FabSwingers.com forum: Sexist?

By *ickie_Ranking OP Man
2 weeks ago

London

I briefly exchanged messages with a lady on Fab, asked to exchanged numbers and she agreed.

We sent a few messages on WhatsApp but I could tell she wasn't really interested.

We decided to exchange photos, but when she sent me hers, her face was very serious. I asked "What do I have to do to make you smile?".

She then said "I'm being sexist" for asking her that question.

So asking a lady, what makes you smile or how can I make you smile is sexist?

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By *uzzleMan
2 weeks ago

Hastings

She said you were "being sexist" for asking "What do I have to do to make you smile?".

One best avoided me thinks.

Maybe a message back saying "sounds like you need to lighten up and have some cock in you". See how sexist she thinks that is!

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
2 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I briefly exchanged messages with a lady on Fab, asked to exchanged numbers and she agreed.

We sent a few messages on WhatsApp but I could tell she wasn't really interested.

We decided to exchange photos, but when she sent me hers, her face was very serious. I asked "What do I have to do to make you smile?".

She then said "I'm being sexist" for asking her that question.

So asking a lady, what makes you smile or how can I make you smile is sexist?"

Sexist pig 😂

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Covent Garden

It's not sexist. I don't think she understands the true meaning. I suspect she was looking for another word to describe her disdain. 🧸

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By *icolerobbieCouple
2 weeks ago

walsall

Glad you found out that you weren’t compatible early on. Better to find out now rather than when you’d invested more.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
2 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

She’s just upset you didn’t compliment her photo and therefore you’re sexist! People love that throw words around for an instant tap out.

There. I said it.

Off I go to the naughty step.

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"She’s just upset you didn’t compliment her photo and therefore you’re sexist! People love that throw words around for an instant tap out.

There. I said it.

Off I go to the naughty step. "

Now sit there with your freezing nipples and think about what you’ve done

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By *ruceyyMan
2 weeks ago

London

One of the reasons a forum fab woman hates me is because I said she looked like she wanted to kill me in a nude she sent...

I stand by it.

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By *aven.Woman
2 weeks ago

Not the North West...

"One of the reasons a forum fab woman hates me is because I said she looked like she wanted to kill me in a nude she sent...

I stand by it. "

That's the trouble when you have a RBF and try and be all sultry.

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By *agnar73Man
2 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"She’s just upset you didn’t compliment her photo and therefore you’re sexist! People love that throw words around for an instant tap out.

There. I said it.

Off I go to the naughty step. "

Actually agree.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
2 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"She’s just upset you didn’t compliment her photo and therefore you’re sexist! People love that throw words around for an instant tap out.

There. I said it.

Off I go to the naughty step.

Now sit there with your freezing nipples and think about what you’ve done "

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By *ruceyyMan
2 weeks ago

London

"One of the reasons a forum fab woman hates me is because I said she looked like she wanted to kill me in a nude she sent...

I stand by it.

That's the trouble when you have a RBF and try and be all sultry.

Theres RBF and then like, a distorted twisted eyes wide open about to hit me with a toaster face though

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"She’s just upset you didn’t compliment her photo and therefore you’re sexist! People love that throw words around for an instant tap out.

There. I said it.

Off I go to the naughty step.

Now sit there with your freezing nipples and think about what you’ve done

You’re not fooling anyone

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By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
2 weeks ago

Southampton

"One of the reasons a forum fab woman hates me is because I said she looked like she wanted to kill me in a nude she sent...

I stand by it. "

I've never sent you a nude !

🤣🤣

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By *aven.Woman
2 weeks ago

Not the North West...

"One of the reasons a forum fab woman hates me is because I said she looked like she wanted to kill me in a nude she sent...

I stand by it.

That's the trouble when you have a RBF and try and be all sultry.

Theres RBF and then like, a distorted twisted eyes wide open about to hit me with a toaster face though "

That was my best photo as well

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By *ruceyyMan
2 weeks ago

London

"One of the reasons a forum fab woman hates me is because I said she looked like she wanted to kill me in a nude she sent...

I stand by it.

That's the trouble when you have a RBF and try and be all sultry.

Theres RBF and then like, a distorted twisted eyes wide open about to hit me with a toaster face though

That was my best photo as well

If you think yours are the worst, you should really ask other former members for nudes...

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By *ackformore100Man
2 weeks ago

Tin town

"I briefly exchanged messages with a lady on Fab, asked to exchanged numbers and she agreed.

We sent a few messages on WhatsApp but I could tell she wasn't really interested.

We decided to exchange photos, but when she sent me hers, her face was very serious. I asked "What do I have to do to make you smile?".

She then said "I'm being sexist" for asking her that question.

So asking a lady, what makes you smile or how can I make you smile is sexist?"

Well dodged op. Imagine what she'd have said if you had asked round to do your ironing

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By *mf123Man
2 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Why exchange photoes if she seems uninterested

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"One of the reasons a forum fab woman hates me is because I said she looked like she wanted to kill me in a nude she sent...

I stand by it.

That's the trouble when you have a RBF and try and be all sultry."

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RBF? Roast Beef Focaccia?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
2 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Reel Big Fish.

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By *agnar73Man
2 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Really Bad Fringe?

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By *vaRose43Woman
2 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

"Really Bad Fringe?"

Look I need a fringe to hide the wrinkles ok 🙄🤣

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
2 weeks ago

Swansea

There was a thread the other day about men not smiling in their profile pics. I can't remember if I bothered to type a reply but my thoughts were definitely that I've heard women claim such requests are sexist.

The reasoning is that such a request shows men believe they have a say in how a woman presents herself, how she looks and that "they" believe women should look happy and pretty at all times.

Can it be patronising and sexist to ask a random woman to smile? Yeah, I think it probably can be. Is a request for someone to smile inherently sexist? No, not in the slightest.

Guess it depends how big a deal she makes of it.

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By *agnar73Man
2 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"Really Bad Fringe?

Look I need a fringe to hide the wrinkles ok 🙄🤣"

Now wondering how bad the woman

On strictly must be

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By *entleman JayMan
2 weeks ago

Wakefield

She was having a bad day and her guard was up.

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By *ansoffateMan
2 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

The only thing I can think of is the social expectation for women to smile, be congenial, pleasant.

I do hear female friends complain about the expectation to smile, especially in the work place, which has been expressed to them explicitly at times by managers etc. The complaint is often either: if I smile then some men take that as an invitation to flirt and I end up having to deal with unwanted attention. Or just maybe I'm not in a happy mood, is that not ok? Maybe I'm ill, in pain, my cat has just died etc.

In any case, I do feel that it is a bit of caustic reaction on her part to assume sexism. So early, without listening to your rationale. Maybe you could have a slightly more sensitive approach with your wording, but then you could end up walking on eggshells. I'd chalk that one up as a bullet dodged.

Personally, I have zero issues with resting bitch face. There's so much more nuance and range of subtle expression from that baseline, than someone beaming at me like a Cheshire cat, which just gets creepy after a while.

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By *ickle-Lilly-WillyMan
2 weeks ago

Ends

"One of the reasons a forum fab woman hates me is because I said she looked like she wanted to kill me in a nude she sent...

I stand by it.

That's the trouble when you have a RBF and try and be all sultry.

I just know you have constant RBF. Like 24/7

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By *ickle-Lilly-WillyMan
2 weeks ago

Ends

I presume it’s the fact women often get told to smile more etc. she probably misinterpreted what you said.

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By *agic.MMan
2 weeks ago

Orpington

"What can I do to make you smile = what can I do to make you happy" ... it's just an expression of care and consideration. It seems she was just projecting some form of built up emotions in that moment...probably just focused on two words "...you smile" and she took it as " you as a woman need to smile more". It's not sexist or misogynistic.

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By *ickie_Ranking OP Man
2 weeks ago

London

Thanks for people's views. I can safely sleep at night knowing I'm not sexist on this occasion lol

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
2 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Thanks for people's views. I can safely sleep at night knowing I'm not sexist on this occasion lol"

Sexist pig 😂

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

"One of the reasons a forum fab woman hates me is because I said she looked like she wanted to kill me in a nude she sent...

I stand by it.

That's the trouble when you have a RBF and try and be all sultry.

Theres RBF and then like, a distorted twisted eyes wide open about to hit me with a toaster face though "

I wasn't going to throw the toaster into your bath. Until you left Manchester, that is

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