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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago

So how do you all approach this ?

I mean seriously who wants a hey baby ,it's like caveman times and going me you fuck now

But also theres the other end which starts dear carol ( I don't know a carol hope she's kinky ) and 17 pages of you declaring your undying love and details since primary school because you had your cock out over a tit pic 30 seconds before

You lot get this so why am I over explaining this shit !!

Do you use humour ?

Do you keep it simple ?

Are you direct ?

Do you write a Danielle Steele novel ?

Do any of you horny buggers want to DM me ? I have a notification kink I think ( joke but I'm always open to connection 🤗😊

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By *eroLondonMan
36 weeks ago

Covent Garden

Dear OP, I rarely send the first message, but I'm quite reluctant to divulge my secrets here on the open forå. At the very least dispense with all forms of sycophancy and such similar traits.

Keep the messages short, inject some humour, do not sexualise your messages from the onset, reference something from their profiles... it's a dark årt that only a necromancer would understand and comprehend.

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By *enk15Man
36 weeks ago

Evesham

I hit them with some dad jokes.

The only downside is they are laughing too hard and forget to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

First message keep it simple but there's a fine line between an essay and toddlers speech. Make it clear why you've messaged and don't get sexual. Show a bit of personality, humours always good.

Ultimately just be yourself and if they don't respond, you aren't for them. People focus way too much on messaging when most of it is attraction based. Don't overthink it and do you, you meet the right people that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago


"I hit them with some dad jokes.

The only downside is they are laughing too hard and forget to reply "
pizza delivery people and gynaecologists have the same problems

They're both allowed to smell the goods but not allowed to eat them

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By *he Silver FuxMan
36 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"I hit them with some dad jokes.

The only downside is they are laughing too hard and forget to reply pizza delivery people and gynaecologists have the same problems

They're both allowed to smell the goods but not allowed to eat them "

Jeez. Quite a disconnect with your profile name there buddy.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
36 weeks ago

Stoke

It doesn't matter what you write, if they don't fancy you they're probably not going to reply.

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By *ealitybitesMan
36 weeks ago

Belfast

I approach it by not sending messages at all.

The last time I sent an introductory message was January 2020 so every conversation since has been initiated by others.

Even before I stopped sending them I was always extremely fussy and selective in who I chose to contact.

I've seen comments on threads about messaging everyone in their area and talked about sending 100s of messages without reply.

I've been here since 2016 and I would guess that in all that time I haven't sent more than 40 or 50 opening messages in total.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago


"I hit them with some dad jokes.

The only downside is they are laughing too hard and forget to reply pizza delivery people and gynaecologists have the same problems

They're both allowed to smell the goods but not allowed to eat them "

This made me smirk and when visualised gave me the heebie jeebies, so I don't know how it'd go down in an opening message 😏

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
36 weeks ago

London

I usually try to keep it unhinged

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago


"I hit them with some dad jokes.

The only downside is they are laughing too hard and forget to reply pizza delivery people and gynaecologists have the same problems

They're both allowed to smell the goods but not allowed to eat them

This made me smirk and when visualised gave me the heebie jeebies, so I don't know how it'd go down in an opening message 😏"
I'm not that savage in an opening message , I can be but humour is subjective for sure so I'm not normally that strong

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago


"It doesn't matter what you write, if they don't fancy you they're probably not going to reply. "

100% this

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By *ellhungvweMan
36 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"I usually try to keep it unhinged

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Honesty is the best policy?

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By *rHotNottsMan
36 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Don’t overthink just type what is in my head, maybe check it before sending, sometimes pure filth, sometimes drivel, usually the opposite of what you’re supposed to do

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I send boobs and an attempt at humour.

Usually works.

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By *aitonelMan
36 weeks ago

Liverpool


"I send boobs and an attempt at humour.

Usually works."

I got zero boobs, nor did I laugh!

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago


"I send boobs and an attempt at humour.

Usually works.

I got zero boobs, nor did I laugh! "

You'd laugh if I sent you boobs

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By *aitonelMan
36 weeks ago

Liverpool


"I send boobs and an attempt at humour.

Usually works.

I got zero boobs, nor did I laugh!

You'd laugh if I sent you boobs "

To be fair my initial post was going to be "surely they are the same thing"

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By *eliWoman
36 weeks ago

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I message if I want to, with what I want to. I don't really overthink it.

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By *aitonelMan
36 weeks ago

Liverpool


"I message if I want to, with what I want to. I don't really overthink it. "

Well I now know where I stand! 😱

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I have a simple system

I write a long message taking into account everything I see in her profile

Then I send that message to another woman

I’ve got no replies yet so I guess they must be thinking hard about how to respond to my brilliant mind

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By *hunky GentMan
36 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

Shakespeare quotes are a good start.

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Followed by a little humour.

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Ending with 'Fancy a Fuck?'

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By *aitonelMan
36 weeks ago

Liverpool

Honestly though it all comes down to the vibe I get from their profile.

If I feel intrigued and attracted I'll put in maximum effort matching the vibe I get.

If I'm attracted but don't feel much from the profile then it's a quick basic introduction message.

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By *eliWoman
36 weeks ago

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"I message if I want to, with what I want to. I don't really overthink it.

Well I now know where I stand! 😱"

Oh Kai. Chin up cutiepie. 🩷

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I don't message very often but when I do I try to respond to something in their profile - which is often what prompted my message in the first place.

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By *cnugatugMan
36 weeks ago

Chatham

My formula for messaging is like the recipe for the krabby pattie recipe it shan't be revealed to anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago


"I send boobs and an attempt at humour.

Usually works."
send me boobs without humour as an experiment if you like and see if I decide to respond 🤗🤣

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago


"Honestly though it all comes down to the vibe I get from their profile.

If I feel intrigued and attracted I'll put in maximum effort matching the vibe I get.

If I'm attracted but don't feel much from the profile then it's a quick basic introduction message. "
I do that but then a kit don't answer , can I superimpose my head on your body and see if that helps ?

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By *ucka39Man
36 weeks ago

Newcastle

1 and 2, keep the 3rd when it's right

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago

Kit-lot screw you spell check

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By *agic.MMan
36 weeks ago

Orpington

I use the art of messaging without messaging...so I wink or fab some pics and that usually is enough for them to message me. Other times I don't even do that and they still message - who would've thought... works for me

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By *onnie 90Woman
36 weeks ago

Leeds

My number one favourite message I've ever received was very brief but directly to the point. Absolutely no messing around. It simply said "U FK NW".

It did receive an instant block though so not the best approach 😆

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By *entleman JayMan
36 weeks ago

Wakefield


"I send boobs and an attempt at humour.

Usually works."

I don’t get boobs. Lol. I do get replies though. I bounce a few messages back and forth. If they then dry up I move on. I’m not chasing people.

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