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"I know it's Friday. But I'm not in the best psychological place. I am home, but the prospect of being home alone for 12hrs a day, every weekday, is not something I'm relishing. And I'm sick of my body failing me. But I'm alive. That's a start. Probably. " Glad to hear that you are home. At least you might get some sleep. | |||
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"Hey everyone. Where to start. Mental health usxall over the place. Stress levels sky high. I rent a couple of properties out and I'm trying to evict one tenant. So far its been 20months and counting. The agent I use is fucking useless but I'm so far down the road I can't swap agents. Payment for the other properties are always late even though tenants pay on time. Then there's family life. I've had 3 close uncles/aunties die in the last 6 months. So all in all a fairly shitty time. Jox " Sending hugs | |||
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"I know it's Friday. But I'm not in the best psychological place. I am home, but the prospect of being home alone for 12hrs a day, every weekday, is not something I'm relishing. And I'm sick of my body failing me. But I'm alive. That's a start. Probably. " Update after a week. Pain started to get progressively more horrific yesterday and overnight and today, I'm totally crippled. Getting out of bed, into my wheelchair and onto the toilet is such an horrific ordeal. I'm very mentally low and just want to give up now. It's too much to bear. | |||
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"I know it's Friday. But I'm not in the best psychological place. I am home, but the prospect of being home alone for 12hrs a day, every weekday, is not something I'm relishing. And I'm sick of my body failing me. But I'm alive. That's a start. Probably. Update after a week. Pain started to get progressively more horrific yesterday and overnight and today, I'm totally crippled. Getting out of bed, into my wheelchair and onto the toilet is such an horrific ordeal. I'm very mentally low and just want to give up now. It's too much to bear. " 😔 I don't have anything close to the right words. All I can say is that the world is a better place with you in it. ❤️ | |||
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"I know it's Friday. But I'm not in the best psychological place. I am home, but the prospect of being home alone for 12hrs a day, every weekday, is not something I'm relishing. And I'm sick of my body failing me. But I'm alive. That's a start. Probably. Update after a week. Pain started to get progressively more horrific yesterday and overnight and today, I'm totally crippled. Getting out of bed, into my wheelchair and onto the toilet is such an horrific ordeal. I'm very mentally low and just want to give up now. It's too much to bear. 😔 I don't have anything close to the right words. All I can say is that the world is a better place with you in it. ❤️" I had a very bad time around midnight last night. I couldn't stop crying. I'm more together now but it's just too much. Too much. | |||
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"I know it's Friday. But I'm not in the best psychological place. I am home, but the prospect of being home alone for 12hrs a day, every weekday, is not something I'm relishing. And I'm sick of my body failing me. But I'm alive. That's a start. Probably. Update after a week. Pain started to get progressively more horrific yesterday and overnight and today, I'm totally crippled. Getting out of bed, into my wheelchair and onto the toilet is such an horrific ordeal. I'm very mentally low and just want to give up now. It's too much to bear. 😔 I don't have anything close to the right words. All I can say is that the world is a better place with you in it. ❤️ I had a very bad time around midnight last night. I couldn't stop crying. I'm more together now but it's just too much. Too much. " N - you really don't need to be "together". The evidence isn't supporting that as a realistic option currently, maybe always, maybe lots ahead, anyway. But there are mostly, and usually, ways of being very, very broken that don't have to lead to giving up, which also give access to various pleasures. It's an enormous and unwanted change you're going through, but it's here. And responses to it that give you something worthwhile also exist. Very, very occasionally they genuinely don't exist. That's ridiculously rare though. Start off from thinking "I'm extremely, possibly totally broken". Expect nothing, and see if there's space to find something. Nick xxxx | |||
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"I know it's Friday. But I'm not in the best psychological place. I am home, but the prospect of being home alone for 12hrs a day, every weekday, is not something I'm relishing. And I'm sick of my body failing me. But I'm alive. That's a start. Probably. Update after a week. Pain started to get progressively more horrific yesterday and overnight and today, I'm totally crippled. Getting out of bed, into my wheelchair and onto the toilet is such an horrific ordeal. I'm very mentally low and just want to give up now. It's too much to bear. 😔 I don't have anything close to the right words. All I can say is that the world is a better place with you in it. ❤️ I had a very bad time around midnight last night. I couldn't stop crying. I'm more together now but it's just too much. Too much. N - you really don't need to be "together". The evidence isn't supporting that as a realistic option currently, maybe always, maybe lots ahead, anyway. But there are mostly, and usually, ways of being very, very broken that don't have to lead to giving up, which also give access to various pleasures. It's an enormous and unwanted change you're going through, but it's here. And responses to it that give you something worthwhile also exist. Very, very occasionally they genuinely don't exist. That's ridiculously rare though. Start off from thinking "I'm extremely, possibly totally broken". Expect nothing, and see if there's space to find something. Nick xxxx " Nick, I'm broken both physically and mentally. It took 2 people (Mr KC and our child) plus me, 45mins to achieve a sit down flannel wash this afternoon. Currently wedged into wheelchair at an interesting angle, I can't move my body without extreme pain and can barely propel myself. On Tuesday of this past week, I perfectly ably wheeled myself around a hospital for an appointment. The contrast is insane and there's absolutely no obvious explanation for it. That's partly why I'm so frustrated. Just, why? Why is it tolerable one day and the next is so horrific that I can't do anything at all? I know there's no answer. | |||
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"I know it's Friday. But I'm not in the best psychological place. I am home, but the prospect of being home alone for 12hrs a day, every weekday, is not something I'm relishing. And I'm sick of my body failing me. But I'm alive. That's a start. Probably. Update after a week. Pain started to get progressively more horrific yesterday and overnight and today, I'm totally crippled. Getting out of bed, into my wheelchair and onto the toilet is such an horrific ordeal. I'm very mentally low and just want to give up now. It's too much to bear. 😔 I don't have anything close to the right words. All I can say is that the world is a better place with you in it. ❤️ I had a very bad time around midnight last night. I couldn't stop crying. I'm more together now but it's just too much. Too much. N - you really don't need to be "together". The evidence isn't supporting that as a realistic option currently, maybe always, maybe lots ahead, anyway. But there are mostly, and usually, ways of being very, very broken that don't have to lead to giving up, which also give access to various pleasures. It's an enormous and unwanted change you're going through, but it's here. And responses to it that give you something worthwhile also exist. Very, very occasionally they genuinely don't exist. That's ridiculously rare though. Start off from thinking "I'm extremely, possibly totally broken". Expect nothing, and see if there's space to find something. Nick xxxx Nick, I'm broken both physically and mentally. It took 2 people (Mr KC and our child) plus me, 45mins to achieve a sit down flannel wash this afternoon. Currently wedged into wheelchair at an interesting angle, I can't move my body without extreme pain and can barely propel myself. On Tuesday of this past week, I perfectly ably wheeled myself around a hospital for an appointment. The contrast is insane and there's absolutely no obvious explanation for it. That's partly why I'm so frustrated. Just, why? Why is it tolerable one day and the next is so horrific that I can't do anything at all? I know there's no answer. " 
There's a bit of an answer, but it takes a lot of rearranging how you think.
Genuinely expect every day to be totally shit. Fucking awfuller than awful.
That creates the space for pleasures in the days that aren't.
And park the intensity of the urge to know the answers, medically. We're at a very early stage of understanding medicine. It just feels advanced (and therefore frustrating when you don't know what the issues are) because we compare it to the past levels of ignorance, not the future levels of expanding knowledge.
If, objectively (not your version of objective - third person verified objective), the vast majority of days are so genuinely shit, after maybe 6-12 months, then I would look at the giving up option.
If being around for my kid, and a few other things, COULDN'T take away enough of the physical pain, I don't think anyone has the right to stop that decision.
But it's important, always, to get third person verifiers during the entire process. | |||
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"I know it's Friday. But I'm not in the best psychological place. I am home, but the prospect of being home alone for 12hrs a day, every weekday, is not something I'm relishing. And I'm sick of my body failing me. But I'm alive. That's a start. Probably. Update after a week. Pain started to get progressively more horrific yesterday and overnight and today, I'm totally crippled. Getting out of bed, into my wheelchair and onto the toilet is such an horrific ordeal. I'm very mentally low and just want to give up now. It's too much to bear. 😔 I don't have anything close to the right words. All I can say is that the world is a better place with you in it. ❤️ I had a very bad time around midnight last night. I couldn't stop crying. I'm more together now but it's just too much. Too much. N - you really don't need to be "together". The evidence isn't supporting that as a realistic option currently, maybe always, maybe lots ahead, anyway. But there are mostly, and usually, ways of being very, very broken that don't have to lead to giving up, which also give access to various pleasures. It's an enormous and unwanted change you're going through, but it's here. And responses to it that give you something worthwhile also exist. Very, very occasionally they genuinely don't exist. That's ridiculously rare though. Start off from thinking "I'm extremely, possibly totally broken". Expect nothing, and see if there's space to find something. Nick xxxx Nick, I'm broken both physically and mentally. It took 2 people (Mr KC and our child) plus me, 45mins to achieve a sit down flannel wash this afternoon. Currently wedged into wheelchair at an interesting angle, I can't move my body without extreme pain and can barely propel myself. On Tuesday of this past week, I perfectly ably wheeled myself around a hospital for an appointment. The contrast is insane and there's absolutely no obvious explanation for it. That's partly why I'm so frustrated. Just, why? Why is it tolerable one day and the next is so horrific that I can't do anything at all? I know there's no answer.
There's a bit of an answer, but it takes a lot of rearranging how you think.
Genuinely expect every day to be totally shit. Fucking awfuller than awful.
That creates the space for pleasures in the days that aren't.
And park the intensity of the urge to know the answers, medically. We're at a very early stage of understanding medicine. It just feels advanced (and therefore frustrating when you don't know what the issues are) because we compare it to the past levels of ignorance, not the future levels of expanding knowledge.
If, objectively (not your version of objective - third person verified objective), the vast majority of days are so genuinely shit, after maybe 6-12 months, then I would look at the giving up option.
If being around for my kid, and a few other things, COULDN'T take away enough of the physical pain, I don't think anyone has the right to stop that decision.
But it's important, always, to get third person verifiers during the entire process."I'm nearly 8 years in, Nick. And it's getting worse year on year. I've been just getting on since Dec 2016. | |||
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"My mental health is shit tbh. Saved up for 18 months to go to Australia, lasted 3 months out there, back living at home and have zero motivation left in me. Just feel like I'm going through the motions in terms of living and at 35 fear its far too late to turn things round now" 35 is not too late to turn things around, sorry it hasn't turned out how you anticipated xx | |||
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"I'm suffered with mental health problems on and since I was 18,this last year has been really hard as I've got to be strong for my daughter but I've slowly been dying inside,things have started to improve but that dark cloud is never far away" When that dark cloud exists it's part of us right? Have you got support? ❤️ | |||
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"I'm suffered with mental health problems on and since I was 18,this last year has been really hard as I've got to be strong for my daughter but I've slowly been dying inside,things have started to improve but that dark cloud is never far away When that dark cloud exists it's part of us right? Have you got support? ❤️" Yes I have thank you | |||
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"I'm suffered with mental health problems on and since I was 18,this last year has been really hard as I've got to be strong for my daughter but I've slowly been dying inside,things have started to improve but that dark cloud is never far away When that dark cloud exists it's part of us right? Have you got support? ❤️ Yes I have thank you" You've got this xx | |||
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"I'm suffered with mental health problems on and since I was 18,this last year has been really hard as I've got to be strong for my daughter but I've slowly been dying inside,things have started to improve but that dark cloud is never far away When that dark cloud exists it's part of us right? Have you got support? ❤️ Yes I have thank you You've got this xx" I have ,again thank you xx | |||
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"The black dog has been growing bigger every day for me recently unfortunately and don’t know how to shut him down at the moment " Sending hugs... my inbox is always open if you need a chat x | |||
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