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Imbalanced libidos

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago

How do you manage that with your significant other when the imbalance is over a longer term and may be down to factors such as stages of life or long-term health issues?

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Conversation

Wanking

Doing sex with others

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By *vaRoseWoman
36 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Talk to them

Speaking from personal experience here, communication is key.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
36 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Understanding.

Sympathy.

Compromise.

As a couple it's what you do.

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By *issmorganWoman
36 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"Understanding.

Sympathy.

Compromise.

As a couple it's what you do.

"

This

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By *adger BrocMan
36 weeks ago

Co. Cork

FAB

Find a bestie....

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

We have discussed this before.

Plenty of potential playmates out there.

Jay

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago

Shame there isn't a "like" function but I agree that it has to be talked about with empathy and consideration.

Personally, if it was my libido that was down then I have no problem with my partner getting what she needs with others as long as the love for us remained.

Sex is important to a relationship but it's also important to the individual and I wouldn't want to be the reason someone missed out on something just because I didn't fancy it.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
36 weeks ago

Chester


"How do you manage that with your significant other when the imbalance is over a longer term and may be down to factors such as stages of life or long-term health issues?

"

Be honest. 🙂

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By *eliWoman
36 weeks ago

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Talk and listen. Really listen to the other. There's not a one size fit all way of approaching it bar communication.

I've always had a significantly higher libido than any longterm partner I've had. If it needs to be discussed, it is.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
36 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Communication. Openness.

I don't do monogamy so I probably can't answer the question in a way that makes sense to people who prefer to adhere to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

bin them off

to much hard work

unless they can cook a decent roast dinner

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By *enk15Man
36 weeks ago

Evesham

I said “hey! Is it ok if I shag other people?”

She said yes.

Unfortunately other people didn’t get the memo.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Divorce.

We tried the talking, listening, empathy, couples therapy bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

My wife doesn’t wasn’t sex anywhere nearly as often as me. It led to tension and now we are sleeping in separate rooms for the last 6 months.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
36 weeks ago

Leeds


"Understanding.

Sympathy.

Compromise.

As a couple it's what you do.

"

Exactly this.

Mrs

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
36 weeks ago

London

Don’t have significant other. No pressure, no problem.

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By *enelope2UWoman
36 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Divorce

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By *ansoffateMan
36 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I find there's asynchronous periods where it's something between us or it's an alternative factor, as you describe.

I find the conversation is usually enough for me, having that clarity.

I don't tend to have powerful sexual drives without the inspiration of a partner, which comes with it's complexities. However, in this regard it's perhaps something of a blessing.

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By *enelope2UWoman
36 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Sex isn't just penetration.. if she's not doing other things to fulfill his penetration requirements then he's not doing enough to fulfill her libido requirements.. it's a choice and both have chosen not to want to resolve it together

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