Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
 | Back to forum list |
| Back to The Lounge |
| Jump to newest |  |
I’ve noticed ALOT of profiles saying “no black guys” or “white guys only”. I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences. I just wondered if any men are specific on their profiles in terms of race? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I always get a bit upset when I found someone very attractive (bbw or curvy) and at the bottom of their profile they don’t want people like me messaging them
I’ve noticed ALOT of profiles saying “no black guys” or “white guys only”. I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences. I just wondered if any men are specific on their profiles in terms of race? "It just saves time messaging and building bonds Feeling excluded, for whatever reason, doesn't feel nice You see lots of threads here that concentrate on being overlooked by height, by build, by age, by cock size Skin colour is another one Concentrate on those that will appreciate you and not those that won't | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I just wondered if any men are specific on their profiles in terms of race? " Yes. As someone who gets more attention from and reads more profiles from the male demographic, I see more racial preferences stated on male profiles than female ones. But then I don't look at anywhere close to as many female ones. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I always get a bit upset when I found someone very attractive (bbw or curvy) and at the bottom of their profile they don’t want people like me messaging them
I’ve noticed ALOT of profiles saying “no black guys” or “white guys only”. I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences. I just wondered if any men are specific on their profiles in terms of race?
It just saves time messaging and building bonds
Feeling excluded, for whatever reason, doesn't feel nice
You see lots of threads here that concentrate on being overlooked by height, by build, by age, by cock size
Skin colour is another one
Concentrate on those that will appreciate you and not those that won't "Appreciate this. Thank you | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Tbf, I take that as a welcome warning. I don’t want to sleep with racists lol. “Racial preferences” no matter the way those go, are always rooted in bias and stereotyping. Just because people try to play it off in the same way as other preferences, doesn’t make it any less gross. Anyone with a modicum of race consciousness can recognise that. " I hear it. I’ve had some awful responses when I’ve messaged people that haven’t stated in their profiles they don’t like black people….I mean black men 
People then get mad when I lead with, Are you into black men? Can’t win. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Well I have to ask this, mostly I've seen it from couples and a few single profiles that look for BBC. But I want to know if any of those same people would choose to be in a relationship with someone who is the opposite skin colour to them? Or is it more based on sexual fantasy?" I'd assume it is mostly just a fetish, yes | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Well I have to ask this, mostly I've seen it from couples and a few single profiles that look for BBC. But I want to know if any of those same people would choose to be in a relationship with someone who is the opposite skin colour to them? Or is it more based on sexual fantasy?" I'd assume it is mostly just a fetish, yes | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Well I have to ask this, mostly I've seen it from couples and a few single profiles that look for BBC. But I want to know if any of those same people would choose to be in a relationship with someone who is the opposite skin colour to them? Or is it more based on sexual fantasy? I'd assume it is mostly just a fetish, yes" So basically,those who look for BBC on here for a sexual encounter, would not even think about pursing a relationship with someone who is of more darker skin tone, but would happily jump in bed with them because it feels good? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Well I have to ask this, mostly I've seen it from couples and a few single profiles that look for BBC. But I want to know if any of those same people would choose to be in a relationship with someone who is the opposite skin colour to them? Or is it more based on sexual fantasy?" Great question. I very much doubt it. Probably something they want off their bucket list. Equally, I’m sure many guys want a threesome with two women but doubt they would want a poly/thruple situation. Swings and roundabouts. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Alternatively, I have a lot of guys long-term repeat look at my profile who state they actively don’t want BBW/older. So I’m not sure why they keep looking, hopefully because there is something they like and not because they enjoy scaring themselves "Lol, guilty. Im definitely a repeat viewer of your profile. I like older and bbw though  | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences..." • Only a few accounts?? This is one of the reasons why, as a Londoner, I rarely meet anyone within my region because •nearly• ALL of them have stated “black guys only”. And, if I'm really unlucky, most will also stipulate "NO ASIANS OR INDIANS" - the rhetorical method of twisting the knife once it's already embedded into you heart. I'll even put my head onto the guillotine by reluctantly declaring that in London black guys have never had it so good. 🤷🏻♂️ | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Tbf, I take that as a welcome warning. I don’t want to sleep with racists lol. “Racial preferences” no matter the way those go, are always rooted in bias and stereotyping. Just because people try to play it off in the same way as other preferences, doesn’t make it any less gross. Anyone with a modicum of race consciousness can recognise that. I hear it. I’ve had some awful responses when I’ve messaged people that haven’t stated in their profiles they don’t like black people….I mean black men
People then get mad when I lead with, Are you into black men? Can’t win. "Don't lead with it then Your photo shows your face, your skin colour and your build Most people will look at that and base their judgements on that So, if they like what they see and read, you're more likely to get a response Leading with your colour sounds like you either you think it will get you further up the ladder or that you would like to be fetishised for it By way of analogy, some time back, I met an Asian guy - I'd seen his pic so I knew what he looked like Throughout the meet though, he kept saying things like 'oh, you like paki cock don't you?' It was really off putting and took the edge off an otherwise enjoyable meet He was there because I found him attractive not because of his race, his culture or his religion- yet his comments suggested he wanted to either be fetishised for it or was using it in an attempt to demean Either way, I was uncomfortable with it | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I emphasise with you OP. " Bro we can’t win. But we move. Haven’t even found a black women that likes black guys on here. Must be an agenda against me? Looool I’m joking. Luckily for you, you’re built a name for yourself through your interactions on forum. Teach me  | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Well I have to ask this, mostly I've seen it from couples and a few single profiles that look for BBC. But I want to know if any of those same people would choose to be in a relationship with someone who is the opposite skin colour to them? Or is it more based on sexual fantasy? I'd assume it is mostly just a fetish, yes So basically,those who look for BBC on here for a sexual encounter, would not even think about pursing a relationship with someone who is of more darker skin tone, but would happily jump in bed with them because it feels good?" ------------------------------------------------- I saw a post many moons ago from a black guy, he recounted a conversation he had with the male of a couple who he had met with extensively and regarded as friends, he was shocked and disappointed when the guy revealed their preference for black men was partly influenced by the fact his wife would never run off with one believing culturally & socially they were miles apart. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences... • Only a few accounts?? This is one of the reasons why, as a Londoner, I rarely meet anyone within my region because •nearly• ALL of them have stated “black guys only”. And, if I'm really unlucky, most will also stipulate "NO ASIANS OR INDIANS" - the rhetorical method of twisting the knife once it's already embedded into you heart. I'll even put my head onto the guillotine by reluctantly declaring that in London black guys have never had it so good. 🤷🏻♂️" I’m sorry Bro, I hate reading that too. However “ London black guys have never had it so good” naaaaah. Fit, muscles and 6 pack black guys have never had it so good. Not big black guys like me | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I reject all men equally. " Yeah. Don't meet forum people either. Who would? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Well I have to ask this, mostly I've seen it from couples and a few single profiles that look for BBC. But I want to know if any of those same people would choose to be in a relationship with someone who is the opposite skin colour to them? Or is it more based on sexual fantasy? I'd assume it is mostly just a fetish, yes So basically,those who look for BBC on here for a sexual encounter, would not even think about pursing a relationship with someone who is of more darker skin tone, but would happily jump in bed with them because it feels good? ------------------------------------------------- I saw a post many moons ago from a black guy, he recounted a conversation he had with the male of a couple who he had met with extensively and regarded as friends, he was shocked and disappointed when the guy revealed their preference for black men was partly influenced by the fact his wife would never run off with one believing culturally & socially they were miles apart. " Wow, that’s really upsetting to hear. It’s sad that someone could hold such a stereotype and still consider themselves a friend. Thinking like that says so much more about them than the person they’re talking about. It’s such a backhanded way of dehumanizing someone, even while pretending to be close to them.  | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I reject all men equally. " Love this. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
" I'll even put my head onto the guillotine by reluctantly declaring that in London black guys have never had it so good. 🤷🏻♂️" --------------------------------- Had it so good? Fetishised, stereotyped and objectified and still remain in the bottom quartile in terms of economic capital. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Well I have to ask this, mostly I've seen it from couples and a few single profiles that look for BBC. But I want to know if any of those same people would choose to be in a relationship with someone who is the opposite skin colour to them? Or is it more based on sexual fantasy? I'd assume it is mostly just a fetish, yes So basically,those who look for BBC on here for a sexual encounter, would not even think about pursing a relationship with someone who is of more darker skin tone, but would happily jump in bed with them because it feels good? ------------------------------------------------- I saw a post many moons ago from a black guy, he recounted a conversation he had with the male of a couple who he had met with extensively and regarded as friends, he was shocked and disappointed when the guy revealed their preference for black men was partly influenced by the fact his wife would never run off with one believing culturally & socially they were miles apart. Wow, that’s really upsetting to hear. It’s sad that someone could hold such a stereotype and still consider themselves a friend. Thinking like that says so much more about them than the person they’re talking about. It’s such a backhanded way of dehumanizing someone, even while pretending to be close to them. "--------------------------- Totally agree, it was one of the reasons my (black) husband stopped playing years ago, he got fed up of being objectified and manhandled by proprietorial white women. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Alternatively, I have a lot of guys long-term repeat look at my profile who state they actively don’t want BBW/older. So I’m not sure why they keep looking, hopefully because there is something they like and not because they enjoy scaring themselves
Lol, guilty. Im definitely a repeat viewer of your profile. I like older and bbw though "Thank you OP. I apologise for having talked about me on here, I shouldn’t have done that - this is your space. People who state racial preferences are racist, and the term BBC is horrific - reducing men while objectifying them. There’s a Roman history of men with big dicks being animalised, it was an insult to say a man was hung as it implied they were not fully human or intelligent. “BBC” is an heir to that belief | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
" Leading with your colour sounds like you either you think it will get you further up the ladder or that you would like to be fetishised for it " I appreciate you, I think there is some truth to this. I don’t think this was always the case but over time rejection has probably conditioned me to think this way. Quite sad really. Off to therapy | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Alternatively, I have a lot of guys long-term repeat look at my profile who state they actively don’t want BBW/older. So I’m not sure why they keep looking, hopefully because there is something they like and not because they enjoy scaring themselves
Lol, guilty. Im definitely a repeat viewer of your profile. I like older and bbw though
Thank you OP.
I apologise for having talked about me on here, I shouldn’t have done that - this is your space.
People who state racial preferences are racist, and the term BBC is horrific - reducing men while objectifying them. There’s a Roman history of men with big dicks being animalised, it was an insult to say a man was hung as it implied they were not fully human or intelligent. “BBC” is an heir to that belief"I’m not precious over forums, thanks for sharing your experience. Loving the history lesson too! Anything you can’t do? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Alternatively, I have a lot of guys long-term repeat look at my profile who state they actively don’t want BBW/older. So I’m not sure why they keep looking, hopefully because there is something they like and not because they enjoy scaring themselves
Lol, guilty. Im definitely a repeat viewer of your profile. I like older and bbw though
Thank you OP.
I apologise for having talked about me on here, I shouldn’t have done that - this is your space.
People who state racial preferences are racist, and the term BBC is horrific - reducing men while objectifying them. There’s a Roman history of men with big dicks being animalised, it was an insult to say a man was hung as it implied they were not fully human or intelligent. “BBC” is an heir to that belief"Can this also be applied to those women who have a tattoo of the ace of spades on them? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Tbf, I take that as a welcome warning. I don’t want to sleep with racists lol. “Racial preferences” no matter the way those go, are always rooted in bias and stereotyping. Just because people try to play it off in the same way as other preferences, doesn’t make it any less gross. Anyone with a modicum of race consciousness can recognise that. " I agree with this. There'll be someone (probably white) to come along and tell you why you're wrong soon, but I don't think you are. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Silliness aside, OP. Yes some men are specific in terms of race on their profile. I've read it before. But I don't think knowing that other demographics are... specific (let's call it that) is going to help you. It won't make you feel better. You shouldn't feel sad that someone doesn't want to meet you because of one characteristic. I mean, yeah sure, feel a bit meh about it but also glad that they've got it on their profile so you're not wasting time messaging someone like that. And I think it's really important to remember that just because you find someone very attractive, it doesn't mean they'll feel the same way. It doesn't mean you're lesser. On a personal level, I really don't care about someone's race. But recently, I've had someone tell me I was wasting my arse on white men who won't really appreciate it. He wasn't joking. There's lots of "ick" surrounding race and sex on this site. " Thank you for the encouragement. You always know what to say, really messed up but when I read that on their profiles it’s like I want to convince them or prove them wrong. I never do but it’s in my head. Almost like I’m trying to beat racism. Lol silly me. Thanks again. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"J, Mate, can't you be a big teddy bear instead of a black teddy bear? You ask the question but have you tried to just have a conversation without bringing your colour into it? Sorry if I haven't worded right and offended. That'll put marzipan in your pie plate bingo " 100% can be a big teddy bear. My approach depends on the profile. If there’s more to go on I lead with something on there most of the time. Worded perfectly, it’s all good | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Alternatively, I have a lot of guys long-term repeat look at my profile who state they actively don’t want BBW/older. So I’m not sure why they keep looking, hopefully because there is something they like and not because they enjoy scaring themselves
Lol, guilty. Im definitely a repeat viewer of your profile. I like older and bbw though
Thank you OP.
I apologise for having talked about me on here, I shouldn’t have done that - this is your space.
People who state racial preferences are racist, and the term BBC is horrific - reducing men while objectifying them. There’s a Roman history of men with big dicks being animalised, it was an insult to say a man was hung as it implied they were not fully human or intelligent. “BBC” is an heir to that belief
Can this also be applied to those women who have a tattoo of the ace of spades on them?"Yes | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I always get a bit upset when I found someone very attractive (bbw or curvy) and at the bottom of their profile they don’t want people like me messaging them
I’ve noticed ALOT of profiles saying “no black guys” or “white guys only”. I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences. I just wondered if any men are specific on their profiles in terms of race? "I'm not into BBW, dark-skinned, men, TV or CD at all from a sexual attraction point of view. It upsets a few I'm sure, but it is what it is. You get some women saying "BBC only", "12 inch only", "black guys only", no guys who are this, that and the other. Yes, there's a small knock that I'm not what they're looking for, and yes I'm getting older and so on, but it's just a harsh reality that I've come to accept. I don't let it get to me. I'm actually happy that they've said it because it prevents time-wasting. I wouldn't want to meet someone who isn't into me either, so it's all fine. I do sympathise with you for the "no black guys thing" because that's got to be hard, but you can only do your best. There will be a niche market for you that you can access that I cannot, so use that to your advantage! I've noticed something about your profile, in your text, there are a few lines that are potentially damaging. You might want to just get a second opinion on a few things; (ask a man who has a lot of verifications - not a woman). "Just because I like curvy doesn't mean" - with a lot of women, of you specify a body type, there's a good chance you've fucked the rest off straight away. "I don't get the opportunity" - don't say that because it makes you sound a little bit on the needy side, even if you're not. "I reply to all messages". Some women will read that as "Please message me, I'm eagerly waiting to reply", and that's not hot. Also, in your verification, the lady says that you're great, nice sense of humour and all that. Show it in your profile sir! Women love that sort of thing. Half of the battle on here is standing out. You have to use your profile and messages to do that. Good luck x | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I always get a bit upset when I found someone very attractive (bbw or curvy) and at the bottom of their profile they don’t want people like me messaging them
I’ve noticed ALOT of profiles saying “no black guys” or “white guys only”. I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences. I just wondered if any men are specific on their profiles in terms of race?
I'm not into BBW, dark-skinned, men, TV or CD at all from a sexual attraction point of view. It upsets a few I'm sure, but it is what it is.
You get some women saying "BBC only", "12 inch only", "black guys only", no guys who are this, that and the other. Yes, there's a small knock that I'm not what they're looking for, and yes I'm getting older and so on, but it's just a harsh reality that I've come to accept. I don't let it get to me.
I'm actually happy that they've said it because it prevents time-wasting. I wouldn't want to meet someone who isn't into me either, so it's all fine.
I do sympathise with you for the "no black guys thing" because that's got to be hard, but you can only do your best. There will be a niche market for you that you can access that I cannot, so use that to your advantage!
I've noticed something about your profile, in your text, there are a few lines that are potentially damaging. You might want to just get a second opinion on a few things; (ask a man who has a lot of verifications - not a woman).
"Just because I like curvy doesn't mean" - with a lot of women, of you specify a body type, there's a good chance you've fucked the rest off straight away.
"I don't get the opportunity" - don't say that because it makes you sound a little bit on the needy side, even if you're not.
"I reply to all messages". Some women will read that as "Please message me, I'm eagerly waiting to reply", and that's not hot.
Also, in your verification, the lady says that you're great, nice sense of humour and all that. Show it in your profile sir! Women love that sort of thing.
Half of the battle on here is standing out. You have to use your profile and messages to do that.
Good luck x"Respect brother, I really appreciate this.  | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I emphasise with you OP. Bro we can’t win. But we move. Haven’t even found a black women that likes black guys on here. Must be an agenda against me? Looool I’m joking. Luckily for you, you’re built a name for yourself through your interactions on forum. Teach me "To be honest though man, you just gotta message people as you do, don’t ask them if they like you or whatever, and you have to just take the rejection when it comes. I use the forums as a place to have fun and make friends. Just as many will like you as don’t like you. I learned the hard way, there’s no point in talking about racial desirability politics on fab. People don’t have the interest and they don’t have the range. As for meeting Black women, better chances away from this site. Black women looking for Black men are better off away from fab. Don’t have to deal with the racism and fetishisation. Come to one of my picnics. I’ll teach you. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Silliness aside, OP. Yes some men are specific in terms of race on their profile. I've read it before. But I don't think knowing that other demographics are... specific (let's call it that) is going to help you. It won't make you feel better. You shouldn't feel sad that someone doesn't want to meet you because of one characteristic. I mean, yeah sure, feel a bit meh about it but also glad that they've got it on their profile so you're not wasting time messaging someone like that. And I think it's really important to remember that just because you find someone very attractive, it doesn't mean they'll feel the same way. It doesn't mean you're lesser. On a personal level, I really don't care about someone's race. But recently, I've had someone tell me I was wasting my arse on white men who won't really appreciate it. He wasn't joking. There's lots of "ick" surrounding race and sex on this site. Thank you for the encouragement. You always know what to say, really messed up but when I read that on their profiles it’s like I want to convince them or prove them wrong. I never do but it’s in my head. Almost like I’m trying to beat racism. Lol silly me. Thanks again. " You don't need to beat racism on what's essentially a fuck site. People won't change their opinion, they can have a myriad of reasons for their opinions, but at the end of the day... they're not going to change their mind so why waste your time/headspace/energy on people you're fundamentally not compatible with? I can't say I've ever been disappointed to find out that I'm not someone's type - they tend to be very far from my (admittedly less aesthetic, more personality based) type. Focus on those you're compatible with, don't waste energy on those you're not. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Alternatively, I have a lot of guys long-term repeat look at my profile who state they actively don’t want BBW/older. So I’m not sure why they keep looking, hopefully because there is something they like and not because they enjoy scaring themselves
Lol, guilty. Im definitely a repeat viewer of your profile. I like older and bbw though
Thank you OP.
I apologise for having talked about me on here, I shouldn’t have done that - this is your space.
People who state racial preferences are racist, and the term BBC is horrific - reducing men while objectifying them. There’s a Roman history of men with big dicks being animalised, it was an insult to say a man was hung as it implied they were not fully human or intelligent. “BBC” is an heir to that belief
Can this also be applied to those women who have a tattoo of the ace of spades on them?"That's to denote they like Motorhead. I think you mean the queen of spades. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. " I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
" I saw a post many moons ago from a black guy, he recounted a conversation he had with the male of a couple who he had met with extensively and regarded as friends, he was shocked and disappointed when the guy revealed their preference for black men was partly influenced by the fact his wife would never run off with one believing culturally & socially they were miles apart. " Not one part of this surprises me. Unfortunately. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All I would personally say is, there is nothing worse than receiving a message that starts as: "Do you fuck black men"? "Do you meet blacks"? "Do you want black dick"? All too often those messages appear in my inbox, funnily enough I can see what colour someone is usually from their profile pictures. I don't need to be told it all the way through a message, and I've never sent a message to anyone saying how white I am and do they want to fuck a white woman. People are allowed to choose who they want , it is not racist in any shape of form unless they deliberately use something racist in a response back to that person. I'd be a millionaire if I could get paid every time I received a message from someone of a different skin colour to my own, that wants to ruin a "white girl". I don't get offended by it." Serious questions, why do you think people ask your racial preferences? What’s underneath the statement “I want to destroy a white woman”? Why have you never had to ask others whether they are into a white girl? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. " Of course who you are attracted to is personal and a preference and always will be. Personally I just struggle with the concept of putting literally billions of people into the 'not attracted to' box purely based on skin colour/ethnicity. 🤷♂️ | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. " --------------------------------- I don't think anyone is suggesting most of what you say. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All I would personally say is, there is nothing worse than receiving a message that starts as: "Do you fuck black men"? "Do you meet blacks"? "Do you want black dick"? All too often those messages appear in my inbox, funnily enough I can see what colour someone is usually from their profile pictures. I don't need to be told it all the way through a message, and I've never sent a message to anyone saying how white I am and do they want to fuck a white woman. People are allowed to choose who they want , it is not racist in any shape of form unless they deliberately use something racist in a response back to that person. I'd be a millionaire if I could get paid every time I received a message from someone of a different skin colour to my own, that wants to ruin a "white girl". I don't get offended by it. Serious questions, why do you think people ask your racial preferences? What’s underneath the statement “I want to destroy a white woman”? Why have you never had to ask others whether they are into a white girl?" It's easy to politely decline anyone on a place like this without bringing skin colour into it. I've never used or will ever bring my skin colour into a message. It's obvious what it is. If they replied to me saying I'm white and they don't meet white people, I still wouldn't be offended. I'd just delete the message. Only someone that has the mindset of wanting to "destroy a white woman" can answer that question. My body parts are the same at the end of the day. I don't state racial preferences on my profile because I have none. I go by the person themselves. Most people with some common sense should be able to realise this when in conversation with me. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. " There’s so much to unpack here lol. Internalised racism impacts literally everyone whether you’re Black, White or Brown. Growing up around Black, White or Brown people doesn’t make you less racist; having a Black partner doesn’t make you less racist by some form of magical osmosis… etc etc etc Why would you discount an entire group of people (which are by the way, a greater population globally) based upon what you consider shared physical characteristics? Equally why would you actively seek out someone from a different ethnic group to you like you’re ticking something off a grocery list? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. Of course who you are attracted to is personal and a preference and always will be. Personally I just struggle with the concept of putting literally billions of people into the 'not attracted to' box purely based on skin colour/ethnicity. 🤷♂️" Why? We're attracted to whoever we're attracted to, that's it!... What's that got to do with race? I'm also not attracted to certain body types or trans people, presumably that makes me a bigot to? Honestly, it's pethetic on here at times when the toxic brigade are branding their cards around, I'm starting to call it these days. Mr F. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All I would personally say is, there is nothing worse than receiving a message that starts as: "Do you fuck black men"? "Do you meet blacks"? "Do you want black dick"? All too often those messages appear in my inbox, funnily enough I can see what colour someone is usually from their profile pictures. I don't need to be told it all the way through a message, and I've never sent a message to anyone saying how white I am and do they want to fuck a white woman. People are allowed to choose who they want , it is not racist in any shape of form unless they deliberately use something racist in a response back to that person. I'd be a millionaire if I could get paid every time I received a message from someone of a different skin colour to my own, that wants to ruin a "white girl". I don't get offended by it. Serious questions, why do you think people ask your racial preferences? What’s underneath the statement “I want to destroy a white woman”? Why have you never had to ask others whether they are into a white girl? It's easy to politely decline anyone on a place like this without bringing skin colour into it. I've never used or will ever bring my skin colour into a message. It's obvious what it is. If they replied to me saying I'm white and they don't meet white people, I still wouldn't be offended. I'd just delete the message. Only someone that has the mindset of wanting to "destroy a white woman" can answer that question. My body parts are the same at the end of the day. I don't state racial preferences on my profile because I have none. I go by the person themselves. Most people with some common sense should be able to realise this when in conversation with me. " You haven’t actually answered any of my questions… so I’ll rephrase. Why would a Black man feel they have to ask you whether you’re into Black men? Why do YOU think people will make those kinds of statements? Why do you think so many people on here have to list their race, whereas it’s never crossed your mind to have to do so? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. There’s so much to unpack here lol. Internalised racism impacts literally everyone whether you’re Black, White or Brown. Growing up around Black, White or Brown people doesn’t make you less racist; having a Black partner doesn’t make you less racist by some form of magical osmosis… etc etc etc Why would you discount an entire group of people (which are by the way, a greater population globally) based upon what you consider shared physical characteristics? Equally why would you actively seek out someone from a different ethnic group to you like you’re ticking something off a grocery list?" Because I don't generally find Asain people attractive. Next question? Mr F. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. There’s so much to unpack here lol. Internalised racism impacts literally everyone whether you’re Black, White or Brown. Growing up around Black, White or Brown people doesn’t make you less racist; having a Black partner doesn’t make you less racist by some form of magical osmosis… etc etc etc Why would you discount an entire group of people (which are by the way, a greater population globally) based upon what you consider shared physical characteristics? Equally why would you actively seek out someone from a different ethnic group to you like you’re ticking something off a grocery list? Because I don't generally find Asain people attractive. Next question? Mr F. " Because every single Asian person looks the same? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All I would personally say is, there is nothing worse than receiving a message that starts as: "Do you fuck black men"? "Do you meet blacks"? "Do you want black dick"? All too often those messages appear in my inbox, funnily enough I can see what colour someone is usually from their profile pictures. I don't need to be told it all the way through a message, and I've never sent a message to anyone saying how white I am and do they want to fuck a white woman. People are allowed to choose who they want , it is not racist in any shape of form unless they deliberately use something racist in a response back to that person. I'd be a millionaire if I could get paid every time I received a message from someone of a different skin colour to my own, that wants to ruin a "white girl". I don't get offended by it. Serious questions, why do you think people ask your racial preferences? What’s underneath the statement “I want to destroy a white woman”? Why have you never had to ask others whether they are into a white girl? It's easy to politely decline anyone on a place like this without bringing skin colour into it. I've never used or will ever bring my skin colour into a message. It's obvious what it is. If they replied to me saying I'm white and they don't meet white people, I still wouldn't be offended. I'd just delete the message. Only someone that has the mindset of wanting to "destroy a white woman" can answer that question. My body parts are the same at the end of the day. I don't state racial preferences on my profile because I have none. I go by the person themselves. Most people with some common sense should be able to realise this when in conversation with me. You haven’t actually answered any of my questions… so I’ll rephrase. Why would a Black man feel they have to ask you whether you’re into Black men? Why do YOU think people will make those kinds of statements? Why do you think so many people on here have to list their race, whereas it’s never crossed your mind to have to do so? " Don't put words into peoples mouths from your bottom point above. I never once said that it doesnt cross my mind. I don't need to answer your questions further,because it's going to just go round and round all day. And I can't be arsed with the debate. It's a forum , my response to the OP is from me. That's me finished , have a good Saturday. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. There’s so much to unpack here lol. Internalised racism impacts literally everyone whether you’re Black, White or Brown. Growing up around Black, White or Brown people doesn’t make you less racist; having a Black partner doesn’t make you less racist by some form of magical osmosis… etc etc etc Why would you discount an entire group of people (which are by the way, a greater population globally) based upon what you consider shared physical characteristics? Equally why would you actively seek out someone from a different ethnic group to you like you’re ticking something off a grocery list? Because I don't generally find Asain people attractive. Next question? Mr F. Because every single Asian person looks the same? " Yeah. They're too petite for us both and we don't find Asain people attractive, so what next? Mr F. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
" Why? We're attracted to whoever we're attracted to, that's it!... What's that got to do with race? I'm also not attracted to certain body types or trans people, presumably that makes me a bigot to? Honestly, it's pethetic on here at times when the toxic brigade are branding their cards around, I'm starting to call it these days. Mr F. " ------------------------------ What exactly are you calling? Having a conversation about this isnt 'toxic', the fact your mind isn't open to this suggests you've no interest in the salient points that are being raised, don't worry there's no obligation to be so. Personally, I've no issue with someone expressing a racial preference, that's absolutely fine, but it's often the way it's expressed that creates the problem. The fact some black men buy into being objectified to fuck women they've no regard for is also fine, but the iffy vernacular used to express racial preferences is increasingly becoming used to describe black people generally. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. There’s so much to unpack here lol. Internalised racism impacts literally everyone whether you’re Black, White or Brown. Growing up around Black, White or Brown people doesn’t make you less racist; having a Black partner doesn’t make you less racist by some form of magical osmosis… etc etc etc Why would you discount an entire group of people (which are by the way, a greater population globally) based upon what you consider shared physical characteristics? Equally why would you actively seek out someone from a different ethnic group to you like you’re ticking something off a grocery list?" It impacts everyone? You have some data to support this argument that I can read for myself? Or is this just your opinion? I also didn’t say I was less racist because I grew up in Birmingham, because I had black friends, because I’ve been in relationships with black and mixed race woman or because I’ve had sex with men and woman of all skin colours. I’m not racist because I don’t judge people based on race or skin colour. I also don’t say my Mrs was in any way racist, or not racist because of growing up in a close to 100% white area. I just stated that the pool of men she came into contact with didn’t include men with brown or black skin. She’s not racist because she doesn’t judge people based on race or skin colour. As I said, I know I’m totally wasting my time, but I wanted to try to explain the words you tried to twist to try and make me look racist. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
" Why? We're attracted to whoever we're attracted to, that's it!... What's that got to do with race? I'm also not attracted to certain body types or trans people, presumably that makes me a bigot to? Honestly, it's pethetic on here at times when the toxic brigade are branding their cards around, I'm starting to call it these days. Mr F. ------------------------------ What exactly are you calling? Having a conversation about this isnt 'toxic', the fact your mind isn't open to this suggests you've no interest in the salient points that are being raised, don't worry there's no obligation to be so. Personally, I've no issue with someone expressing a racial preference, that's absolutely fine, but it's often the way it's expressed that creates the problem. The fact some black men buy into being objectified to fuck women they've no regard for is also fine, but the iffy vernacular used to express racial preferences is increasingly becoming used to describe black people generally. " I'm calling out those who wave around their race cards because they can't differentiate between preference and racism, same wirh preference and bigotry, it's a them problem, but they make out it's everyone else's issue! Mr F. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Tbf, I take that as a welcome warning. I don’t want to sleep with racists lol. “Racial preferences” no matter the way those go, are always rooted in bias and stereotyping. Just because people try to play it off in the same way as other preferences, doesn’t make it any less gross. Anyone with a modicum of race consciousness can recognise that. " What a ridiculous comment , so because some one is not attracted to black people they in your words are racist ,ffs | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. There’s so much to unpack here lol. Internalised racism impacts literally everyone whether you’re Black, White or Brown. Growing up around Black, White or Brown people doesn’t make you less racist; having a Black partner doesn’t make you less racist by some form of magical osmosis… etc etc etc Why would you discount an entire group of people (which are by the way, a greater population globally) based upon what you consider shared physical characteristics? Equally why would you actively seek out someone from a different ethnic group to you like you’re ticking something off a grocery list? Because I don't generally find Asain people attractive. Next question? Mr F. Because every single Asian person looks the same? Yeah. They're too petite for us both and we don't find Asain people attractive, so what next? Mr F. " You know there are tall and fat Asian people too, right? Nobody is telling you who you should be attracted to and who not. Much like Caucasians, people of other ethnicities come in all shapes and sizes. Stereotypes help no-one. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. There’s so much to unpack here lol. Internalised racism impacts literally everyone whether you’re Black, White or Brown. Growing up around Black, White or Brown people doesn’t make you less racist; having a Black partner doesn’t make you less racist by some form of magical osmosis… etc etc etc Why would you discount an entire group of people (which are by the way, a greater population globally) based upon what you consider shared physical characteristics? Equally why would you actively seek out someone from a different ethnic group to you like you’re ticking something off a grocery list? Because I don't generally find Asain people attractive. Next question? Mr F. Because every single Asian person looks the same? Yeah. They're too petite for us both and we don't find Asain people attractive, so what next? Mr F. You know there are tall and fat Asian people too, right? Nobody is telling you who you should be attracted to and who not. Much like Caucasians, people of other ethnicities come in all shapes and sizes. Stereotypes help no-one. " There we go that's what I was waiting for, we're stereotyping people, and that's correct we are as that's our general view, and it's a generalisation of Asain people for us... So is stereotyping people now racist too?.... Man, I give in!!! Mr F. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Are straight people homophobic because they won’t have sex with gay people? Are gay men misogynistic because they won’t have sex with women? Is a 21yo agist if they won’t have sex with a 90yo? And conversely are they a pervert if they do? " Don't talk too much sense yo em, they'll be routing for new cards out of their race drawers! Mr F. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. There’s so much to unpack here lol. Internalised racism impacts literally everyone whether you’re Black, White or Brown. Growing up around Black, White or Brown people doesn’t make you less racist; having a Black partner doesn’t make you less racist by some form of magical osmosis… etc etc etc Why would you discount an entire group of people (which are by the way, a greater population globally) based upon what you consider shared physical characteristics? Equally why would you actively seek out someone from a different ethnic group to you like you’re ticking something off a grocery list? Because I don't generally find Asain people attractive. Next question? Mr F. " It just occurred to me that the gentleman who asked the question in the first place didn’t mention a thing about his endowment…..he is attracted to curvy/BBW women. Given what he said he’s colourblind when it comes to who he is attracted to and I imagine it wasn’t a black girl saying no black men…….the reality is sexual preferences aren’t wired to ethnicity. Neither is say height, body type and the like. (I’m a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist and the research and literature on this subject has been collated and reviewed for half a century at least) A sexual preference like BBC is socially and situationally formed usually. Sports, particularly in America had a big impact on this area. Basketball and American Football. Situationally. Basketballera are generally black and 6’6’ +. Athletic. Low body fat. That has a bigger influence on size than you might expect…..so the star players have fans. In colleges in America mostly whites girls purely on demographic. So physically you’d expect bigger than normal purely because of the physical traits that make better basket baller and young girls wanting to date an athlete. A social phenomenon is born. BBC. I suspect if it was horse racing and they were mostly black jockeys around 5’4’ BBC wouldn’t be touted as much. Young black guys playing ball in college with fans everywhere did two things. Access to sex for the guys and increased sexual partners for girls. Remember this is situational. Not racial. They just happen to be black and white humans. The guys could choose with an unprecedented ease to date a lot of different girls because who wouldn’t. And the girls not being as valuable move on to the next more quickly than usual. Throw in the birth of Pornhub and channels like Blacked and many more. It’s now wired in to a certain social demographic in the western world. That’s a very short version of the facts but I thought it was worth pointing out. As a side note there are plenty of 6’6 + white guys in the NBA. I’m pretty sure they don’t feel less of a man in those locker rooms….but that’s more recent. Maybe BWC and young black girls will take hold….probably not. Back to the racial thing. On sites like these where people say no black men or only BBC. The former unfortunately is statistically likely to be cultural and the latter programmed socially. Curvy in the case of this forum was this guys colour blind preference. And the insular uneducated nature of the ladies he approached. Sad but also true. Look racism is a thing. 100%. It isn’t however a component of sexual behaviour. Humans brains haven’t evolved at all for around 50,000 years. We are tribal animals. The cultural and belief systems of tribes are the thing we are wired to distrust. Avoid. Shun. There are two Caucasian peoples killing each other mindlessly because of sovereignty and historical territory. It has all the hallmarks of racism but….. Anyway to the guy who started this. It’s not you my friend. You are more evolved than most. That’s enough to brush it off and find another evolved human being!! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. Of course who you are attracted to is personal and a preference and always will be. Personally I just struggle with the concept of putting literally billions of people into the 'not attracted to' box purely based on skin colour/ethnicity. 🤷♂️ Why? We're attracted to whoever we're attracted to, that's it!... What's that got to do with race? I'm also not attracted to certain body types or trans people, presumably that makes me a bigot to? Honestly, it's pethetic on here at times when the toxic brigade are branding their cards around, I'm starting to call it these days. Mr F. " Fair enough I'll call it too. You state that you are not attracted to black women, but subsequently state who you are attracted to has nothing to do with race. Does this not seem like something of a contradictory position to you? If you are making an appeal to nature, which it appears you are - I don't see how that makes it any less dependent on race. Given that you can exclude an entire group of people on the basis of their race. Implicit bias is an established scientific fact, supported by substantial empirical data. It's a widespread a common social issue, which has an adverse effect on many groups of people. If every time someone raises the topic people are going to become angry and accuse people of using the race card or become so defensive that they compare it to an accusation of bigotry then it will degrade into polarised nonsense. A productive action if your motivation is to maintain the status quo. It turns nasty, moderators step in. And the thread is deleted from history as if it never happened. I wonder how those whom are adversely affected feel about that. Perhaps that will teach them for waving their race cards around? I'd prefer an explorative discourse on identifying where that line is between preference and implicit bias, personally. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. Of course who you are attracted to is personal and a preference and always will be. Personally I just struggle with the concept of putting literally billions of people into the 'not attracted to' box purely based on skin colour/ethnicity. 🤷♂️ Why? We're attracted to whoever we're attracted to, that's it!... What's that got to do with race? I'm also not attracted to certain body types or trans people, presumably that makes me a bigot to? Honestly, it's pethetic on here at times when the toxic brigade are branding their cards around, I'm starting to call it these days. Mr F. Fair enough I'll call it too. You state that you are not attracted to black women, but subsequently state who you are attracted to has nothing to do with race. Does this not seem like something of a contradictory position to you? If you are making an appeal to nature, which it appears you are - I don't see how that makes it any less dependent on race. Given that you can exclude an entire group of people on the basis of their race. Implicit bias is an established scientific fact, supported by substantial empirical data. It's a widespread a common social issue, which has an adverse effect on many groups of people. If every time someone raises the topic people are going to become angry and accuse people of using the race card or become so defensive that they compare it to an accusation of bigotry then it will degrade into polarised nonsense. A productive action if your motivation is to maintain the status quo. It turns nasty, moderators step in. And the thread is deleted from history as if it never happened. I wonder how those whom are adversely affected feel about that. Perhaps that will teach them for waving their race cards around? I'd prefer an explorative discourse on identifying where that line is between preference and implicit bias, personally. " But he’s not saying they hate them. He’s not saying they want them all “sent back from whence they came”. He’s not saying “they are stealing our jobs and shaggin our women”. He’s not saying they should be shot. The list of things they are not saying is endless. He’s just saying they don’t want to have sex with them. That’s the difference between a sexual preference and racism. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. Of course who you are attracted to is personal and a preference and always will be. Personally I just struggle with the concept of putting literally billions of people into the 'not attracted to' box purely based on skin colour/ethnicity. 🤷♂️ Why? We're attracted to whoever we're attracted to, that's it!... What's that got to do with race? I'm also not attracted to certain body types or trans people, presumably that makes me a bigot to? Honestly, it's pethetic on here at times when the toxic brigade are branding their cards around, I'm starting to call it these days. Mr F. Fair enough I'll call it too. You state that you are not attracted to black women, but subsequently state who you are attracted to has nothing to do with race. Does this not seem like something of a contradictory position to you? If you are making an appeal to nature, which it appears you are - I don't see how that makes it any less dependent on race. Given that you can exclude an entire group of people on the basis of their race. Implicit bias is an established scientific fact, supported by substantial empirical data. It's a widespread a common social issue, which has an adverse effect on many groups of people. If every time someone raises the topic people are going to become angry and accuse people of using the race card or become so defensive that they compare it to an accusation of bigotry then it will degrade into polarised nonsense. A productive action if your motivation is to maintain the status quo. It turns nasty, moderators step in. And the thread is deleted from history as if it never happened. I wonder how those whom are adversely affected feel about that. Perhaps that will teach them for waving their race cards around? I'd prefer an explorative discourse on identifying where that line is between preference and implicit bias, personally. But he’s not saying they hate them. He’s not saying they want them all “sent back from whence they came”. He’s not saying “they are stealing our jobs and shaggin our women”. He’s not saying they should be shot. The list of things they are not saying is endless. He’s just saying they don’t want to have sex with them. That’s the difference between a sexual preference and racism. " Just add a bit of irony to this conversation for perspective. Does anyone know what the least attractive or sexually desirable demographic is worldwide? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. Of course who you are attracted to is personal and a preference and always will be. Personally I just struggle with the concept of putting literally billions of people into the 'not attracted to' box purely based on skin colour/ethnicity. 🤷♂️ Why? We're attracted to whoever we're attracted to, that's it!... What's that got to do with race? I'm also not attracted to certain body types or trans people, presumably that makes me a bigot to? Honestly, it's pethetic on here at times when the toxic brigade are branding their cards around, I'm starting to call it these days. Mr F. Fair enough I'll call it too. You state that you are not attracted to black women, but subsequently state who you are attracted to has nothing to do with race. Does this not seem like something of a contradictory position to you? If you are making an appeal to nature, which it appears you are - I don't see how that makes it any less dependent on race. Given that you can exclude an entire group of people on the basis of their race. Implicit bias is an established scientific fact, supported by substantial empirical data. It's a widespread a common social issue, which has an adverse effect on many groups of people. If every time someone raises the topic people are going to become angry and accuse people of using the race card or become so defensive that they compare it to an accusation of bigotry then it will degrade into polarised nonsense. A productive action if your motivation is to maintain the status quo. It turns nasty, moderators step in. And the thread is deleted from history as if it never happened. I wonder how those whom are adversely affected feel about that. Perhaps that will teach them for waving their race cards around? I'd prefer an explorative discourse on identifying where that line is between preference and implicit bias, personally. But he’s not saying they hate them. He’s not saying they want them all “sent back from whence they came”. He’s not saying “they are stealing our jobs and shaggin our women”. He’s not saying they should be shot. The list of things they are not saying is endless. He’s just saying they don’t want to have sex with them. That’s the difference between a sexual preference and racism. " And I said if you compare the topic of implicit bias to bigotry then that's not going anywhere positive, in terms of productive discourse. It's a polarising act that shuts down the conversation. Implicit bias isn't hatred and bigotry, it's bias we are not aware of consciously, as a product of our cultural conditioning. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. Of course who you are attracted to is personal and a preference and always will be. Personally I just struggle with the concept of putting literally billions of people into the 'not attracted to' box purely based on skin colour/ethnicity. 🤷♂️ Why? We're attracted to whoever we're attracted to, that's it!... What's that got to do with race? I'm also not attracted to certain body types or trans people, presumably that makes me a bigot to? Honestly, it's pethetic on here at times when the toxic brigade are branding their cards around, I'm starting to call it these days. Mr F. Fair enough I'll call it too. You state that you are not attracted to black women, but subsequently state who you are attracted to has nothing to do with race. Does this not seem like something of a contradictory position to you? If you are making an appeal to nature, which it appears you are - I don't see how that makes it any less dependent on race. Given that you can exclude an entire group of people on the basis of their race. Implicit bias is an established scientific fact, supported by substantial empirical data. It's a widespread a common social issue, which has an adverse effect on many groups of people. If every time someone raises the topic people are going to become angry and accuse people of using the race card or become so defensive that they compare it to an accusation of bigotry then it will degrade into polarised nonsense. A productive action if your motivation is to maintain the status quo. It turns nasty, moderators step in. And the thread is deleted from history as if it never happened. I wonder how those whom are adversely affected feel about that. Perhaps that will teach them for waving their race cards around? I'd prefer an explorative discourse on identifying where that line is between preference and implicit bias, personally. But he’s not saying they hate them. He’s not saying they want them all “sent back from whence they came”. He’s not saying “they are stealing our jobs and shaggin our women”. He’s not saying they should be shot. The list of things they are not saying is endless. He’s just saying they don’t want to have sex with them. That’s the difference between a sexual preference and racism. And I said if you compare the topic of implicit bias to bigotry then that's not going anywhere positive, in terms of productive discourse. It's a polarising act that shuts down the conversation. Implicit bias isn't hatred and bigotry, it's bias we are not aware of consciously, as a product of our cultural conditioning." So you’re saying he is saying those things? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Are straight people homophobic because they won’t have sex with gay people? Are gay men misogynistic because they won’t have sex with women? Is a 21yo agist if they won’t have sex with a 90yo? And conversely are they a pervert if they do? " Wtaf are you doing bringing logic into this?!? This is drama, we don't want any of your logic or common sense bollocks! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I always get a bit upset when I found someone very attractive (bbw or curvy) and at the bottom of their profile they don’t want people like me messaging them
I’ve noticed ALOT of profiles saying “no black guys” or “white guys only”. I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences. I just wondered if any men are specific on their profiles in terms of race? "Personally no. I know what I like but it's more about connection than physical attribute. I also find that "judging" someone by what sense of them you can get from an online profile is a sad sign of the times and even if they don't appear to tick boxes physically I've lived long enough to know that some very beautiful people don't take a good picture (and vice versa). For me now, meeting people is key and I've tripped into the wrong age bracket or don't tick the looks box to find success online so I'm enjoying going old school and meeting people first. Interestingly, most criteria doesn't even come up in conversation. Don't change yourself to gut in. Change your environment so your beauty shines. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. Of course who you are attracted to is personal and a preference and always will be. Personally I just struggle with the concept of putting literally billions of people into the 'not attracted to' box purely based on skin colour/ethnicity. 🤷♂️ Why? We're attracted to whoever we're attracted to, that's it!... What's that got to do with race? I'm also not attracted to certain body types or trans people, presumably that makes me a bigot to? Honestly, it's pethetic on here at times when the toxic brigade are branding their cards around, I'm starting to call it these days. Mr F. Fair enough I'll call it too. You state that you are not attracted to black women, but subsequently state who you are attracted to has nothing to do with race. Does this not seem like something of a contradictory position to you? If you are making an appeal to nature, which it appears you are - I don't see how that makes it any less dependent on race. Given that you can exclude an entire group of people on the basis of their race. Implicit bias is an established scientific fact, supported by substantial empirical data. It's a widespread a common social issue, which has an adverse effect on many groups of people. If every time someone raises the topic people are going to become angry and accuse people of using the race card or become so defensive that they compare it to an accusation of bigotry then it will degrade into polarised nonsense. A productive action if your motivation is to maintain the status quo. It turns nasty, moderators step in. And the thread is deleted from history as if it never happened. I wonder how those whom are adversely affected feel about that. Perhaps that will teach them for waving their race cards around? I'd prefer an explorative discourse on identifying where that line is between preference and implicit bias, personally. But he’s not saying they hate them. He’s not saying they want them all “sent back from whence they came”. He’s not saying “they are stealing our jobs and shaggin our women”. He’s not saying they should be shot. The list of things they are not saying is endless. He’s just saying they don’t want to have sex with them. That’s the difference between a sexual preference and racism. And I said if you compare the topic of implicit bias to bigotry then that's not going anywhere positive, in terms of productive discourse. It's a polarising act that shuts down the conversation. Implicit bias isn't hatred and bigotry, it's bias we are not aware of consciously, as a product of our cultural conditioning. So you’re saying he is saying those things?" He doesn't actually know what he's saying! If you break down his theory of what he is saying by his profile, he states no women over the age of 54 which would make him ageist to anyone over that age 🤦♂️ That's how ridiculous all of this is from the race/bigot card waving mob! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"All these people saying it's racist make me chuckle. The Mrs is attracted to black guys, but I don't find black women attractive in the slightest and never have, does that make me racist? We both don't find the oriental or Asian look attractive, does that make both of us racist? Or is it a preference of who and what we find attractive to have sex with? We've absolutely no issues with any race in every day life, and who you find attractive to sleep with is nothing to do with it and it's not racist, and in my opinion it's pathetic to wave your race cards about. Some of you need to jump off your soap boxes. Mr F. I agree. And sometimes it seems the racist game is rigged so it’s impossible to win…. Someone says “my Mrs would love to try a BBC” and the response is “you’re fetishising black men, that’s racist” Someone says “no offence but no black men, just our preference”. They are being racist. So if you wanna have sex with black men you’re racist and if you don’t you’re racist. Sure an ideal world we wouldn’t notice skin colour, and yes I’m sure for some people there is a racist reason behind it, but for most it’s gonna be just a case of who they find attractive or not. This is the Mr and I’ve had sex with Asians, Blacks and white. Men and woman. I was born and raised in Birmingham. My Mrs has only even been with white men. But she has lived all her life in a rural area which is 99.99% white. Would she have dated men of a different race if she had been raised in London or Birmingham? Who knows. I’ve spoken to black men who have a BBC but don't like the term and I’ve spoken to black men who have one who love the term. I know this post won’t change the opinion of those that see racism everywhere, ironically nearly always white people, but surely knowing you’ll be wasting your time messaging someone, regardless of the reason, is good information to have. Of course who you are attracted to is personal and a preference and always will be. Personally I just struggle with the concept of putting literally billions of people into the 'not attracted to' box purely based on skin colour/ethnicity. 🤷♂️ Why? We're attracted to whoever we're attracted to, that's it!... What's that got to do with race? I'm also not attracted to certain body types or trans people, presumably that makes me a bigot to? Honestly, it's pethetic on here at times when the toxic brigade are branding their cards around, I'm starting to call it these days. Mr F. Fair enough I'll call it too. You state that you are not attracted to black women, but subsequently state who you are attracted to has nothing to do with race. Does this not seem like something of a contradictory position to you? If you are making an appeal to nature, which it appears you are - I don't see how that makes it any less dependent on race. Given that you can exclude an entire group of people on the basis of their race. Implicit bias is an established scientific fact, supported by substantial empirical data. It's a widespread a common social issue, which has an adverse effect on many groups of people. If every time someone raises the topic people are going to become angry and accuse people of using the race card or become so defensive that they compare it to an accusation of bigotry then it will degrade into polarised nonsense. A productive action if your motivation is to maintain the status quo. It turns nasty, moderators step in. And the thread is deleted from history as if it never happened. I wonder how those whom are adversely affected feel about that. Perhaps that will teach them for waving their race cards around? I'd prefer an explorative discourse on identifying where that line is between preference and implicit bias, personally. But he’s not saying they hate them. He’s not saying they want them all “sent back from whence they came”. He’s not saying “they are stealing our jobs and shaggin our women”. He’s not saying they should be shot. The list of things they are not saying is endless. He’s just saying they don’t want to have sex with them. That’s the difference between a sexual preference and racism. And I said if you compare the topic of implicit bias to bigotry then that's not going anywhere positive, in terms of productive discourse. It's a polarising act that shuts down the conversation. Implicit bias isn't hatred and bigotry, it's bias we are not aware of consciously, as a product of our cultural conditioning. So you’re saying he is saying those things? He doesn't actually know what he's saying! If you break down his theory of what he is saying by his profile, he states no women over the age of 54 which would make him ageist to anyone over that age 🤦♂️ That's how ridiculous all of this is from the race/bigot card waving mob! " So ad hominem now, with a sprinkling of composition fallacy. And a straw man. Actually that age isn't my preference, it was an little joke I had with someone and forgot about. Not that it's relevant as I am not claiming that I don't have preferences or implicit biases. And I do around age, when it comes to sexual attraction. I'm just not going to say it's nothing to do with age, when it is. But that's more on the lower end than upper. And perhaps that is my hangup to a certain degree, I am quite sure that it is. I'm claiming we all do and that we respond defensively when a situation points out our incongruence to us. You know projecting onto others, our emotive reactions causing us to commit logical fallacies in our reasoning that kind of thing. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I always get a bit upset when I found someone very attractive (bbw or curvy) and at the bottom of their profile they don’t want people like me messaging them
I’ve noticed ALOT of profiles saying “no black guys” or “white guys only”. I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences. I just wondered if any men are specific on their profiles in terms of race? "Sending you a hug! I don't understand why people even bother putting anything like that. Just to say, I have never seen that on a man's profile. I have seen, size and hair preferences but never skin colour on theirs. Just to say; 1. There isn't a person alive who could be possibly attracted to every person that could be described. 2. People hardly read profiles on here so you'll get people who aren't your cup of tea message you. 3. Having a preference is absolutely fine. Stating something based on skin colour is questionable and it shows a lack of awareness towards others. If someone you're not attracted to messages you. Ignore. It's actually really easy. Those are my additional pennies! Xx | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I always get a bit upset when I found someone very attractive (bbw or curvy) and at the bottom of their profile they don’t want people like me messaging them
I’ve noticed ALOT of profiles saying “no black guys” or “white guys only”. I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences. I just wondered if any men are specific on their profiles in terms of race?
Sending you a hug!
I don't understand why people even bother putting anything like that. Just to say, I have never seen that on a man's profile. I have seen, size and hair preferences but never skin colour on theirs.
Just to say;
1. There isn't a person alive who could be possibly attracted to every person that could be described.
2. People hardly read profiles on here so you'll get people who aren't your cup of tea message you.
3. Having a preference is absolutely fine. Stating something based on skin colour is questionable and it shows a lack of awareness towards others. If someone you're not attracted to messages you. Ignore. It's actually really easy.
Those are my additional pennies! Xx"You actually get it (I wonder why that is?), especially point 3. Thank you | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
" Why would you discount an entire group of people (which are by the way, a greater population globally) based upon what you consider shared physical characteristics? Equally why would you actively seek out someone from a different ethnic group to you like you’re ticking something off a grocery list? Because I don't generally find Asain people attractive. Next question? Mr F. Because every single Asian person looks the same? Yeah. They're too petite for us both and we don't find Asain people attractive, so what next? Mr F. You know there are tall and fat Asian people too, right? Nobody is telling you who you should be attracted to and who not. Much like Caucasians, people of other ethnicities come in all shapes and sizes. Stereotypes help no-one. There we go that's what I was waiting for, we're stereotyping people, and that's correct we are as that's our general view, and it's a generalisation of Asain people for us... So is stereotyping people now racist too?.... Man, I give in!!! Mr F. " Is stereotyping people racist now?
This site is not made up of serious people Istg | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Genuinely painful reading people pretend to be an expert in race, racism and what is and is not rooted in racism because google (I’m not an expert or claiming to be one btw - I just tend to prefer to read or listen to the ones that have studied and researched this stuff for their careers over randoms on the internet and if that makes me a bad person then I’m gonna live forever). " The racism expressed on this site is quite shocking! There are those who will understand what I mean and those who only understand racism in it's basic form, will not. Considering most have a smart phone which should mean access to the internet...and yet they choose not to educate themselves and understand others is amazing to me! Imagine this place is supposed to be about pleasure but it can be ridiculous and stressful! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Tbf, I take that as a welcome warning. I don’t want to sleep with racists lol. “Racial preferences” no matter the way those go, are always rooted in bias and stereotyping. Just because people try to play it off in the same way as other preferences, doesn’t make it any less gross. Anyone with a modicum of race consciousness can recognise that. " Facts! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Tbf, I take that as a welcome warning. I don’t want to sleep with racists lol. “Racial preferences” no matter the way those go, are always rooted in bias and stereotyping. Just because people try to play it off in the same way as other preferences, doesn’t make it any less gross. Anyone with a modicum of race consciousness can recognise that. I hear it. I’ve had some awful responses when I’ve messaged people that haven’t stated in their profiles they don’t like black people….I mean black men
People then get mad when I lead with, Are you into black men? Can’t win. "I hate this for you! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Well I have to ask this, mostly I've seen it from couples and a few single profiles that look for BBC. But I want to know if any of those same people would choose to be in a relationship with someone who is the opposite skin colour to them? Or is it more based on sexual fantasy? I'd assume it is mostly just a fetish, yes So basically,those who look for BBC on here for a sexual encounter, would not even think about pursing a relationship with someone who is of more darker skin tone, but would happily jump in bed with them because it feels good? ------------------------------------------------- I saw a post many moons ago from a black guy, he recounted a conversation he had with the male of a couple who he had met with extensively and regarded as friends, he was shocked and disappointed when the guy revealed their preference for black men was partly influenced by the fact his wife would never run off with one believing culturally & socially they were miles apart. " WOW!!!!!!!! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Genuinely painful reading people pretend to be an expert in race, racism and what is and is not rooted in racism because google (I’m not an expert or claiming to be one btw - I just tend to prefer to read or listen to the ones that have studied and researched this stuff for their careers over randoms on the internet and if that makes me a bad person then I’m gonna live forever). The racism expressed on this site is quite shocking! There are those who will understand what I mean and those who only understand racism in it's basic form, will not. Considering most have a smart phone which should mean access to the internet...and yet they choose not to educate themselves and understand others is amazing to me! Imagine this place is supposed to be about pleasure but it can be ridiculous and stressful! " Oh sis, they aren’t racist, they have a Black partner/ niece/ god son/ friend/ neighbour/ cat/ car and they listen to Bob Marley whilst enjoying a plate of jerk rice 😉 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I had a black guy in work call me a white honkey ,is that classed as racist " · I think you should be contacting your HR Department as opposed to raising your grievance here. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I had a black guy in work call me a white honkey ,is that classed as racist · I think you should be contacting your HR Department as opposed to raising your grievance here." Cheap reply ,im not raising a grievance, im not offended at all , | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Genuinely painful reading people pretend to be an expert in race, racism and what is and is not rooted in racism because google (I’m not an expert or claiming to be one btw - I just tend to prefer to read or listen to the ones that have studied and researched this stuff for their careers over randoms on the internet and if that makes me a bad person then I’m gonna live forever). The racism expressed on this site is quite shocking! There are those who will understand what I mean and those who only understand racism in it's basic form, will not. Considering most have a smart phone which should mean access to the internet...and yet they choose not to educate themselves and understand others is amazing to me! Imagine this place is supposed to be about pleasure but it can be ridiculous and stressful! Oh sis, they aren’t racist, they have a Black partner/ niece/ god son/ friend/ neighbour/ cat/ car and they listen to Bob Marley whilst enjoying a plate of jerk rice 😉" You know I'm cracking up over here!!! It's so exhausting and if we didn't laugh, I actually don't know what we would do! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I had a black guy in work call me a white honkey ,is that classed as racist · I think you should be contacting your HR Department as opposed to raising your grievance here. Cheap reply ,im not raising a grievance, im not offended at all ," · I'm a puritanical soul; cheap replies are reserved for the equerries. The Knights and the Ladies receive the more expensive ones. † | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I had a black guy in work call me a white honkey ,is that classed as racist " You get in there and make it about you. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I had a black guy in work call me a white honkey ,is that classed as racist · I think you should be contacting your HR Department as opposed to raising your grievance here. Cheap reply ,im not raising a grievance, im not offended at all ," The response above isn't cheap. It's a legit answer to your question. Your HR department is paid to deal with these types of things including understanding the definition of racism. So it's a great idea to report it to them and not to raise it here. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I had a black guy in work call me a white honkey ,is that classed as racist You get in there and make it about you. " And here we have it folks , I asked a question but this guy felt I was taking away from the op , im out toodle pip | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I had a black guy in work call me a white honkey ,is that classed as racist You get in there and make it about you. " | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Genuinely painful reading people pretend to be an expert in race, racism and what is and is not rooted in racism because google (I’m not an expert or claiming to be one btw - I just tend to prefer to read or listen to the ones that have studied and researched this stuff for their careers over randoms on the internet and if that makes me a bad person then I’m gonna live forever). The racism expressed on this site is quite shocking! There are those who will understand what I mean and those who only understand racism in it's basic form, will not. Considering most have a smart phone which should mean access to the internet...and yet they choose not to educate themselves and understand others is amazing to me! Imagine this place is supposed to be about pleasure but it can be ridiculous and stressful! Oh sis, they aren’t racist, they have a Black partner/ niece/ god son/ friend/ neighbour/ cat/ car and they listen to Bob Marley whilst enjoying a plate of jerk rice 😉 You know I'm cracking up over here!!! It's so exhausting and if we didn't laugh, I actually don't know what we would do! " Oh I know. It’s why we’re so unserious most of the time 😂 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Genuinely painful reading people pretend to be an expert in race, racism and what is and is not rooted in racism because google (I’m not an expert or claiming to be one btw - I just tend to prefer to read or listen to the ones that have studied and researched this stuff for their careers over randoms on the internet and if that makes me a bad person then I’m gonna live forever). The racism expressed on this site is quite shocking! There are those who will understand what I mean and those who only understand racism in it's basic form, will not. Considering most have a smart phone which should mean access to the internet...and yet they choose not to educate themselves and understand others is amazing to me! Imagine this place is supposed to be about pleasure but it can be ridiculous and stressful! Oh sis, they aren’t racist, they have a Black partner/ niece/ god son/ friend/ neighbour/ cat/ car and they listen to Bob Marley whilst enjoying a plate of jerk rice 😉 You know I'm cracking up over here!!! It's so exhausting and if we didn't laugh, I actually don't know what we would do! Oh I know. It’s why we’re so unserious most of the time 😂" Hahahaha - it really is!!!!! Hopefully the OP feels a bit better knowing that there are plenty of us here who understand! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I had a black guy in work call me a white honkey ,is that classed as racist · I think you should be contacting your HR Department as opposed to raising your grievance here. Cheap reply ,im not raising a grievance, im not offended at all ," Good for you. Some other people would be - that's the point. It's the person on the receiving end who determines what's offensive *to them*. Call me the p-word and I'm offended - you don't get to decide if I should be or not. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I had a black guy in work call me a white honkey ,is that classed as racist · I think you should be contacting your HR Department as opposed to raising your grievance here." Why can’t he mention it here and contact his HR dept? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I had a black guy in work call me a white honkey ,is that classed as racist · I think you should be contacting your HR Department as opposed to raising your grievance here. · Why can’t he mention it here and contact his HR dept? " • Okay, he can "mention it here and contact his HR dept". 😘 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I’ve noticed a lot of profiles say “no to Asian men, it’s just not our thing” yet these same people are interested in Asian women such as myself it’s bonkers. " I'd enjoy the female privilege if I were you. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I’ve noticed a lot of profiles say “no to Asian men, it’s just not our thing” yet these same people are interested in Asian women such as myself it’s bonkers. " It's because you're a woman. It's different. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Genuinely painful reading people pretend to be an expert in race, racism and what is and is not rooted in racism because google (I’m not an expert or claiming to be one btw - I just tend to prefer to read or listen to the ones that have studied and researched this stuff for their careers over randoms on the internet and if that makes me a bad person then I’m gonna live forever). The racism expressed on this site is quite shocking! There are those who will understand what I mean and those who only understand racism in it's basic form, will not. Considering most have a smart phone which should mean access to the internet...and yet they choose not to educate themselves and understand others is amazing to me! Imagine this place is supposed to be about pleasure but it can be ridiculous and stressful! " Go on then, if this site is sooooo racist as you put it, name me one racist comment on this thread? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now." ---------------- I agree expressing a preference in itself isn't racist, but I don't agree with your reason why since one is treating people differently because of their race, which would make it racist given your reasoning..hence why it's a complex issue Frankly your last sentence was unnecessar. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now. ---------------- I agree expressing a preference in itself isn't racist, but I don't agree with your reason why since one is treating people differently because of their race, which would make it racist given your reasoning..hence why it's a complex issue Frankly your last sentence was unnecessar." Absolutely ridiculous comment. So by your reading your profile and by your own comments above that would make you ageist! Your profile clearly states people not to message you unless theyre within your age range of 21-45, that's then ageist to everyone else according to your own theory! Do you see how bonkers this all is? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now. ---------------- I agree expressing a preference in itself isn't racist, but I don't agree with your reason why since one is treating people differently because of their race, which would make it racist given your reasoning..hence why it's a complex issue Frankly your last sentence was unnecessar." Not aiming this comment just at you. But it’s interesting that the thread was about someone being offended by a statement made concerning skin colour and/or race. And we’ve debated if they should take it as an offence or not etc. as well as the wider context of comments on some profiles about “no blacks, no Asians, blacks only” etc. There seems to be a section of the site which state such comments are offensive and shouldn’t be used. They are entitled to their opinion of course. Those same people, like you did here, then go on to tell people their words are “unnecessary”. Oh the irony and hypocrisy. How offensive. Are they not entitled to an opinion? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now. ---------------- I agree expressing a preference in itself isn't racist, but I don't agree with your reason why since one is treating people differently because of their race, which would make it racist given your reasoning..hence why it's a complex issue Frankly your last sentence was unnecessar. Absolutely ridiculous comment. So by your reading your profile and by your own comments above that would make you ageist! Your profile clearly states people not to message you unless theyre within your age range of 21-45, that's then ageist to everyone else according to your own theory! Do you see how bonkers this all is? " ------------------ *sigh** did you actually read what I said? I was pointing out that perverse logic in the post I was responding to. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now." I don’t think the OP feels that it’s racist. I think others on the thread may do. But I do think that an exclusion of an entire racial group is something that if you unpacked has to be based on prejudice, racial stereotyping etc. But I’m being pedantic here  | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now. ---------------- I agree expressing a preference in itself isn't racist, but I don't agree with your reason why since one is treating people differently because of their race, which would make it racist given your reasoning..hence why it's a complex issue Frankly your last sentence was unnecessar. Not aiming this comment just at you. But it’s interesting that the thread was about someone being offended by a statement made concerning skin colour and/or race. And we’ve debated if they should take it as an offence or not etc. as well as the wider context of comments on some profiles about “no blacks, no Asians, blacks only” etc. There seems to be a section of the site which state such comments are offensive and shouldn’t be used. They are entitled to their opinion of course. Those same people, like you did here, then go on to tell people their words are “unnecessary”. Oh the irony and hypocrisy. How offensive. Are they not entitled to an opinion? " Freeze peach is at risk. We must take our website back. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Should move to London, I feel 90 percent of accounts are black guys only!" Harsh Brcey, you can't say that just cos the lovely Mr Pickles potss so much (or is it that he has knocked you off your throne for most threads? Pure naked jealousy ) | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Should move to London, I feel 90 percent of accounts are black guys only! Harsh Brcey, you can't say that just cos the lovely Mr Pickles potss so much (or is it that he has knocked you off your throne for most threads? Pure naked jealousy )"*posts not potss! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Genuinely painful reading people pretend to be an expert in race, racism and what is and is not rooted in racism because google (I’m not an expert or claiming to be one btw - I just tend to prefer to read or listen to the ones that have studied and researched this stuff for their careers over randoms on the internet and if that makes me a bad person then I’m gonna live forever). The racism expressed on this site is quite shocking! There are those who will understand what I mean and those who only understand racism in it's basic form, will not. Considering most have a smart phone which should mean access to the internet...and yet they choose not to educate themselves and understand others is amazing to me! Imagine this place is supposed to be about pleasure but it can be ridiculous and stressful! Go on then, if this site is sooooo racist as you put it, name me one racist comment on this thread? " Much of our experiences on here do not take place in the forums or on this thread. A place can be filled with or can just have some racism and none of that may be in this one single thread. I would expect this was obvious?? People’s experiences in their DMs or in person with people from this site will contribute to forming an opinion like this. Again, this feels like a really obvious thing to explain. We don’t need to cite racism on this thread to prove there’s racism on this site. Also, pedantic maybe, but nobody said the sure is soooooooo racist as you say it was put. It was pointed out that there’s racism on this site. There is. I just want to finish by saying, I am not going to go through this thread to find any comment that is or could be racist. But a comment that did make me laugh was the questioning of whether stereotyping is NOW racist. I don’t know when people started engaging with work on race and racism and I don’t know where people get their understanding of it from but genuinely I would LOVE to know. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Should move to London, I feel 90 percent of accounts are black guys only!" Funny we can live in the same city, be the same sexuality, use the same website and have completely different experiences. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Should move to London, I feel 90 percent of accounts are black guys only! Harsh Brcey, you can't say that just cos the lovely Mr Pickles potss so much (or is it that he has knocked you off your throne for most threads? Pure naked jealousy )
*posts not potss!"I was posting too much on here before Bruce joined fab. But I enjoy his threads. Very much. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Genuinely painful reading people pretend to be an expert in race, racism and what is and is not rooted in racism because google (I’m not an expert or claiming to be one btw - I just tend to prefer to read or listen to the ones that have studied and researched this stuff for their careers over randoms on the internet and if that makes me a bad person then I’m gonna live forever). The racism expressed on this site is quite shocking! There are those who will understand what I mean and those who only understand racism in it's basic form, will not. Considering most have a smart phone which should mean access to the internet...and yet they choose not to educate themselves and understand others is amazing to me! Imagine this place is supposed to be about pleasure but it can be ridiculous and stressful! Go on then, if this site is sooooo racist as you put it, name me one racist comment on this thread? Much of our experiences on here do not take place in the forums or on this thread. A place can be filled with or can just have some racism and none of that may be in this one single thread. I would expect this was obvious?? People’s experiences in their DMs or in person with people from this site will contribute to forming an opinion like this. Again, this feels like a really obvious thing to explain. We don’t need to cite racism on this thread to prove there’s racism on this site. Also, pedantic maybe, but nobody said the sure is soooooooo racist as you say it was put. It was pointed out that there’s racism on this site. There is. I just want to finish by saying, I am not going to go through this thread to find any comment that is or could be racist. But a comment that did make me laugh was the questioning of whether stereotyping is NOW racist. I don’t know when people started engaging with work on race and racism and I don’t know where people get their understanding of it from but genuinely I would LOVE to know. "You're not going through the thread because there isn't any racist comments, that's why
Mr F. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now. ---------------- I agree expressing a preference in itself isn't racist, but I don't agree with your reason why since one is treating people differently because of their race, which would make it racist given your reasoning..hence why it's a complex issue Frankly your last sentence was unnecessar. Not aiming this comment just at you. But it’s interesting that the thread was about someone being offended by a statement made concerning skin colour and/or race. And we’ve debated if they should take it as an offence or not etc. as well as the wider context of comments on some profiles about “no blacks, no Asians, blacks only” etc. There seems to be a section of the site which state such comments are offensive and shouldn’t be used. They are entitled to their opinion of course. Those same people, like you did here, then go on to tell people their words are “unnecessary”. Oh the irony and hypocrisy. How offensive. Are they not entitled to an opinion? Freeze peach is at risk. We must take our website back. " We don’t have free speech in this country and we certainly don’t have it on a privately owned web platform. But that has nothing to do with what I was commenting on. My comment was about how hypocritical a certain “group” can be and how they are quite open about that. If person A is offended by what person B says but the words are not criminal, what should happen next?…. 1. Person A stays away from person B? 2. Person B is forced to change their opinion so as not to cause offence? 3. The police are called and a NCHI is recorded? Pre woke it would always have been number 1 and everyone would have continued to live a happy life. Now we have woke attitudes towards words and it will be number 2 or 3 and hurt lives on for months or even years. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now. ---------------- I agree expressing a preference in itself isn't racist, but I don't agree with your reason why since one is treating people differently because of their race, which would make it racist given your reasoning..hence why it's a complex issue Frankly your last sentence was unnecessar. Not aiming this comment just at you. But it’s interesting that the thread was about someone being offended by a statement made concerning skin colour and/or race. And we’ve debated if they should take it as an offence or not etc. as well as the wider context of comments on some profiles about “no blacks, no Asians, blacks only” etc. There seems to be a section of the site which state such comments are offensive and shouldn’t be used. They are entitled to their opinion of course. Those same people, like you did here, then go on to tell people their words are “unnecessary”. Oh the irony and hypocrisy. How offensive. Are they not entitled to an opinion? " ---------------- Indeed, I turned the poster's comment back on themselves. They stated it was 'time to exit the woke bandwagon' thereby seeking to deny people expressing their opinion. Why did you single out my post, yet not theirs? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
" I was posting too much on here before Bruce joined fab. But I enjoy his threads. Very much. " I know, just playing with you both (figuratively that is)  | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I'm not really sure why this is even going on still. The reason "why" some people say no black guys? Well it's the same reason why people say "no men" or "no smokers" or no "BBW". No men because I'm not gay, I'm not into gays. I'm not homophobic, I'm just not attracted to them for biological reasons. No black women, I'm just not into them. I'm not racist at all, I'm just not attracted to them. Probably for biological reasons. No smokers, I don't like smoking, I don't like the smell. I don't like what it does to women's voices. I like the woman to be healthy and feminine. Long term, it wrecks you. Short term, irregular maybe ok. No BBW, I don't like it. I want the woman to be healthy. It's nothing against those women, it's not a hatred and I wish them the very best. I'm sure they're nice people, but I'm just not attracted. There's nothing at all racist, weighist, or whatever else. For those people who think I'm being racist or whatever, then why don't you put your prejudice aside and sleep with them for me? That would be fine wouldn't it? Don't worry about being straight or anything - put your prejudice aside for a bit. Or wouldn't you do that?" Couldn't have put it better myself. So many people like to use some sort of "ism" these days. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now. ---------------- I agree expressing a preference in itself isn't racist, but I don't agree with your reason why since one is treating people differently because of their race, which would make it racist given your reasoning..hence why it's a complex issue Frankly your last sentence was unnecessar. Not aiming this comment just at you. But it’s interesting that the thread was about someone being offended by a statement made concerning skin colour and/or race. And we’ve debated if they should take it as an offence or not etc. as well as the wider context of comments on some profiles about “no blacks, no Asians, blacks only” etc. There seems to be a section of the site which state such comments are offensive and shouldn’t be used. They are entitled to their opinion of course. Those same people, like you did here, then go on to tell people their words are “unnecessary”. Oh the irony and hypocrisy. How offensive. Are they not entitled to an opinion? ---------------- Indeed, I turned the poster's comment back on themselves. They stated it was 'time to exit the woke bandwagon' thereby seeking to deny people expressing their opinion. Why did you single out my post, yet not theirs?" Did you not even bother to read my comment before responding? I clearly stated that it wasn’t just aimed solely at your comment. But I read yours and I will respond to it…. I know woke people may not like the term woke. They feel they are right in their ultra PC views and so therefore it doesn’t need a term. It’s just the natural order of things to them. They maybe feel it’s used as an insult? I can only speak for myself on that matter and assure you I don’t use it as an insult. Same for the words “leftie liberal”. It’s just a term to describe someone with strong socialist views. Or “lager lout”. I bet they don’t all drink lager. I know a lager lout who drinks cider, he’s still a lager lout. It’s a superlative. Political correctness is a movement. “Woke” is the most recent phase of that movement in my opinion. Some people think the whole PC movement has gone too far. They are trying to control other people. For example, the pronouns. Some individuals want to control the words others use. I want to decide for myself what words I use. I identify as a person who chooses my own words, so by insisting I use a different pronoun a person would be denying my gender identity. But back on topic. The guy said(note my pronoun use) “Time to exit the woke bandwagon now.” To put that in other words, he said “stop trying to control how everyone else speaks and thinks” Now you’ll no doubt say “I wasn’t doing that in the message he was responding to”, but you certainly were when you said his (loving them pronouns) words weren’t necessary. Who gets to decide whose words are necessary? What higher power gave you that power? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Should move to London, I feel 90 percent of accountants are black guys only!" • Black guys make the best accountants. 🩶 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. " I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I'm not really sure why this is even going on still. The reason "why" some people say no black guys? Well it's the same reason why people say "no men" or "no smokers" or no "BBW". No men because I'm not gay, I'm not into gays. I'm not homophobic, I'm just not attracted to them for biological reasons. No black women, I'm just not into them. I'm not racist at all, I'm just not attracted to them. Probably for biological reasons. No smokers, I don't like smoking, I don't like the smell. I don't like what it does to women's voices. I like the woman to be healthy and feminine. Long term, it wrecks you. Short term, irregular maybe ok. No BBW, I don't like it. I want the woman to be healthy. It's nothing against those women, it's not a hatred and I wish them the very best. I'm sure they're nice people, but I'm just not attracted. There's nothing at all racist, weighist, or whatever else. For those people who think I'm being racist or whatever, then why don't you put your prejudice aside and sleep with them for me? That would be fine wouldn't it? Don't worry about being straight or anything - put your prejudice aside for a bit. Or wouldn't you do that? Couldn't have put it better myself. So many people like to use some sort of "ism" these days." People are just daft aren't they Mrs Marks & Sparkles... | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Should move to London, I feel 90 percent of accountants are black guys only! • Black guys make the best accountants. 🩶" Were they saying the accountants were black or that 90% of accountants only fuck black guys?
Lawyers by comparison will screw anyone! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now. ---------------- I agree expressing a preference in itself isn't racist, but I don't agree with your reason why since one is treating people differently because of their race, which would make it racist given your reasoning..hence why it's a complex issue Frankly your last sentence was unnecessar. Not aiming this comment just at you. But it’s interesting that the thread was about someone being offended by a statement made concerning skin colour and/or race. And we’ve debated if they should take it as an offence or not etc. as well as the wider context of comments on some profiles about “no blacks, no Asians, blacks only” etc. There seems to be a section of the site which state such comments are offensive and shouldn’t be used. They are entitled to their opinion of course. Those same people, like you did here, then go on to tell people their words are “unnecessary”. Oh the irony and hypocrisy. How offensive. Are they not entitled to an opinion? ---------------- Indeed, I turned the poster's comment back on themselves. They stated it was 'time to exit the woke bandwagon' thereby seeking to deny people expressing their opinion. Why did you single out my post, yet not theirs? Did you not even bother to read my comment before responding? I clearly stated that it wasn’t just aimed solely at your comment. But I read yours and I will respond to it…. I know woke people may not like the term woke. They feel they are right in their ultra PC views and so therefore it doesn’t need a term. It’s just the natural order of things to them. They maybe feel it’s used as an insult? I can only speak for myself on that matter and assure you I don’t use it as an insult. Same for the words “leftie liberal”. It’s just a term to describe someone with strong socialist views. Or “lager lout”. I bet they don’t all drink lager. I know a lager lout who drinks cider, he’s still a lager lout. It’s a superlative. Political correctness is a movement. “Woke” is the most recent phase of that movement in my opinion. Some people think the whole PC movement has gone too far. They are trying to control other people. For example, the pronouns. Some individuals want to control the words others use. I want to decide for myself what words I use. I identify as a person who chooses my own words, so by insisting I use a different pronoun a person would be denying my gender identity. But back on topic. The guy said(note my pronoun use) “Time to exit the woke bandwagon now.” To put that in other words, he said “stop trying to control how everyone else speaks and thinks” Now you’ll no doubt say “I wasn’t doing that in the message he was responding to”, but you certainly were when you said his (loving them pronouns) words weren’t necessary. Who gets to decide whose words are necessary? What higher power gave you that power? " 'I identify as a person who uses words' is the wokest thing I've read all day. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now. I don’t think the OP feels that it’s racist. I think others on the thread may do. But I do think that an exclusion of an entire racial group is something that if you unpacked has to be based on prejudice, racial stereotyping etc. But I’m being pedantic here "I agree with you, however the onus to unpack is on the individual. Is it a 'natural' preference or an implicit bias? When someone gets defensive at the prospect of considering that it doesn't lead me to believe that person is someone open to that introspective work. I think skepticism is healthy at that point. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I always get a bit upset when I found someone very attractive (bbw or curvy) and at the bottom of their profile they don’t want people like me messaging them
I’ve noticed ALOT of profiles saying “no black guys” or “white guys only”. I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences. I just wondered if any men are specific on their profiles in terms of race? "I would say, in those cases, you've dodged a bullet... who wants to have sex with racists? I doubt you're missing out on much, tbh... | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. " A quick lesson from the English Oxford Dictionary: Sexual Preference A person's identity in relation to the gender or genders to which they are sexually attracted; the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, etc. Racist A person who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. "he has been targeted by vicious racists online" So explain where the prejudice against a race or where the antagonistic behaviour is by not wanting to have sex with black/white men? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. " My thoughts exactly | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I always get a bit upset when I found someone very attractive (bbw or curvy) and at the bottom of their profile they don’t want people like me messaging them
I’ve noticed ALOT of profiles saying “no black guys” or “white guys only”. I know there are a few accounts that say “black guys only” and everyone has preferences. I just wondered if any men are specific on their profiles in terms of race? "To be fair most of the profiles I've seen this preference on have been in favour of your colouring, so not sure where you are looking ,anyways don't concentrate on the negatives look to those that do want you ,good luck in your search . | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I reject all men equally. " I know. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I reject all men equally. Yeah. Don't meet forum people either. Who would? " I'm taking back my gingerbread latte and my pumpkin spice latte. You two are both off my Christmas list now | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"J, Mate, can't you be a big teddy bear instead of a black teddy bear? You ask the question but have you tried to just have a conversation without bringing your colour into it? Sorry if I haven't worded right and offended. That'll put marzipan in your pie plate bingo 100% can be a big teddy bear. My approach depends on the profile. If there’s more to go on I lead with something on there most of the time. Worded perfectly, it’s all good "Not that I expect the OP to return to...this 
But it's nice to see a person take a bit of advice and change their profile
Hope the OPs OK | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. A quick lesson from the English Oxford Dictionary: Sexual Preference A person's identity in relation to the gender or genders to which they are sexually attracted; the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, etc. Racist A person who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. "he has been targeted by vicious racists online" So explain where the prejudice against a race or where the antagonistic behaviour is by not wanting to have sex with black/white men? " Sexual preference - your definition states gender and sexual orientation, not colour, so you choosing your sexual partners based on race isn't a preference as defined by your own chosen 'lesson'. The prejudice comes from your rejection of the whole female black race and the whole of the Asian race! I think you used the excuse that Asian women are too petite - which is ridiculous - do you really think that every Asian woman in the world is petite! | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. A quick lesson from the English Oxford Dictionary: Sexual Preference A person's identity in relation to the gender or genders to which they are sexually attracted; the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, etc. Racist A person who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. "he has been targeted by vicious racists online" So explain where the prejudice against a race or where the antagonistic behaviour is by not wanting to have sex with black/white men? Sexual preference - your definition states gender and sexual orientation, not colour, so you choosing your sexual partners based on race isn't a preference as defined by your own chosen 'lesson'. The prejudice comes from your rejection of the whole female black race and the whole of the Asian race! I think you used the excuse that Asian women are too petite - which is ridiculous - do you really think that every Asian woman in the world is petite! " Can you actually listen to yourself and what you're writing? 😂 So on your theory and reading your profile, you're both 'ageist' as you don't want anyone under 30 or over the age of 60, you're also 'heightist' as it's no one over 6 feet tall, why group all heights with the same theory? They can't all be not for you?... you're also not looking for random guys? Why? Why are you grouping all guys in the same box? Can you see how ridiculous your theory is when I just break it down to your own profile? Or are you still saying I'm racist because of my sexual preferences? Also, what gives you the right to say who I sleep with? If you're going to be ridiculous, so can I. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. A quick lesson from the English Oxford Dictionary: Sexual Preference A person's identity in relation to the gender or genders to which they are sexually attracted; the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, etc. Racist A person who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. "he has been targeted by vicious racists online" So explain where the prejudice against a race or where the antagonistic behaviour is by not wanting to have sex with black/white men? Sexual preference - your definition states gender and sexual orientation, not colour, so you choosing your sexual partners based on race isn't a preference as defined by your own chosen 'lesson'. The prejudice comes from your rejection of the whole female black race and the whole of the Asian race! I think you used the excuse that Asian women are too petite - which is ridiculous - do you really think that every Asian woman in the world is petite! Can you actually listen to yourself and what you're writing? 😂 So on your theory and reading your profile, you're both 'ageist' as you don't want anyone under 30 or over the age of 60, you're also 'heightist' as it's no one over 6 feet tall, why group all heights with the same theory? They can't all be not for you?... you're also not looking for random guys? Why? Why are you grouping all guys in the same box? Can you see how ridiculous your theory is when I just break it down to your own profile? Or are you still saying I'm racist because of my sexual preferences? Also, what gives you the right to say who I sleep with? If you're going to be ridiculous, so can I. " Noooo you can't talk common sense in here god forbid 😳😂 You must have sex with folk you don't want to remember 🤷♂️😆 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Advising you have a preference for a particular race is NOT racist. Treating someone differently because of their race etc IS. Time to exit the woke bandwagon now. ---------------- I agree expressing a preference in itself isn't racist, but I don't agree with your reason why since one is treating people differently because of their race, which would make it racist given your reasoning..hence why it's a complex issue Frankly your last sentence was unnecessar. Not aiming this comment just at you. But it’s interesting that the thread was about someone being offended by a statement made concerning skin colour and/or race. And we’ve debated if they should take it as an offence or not etc. as well as the wider context of comments on some profiles about “no blacks, no Asians, blacks only” etc. There seems to be a section of the site which state such comments are offensive and shouldn’t be used. They are entitled to their opinion of course. Those same people, like you did here, then go on to tell people their words are “unnecessary”. Oh the irony and hypocrisy. How offensive. Are they not entitled to an opinion? ---------------- Indeed, I turned the poster's comment back on themselves. They stated it was 'time to exit the woke bandwagon' thereby seeking to deny people expressing their opinion. Why did you single out my post, yet not theirs? Did you not even bother to read my comment before responding? I clearly stated that it wasn’t just aimed solely at your comment. But I read yours and I will respond to it…. I know woke people may not like the term woke. They feel they are right in their ultra PC views and so therefore it doesn’t need a term. It’s just the natural order of things to them. They maybe feel it’s used as an insult? I can only speak for myself on that matter and assure you I don’t use it as an insult. Same for the words “leftie liberal”. It’s just a term to describe someone with strong socialist views. Or “lager lout”. I bet they don’t all drink lager. I know a lager lout who drinks cider, he’s still a lager lout. It’s a superlative. Political correctness is a movement. “Woke” is the most recent phase of that movement in my opinion. Some people think the whole PC movement has gone too far. They are trying to control other people. For example, the pronouns. Some individuals want to control the words others use. I want to decide for myself what words I use. I identify as a person who chooses my own words, so by insisting I use a different pronoun a person would be denying my gender identity. But back on topic. The guy said(note my pronoun use) “Time to exit the woke bandwagon now.” To put that in other words, he said “stop trying to control how everyone else speaks and thinks” Now you’ll no doubt say “I wasn’t doing that in the message he was responding to”, but you certainly were when you said his (loving them pronouns) words weren’t necessary. Who gets to decide whose words are necessary? What higher power gave you that power? 'I identify as a person who uses words' is the wokest thing I've read all day. " Where did you read that? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. A quick lesson from the English Oxford Dictionary: Sexual Preference A person's identity in relation to the gender or genders to which they are sexually attracted; the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, etc. Racist A person who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. "he has been targeted by vicious racists online" So explain where the prejudice against a race or where the antagonistic behaviour is by not wanting to have sex with black/white men? Sexual preference - your definition states gender and sexual orientation, not colour, so you choosing your sexual partners based on race isn't a preference as defined by your own chosen 'lesson'. The prejudice comes from your rejection of the whole female black race and the whole of the Asian race! I think you used the excuse that Asian women are too petite - which is ridiculous - do you really think that every Asian woman in the world is petite! Can you actually listen to yourself and what you're writing? 😂 So on your theory and reading your profile, you're both 'ageist' as you don't want anyone under 30 or over the age of 60, you're also 'heightist' as it's no one over 6 feet tall, why group all heights with the same theory? They can't all be not for you?... you're also not looking for random guys? Why? Why are you grouping all guys in the same box? Can you see how ridiculous your theory is when I just break it down to your own profile? Or are you still saying I'm racist because of my sexual preferences? Also, what gives you the right to say who I sleep with? If you're going to be ridiculous, so can I. Noooo you can't talk common sense in here god forbid 😳😂 You must have sex with folk you don't want to remember 🤷♂️😆" I know, it's quite controlling behaviour I think there's laws against that, I'm still trying to think of the correct 'ism' or 'ist' to throw at em! 🤣 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. A quick lesson from the English Oxford Dictionary: Sexual Preference A person's identity in relation to the gender or genders to which they are sexually attracted; the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, etc. Racist A person who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. "he has been targeted by vicious racists online" So explain where the prejudice against a race or where the antagonistic behaviour is by not wanting to have sex with black/white men? Sexual preference - your definition states gender and sexual orientation, not colour, so you choosing your sexual partners based on race isn't a preference as defined by your own chosen 'lesson'. The prejudice comes from your rejection of the whole female black race and the whole of the Asian race! I think you used the excuse that Asian women are too petite - which is ridiculous - do you really think that every Asian woman in the world is petite! Can you actually listen to yourself and what you're writing? 😂 So on your theory and reading your profile, you're both 'ageist' as you don't want anyone under 30 or over the age of 60, you're also 'heightist' as it's no one over 6 feet tall, why group all heights with the same theory? They can't all be not for you?... you're also not looking for random guys? Why? Why are you grouping all guys in the same box? Can you see how ridiculous your theory is when I just break it down to your own profile? Or are you still saying I'm racist because of my sexual preferences? Also, what gives you the right to say who I sleep with? If you're going to be ridiculous, so can I. Noooo you can't talk common sense in here god forbid 😳😂 You must have sex with folk you don't want to remember 🤷♂️😆 I know, it's quite controlling behaviour I think there's laws against that, I'm still trying to think of the correct 'ism' or 'ist' to throw at em! 🤣 " 💯 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
" You must have sex with folk you don't want to remember 🤷♂️😆" Nobody wants that. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I know, it's quite controlling behaviour I think there's laws against that, I'm still trying to think of the correct 'ism' or 'ist' to throw at em! 🤣 " You’re not a snowflake are you? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. A quick lesson from the English Oxford Dictionary: Sexual Preference A person's identity in relation to the gender or genders to which they are sexually attracted; the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, etc. Racist A person who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. "he has been targeted by vicious racists online" So explain where the prejudice against a race or where the antagonistic behaviour is by not wanting to have sex with black/white men? Sexual preference - your definition states gender and sexual orientation, not colour, so you choosing your sexual partners based on race isn't a preference as defined by your own chosen 'lesson'. The prejudice comes from your rejection of the whole female black race and the whole of the Asian race! I think you used the excuse that Asian women are too petite - which is ridiculous - do you really think that every Asian woman in the world is petite! Can you actually listen to yourself and what you're writing? 😂 So on your theory and reading your profile, you're both 'ageist' as you don't want anyone under 30 or over the age of 60, you're also 'heightist' as it's no one over 6 feet tall, why group all heights with the same theory? They can't all be not for you?... you're also not looking for random guys? Why? Why are you grouping all guys in the same box? Can you see how ridiculous your theory is when I just break it down to your own profile? Or are you still saying I'm racist because of my sexual preferences? Also, what gives you the right to say who I sleep with? If you're going to be ridiculous, so can I. Noooo you can't talk common sense in here god forbid 😳😂 You must have sex with folk you don't want to remember 🤷♂️😆" But, Grumpy Do as you're told,like a good little white boy and you'll go far! 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. A quick lesson from the English Oxford Dictionary: Sexual Preference A person's identity in relation to the gender or genders to which they are sexually attracted; the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, etc. Racist A person who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. "he has been targeted by vicious racists online" So explain where the prejudice against a race or where the antagonistic behaviour is by not wanting to have sex with black/white men? Sexual preference - your definition states gender and sexual orientation, not colour, so you choosing your sexual partners based on race isn't a preference as defined by your own chosen 'lesson'. The prejudice comes from your rejection of the whole female black race and the whole of the Asian race! I think you used the excuse that Asian women are too petite - which is ridiculous - do you really think that every Asian woman in the world is petite! Can you actually listen to yourself and what you're writing? 😂 So on your theory and reading your profile, you're both 'ageist' as you don't want anyone under 30 or over the age of 60, you're also 'heightist' as it's no one over 6 feet tall, why group all heights with the same theory? They can't all be not for you?... you're also not looking for random guys? Why? Why are you grouping all guys in the same box? Can you see how ridiculous your theory is when I just break it down to your own profile? Or are you still saying I'm racist because of my sexual preferences? Also, what gives you the right to say who I sleep with? If you're going to be ridiculous, so can I. Noooo you can't talk common sense in here god forbid 😳😂 You must have sex with folk you don't want to remember 🤷♂️😆 But, Grumpy Do as you're told,like a good little white boy and you'll go far! 🤣🤣🤣" My apologies 😆 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. A quick lesson from the English Oxford Dictionary: Sexual Preference A person's identity in relation to the gender or genders to which they are sexually attracted; the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, etc. Racist A person who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. "he has been targeted by vicious racists online" So explain where the prejudice against a race or where the antagonistic behaviour is by not wanting to have sex with black/white men? Sexual preference - your definition states gender and sexual orientation, not colour, so you choosing your sexual partners based on race isn't a preference as defined by your own chosen 'lesson'. The prejudice comes from your rejection of the whole female black race and the whole of the Asian race! I think you used the excuse that Asian women are too petite - which is ridiculous - do you really think that every Asian woman in the world is petite! Can you actually listen to yourself and what you're writing? 😂 So on your theory and reading your profile, you're both 'ageist' as you don't want anyone under 30 or over the age of 60, you're also 'heightist' as it's no one over 6 feet tall, why group all heights with the same theory? They can't all be not for you?... you're also not looking for random guys? Why? Why are you grouping all guys in the same box? Can you see how ridiculous your theory is when I just break it down to your own profile? Or are you still saying I'm racist because of my sexual preferences? Also, what gives you the right to say who I sleep with? If you're going to be ridiculous, so can I. Noooo you can't talk common sense in here god forbid 😳😂 You must have sex with folk you don't want to remember 🤷♂️😆 But, Grumpy Do as you're told,like a good little white boy and you'll go far! 🤣🤣🤣 My apologies 😆" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Anyway, interesting to read all the responses about race but (and I'm just being real here) after looking at the OP's profile I feel his lack of success has fuck all to do with his race. Some men are better off attending clubs, not being wallflowers, don't turn into the wanking dead and hopefully they have enough personality for it to shine through in person. I actually thought the same thing - but in fairness he was highlighting the 'no black men' brigade. I'm of the opinion that anyone looking only for black men or only for white men do have a deep underlying problem with race - there's no other good explanation. They'll try to style it out, but to declare a whole race unattractive is really pushing the boat out. K. A quick lesson from the English Oxford Dictionary: Sexual Preference A person's identity in relation to the gender or genders to which they are sexually attracted; the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, etc. Racist A person who is prejudiced against or antagonistic towards people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. "he has been targeted by vicious racists online" So explain where the prejudice against a race or where the antagonistic behaviour is by not wanting to have sex with black/white men? Sexual preference - your definition states gender and sexual orientation, not colour, so you choosing your sexual partners based on race isn't a preference as defined by your own chosen 'lesson'. The prejudice comes from your rejection of the whole female black race and the whole of the Asian race! I think you used the excuse that Asian women are too petite - which is ridiculous - do you really think that every Asian woman in the world is petite! Can you actually listen to yourself and what you're writing? 😂 So on your theory and reading your profile, you're both 'ageist' as you don't want anyone under 30 or over the age of 60, you're also 'heightist' as it's no one over 6 feet tall, why group all heights with the same theory? They can't all be not for you?... you're also not looking for random guys? Why? Why are you grouping all guys in the same box? Can you see how ridiculous your theory is when I just break it down to your own profile? Or are you still saying I'm racist because of my sexual preferences? Also, what gives you the right to say who I sleep with? If you're going to be ridiculous, so can I. Noooo you can't talk common sense in here god forbid 😳😂 You must have sex with folk you don't want to remember 🤷♂️😆 I know, it's quite controlling behaviour I think there's laws against that, I'm still trying to think of the correct 'ism' or 'ist' to throw at em! 🤣 " I think the real term is "karen" for most as it's making a big thing out of nothing. Who cares what the other person prefers?.... get on with your own shit. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"🕰️ 🤭" did you read any other interesting threads to day pickle? | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"🕰️ 🤭 did you read any other interesting threads to day pickle?"I quite enjoyed the one about love. But this has made me laugh the most. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"🕰️ 🤭 did you read any other interesting threads to day pickle?
I quite enjoyed the one about love.
But this has made me laugh the most. "I've read it all I've got toxic fumes from my phone  | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"🕰️ 🤭 did you read any other interesting threads to day pickle?
I quite enjoyed the one about love.
But this has made me laugh the most.
I've read it all
I've got toxic fumes from my phone "
Nothing that can’t be fixed with a bit of meditation 🧘🏾♂️ | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"I emphasise with you OP. Bro we can’t win. But we Haven’t even found a black women that likes black guys on here. Must be an agenda against me? Looool I’m joking. Luckily for you, you’re built a name for yourself through your interactions on forum. Teach me "Lol..on behalf of my ebony girlfriends and myself..we adore our men of colour. What l find strange are people/couples who have "no black/Asian men" on their profile, but send me a note saying they love my pics and want to meet me...go figure!!.. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
"Shit like this is only a problem when it's made a problem. It's no problem for anyone to fancy whoever they fancy. That's it! Why should anyone else care? It only became a problem when you made it one! Going on like people must have a KKK mentality because of who they find sexually attractive! Like give over" ------------------------------------- I'm from a 100% rural white community, I'd never met anyone non-white until I went to university, but subsequentely married a black man and have dual heritage adult children who describe themselves as black, so I do have experience from both perspectives. Personally I don't have an issue with anybodies preference, I have enough of my own, but it's often the language used to describe people of colour which dehumanises and objectifies them that I have a problem with because invariably it doesn't come from a 'good' place. Even having said that I've nothing against racists being part of this lifestyle and expressing their own preferences, it's a free world but obviously I wouldn't choose to meet them and they wouldn't be interested in me, that's fine. There's a three dimensional conversation to be had here- race, sex and society isn't a binary, trivial issue. I'm rapidly becoming an old white biddy and it's a shame these discussions haven't developed over the last 40 years, another wasted opportunity unfortunately. | |||
(closed, thread got too big) | |||
| Reply privately |
| back to top |  |
