FabSwingers.com forum: Imbalanced libidos

By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

How do you manage that with your significant other when the imbalance is over a longer term and may be down to factors such as stages of life or long-term health issues?

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
12 weeks ago

The Continental

Conversation

Wanking

Doing sex with others

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By *vaRose43Woman
12 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Talk to them

Speaking from personal experience here, communication is key.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
12 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Understanding.

Sympathy.

Compromise.

As a couple it's what you do.

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By *issmorganWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"Understanding.

Sympathy.

Compromise.

As a couple it's what you do.

This

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By *adger BrocMan
12 weeks ago

Co. Cork

FAB

Find a bestie....

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By *runette n JayCouple
12 weeks ago

bilston

We have discussed this before.

Plenty of potential playmates out there.

Jay

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By (user no longer on site) OP
12 weeks ago

Shame there isn't a "like" function but I agree that it has to be talked about with empathy and consideration.

Personally, if it was my libido that was down then I have no problem with my partner getting what she needs with others as long as the love for us remained.

Sex is important to a relationship but it's also important to the individual and I wouldn't want to be the reason someone missed out on something just because I didn't fancy it.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
12 weeks ago

Chester

"How do you manage that with your significant other when the imbalance is over a longer term and may be down to factors such as stages of life or long-term health issues?

Be honest. 🙂

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By *eliWoman
12 weeks ago

Talk and listen. Really listen to the other. There's not a one size fit all way of approaching it bar communication.

I've always had a significantly higher libido than any longterm partner I've had. If it needs to be discussed, it is.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Communication. Openness.

I don't do monogamy so I probably can't answer the question in a way that makes sense to people who prefer to adhere to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

bin them off

to much hard work

unless they can cook a decent roast dinner

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By *enk15Man
12 weeks ago

Evesham

I said “hey! Is it ok if I shag other people?”

She said yes.

Unfortunately other people didn’t get the memo.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
12 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Divorce.

We tried the talking, listening, empathy, couples therapy bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Cheat

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By *ornyRebel88Man
12 weeks ago

Fermoy

My wife doesn’t wasn’t sex anywhere nearly as often as me. It led to tension and now we are sleeping in separate rooms for the last 6 months.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
12 weeks ago

Leeds

"Understanding.

Sympathy.

Compromise.

As a couple it's what you do.

Exactly this.

Mrs

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
12 weeks ago

Wherever

Don’t have significant other. No pressure, no problem.

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By *enelope2UWoman
12 weeks ago

Fife

Divorce

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By *ansoffateMan
12 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I find there's asynchronous periods where it's something between us or it's an alternative factor, as you describe.

I find the conversation is usually enough for me, having that clarity.

I don't tend to have powerful sexual drives without the inspiration of a partner, which comes with it's complexities. However, in this regard it's perhaps something of a blessing.

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By *enelope2UWoman
12 weeks ago

Fife

Sex isn't just penetration.. if she's not doing other things to fulfill his penetration requirements then he's not doing enough to fulfill her libido requirements.. it's a choice and both have chosen not to want to resolve it together

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