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"Ah, the good old days. When were those exactly?" That night in a London pub when I actually bent down to touch your thighs🤭 that was a good night for me 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"LOL not saying that isn’t possible however it’s also possible people have forgotten manners don’t cost anything? Morals don’t just disappear and most of all mature comes with age not location lol " Did they not have the reply to message button on those days? | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.." It’s amazing that the biggest moaners are often the ones they’re moaning about. I think you kinda have to take things as they come and understand people have lives outside of this experience. | |||
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"Just friendly nite, OP - if you hit "reply+quote" when you're replying to a particular poster, we'll be able to see which post you're replying to. Otherwise it gets a bit disjointed. "sorry I didn’t know how to do that lol | |||
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"I think a lot left during covid and it's definitely gone downhill since it seems far more males now then back then . Nowadays you start a conversation and swap messages etc. then it's a blank or a block " that’s why I’m asking what’s wrong with the site lol or is it just the people | |||
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"Just to add, I'm not genuine at all. I'm a construct of modern society's preoccupation with superficiality and glamour. 😌" 😂🤣😂 | |||
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"Just friendly nite, OP - if you hit "reply+quote" when you're replying to a particular poster, we'll be able to see which post you're replying to. Otherwise it gets a bit disjointed. sorry I didn’t know how to do that lol "No worries 😊 | |||
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"I wasn’t here in the glory days but I’m guessing the site consisted mainly of swingers wanting to meet other swingers with far less singles wanting to meet singles?" No it was meet who ya want to meet when you want to meet, but stuck to arranging the meet, get to know the meet before the meet, and have a genuine good time where your happy to meet that same meet, instead of arranging 20 meets and meeting none | |||
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"Just friendly nite, OP - if you hit "reply+quote" when you're replying to a particular poster, we'll be able to see which post you're replying to. Otherwise it gets a bit disjointed. sorry I didn’t know how to do that lol
No worries 😊"Thanks haha | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.." Back when it was a swingers site? | |||
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"I'm fake and proud "Tell me your fabulous boobs are all boo though… | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.. Back when it was a swingers site?" Ahah yeah Those days | |||
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"The site is exactly as it used to be bar some updates. The people might have changed" I wouldn’t say it’s the updates hat have changed as the app is how it should be, it’s been great to be part of the fav world for all these years I have been, but if you could see messages and how conversations go down in this day and age you’d find 90% just fake it time wasting and ruining it for others that are 100% genuine | |||
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"Someone’s got to pay my rent, and it isn’t going to be me 😡 The mr " And that’s got what to do with the topic or subject? Lol I don’t understand? | |||
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"Covid happened " Haha just because your meet restored your faith lol don’t use that covid line on me ahah 😂🤣😂 | |||
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"Covid happened Haha just because your meet restored your faith lol don’t use that covid line on me ahah 😂🤣😂" Lmao I think a lot of people questioned their relationships more after spending day in day out with each other! | |||
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"The site is exactly as it used to be bar some updates. The people might have changed I wouldn’t say it’s the updates hat have changed as the app is how it should be, it’s been great to be part of the fav world for all these years I have been, but if you could see messages and how conversations go down in this day and age you’d find 90% just fake it time wasting and ruining it for others that are 100% genuine " As difficult as it might be to believe we do get messages and have conversations. It might be because we're older that people don't usually muck us about or it could be our highly sensitive bull shit detector that lets us cut 'fakes' off at the knees...metaphorically of course | |||
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"Covid happened Haha just because your meet restored your faith lol don’t use that covid line on me ahah 😂🤣😂 Lmao I think a lot of people questioned their relationships more after spending day in day out with each other! " Haha I know what ya saying there lol which is more of a reason for people to get on here an get active lol 😂🤣😂 | |||
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"I'm afraid the chat up line i want to fuck you is wearing thin." 😂🤣😂 | |||
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" No it was meet who ya want to meet when you want to meet." I mean…. I’ve definitely noticed online dating in general become a lot more taxing then it was when I first entered the game. You used to match, chat, have a date and then go from there. I think there’s a few factors. I think some men are partly to blame in some regards. There’s only going to be soo many times a woman will meet guys who claim to be “x,y,z” that turn out not to be, before she starts hearing guys say they are “x,y,z” and now seeing it as a red flag or “guy lines” due to past experiences. That fucks it up for the guys who are “x,y,z” because they are being honest, and have now potentially been disregarded, and dont know why. And then there’s the “choice” factor. If you are a woman, you have the most options thrown at you, and to whittle it down you have to look for reasons to not engage, to not be interested, to make the sampling pool smaller, until you are left with what you think is the best catch for you. The only other option is to get to know every single person that shows you interest until the genuine ones come to light with time. But who wants to spend 24/7 on their phones? | |||
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" No it was meet who ya want to meet when you want to meet. I mean…. I’ve definitely noticed online dating in general become a lot more taxing then it was when I first entered the game. You used to match, chat, have a date and then go from there. I think there’s a few factors. I think some men are partly to blame in some regards. There’s only going to be soo many times a woman will meet guys who claim to be “x,y,z” that turn out not to be, before she starts hearing guys say they are “x,y,z” and now seeing it as a red flag or “guy lines” due to past experiences. That fucks it up for the guys who are “x,y,z” because they are being honest, and have now potentially been disregarded, and dont know why. And then there’s the “choice” factor. If you are a woman, you have the most options thrown at you, and to whittle it down you have to look for reasons to not engage, to not be interested, to make the sampling pool smaller, until you are left with what you think is the best catch for you. The only other option is to get to know every single person that shows you interest until the genuine ones come to light with time. But who wants to spend 24/7 on their phones?" everyone online with their phones in hand | |||
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"Covid happened Haha just because your meet restored your faith lol don’t use that covid line on me ahah 😂🤣😂 Lmao I think a lot of people questioned their relationships more after spending day in day out with each other! Haha I know what ya saying there lol which is more of a reason for people to get on here an get active lol 😂🤣😂" They have but like many think it's a send a "hi" (at best) and they are gonna get laid, then when they can't they take to the forums to commit fabicide..... thennn they change ages, lie, catfish people in an attempt and still fail. | |||
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"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either. Have I got that right?" Was much different before covid, the single male numbers flew through the roof. Back when we first found fab many many years ago it was mainly couples/fems. | |||
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"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either. Have I got that right? Was much different before covid, the single male numbers flew through the roof. Back when we first found fab many many years ago it was mainly couples/fems." I wonder if the number of swinging documentaries on Netflix and Amazon Prime caused an increase of single males too . | |||
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"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either. Have I got that right? Was much different before covid, the single male numbers flew through the roof. Back when we first found fab many many years ago it was mainly couples/fems. I wonder if the number of swinging documentaries on Netflix and Amazon Prime caused an increase of single males too ." Quite possibly! Some of the messages we get at least incur some jokes! | |||
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"I'm not free until 2026, there's not enough time to fit all the penis in! " Are you using all available holes though? I mean 3 at a time would get your availability down quite a lot | |||
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"I'm not free until 2026, there's not enough time to fit all the penis in! Are you using all available holes though? I mean 3 at a time would get your availability down quite a lot" That would be a hole lot of fun 😂🤣🤣 | |||
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"I'm not free until 2026, there's not enough time to fit all the penis in! Are you using all available holes though? I mean 3 at a time would get your availability down quite a lot That would be a hole lot of fun 😂🤣🤣" Holey smokes we aren't starting a hole load of jokes about this are we? Abyss'mal sense of humour! | |||
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"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either. Have I got that right?" Yes, and all the twats have spoilt it for the rest of us. "Us" being every single male profile. | |||
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Tell me your fabulous boobs are all boo though…"Boo's boobs are very much all real Boo 🤣🤣 | |||
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Boo's boobs are very much all real Boo 🤣🤣"Shouldn't you be out celebrating...? | |||
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"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either. Have I got that right? Yes, and all the twats have spoilt it for the rest of us. "Us" being every single male profile." It's easy to stand out from them. If not no guy would have any success at all. It's just knowing how to approach people properly, read their profiles and adhere to any prefs/wants they may have and you will get many more responses. You will still get lots that don't as they just don't fancy you. It's not been ruined.... just a lot of people expect loads of meets a year when it just doesn't work like that. If you had a meet a year as a single guy you are doing better than most! Jay | |||
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"I’ve been on and off here for 15 years, I can still arrange to meet people. Biggest difference that I can tell is a differing level of expectations that has created a culture of impatience amongst many people. They want it all, and they want it now. " This has been happening everywhere for many years. It's gone a bit sideways, but hey. Can't really do much about, other than carry on and try to have fun. 😆 | |||
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"Yeah that’s true but those days are gone where people wanted to know what other like and dislike now it’s just people getting excited over The phone not even wanting to know about hung about who they meeting, arrange to meet and don’t even reply lol " We would genuinely like to meet a guy from here but most don't help themselves. They seem to use the site as a wank bank and think that all the ladies on here are just after cock, and then whine and whinge when a cock pic doesn't get them laid. Has it crossed your mind that you're not getting meets due to your approach, rather than people not being genuine? K. | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.." They're letting in all the riff raff these days. It's gone to the dogs... | |||
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"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either. Have I got that right? Yes, and all the twats have spoilt it for the rest of us. "Us" being every single male profile. It's easy to stand out from them. If not no guy would have any success at all. It's just knowing how to approach people properly, read their profiles and adhere to any prefs/wants they may have and you will get many more responses. You will still get lots that don't as they just don't fancy you. It's not been ruined.... just a lot of people expect loads of meets a year when it just doesn't work like that. If you had a meet a year as a single guy you are doing better than most! Jay" It's hard to convey sarcasm in the written form. Maybe I'm just crap at it 🤷🏾♂️ | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.. They're letting in all the riff raff these days. It's gone to the dogs..." Not just riffraff shag nasties | |||
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"Yeah that’s true but those days are gone where people wanted to know what other like and dislike now it’s just people getting excited over The phone not even wanting to know about hung about who they meeting, arrange to meet and don’t even reply lol We would genuinely like to meet a guy from here but most don't help themselves. They seem to use the site as a wank bank and think that all the ladies on here are just after cock, and then whine and whinge when a cock pic doesn't get them laid. Has it crossed your mind that you're not getting meets due to your approach, rather than people not being genuine? K." Lol my approach is totally opposite to all the willy wankers on here but thanks for the opinion c | |||
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"Lol not quite sure what part of my message you didn’t understand, yeah we all have lives off this site but when you’re on the site and using It it’s not hard to reply to others interested or not, it’s not hard to arrange a meet and actually turn up or reply, it’s not hard to avoid wasting ones time with pointless messages, but it all seems to be hard, I think it’s even hard for people to understand these days too " It’s quite hard to reply if you suddenly get innundated (it happens occasionally) It’s really hard to reply to a million “hey” “hi” “wuu2”. I mean how do I start a conversation from that. Especially if the profile is 20 cock pictures and “I’m a man looking to meet women”… Arranging meets is sometimes complicated when schedules aren’t aligning. And I’ve had way more men not turn up or disappear than I have women. Messages aren’t pointless to all of us. I quite like to establish whether I’m likely to be attracted to someone before meeting (to avoid wasting anyone’s time) | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.." I've been here a few years and it hasn't changed that much. I'm just better at sussing out the fantasists and picture collectors. I'm grateful for the group of friends I've made here and we keep in touch mostly off the site. | |||
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"Whilst there are a few idiot rude single guys. I've noticed how more n more couples n single females tarnish all single guys the same. I've been on here for 15 years and would definitely say it has gone downhill over the last 6 or 7 years. " Out of everyone on this site, I've had most problems and issues with couples. Demanding, rude and just an overall horrible attitude. And did I mention demanding. This isn't to say all are like this. A lot of wonderful couples on here. | |||
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"My thoughts are that swinging is not seen as outrageous as it once was Peoples opinions on sex and sexuality are way more liberal than they were even 10 years ago The Web has also made swinging more accessible- historically, you either went to clubs and got to know people or you didn't have access to the scene Now you can dip your toes in, at will, from the comfort of your sofa It's all there - and it's free People talk about sites like this, so as awareness grows, so does the curiosity and so does the membership The long and short of it is that this site is swamped with people who think they are swingers, but are really just opening another channel to either make connections or simply get a shag Most of these new members are men, most of them straight so they all seek the same % of the site This % tire of the constant barrage of often banal or vulgar introductions and simply just don't respond (or even open) to messages When you hear the same lines churned out over and over again, it just becomes boring Even me, as a bloke, get messages that I just roll my eyes at, think 'here we go again' and rather than being polite in response, simply delete From another angle, we live in a time where an extension of social media monetises sex and sexuality - so there is a section of members who now use Fab as an extension of their socials and to increase their profile in the hope that by being here, some of the traffic is encouraged over to other channels I don't know what the solution is from the sites perspective The only aspect I can manage is how I use the site I think managing expectation and managing when, how and with you communicate with others are the only controls we have So, rather than pointing our fingers outwards, I think that if we turn those fingers towards ourselves, we may go some way towards managing our frustration with Fab and how others use it" Perfectly put. 👌👌 | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.." This. | |||
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"This site as gone down hill lots more fakes on here now but there is some genuine nice people too" . Exactly my thoughts | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.. This." You agree too | |||
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"It use to be easier to get a meet. That was probably because I was younger, fitter and had hair. Hey...it is what it is "Nah mate stop it you still are you get and fitter ahah age is just a number of you let it play on your mind physiologically you’ll believe anything, so tell yaself every day ya 21 and love live and laugh with life | |||
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"Its gone crap!, next question! Mrs x" Yep totally agree ahah Next question ok.. What do you think would make fab fabtastic again? | |||
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"It'll soon be my 17th anniversary on Fab. I've never noticed any changes other than some people leaving the site and others joining it. In that time I've been a single, a couple, a single again and now both. During each stage I've had meets, met people, had messages read/deleted/ignored/replied to. I often wonder if those saying things were better a decade ago are blaiming the site and other people, when it could just be that we're all now older, and that we're possibly still optimistically looking for the same people we were back then? Maybe it's 'us' and not the site or other people? *by 'us' I mean generically us, not actual us. I'm.still having a blast. 🤷♂️" Ok but then again a decade ago the site Was but more genuine, you mentioned about being older than what we was back then but that don’t mean we’ve forgotten how to speak to people or approach people to get a response, you either misinterpreted what I’ve meant or misunderstood my point however appreciate you’re opinion fair point and we do all experience things differently, even though I didn’t point fingers to the site I questioned as to what’s happened to the site? Reference to people’s ignorance, or time wasting etc.. But again I just wanted to read what others are also thinking | |||
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"I’ve had plenty of meets. Yeah sometimes it’s tough to get replies but I find that’s probably because women are either inundated with messages or really are in the driving seat with the options available to them. If you’re looking for an easy fuck, this isn’t the place. Takes effort " Not even about a easy fuck lol there’s loads of them about I’m on about genuine ones, ya know the ones that want to have a chat and banter before they meet someone or call someone to there home, I’m one of them stimulate my mind and you can stimulate everything else after | |||
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"This site as gone down hill lots more fakes on here now but there is some genuine nice people too" 💯 | |||
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"Wait people used to get laid on here?!" Rumour has it a select few still do 👀 | |||
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"Wait people used to get laid on here?! Rumour has it a select few still do 👀" 😂🤣😂🤣😂 | |||
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"It'll soon be my 17th anniversary on Fab. I've never noticed any changes other than some people leaving the site and others joining it. In that time I've been a single, a couple, a single again and now both. During each stage I've had meets, met people, had messages read/deleted/ignored/replied to. I often wonder if those saying things were better a decade ago are blaiming the site and other people, when it could just be that we're all now older, and that we're possibly still optimistically looking for the same people we were back then? Maybe it's 'us' and not the site or other people? *by 'us' I mean generically us, not actual us. I'm.still having a blast. 🤷♂️ Ok but then again a decade ago the site Was but more genuine, you mentioned about being older than what we was back then but that don’t mean we’ve forgotten how to speak to people or approach people to get a response, you either misinterpreted what I’ve meant or misunderstood my point however appreciate you’re opinion fair point and we do all experience things differently, even though I didn’t point fingers to the site I questioned as to what’s happened to the site? Reference to people’s ignorance, or time wasting etc.. But again I just wanted to read what others are also thinking " I'll always give the same reply. I really don't think the site has changed, nor have I changed how I use it and I'm still having a blast and enjoying Fab life. I'm older now than when I first joined, obvs, but that just changed the people I interact with. I've had enough time to work out what works, what doesn't and how best to navigate Fab life. I really, honestly, 100% haven't felt any changes over the last 17 years. The site still functions exactly the same, I can still spot which profiles to avoid easily and which catch my eye, and I still approach any contact that happens exactly the same way - zero expectations, zero urgency and zero pressure. | |||
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"Maybe the quality of the men has subsided & the quality of the women have risen. I’ve been here a year, I’ve had 100’s if not close to 1000 propositions, I’ve taken 1 guy on in the whole of that time who I have had sex with regularly, he’s there for me & isn’t flakey or demanding, he’s perfect tbh, going to be gutted when I move … 🤷🏻♀️ " I've definitely noticed this... | |||
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"People who are saying it hasn't changed are you being serious. There are a handful of genuine folk on here them the rest are rude or fake. Its massively gone down hill but unfortunately there's not much else either." Yes. To me it hasn't. Maybe it's just they way I use the site. Who knows. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"A flood of instant gratification, dating site origination, non swingers found the site in covid lockdown times. Which does makes filtering a bit more time consuming. Luckily clubs and private parties have remained the same, with the majority of attendees being swingers, looking for a fun night out "Not seen a private party in my area or remotely close since before lockdown. Tried to do one early last year (on my couples account with my wife). Apart from a few regular freinds, no one interested. So we all went to the club. To be honest I can't even get a response from anyone on here (that I've not met in the clubs). Online thing had its day and I'm bot sure it's been as good as people think. Can't beat meeting people face to face. | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.." I totally agree its hard work these days :/ | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.. I agree i find it very hard to speak to people on here i don't seem to say anything right haha " Dont worry mate you say what you want. No right or wrong this to say, but also get where you’re coming from x | |||
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"A flood of instant gratification, dating site origination, non swingers found the site in covid lockdown times. Which does makes filtering a bit more time consuming. Luckily clubs and private parties have remained the same, with the majority of attendees being swingers, looking for a fun night out
Not seen a private party in my area or remotely close since before lockdown.
Tried to do one early last year (on my couples account with my wife). Apart from a few regular freinds, no one interested.
So we all went to the club.
To be honest I can't even get a response from anyone on here (that I've not met in the clubs).
Online thing had its day and I'm bot sure it's been as good as people think. Can't beat meeting people face to face.
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"People who are saying it hasn't changed are you being serious. There are a handful of genuine folk on here them the rest are rude or fake. Its massively gone down hill but unfortunately there's not much else either." 😂🤣😂 | |||
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"Met plenty in the past. Then, as I got older, I must have become less interesting. Don't think that's the site's fault. " Exactly! You get it. | |||
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"Met plenty in the past. Then, as I got older, I must have become less interesting. Don't think that's the site's fault. Exactly! You get it. " 😂🤣😂 | |||
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"Met plenty in the past. Then, as I got older, I must have become less interesting. Don't think that's the site's fault. " Yes, yes. But it's so much easier to blame everyone else on the site! 🤣 | |||
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"99% of the time this site is dreadful - the abuse I have received just this evening is something to behold. " That isn't the site though, that is some or one person. Always report abuse please | |||
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"People who are saying it hasn't changed are you being serious. There are a handful of genuine folk on here them the rest are rude or fake. Its massively gone down hill but unfortunately there's not much else either." I've been here 8 years and using the forums for just over 5. I'm not currently meeting and haven't sent an introductory message since January 2020 so fab is really just a hobby rather than a lifestyle choice. In saying that though I haven't noticed any significant change in attitude across the board in all my time here. I've probably met 60-70 people across those 8 years and never once had a no show, never been catfished, never engaged with a fake profile and never had my time wasted. Yes some of those people weren't able to maintain the lovely personas they had created and needed to be involved in one drama or another but that was easily avoided. If all these things were really so widespread the law of averages would say that I shouldn't have been able to avoid them for so long so it's not really down to luck. I always do my own due diligence, never rely on what others tell me and I'm extremely fussy about who I chat to and even moreso about who I choose to get naked with. It really is that simple. | |||
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"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples." Maybe the couples are too busy meeting like minded couples instead of whinging in here. I could be wrong though 🤷🏾♂️ | |||
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"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples." · One possible explanation could be that the genesis of all likeminded couples originate from likeminded singletons. How else could they become couples? Fab is one such platform for such outcomes. | |||
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"LOL not saying that isn’t possible however it’s also possible people have forgotten manners don’t cost anything? Morals don’t just disappear and most of all mature comes with age not location lol " Manners don't cost anything however it works both ways I get to a point where I don't see why I should take time to reply to a message that's is two letters, zero profile information, no pics and a shadow | |||
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"LOL not saying that isn’t possible however it’s also possible people have forgotten manners don’t cost anything? Morals don’t just disappear and most of all mature comes with age not location lol " I think this. The younger males joining are doing so thinking m this is a random free sex site. The world changed and it's a factory mindset, if you won't fuck me, the next one will. Etiquette and politeness died. Caused many a woman to hide profiles, block men and partake less. | |||
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"LOL not saying that isn’t possible however it’s also possible people have forgotten manners don’t cost anything? Morals don’t just disappear and most of all mature comes with age not location lol I think this. The younger males joining are doing so thinking m this is a random free sex site. The world changed and it's a factory mindset, if you won't fuck me, the next one will. Etiquette and politeness died. Caused many a woman to hide profiles, block men and partake less. " I send some messages out to folk that look interesting, with good bio's. Quite often there's a huge amount of one sided effort put into drawing out engaging replies, getting to the point of if someone's actually interested or not, and then actually pinning someone down on time to meet - this has been both MF cpls, and solo men in my case. Often it'll be that because I don't accommodate (even though I offer to split hotel costs). Then they don't want to put their hand or their pocket, or they'll assume offering a carpark fumble is a suitable alternative 
Plus some couples have been outright snotty/demanding in what they expect...
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"There seems to have been a cull in the Forums, Noticed a lot of people gone on my return, And not as many newbies as I'd have expected, Maybe the lounge ain't where it's at anymore OP." Lots of newbies don't take the time to actually look at the site They jump straight into messages before they even complete their profile then follow up with a status about ignorant people! | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.." ~And they brought a scuttle of coal round with them on winter's nights. Now it's all central this , smart that and holograms of cock's n balls. What's the word coming to. People these days don't know what a hook up is ......... bahhhhhhhhh humbug | |||
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"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples. Maybe the couples are too busy meeting like minded couples instead of whinging in here. I could be wrong though 🤷🏾♂️" As both a mod and a couple (not those profile, obvs) I'd agree with the above comment. I see far more statements of discontent from single male profiles than any other demographic. The only thing I'd disagree with is that the couples are just meeting other couples. People who are happy tend to just get on with things. People who are unhappy are more vocal in their unhappiness. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"One day I will publish my 'Tried and tested organised group social method™' The short version is: Find suitable events on Fab. Get to know people in a group chat. Make friends and sometimes even fancy each other at the event. Arrange to see each other again. If you’re looking to arrange things solely through fab messages you are likely to be disappointed. " This is exactly it. Fab works best as an addition to, not the only outlet for, a swinging lifestyle. Go out, meet people at events and find folks. Sitting staring at a screen is a recipe for misery | |||
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"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples." Think you need to count up the messages again and get them numbers right lol | |||
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"So many people complaining, yet all still here. " They’re not complaining they’re expressing themselves and still looking for someone to meet and match with | |||
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"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples. Think you need to count up the messages again and get them numbers right lol " 8 couples  | |||
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"Fab is pretty much the same as its always been. We have both been on here as singles for many many years.. Yes it does change.. the forums go through phases... although I miss the banter of old.. that is more due to the way a group of people bounced off one another.. I'm less likely to join in now with the newer forum regulars... ( so in many ways that's me that has changed rather than fab) We use fab as a tool and it works. X Cali" Yeah I get you | |||
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"Awww all you poor people not getting a shag when you want lol bless " I don’t think that’s what’s up lol | |||
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"So many people complaining, yet all still here. They’re not complaining they’re expressing themselves and still looking for someone to meet and match with " Looks very much like complaining to me!! | |||
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"So many people complaining, yet all still here. They’re not complaining they’re expressing themselves and still looking for someone to meet and match with Looks very much like complaining to me!!" Oh well we all have our opinions and entitled to them | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.." vote with your feet pal this place isn’t a prison sentence plus plenty of fanny in the real world | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.. Get out on the real world then my friend vote with your feet pal this place isn’t a prison sentence plus plenty of fanny in the real world " | |||
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"Today I get a lot of messages from those who are seeking Cyber rather than meeting in public. In 2005 - 2017 I received messages from those requesting My company and had lunch with Me..." Totally agree x | |||
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"Today I get a lot of messages from those who are seeking Cyber rather than meeting in public. In 2005 - 2017 I received messages from those requesting My company and had lunch with Me..." Loving the nails btw lol x | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.. Get out on the real world then my friend vote with your feet pal this place isn’t a prison sentence plus plenty of fanny in the real world " bit harsh that son just a bit of advice from Harry thought you northern lot were a friendly bunch | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.." Totally agree, I have been here since the start in two open relationships aha as a single guy so I have seen a lot. Now I just come to chat as predators have killed it off. | |||
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"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.. Get out on the real world then my friend vote with your feet pal this place isn’t a prison sentence plus plenty of fanny in the real world bit harsh that son just a bit of advice from Harry thought you northern lot were a friendly bunch " God I miss Tom 💔. | |||
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