my life that is missing but I’ll deal with that next year.

Cosmetic. No. I wash but that’s about it, I'm not a mirror princess.

When I lived in da countryside I used to love walking. Being in nature is a great way to destress I found. "

I agree Glow, it really works for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"Fitness: Yes. But not excessively so, I run and go for long walks for pleasure.

Physical health. Kinda. I don’t drink alcohol or caffeine, or do drugs, but I don’t have the healthiest diet.

Mental health: No. But I recognise I should do much more. I believe it’s important to talk about things in life that cause stress.

Emotional. No. That’s the one bit of my life that is missing but I’ll deal with that next year.

Cosmetic. No. I wash but that’s about it, I'm not a mirror princess.

When I lived in da countryside I used to love walking. Being in nature is a great way to destress I found.

I agree Glow, it really works for me."
nature is a great one for me

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By *rHotNottsMan
12 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It’s very important to me - good diet, good lifestyle, good friendships, strong healthy mind and body.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"It’s very important to me - good diet, good lifestyle, good friendships, strong healthy mind and body.

The more indulgent stuff like massages facials and pedicures. I probably do just once a month max at the moment. Although I did recently pay for one hour massage that turned into a 3 1/2 hour massage because I was so knackered from walking and it was so good, I didn’t wanna leave"
see personally I'd say the facial is a bit much but it's each to their own here . If that's what makes you feel like the best version of you then that's great

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

"It’s very important to me - good diet, good lifestyle, good friendships, strong healthy mind and body.

The more indulgent stuff like massages facials and pedicures. I probably do just once a month max at the moment. Although I did recently pay for one hour massage that turned into a 3 1/2 hour massage because I was so knackered from walking and it was so good, I didn’t wanna leavesee personally I'd say the facial is a bit much but it's each to their own here . If that's what makes you feel like the best version of you then that's great "

If you’ve never had a facial try one. You’ll feel a million dollars.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"Fitness: Yes. But not excessively so, I run and go for long walks for pleasure.

Physical health. Kinda. I don’t drink alcohol or caffeine, or do drugs, but I don’t have the healthiest diet.

Mental health: No. But I recognise I should do much more. I believe it’s important to talk about things in life that cause stress.

Emotional. No. That’s the one bit of my life that is missing but I’ll deal with that next year.

Cosmetic. No. I wash but that’s about it, I'm not a mirror princess.

When I lived in da countryside I used to love walking. Being in nature is a great way to destress I found. "

I agree lad, you can’t beat a good walk, love it

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I’m macho as fuck, and I’m still macho as fuck with an anti aging face cream on.

If anybody has anything to say then we’ll arm wrestle about it and the winner eats a lb of glass.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"It’s very important to me - good diet, good lifestyle, good friendships, strong healthy mind and body.

The more indulgent stuff like massages facials and pedicures. I probably do just once a month max at the moment. Although I did recently pay for one hour massage that turned into a 3 1/2 hour massage because I was so knackered from walking and it was so good, I didn’t wanna leavesee personally I'd say the facial is a bit much but it's each to their own here . If that's what makes you feel like the best version of you then that's great

If you’ve never had a facial try one. You’ll feel a million dollars. "
the closest I've gotten is a Turkish shave at the barbers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I’m macho as fuck, and I’m still macho as fuck with an anti aging face cream on.

If anybody has anything to say then we’ll arm wrestle about it and the winner eats a lb of glass."
why does that sound like a wwe promo to me 🤣🤣

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

"I’m macho as fuck, and I’m still macho as fuck with an anti aging face cream on.

If anybody has anything to say then we’ll arm wrestle about it and the winner eats a lb of glass."

I’ll arm wrestle ya poppet.

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By *ickawitchCouple
12 weeks ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I spend a lot of time in the gym, lifting weights and circuit training for my mental health as well as physical. But I’ve recently started Pilates and yoga ( both considered feminine classes) and CNN I’m loving all of it .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I spend a lot of time in the gym, lifting weights and circuit training for my mental health as well as physical. But I’ve recently started Pilates and yoga ( both considered feminine classes) and CNN I’m loving all of it . "
I'm more on the weights side with it but I've done a bit of yoga off of YouTube.

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By *ib.Man
12 weeks ago

Hampshire

"I'm all done for self care, but mine aren't really vanity based.what would you class as vanity based though ? For me the gym etc all goes to MH because I feel better overall and I do the stuff like meditation etc . Again I'm seeing differences in everyone's thoughts here "

It was more in reference to your body conscious comment.

I probably should go back to the gym tbh!

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By *ayRyuMan
12 weeks ago

Harrogate

I'm just going to say yes!

Very varied opinion on what it entails.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I'm just going to say yes!

Very varied opinion on what it entails.

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exactly it's all subjective which means I can debate everybody 🤗😂

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By *orthern BeardMan
12 weeks ago

Preston

Gym is great for your mental wellbeing. Can’t recommend it enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"Gym is great for your mental wellbeing. Can’t recommend it enough"
for sure I notice the difference when I've not been for a few days

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
12 weeks ago

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I do self care all the time.

Manicures at the shop sometimes. Haircuts. Shaves. Swimming. Dates with myself. Face masks. Foot peels. Foot packs. Obviously I moisturise everyday

and do my skincare

I don’t care if it’s not macho. Looking after yourself has always been cool amongst people I grew up with and hang around with.

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By *nkymikeyMan
12 weeks ago

Andover

Gym and good food and good wine mix with a good book to challenge the mind to grow and learn.

Plus just playing on the ps5 and sleeping till noon is my self care.

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By *ayRyuMan
12 weeks ago

Harrogate

"I'm just going to say yes!

Very varied opinion on what it entails.

exactly it's all subjective which means I can debate everybody 🤗😂"

Exactly why I remain vague

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By *essTTWoman
12 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements."

Self care is literally anything that involves looking after yourself.

I wish more men would indulge in, especially hygiene and skin care.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements.

Self care is literally anything that involves looking after yourself.

I wish more men would indulge in, especially hygiene and skin care."
hygiene should be a given but do you think the self is possibly lack of knowledge?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

*skin care

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
12 weeks ago

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"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements.

Self care is literally anything that involves looking after yourself.

I wish more men would indulge in, especially hygiene and skin care."

Wys they don’t pull their foreskin back in the shower?

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By *ib.Man
12 weeks ago

Hampshire

"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements.

Self care is literally anything that involves looking after yourself.

I wish more men would indulge in, especially hygiene and skin care.

Wys they don’t pull their foreskin back in the shower?

You're supposed to do that?

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
12 weeks ago

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"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements.

Self care is literally anything that involves looking after yourself.

I wish more men would indulge in, especially hygiene and skin care.

Wys they don’t pull their foreskin back in the shower?

You're supposed to do that?"

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By *ib.Man
12 weeks ago

Hampshire

"I'll answer this question...but first: what's "self care"? It can mean different things to different people.

Yes, I thought self care was about looking after your mental health, not working out at the gym and taking supplements.

Self care is literally anything that involves looking after yourself.

I wish more men would indulge in, especially hygiene and skin care.

Wys they don’t pull their foreskin back in the shower?

You're supposed to do that?

Phew! I'm rather attached to that particular shade of green.

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By *allipygousMan
12 weeks ago

Leicester

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