FabSwingers.com forum: Imbalanced libidos

By (user no longer on site) OP
6 days ago

How do you manage that with your significant other when the imbalance is over a longer term and may be down to factors such as stages of life or long-term health issues?

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By *r John WickMan
6 days ago

The Continental

Conversation

Wanking

Doing sex with others

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By *vaRose43Woman
6 days ago

Forest of Dean

Talk to them

Speaking from personal experience here, communication is key.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
6 days ago

couple, us we him her.

Understanding.

Sympathy.

Compromise.

As a couple it's what you do.

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By *issmorganWoman
6 days ago

Calderdale innit

"Understanding.

Sympathy.

Compromise.

As a couple it's what you do.

This

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By *adger BrocMan
6 days ago

Co. Cork

FAB

Find a bestie....

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By *runette n JayCouple
6 days ago

bilston

We have discussed this before.

Plenty of potential playmates out there.

Jay

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 days ago

Shame there isn't a "like" function but I agree that it has to be talked about with empathy and consideration.

Personally, if it was my libido that was down then I have no problem with my partner getting what she needs with others as long as the love for us remained.

Sex is important to a relationship but it's also important to the individual and I wouldn't want to be the reason someone missed out on something just because I didn't fancy it.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
6 days ago

Chester

"How do you manage that with your significant other when the imbalance is over a longer term and may be down to factors such as stages of life or long-term health issues?

Be honest. 🙂

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By *eliWoman
6 days ago

Talk and listen. Really listen to the other. There's not a one size fit all way of approaching it bar communication.

I've always had a significantly higher libido than any longterm partner I've had. If it needs to be discussed, it is.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 days ago

Carlisle usually

Communication. Openness.

I don't do monogamy so I probably can't answer the question in a way that makes sense to people who prefer to adhere to that.

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By *arryherts777Man
6 days ago

Nr Stevenage

bin them off

to much hard work

unless they can cook a decent roast dinner

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By *enk15Man
6 days ago

Evesham

I said “hey! Is it ok if I shag other people?”

She said yes.

Unfortunately other people didn’t get the memo.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
6 days ago

North Yorkshire

Divorce.

We tried the talking, listening, empathy, couples therapy bit.

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By *aven.Woman
6 days ago

Not the North West...

Cheat

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By *ornyRebel88Man
6 days ago

North Cork

My wife doesn’t wasn’t sex anywhere nearly as often as me. It led to tension and now we are sleeping in separate rooms for the last 6 months.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
6 days ago

Leeds

"Understanding.

Sympathy.

Compromise.

As a couple it's what you do.

Exactly this.

Mrs

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By *imply DeeWoman
6 days ago

Wherever

Don’t have significant other. No pressure, no problem.

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By *enelope2UWoman
6 days ago

Fife

Divorce

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By *ansoffateMan
6 days ago

Sagittarius A

I find there's asynchronous periods where it's something between us or it's an alternative factor, as you describe.

I find the conversation is usually enough for me, having that clarity.

I don't tend to have powerful sexual drives without the inspiration of a partner, which comes with it's complexities. However, in this regard it's perhaps something of a blessing.

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By *enelope2UWoman
6 days ago

Fife

Sex isn't just penetration.. if she's not doing other things to fulfill his penetration requirements then he's not doing enough to fulfill her libido requirements.. it's a choice and both have chosen not to want to resolve it together

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