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"I want to be like one of those weirdos you see in the news that marries their toaster or something. That’s about my level of commitment. " Oh crumbs.... 🤣 | |||
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"I want to be like one of those weirdos you see in the news that marries their toaster or something. That’s about my level of commitment. Oh crumbs.... 🤣"  | |||
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"I would never say never, but it's not something that has been of interest to me. I do like the idea of everyone buying me gifts of my choosing and having a 4-tier cake though. Oh, and insisting my least favourite cousins are my bridesmaids so I could make them wear the most repulsive dresses I can find. Actually, the idea is growing on me. Anyone up for it?" You can have the wedding without entering into a contract you can't control... I actually see the point of having a wedding - a party to celebrate your commitment, etc. But it's the underlying contract I see no point in. | |||
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"No, I have no interest In getting married. I've been with my other half 9 years and we don't have kids, I don't think it makes that much difference nowadays. For some it's important though, which I understand. " It's a moving feast legally speaking but the only reason I got married the first time was because I was advised that to not do would have potential implications for the rights of access in the event of the relationship breaking down. That may have changed but it was the only reason I went through with the marriage in the first instance. | |||
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"If I met someone and it meant something to them to do it I'd consider it. Otherwise, I don't see myself getting married again. " I was in the same position but because of her reaction to me simply saying I don't get it it raised red flags and ultimately it was the right thing not to have done. | |||
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"To be honest, I really just want a dress. I was married, I wasn't happy. I didn't really want to get married and it was far from how it should ever be. That being said I still hope one day to find someone who loves me as loudly as I love them. Then who knows " That's the dream... Finding that one person that just wants you to be the best version you can be and is there to enjoy and support the ups and downs. And for that person I'll happily buy the dress, have the party, speak my vows (which doesn't need me to sign a legally binding contract). | |||
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"If nothing else it makes you their next of kin. That's very important if an accident happens or one of you dies. " That's where wills, LPoA, Trusts, etc come in to play. Interestingly, getting married negates existing wills. Getting married is simply a legal construct. | |||
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"If nothing else it makes you their next of kin. That's very important if an accident happens or one of you dies. That's where wills, LPoA, Trusts, etc come in to play. Interestingly, getting married negates existing wills. Getting married is simply a legal construct." To *you* marriage is simply a legal construct. I'm fortunate enough to be in a marriage that is very much more. | |||
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"Never married and probably never will. My fantasy wedding would be full on victorian vampire goth, so it'll never happen. Plus I can't get a boyfriend "My wedding *was* full on vampire goth. I recommend it. 🧛🏼♀️ | |||
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"Neither me or any of my male friends have any desire to get married. Of my female friends, most of them desire it. It's because it gives them a day where they can show everyone how desired they are, how perfect everything is, etc. The painful reality is however, that as soon as the woman settles, feels secure, and goes off sex, the whole lot quickly goes down the pan and gets ugly." Well.. there's a generalisation if ever I heard one! Men never at fault for marital breakdown, then? 🙄 | |||
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"Neither me or any of my male friends have any desire to get married. Of my female friends, most of them desire it. It's because it gives them a day where they can show everyone how desired they are, how perfect everything is, etc. The painful reality is however, that as soon as the woman settles, feels secure, and goes off sex, the whole lot quickly goes down the pan and gets ugly. Well.. there's a generalisation if ever I heard one! Men never at fault for marital breakdown, then? 🙄" Oh, it is a generalisation for sure! Did I imply that men are never at fault for marital breakdown? Did I suggest anything of the sort? No, you inferred it. 🙂🙂🙂 | |||
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"If nothing else it makes you their next of kin. That's very important if an accident happens or one of you dies. That's where wills, LPoA, Trusts, etc come in to play. Interestingly, getting married negates existing wills. Getting married is simply a legal construct. To *you* marriage is simply a legal construct. I'm fortunate enough to be in a marriage that is very much more. " Not just a legal construct but the legal element is an integral part and cannot be avoided. However, the legal "benefits" provided by marriage can be achieved without marriage. This post isn't to say if it's right or wrong, just interested in the opinion of others. | |||
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"She gave you a reason - it matters to her. You can't just discount that because she couldn't write a 3 page discourse on the subject. " I wasn't discounting it. But it's not enough for me to want to agree with her and thus act on it in doing something I didn't matter to me or, moreover, not doing it mattered to me. By your rationale, she shouldn't discount my not wanting to get married simply because is mattered to me even though I was able to give numerous reason as to why not getting married mattered to me. We were in very different places. I had significantly more assets than her and she had an expectation that if we were married then I would provide for her and her child. I didn't agree to the same extent. I would happily support the "family" but it wasn't on me to provide her child with a legacy. That was on her and her ex (child's father). Whether I chose to over time is entirely up to me. But getting married could take that decision out of my hands. So whilst it might matter to her that she was married and a wife, it mattered to me that I wasn't exposing myself and my children to potentially losing their legacy. | |||
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"Neither me or any of my male friends have any desire to get married. Of my female friends, most of them desire it. It's because it gives them a day where they can show everyone how desired they are, how perfect everything is, etc. The painful reality is however, that as soon as the woman settles, feels secure, and goes off sex, the whole lot quickly goes down the pan and gets ugly. Well.. there's a generalisation if ever I heard one! Men never at fault for marital breakdown, then? 🙄 Oh, it is a generalisation for sure! Did I imply that men are never at fault for marital breakdown? Did I suggest anything of the sort? No, you inferred it. 🙂🙂🙂" Yes, I did. I inferred it from you generalising that as soon as the woman settles and goes off sex, it goes down the pan. So, yes, you did suggest it. How you phrase things means something. I'll let you have the last word, because I don't want to hijack the thread. 😉 | |||
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"She gave you a reason - it matters to her. You can't just discount that because she couldn't write a 3 page discourse on the subject. I wasn't discounting it. But it's not enough for me to want to agree with her and thus act on it in doing something I didn't matter to me or, moreover, not doing it mattered to me. By your rationale, she shouldn't discount my not wanting to get married simply because is mattered to me even though I was able to give numerous reason as to why not getting married mattered to me. We were in very different places. I had significantly more assets than her and she had an expectation that if we were married then I would provide for her and her child. I didn't agree to the same extent. I would happily support the "family" but it wasn't on me to provide her child with a legacy. That was on her and her ex (child's father). Whether I chose to over time is entirely up to me. But getting married could take that decision out of my hands. So whilst it might matter to her that she was married and a wife, it mattered to me that I wasn't exposing myself and my children to potentially losing their legacy." Then that was your reason.. all the other BS was irrelevant and sugar coatings. I'm sure she was unaware how you truly felt because if that was a legitimate concern it could have been addressed in a will.. problem solved.. So again you simply didn't want to marry HER and that's fine ... | |||
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"Neither me or any of my male friends have any desire to get married. Of my female friends, most of them desire it. It's because it gives them a day where they can show everyone how desired they are, how perfect everything is, etc. The painful reality is however, that as soon as the woman settles, feels secure, and goes off sex, the whole lot quickly goes down the pan and gets ugly. Well.. there's a generalisation if ever I heard one! Men never at fault for marital breakdown, then? 🙄 Oh, it is a generalisation for sure! Did I imply that men are never at fault for marital breakdown? Did I suggest anything of the sort? No, you inferred it. 🙂🙂🙂 Yes, I did. I inferred it from you generalising that as soon as the woman settles and goes off sex, it goes down the pan. So, yes, you did suggest it. How you phrase things means something. I'll let you have the last word, because I don't want to hijack the thread. 😉" Yes, you inferred it! I never said anything of the sort. This is exactly what I said: "The painful reality is however, that as soon as the woman settles, feels secure, and goes off sex, the whole lot quickly goes down the pan and gets ugly." I said absolutely nothing about "men never being at fault" and I wouldn't say that because men are often at fault in some way. | |||
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"To be honest, I really just want a dress. I was married, I wasn't happy. I didn't really want to get married and it was far from how it should ever be. That being said I still hope one day to find someone who loves me as loudly as I love them. Then who knows " sweet | |||
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"She gave you a reason - it matters to her. You can't just discount that because she couldn't write a 3 page discourse on the subject. I wasn't discounting it. But it's not enough for me to want to agree with her and thus act on it in doing something I didn't matter to me or, moreover, not doing it mattered to me. By your rationale, she shouldn't discount my not wanting to get married simply because is mattered to me even though I was able to give numerous reason as to why not getting married mattered to me. We were in very different places. I had significantly more assets than her and she had an expectation that if we were married then I would provide for her and her child. I didn't agree to the same extent. I would happily support the "family" but it wasn't on me to provide her child with a legacy. That was on her and her ex (child's father). Whether I chose to over time is entirely up to me. But getting married could take that decision out of my hands. So whilst it might matter to her that she was married and a wife, it mattered to me that I wasn't exposing myself and my children to potentially losing their legacy. Then that was your reason.. all the other BS was irrelevant and sugar coatings. I'm sure she was unaware how you truly felt because if that was a legitimate concern it could have been addressed in a will.. problem solved.. So again you simply didn't want to marry HER and that's fine ..." Actually, I don't want to marry ANYONE. I don't agree with marriage. I don't believe it has and point in modern society. I think it's outdated. I also think too few people actually understand what they're doing. Too few realise that the wedding is just a party and the signing of the register, etc is entering into a legal contract. And that that contract has implications that are often not even discussed let alone understood. So "you simply didn't want to marry HER" in your opinion is an inaccurate oversimplification, and that's fine. | |||
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"If I ever find the one and I won't be sharing him that's for sure " Interesting... Are you saying that if you found "the one" then you wouldn't be swingers? | |||
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"If nothing else it makes you their next of kin. That's very important if an accident happens or one of you dies. " I did think of this one as a potential reason, but I wouldn't get married, I'd probably be more likely to go for the civil partnership option. It used to be for same sex couples but it has become available to heterosexual couples a while ago. | |||
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"Neither me or any of my male friends have any desire to get married. Of my female friends, most of them desire it. It's because it gives them a day where they can show everyone how desired they are, how perfect everything is, etc. The painful reality is however, that as soon as the woman settles, feels secure, and goes off sex, the whole lot quickly goes down the pan and gets ugly." You don’t really like women, don’t you. | |||
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"If I ever find the one and I won't be sharing him that's for sure " my party would be ghost investigation in haunted building or graveyard I would do carvery in ancient pub that be my perfect wedding because that's me I am looking for man similar interests | |||
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"I've never been married and never will be. Never seen the need. I own my house outright and like heck am I letting someone take half of it off me in a divorce! " I can see the sense in that. It's why I always say people need to be on a similar financial footing when choosing a long term partner, married or not | |||
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"Neither me or any of my male friends have any desire to get married. Of my female friends, most of them desire it. It's because it gives them a day where they can show everyone how desired they are, how perfect everything is, etc. The painful reality is however, that as soon as the woman settles, feels secure, and goes off sex, the whole lot quickly goes down the pan and gets ugly. You don’t really like women, don’t you." I can't stand them! Get rid of them! Allllllllllllllllll of them!!! 😂 | |||
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"If I ever find the one and I won't be sharing him that's for sure my party would be ghost investigation in haunted building or graveyard I would do carvery in ancient pub that be my perfect wedding because that's me I am looking for man similar interests " there will be no DJ no table decorations no balloons just plates knives and forks and get roast beef gammon lamb from carvery we would have all ghost equipment set up | |||
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"If the right person came into my life I would. I like a good party and I might get to see some family I've not seen for a while. " nice open mind | |||
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"If I ever find the one and I won't be sharing him that's for sure my party would be ghost investigation in haunted building or graveyard I would do carvery in ancient pub that be my perfect wedding because that's me I am looking for man similar interests there will be no DJ no table decorations no balloons just plates knives and forks and get roast beef gammon lamb from carvery we would have all ghost equipment set up " I would have incense sticks burning to attract the spirits | |||
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"Probably a question for the fellow singletons but I'm happy to hear all opinions on the subject. A bone of contention in my last relationship was that I just didn't see the point of marriage. We were both divorced and had our own kids but came together as a blended family. She was keen to get married, I didn't see the point. I even asked her to give me reasons why it made a difference and aside from it "just mattered" to her, there was none. What am I missing? I can understand why a young couple building a life together and starting a family might want to but for "seasoned veterans," I just don't get it." i was so sure I'd never get married again.. when I got divorced I threw my divorce papers away... 17 years later I am now Having to apply for a copy of my papers... From pretty much our first date.. we knew we wanted to get married ... it is frustrating us having to wait xx Why because we want to marry each other.. we want to make that commitment to own another.... it makes us grin from ear to ear when we talk about it. And I hated getting married previously.. but the right person changed my mind set | |||
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"Probably a question for the fellow singletons but I'm happy to hear all opinions on the subject. A bone of contention in my last relationship was that I just didn't see the point of marriage. We were both divorced and had our own kids but came together as a blended family. She was keen to get married, I didn't see the point. I even asked her to give me reasons why it made a difference and aside from it "just mattered" to her, there was none. What am I missing? I can understand why a young couple building a life together and starting a family might want to but for "seasoned veterans," I just don't get it. i was so sure I'd never get married again.. when I got divorced I threw my divorce papers away... 17 years later I am now Having to apply for a copy of my papers... From pretty much our first date.. we knew we wanted to get married ... it is frustrating us having to wait xx Why because we want to marry each other.. we want to make that commitment to own another.... it makes us grin from ear to ear when we talk about it. And I hated getting married previously.. but the right person changed my mind set" Love it, good for you. | |||
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"Marriage is just a commitment ratified by a piece of paper that costs money to annul. Commitment on its own is free, no-one is tied, staying together is a free choice. IMho spend the 1000s of a wedding having multiple memorable moments around the world" I agree to an extent about the money spent on a wedding. Although ours was a very low key affair, catering done by my mum and her friend 😀. I can't agree that no one is tied if they aren't married, joint property, children, pets, loyalty etc etc all tie people to a relationship. | |||
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"Marriage is just a commitment ratified by a piece of paper that costs money to annul. Commitment on its own is free, no-one is tied, staying together is a free choice. IMho spend the 1000s of a wedding having multiple memorable moments around the world I agree to an extent about the money spent on a wedding. Although ours was a very low key affair, catering done by my mum and her friend 😀. I can't agree that no one is tied if they aren't married, joint property, children, pets, loyalty etc etc all tie people to a relationship. " True there may still be ties, how many and how expensive will depend on many things. I am ultimately expressing an opinion from my own experiences which will be totally different from others | |||
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"Marriage is just a commitment ratified by a piece of paper that costs money to annul. Commitment on its own is free, no-one is tied, staying together is a free choice. IMho spend the 1000s of a wedding having multiple memorable moments around the world I agree to an extent about the money spent on a wedding. Although ours was a very low key affair, catering done by my mum and her friend 😀. I can't agree that no one is tied if they aren't married, joint property, children, pets, loyalty etc etc all tie people to a relationship. True there may still be ties, how many and how expensive will depend on many things. I am ultimately expressing an opinion from my own experiences which will be totally different from others" Where this subject is concerned especially I think we're all expressing an opinion from our own experiences | |||
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"She gave you a reason - it matters to her. You can't just discount that because she couldn't write a 3 page discourse on the subject. I wasn't discounting it. But it's not enough for me to want to agree with her and thus act on it in doing something I didn't matter to me or, moreover, not doing it mattered to me. By your rationale, she shouldn't discount my not wanting to get married simply because is mattered to me even though I was able to give numerous reason as to why not getting married mattered to me. We were in very different places. I had significantly more assets than her and she had an expectation that if we were married then I would provide for her and her child. I didn't agree to the same extent. I would happily support the "family" but it wasn't on me to provide her child with a legacy. That was on her and her ex (child's father). Whether I chose to over time is entirely up to me. But getting married could take that decision out of my hands. So whilst it might matter to her that she was married and a wife, it mattered to me that I wasn't exposing myself and my children to potentially losing their legacy." Then you have a rather big incompatibility and I wish you luck with it. You just sounded rather dismissive of her reasons in your OP. | |||
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"Mr. FC and I are getting married next month! " Congratulations!! Xx | |||
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"Mr. FC and I are getting married next month! Congratulations!! Xx" Thank you! | |||
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"Mr. FC and I are getting married next month! Congratulations!! Xx Thank you! " Again, congrats | |||
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"If a man isn't mad enough about a female that he thinks fuck it I want to marry her she's mine something is wrong for alot of its a dream and something they don't feel complete without especially if especially if shes the nurturing homemaker type by nature some people are just not made for the traditional husband wife roles and that's ok to just don't sell a dream I say and be honest from the get go that you have no intentions to put a ring on it " Did you lose your punctuation in the divorce? 😆 | |||
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"Right now I wouldn’t consider remarrying but in the future, if the relationship felt right, I might reconsider." open minded approach is good . | |||
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"Mr. FC and I are getting married next month! " Brilliant | |||
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"Yes, most definitely x" Ach, it’s nice to hear things like that x | |||
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"25 plus years and wouldn't change a thing ,my partner, best friend and everything in-between ❤️ " Love that for you both | |||
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"Not again. I wanted it as much as him the first time round, I meant my vows and it was done out of love. I don't regret it but I know longer see the point of it. The things we achieved or didn't, in our relationship weren't affected by the fact we were married. It just meant there was extra paperwork when we separated and eventually divorced. I didn't gain any financial security from being married, I provided that for myself. " I can empathise with that a lot. Going through a separation myself and tbh the only thing that’s stopped me from moving out is my kid. | |||
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"Not again. I wanted it as much as him the first time round, I meant my vows and it was done out of love. I don't regret it but I know longer see the point of it. The things we achieved or didn't, in our relationship weren't affected by the fact we were married. It just meant there was extra paperwork when we separated and eventually divorced. I didn't gain any financial security from being married, I provided that for myself. " | |||
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"Not again. I wanted it as much as him the first time round, I meant my vows and it was done out of love. I don't regret it but I know longer see the point of it. The things we achieved or didn't, in our relationship weren't affected by the fact we were married. It just meant there was extra paperwork when we separated and eventually divorced. I didn't gain any financial security from being married, I provided that for myself. " it wasn't right person | |||
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"Probably a question for the fellow singletons but I'm happy to hear all opinions on the subject. A bone of contention in my last relationship was that I just didn't see the point of marriage. We were both divorced and had our own kids but came together as a blended family. She was keen to get married, I didn't see the point. I even asked her to give me reasons why it made a difference and aside from it "just mattered" to her, there was none. What am I missing? I can understand why a young couple building a life together and starting a family might want to but for "seasoned veterans," I just don't get it." Read the vows , it’s pretty obvious what it’s all about and why many do or don’t want that. Don't pretended you don’t get it or don’t u understand her ! It’s about commitments and responsibilities- practical, emotional, financial and even spiritual | |||
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"Neither me or any of my male friends have any desire to get married. Of my female friends, most of them desire it. It's because it gives them a day where they can show everyone how desired they are, how perfect everything is, etc. The painful reality is however, that as soon as the woman settles, feels secure, and goes off sex, the whole lot quickly goes down the pan and gets ugly." That painful reality can be reversed. Men can get comfortable and go off sex. And before you ask, i know he wasnt getting it anywhere else. And the realstionship stagnated, and i was more like a mother and a maid to a full grown child. So i really cant see myself getting married again. At this stage i dont even want a partner. I'm sick of rearranging my life to suit others, and the only people who deserve that of me is my children. | |||
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"Yes, however there would be no civil ceremony. I wouldn't be legally married by the state. I would prefer a celtic wedding ceremony or something of a spiritual nature (non religious) that suited us both. " That sounds perfect…. Marry me now 💍😂 | |||
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"I wouldn't do it again. Not because I'm disappointed with my marriage, rather the opposite. We've been together around 44 years, married for 37, I couldn't come anywhere close to building a similar relationship with another person so if god forbid I found myself in a different long term relationship I wouldn't want to get married. I don't think marriage is pointless though, I think there is much to commend it...but I would say that" Same for me. My wife and I were married for 43 years when she died and I couldn't imagine having the same kind of long term relationship with anyone else. Just happy to remember the time we had together. | |||
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"I wouldn't do it again. Not because I'm disappointed with my marriage, rather the opposite. We've been together around 44 years, married for 37, I couldn't come anywhere close to building a similar relationship with another person so if god forbid I found myself in a different long term relationship I wouldn't want to get married. I don't think marriage is pointless though, I think there is much to commend it...but I would say that Same for me. My wife and I were married for 43 years when she died and I couldn't imagine having the same kind of long term relationship with anyone else. Just happy to remember the time we had together." I'm glad you have good memories  | |||
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"I wouldn't do it again. Not because I'm disappointed with my marriage, rather the opposite. We've been together around 44 years, married for 37, I couldn't come anywhere close to building a similar relationship with another person so if god forbid I found myself in a different long term relationship I wouldn't want to get married. I don't think marriage is pointless though, I think there is much to commend it...but I would say that Same for me. My wife and I were married for 43 years when she died and I couldn't imagine having the same kind of long term relationship with anyone else. Just happy to remember the time we had together. I'm glad you have good memories "Me too. She was the best. | |||
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"I wouldn't do it again. Not because I'm disappointed with my marriage, rather the opposite. We've been together around 44 years, married for 37, I couldn't come anywhere close to building a similar relationship with another person so if god forbid I found myself in a different long term relationship I wouldn't want to get married. I don't think marriage is pointless though, I think there is much to commend it...but I would say that Same for me. My wife and I were married for 43 years when she died and I couldn't imagine having the same kind of long term relationship with anyone else. Just happy to remember the time we had together. I'm glad you have good memories
Me too. She was the best.
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"Been married nearly 27 years together for 33 years,love Been married,love my wife. To us it's not just a peace of paper it's a life time commitment that you just can't walk away from when you hit a few bumps in the road. But I do get not everyone thinks the same way and what works fir some doesn't work fir others." Your commitment and not walking away was there way before you had that bit of paper... that's why you are where you are now 😀 ❤️ Jay | |||
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"Neither me or any of my male friends have any desire to get married. Of my female friends, most of them desire it. It's because it gives them a day where they can show everyone how desired they are, how perfect everything is, etc. The painful reality is however, that as soon as the woman settles, feels secure, and goes off sex, the whole lot quickly goes down the pan and gets ugly." Happy Mens Day Bro  | |||
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"If I ever find the one and I won't be sharing him that's for sure " Snap xxx | |||
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"After seeing the after effects of a friend dying when not married; organising the rights and decisions when in hospital then trying to resolve the inheritance/pension/savings etc which would have all been resolved straight away had they been married... Not a difficult decision to have a very simple quiet cheap wedding, but it's what works for you." Yes. I don't think people realise the difficulties when one partner dies if you're not married | |||
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"After seeing the after effects of a friend dying when not married; organising the rights and decisions when in hospital then trying to resolve the inheritance/pension/savings etc which would have all been resolved straight away had they been married... Not a difficult decision to have a very simple quiet cheap wedding, but it's what works for you. Yes. I don't think people realise the difficulties when one partner dies if you're not married" This was a factor in us getting married. He was very ill and so after he recovered we decided to get married. Only took us 34 years to decide to do it. Anyway 2 years on and we are still going strong, think we might make it as a married couple haha, Mrs x | |||
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"Yeah I would. I’ve never wanted kids but I could see myself being a decent wifey I’m not gonna wipe their bum when they are old though. "What about baking sweet treats like cake? | |||
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"Yeah I would. I’ve never wanted kids but I could see myself being a decent wifey I’m not gonna wipe their bum when they are old though.
What about baking sweet treats like cake? "No. I can’t bake. Ah shit I’d be a crap wife 😂 | |||
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"After seeing the after effects of a friend dying when not married; organising the rights and decisions when in hospital then trying to resolve the inheritance/pension/savings etc which would have all been resolved straight away had they been married... Not a difficult decision to have a very simple quiet cheap wedding, but it's what works for you. Yes. I don't think people realise the difficulties when one partner dies if you're not marriedThis was a factor in us getting married. He was very ill and so after he recovered we decided to get married. Only took us 34 years to decide to do it. Anyway 2 years on and we are still going strong, think we might make it as a married couple haha, Mrs x" Yes, people talk about it as 'just a piece of paper ' but so is any contract or agreement that would allow partners to act for each other in an emergency or ensure that they had as few problems as possible when one of you died. | |||
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"After seeing the after effects of a friend dying when not married; organising the rights and decisions when in hospital then trying to resolve the inheritance/pension/savings etc which would have all been resolved straight away had they been married... Not a difficult decision to have a very simple quiet cheap wedding, but it's what works for you. Yes. I don't think people realise the difficulties when one partner dies if you're not marriedThis was a factor in us getting married. He was very ill and so after he recovered we decided to get married. Only took us 34 years to decide to do it. Anyway 2 years on and we are still going strong, think we might make it as a married couple haha, Mrs x Yes, people talk about it as 'just a piece of paper ' but so is any contract or agreement that would allow partners to act for each other in an emergency or ensure that they had as few problems as possible when one of you died. " I should have pointed out that 'the factor' wasn't the contract situation but rather it highlighted that we'd never gotten married even though we'd discussed this and his illness meant we might never had gotten married. So we took the plunge as soon as he was able to. Absolutely one of the best things we did, it was a brilliant day for us, our family and friends. Although on a day to day basis its not changed much for us at all. Still a bit strange when I have to say my new surname but that's about it, Mrs x | |||
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"After seeing the after effects of a friend dying when not married; organising the rights and decisions when in hospital then trying to resolve the inheritance/pension/savings etc which would have all been resolved straight away had they been married... Not a difficult decision to have a very simple quiet cheap wedding, but it's what works for you. Yes. I don't think people realise the difficulties when one partner dies if you're not marriedThis was a factor in us getting married. He was very ill and so after he recovered we decided to get married. Only took us 34 years to decide to do it. Anyway 2 years on and we are still going strong, think we might make it as a married couple haha, Mrs x Yes, people talk about it as 'just a piece of paper ' but so is any contract or agreement that would allow partners to act for each other in an emergency or ensure that they had as few problems as possible when one of you died. I should have pointed out that 'the factor' wasn't the contract situation but rather it highlighted that we'd never gotten married even though we'd discussed this and his illness meant we might never had gotten married. So we took the plunge as soon as he was able to. Absolutely one of the best things we did, it was a brilliant day for us, our family and friends. Although on a day to day basis its not changed much for us at all. Still a bit strange when I have to say my new surname but that's about it, Mrs x" I understand | |||
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"After seeing the after effects of a friend dying when not married; organising the rights and decisions when in hospital then trying to resolve the inheritance/pension/savings etc which would have all been resolved straight away had they been married... Not a difficult decision to have a very simple quiet cheap wedding, but it's what works for you. Yes. I don't think people realise the difficulties when one partner dies if you're not marriedThis was a factor in us getting married. He was very ill and so after he recovered we decided to get married. Only took us 34 years to decide to do it. Anyway 2 years on and we are still going strong, think we might make it as a married couple haha, Mrs x Yes, people talk about it as 'just a piece of paper ' but so is any contract or agreement that would allow partners to act for each other in an emergency or ensure that they had as few problems as possible when one of you died. I should have pointed out that 'the factor' wasn't the contract situation but rather it highlighted that we'd never gotten married even though we'd discussed this and his illness meant we might never had gotten married. So we took the plunge as soon as he was able to. Absolutely one of the best things we did, it was a brilliant day for us, our family and friends. Although on a day to day basis its not changed much for us at all. Still a bit strange when I have to say my new surname but that's about it, Mrs x I understand" We have booked about 4 times previously but just never followed through with it but this time we'd had a 'warning' we couldn't ignore and so went for it. It was a beautiful day from start to finish, couldn't ask for anything more, Mrs x | |||
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"After seeing the after effects of a friend dying when not married; organising the rights and decisions when in hospital then trying to resolve the inheritance/pension/savings etc which would have all been resolved straight away had they been married... Not a difficult decision to have a very simple quiet cheap wedding, but it's what works for you. Yes. I don't think people realise the difficulties when one partner dies if you're not marriedThis was a factor in us getting married. He was very ill and so after he recovered we decided to get married. Only took us 34 years to decide to do it. Anyway 2 years on and we are still going strong, think we might make it as a married couple haha, Mrs x Yes, people talk about it as 'just a piece of paper ' but so is any contract or agreement that would allow partners to act for each other in an emergency or ensure that they had as few problems as possible when one of you died. I should have pointed out that 'the factor' wasn't the contract situation but rather it highlighted that we'd never gotten married even though we'd discussed this and his illness meant we might never had gotten married. So we took the plunge as soon as he was able to. Absolutely one of the best things we did, it was a brilliant day for us, our family and friends. Although on a day to day basis its not changed much for us at all. Still a bit strange when I have to say my new surname but that's about it, Mrs x I understandWe have booked about 4 times previously but just never followed through with it but this time we'd had a 'warning' we couldn't ignore and so went for it. It was a beautiful day from start to finish, couldn't ask for anything more, Mrs x" Excellent! | |||
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