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Bi women who don't like bi men?

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By *sagisan OP   Man
27 weeks ago

high peak

Not shaming anyone here or expressing bitterness here, absolute respect for anyone's preferences, kinks and choices and it doesn't stop me from getting laid. I'm just curious to see bi women saying "no bi men" and wonder why that is?

Seems especially odd when I've had messages from "straight male" profiles who confess they're bi but don't want to put women off! Ironically, as I have zero interest in closet cases I'm possibly a bi man who's better at avoiding many bi men than the women who don't want bi men! Discuss...

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Some bi women simply don’t find two men together arousing.

Some bi women have this thought that a bi man will inevitably only be satisfied with a man and a woman. This one boggles my mind because if they are a bi woman, does that not apply to them as well?

Some are full of the idea that men liking other men is somehow not masculine behaviour.

Some say they are concerned with the increase risks to their sexual health.

Some are simply hypocrites.

Take your choice.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
27 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

There's a common perception that bi men are the highest risk of sti transmission to women. Not unfounded, given that many are closet cases who don't want to risk the wife finding the condom packet, or the common 'breeding' kink without the risk of actual pregnancy, or simply that many are more concerned about not getting someone pregnant than they are about their and their significant others sexual health.

(Just because someone is from a higher risk demographic does not mean that they automatically actually engage in particularly unsafe practices. I'm just writing down a commonly cited reason that many stick to.)

There's the common tropes of masculine vs feminine. Many people like their men traditionally manly. Getting fucked in the arse by another man can really kill that big manly man feeling, and thus the attraction for people who want that masculinity and who perceive it as faggotry rather than just someone having sex with someone else they're attracted to.

And sometimes, it's just to cut down on the amount of offers or provide a convenient excuse to exit a conversation with someone they're not attracted to, when they actually don't give a shit.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
27 weeks ago

Sitting on the table

Not really sure what the complaint is.

Why would a bi woman be automatically interested in a bi man? Just because they're both bisexuals? They're not really that similar.

It's a bit annoying when people assume you should be happy to meet anyone with a presumed similarity of interests. I wouldn't assume anyone interested in TVs would necessarily be happy to meet me, and I'm not necessarily interested in gay or bi men just because they're gay or bi.

Its about compatibility, and being in broadly the same sexual orientation category as someone else is not enough on its own to determine compatibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Ewww man on man… gross.

Nah, kidding, each to their own really isn’t, don’t let it stress you out.

Plenty of people in the world, some will like it, some won’t.

Just like marmite… you disgusting fucks.

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By *sagisan OP   Man
27 weeks ago

high peak

Not a complaint, none of us have the right to expect to be universally fancied, lots of people I don't fancy (I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a straight woman and wouldn't want anyone to think that means I hate them!) and Lord knows I'd rather know upfront if there's zero chance someone would be interested.

I'm just curious about the psychology of it so thought I'd respectfully ask for some perspectives. I've never come across a bi man who's anything but eager to meet bi women, interested to know why it's not always true in reverse.

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By *sagisan OP   Man
27 weeks ago

high peak

Thanks for the responses, grateful for the perspectives!

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By *ansoffateMan
27 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"Not really sure what the complaint is.

Why would a bi woman be automatically interested in a bi man? Just because they're both bisexuals? They're not really that similar.

It's a bit annoying when people assume you should be happy to meet anyone with a presumed similarity of interests. I wouldn't assume anyone interested in TVs would necessarily be happy to meet me, and I'm not necessarily interested in gay or bi men just because they're gay or bi.

Its about compatibility, and being in broadly the same sexual orientation category as someone else is not enough on its own to determine compatibility."

I can relate to this in quite an obscure way perhaps. I find it really hard to discount anyone without exploring aspects most people wouldn't even consider in the first place, when thinking about sexual attraction.

Most interactions feel like the cart is being put before the horse for me. It used to frustrated me, I tend to just accept it now. If I shut out everyone who doesn't get demisexuality I'd probably be better off choosing celibacy.

I think the complaint is perhaps more about the stigma and prejudices around bisexual men?

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By *xixWoman
27 weeks ago

Coventry/Canary Wharf

Personally I've always assumed I would rather connect with other bi people, because we'd understand each other better than mono people. So it's kind of ironic (and odd) that the person who turns me on the most these days is completely straight.

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By *oveandfastWoman
27 weeks ago

Bromsgrove


"There's a common perception that bi men are the highest risk of sti transmission to women. Not unfounded, given that many are closet cases who don't want to risk the wife finding the condom packet, or the common 'breeding' kink without the risk of actual pregnancy, or simply that many are more concerned about not getting someone pregnant than they are about their and their significant others sexual health.

(Just because someone is from a higher risk demographic does not mean that they automatically actually engage in particularly unsafe practices. I'm just writing down a commonly cited reason that many stick to.)

There's the common tropes of masculine vs feminine. Many people like their men traditionally manly. Getting fucked in the arse by another man can really kill that big manly man feeling, and thus the attraction for people who want that masculinity and who perceive it as faggotry rather than just someone having sex with someone else they're attracted to.

And sometimes, it's just to cut down on the amount of offers or provide a convenient excuse to exit a conversation with someone they're not attracted to, when they actually don't give a shit."

I’ve heard all of these from my bi female friends. I don’t get it either OP 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Being bi doesn’t mean you just want a massive puppy pile on.

Bi - threesomes don’t do it for me

Either it’s usually an excuse for a man to watch 2 ladies. Plus I really prefer 1-1 with women.

And I’ll Be totally honest bi MMF - I’m not the centre of attention. Watching 2 men doesn’t horrify me, but it doesn’t excite me either. But then neither does watching a man or a woman.

I’m happy to meet bi men & women on their own. So it’s not a sexuality thing. It’s a me being a selfish prick thing 🤣🤣

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By *urry BlokeMan
27 weeks ago

I think bi men get a rough ticket overall

There is a huge misunderstanding of how bi men act / interact and what sort of sex they have

I have never been asked or cajoled by a bi man to take part in a sex act that I was uncomfortable with

Most are more than respectful of boundaries and not as many as you think engage in bum fun at all, let alone unsafe bum fun

We do however seek meets in an environment that is largely biased by hard no's, by generalisations, by preconceptions and by phobias

As much as I'd like to fight them, I'm not here to change the world one swinger at a time

Sometimes you just have to submit to the idea that you cannot attract anyone and everyone that catches your eye

It's just a case of concentrating on those that dig a bi bloke rather than wasting energy on those that don't

I've got to respect the choices, preferences and decisions of others just as much as I would want my own respecting.

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By *tephanie63Woman
27 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

I don't meet bi men because that's my preference....end of ..I don't need to supply a reason..

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By *exySenseiCouple
27 weeks ago


"Not shaming anyone here or expressing bitterness here, absolute respect for anyone's preferences, kinks and choices and it doesn't stop me from getting laid. I'm just curious to see bi women saying "no bi men" and wonder why that is?

Seems especially odd when I've had messages from "straight male" profiles who confess they're bi but don't want to put women off! Ironically, as I have zero interest in closet cases I'm possibly a bi man who's better at avoiding many bi men than the women who don't want bi men! Discuss...

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Just a though son, perhaps that's just their preference? Which is none of your goddam business. But of course you're not shaming or expressing bitterness. Because you absolutely respect their preferences.

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