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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

Every single time without fail mine starts on me texts phone calls etc.

I end up in a really bad mood and now I dont wanna go out because I am totally hacked off.

Or is it just my ex!!!!!!!!!!!

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts


"Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

Every single time without fail mine starts on me texts phone calls etc.

I end up in a really bad mood and now I dont wanna go out because I am totally hacked off.

Or is it just my ex!!!!!!!!!!!"

[[[[hugs]]]] rise above it sweet ... hope you feel better soon and enjoy your night at jay dees xx

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol


"Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

Every single time without fail mine starts on me texts phone calls etc.

I end up in a really bad mood and now I dont wanna go out because I am totally hacked off.

Or is it just my ex!!!!!!!!!!!"

maybe because women have a habit of making weekends the guys night all the time ...just a thought .. could be wrong

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

As difficult as it might be, don't let him win the psychological game of trying to wreck your weekend.

Txt and be damned, go out and enjoy yourself.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

My BFs ex is more likely to NOT let him see his daughter. His job isn't good for being flexible and she gets annoyed at him not being regular in the times he has his daughter, even though his mum and Dad have looked after her when he couldn't.

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By *smCouple
over a year ago

Liskeard

I missed my Ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I missed my Ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

Every single time without fail mine starts on me texts phone calls etc.

I end up in a really bad mood and now I dont wanna go out because I am totally hacked off.

Or is it just my ex!!!!!!!!!!!

maybe because women have a habit of making weekends the guys night all the time ...just a thought .. could be wrong "

Must say I've thought this before - I often hear 'the kids are at their dad's on a weekend' (not to mention after school sometimes during the week) It always made me wonder whether dads ever got pissed off with this ...or not (knowing of course that these things are never straightforward)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex is'nt too bad making sure he sees our son every Friday. Least its regular but it is never all weekend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex is'nt too bad making sure he sees our son every Friday. Least its regular but it is never all weekend. "

Does he see the boy during the week at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a soft spot for my ex's mother...

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A peat bog in the highlands...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex is'nt too bad making sure he sees our son every Friday. Least its regular but it is never all weekend.

Does he see the boy during the week at all? "

Well I take our son to the ex;s mums once a week, and they all have dinner together there, so yeah, he see's our son for a few hrs there also. Why?

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

Every single time without fail mine starts on me texts phone calls etc.

I end up in a really bad mood and now I dont wanna go out because I am totally hacked off.

Or is it just my ex!!!!!!!!!!!

maybe because women have a habit of making weekends the guys night all the time ...just a thought .. could be wrong

Must say I've thought this before - I often hear 'the kids are at their dad's on a weekend' (not to mention after school sometimes during the week) It always made me wonder whether dads ever got pissed off with this ...or not (knowing of course that these things are never straightforward)"

I always thought it was rough on my ex that he had the kids every weekend after having worked all week so we used to have them on alternate weekends so we could both have a life - and also both have the pleasure of having the kids / taking them out etc.

Worked for us.

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By *oftfocusMan
over a year ago

EDINBURGH


"My ex is'nt too bad making sure he sees our son every Friday. Least its regular but it is never all weekend.

Does he see the boy during the week at all?

Well I take our son to the ex;s mums once a week, and they all have dinner together there, so yeah, he see's our son for a few hrs there also. Why?"

Doesn't seem very long for the wee one to see his dad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex is'nt too bad making sure he sees our son every Friday. Least its regular but it is never all weekend.

Does he see the boy during the week at all?

Well I take our son to the ex;s mums once a week, and they all have dinner together there, so yeah, he see's our son for a few hrs there also. Why?

Doesn't seem very long for the wee one to see his dad."

I know that, but, I can't make his Dad do more than what he does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is ment to have ares every other weekend , but in last 3 moths he's had them 3 times and on one of them he rang at 10 to say some thing had happened and he had to bring them back . Kids told me when they got home his mates had turned up and he wanted to go to the pub !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He only has them once every 14days!!!! Making out I am somehow in the wrong?

Cheers

Kick a girl when she is down

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my ex has our kids for a total of 14 days in a 6 month period !!!

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


" I missed my Ex

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I ran into mine the other day...

So stuck the car in reverse and hot him again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He only has them once every 14days!!!! Making out I am somehow in the wrong?

Cheers

Kick a girl when she is down

Cheers "

I don't think they were kicking you whilst you are down, these things are hard to reply to when people don't know the full story, probably wouldn't want to put the history of you and your ex on public display. My ex had my daughter once a month, its not easy on your own and its hard work, whether you're a male or female single parent.

Don't take the replies as a personal dig, advise and comments made and not people judging you, chin up

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Nope hunny my ex is a complete twat too. He has her every other Saturday night and then tries to get out of it most times. He takes no responsibility during the week despite the fact he has his new mrs there and works far fewer hours than me but hey his loss as my daughter is under no illusions about what a twat he is too and that's with no help from me!! Take pleasure out of the fact your always there for your kids and they will thank you for that!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some dads give the decent ones a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some dads give the decent ones a bad name.

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Yep they do, but as in most things, people get tarred with the same brush, I get on with my ex and it was the distance that was the main factor in the visits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

exs are exs for a reason xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All exes should be sent to an island called Loserville. Lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"exs are exs for a reason xxxxxxx"

Not always the nicest of reasons though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My eldest 4 see their dad every 4-6 weekends can't have them during the week cos he lives in West Midlands but we cope with it until he gives me lame excuses why he can't have them

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

i have my son every other weekend ,and the saturday day time every other week , but when i want change any access to go out or even work my ex gets shity why ,seems she can av a life and i cant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

Every single time without fail mine starts on me texts phone calls etc.

I end up in a really bad mood and now I dont wanna go out because I am totally hacked off.

Or is it just my ex!!!!!!!!!!!"

It's just yours, I would have my little girl every day if I could and thankful every day that when I want her I can have her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have them. No, you have them. No, you have them!

So who wants these poor little tykes?

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

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It's probably not oversimplistic to say - because they can.

They know your weaknesses, which buttons to push and delight in pushing them.

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By *issmekate xxxWoman
over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

Every single time without fail mine starts on me texts phone calls etc.

I end up in a really bad mood and now I dont wanna go out because I am totally hacked off.

Or is it just my ex!!!!!!!!!!!"

I get pd off my ex uses my daughter's disability to her advantage and there is fuck all I can do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

Every single time without fail mine starts on me texts phone calls etc.

I end up in a really bad mood and now I dont wanna go out because I am totally hacked off.

Or is it just my ex!!!!!!!!!!!

I get pd off my ex uses my daughter's disability to her advantage and there is fuck all I can do..."

Appalling, I could never do the bitter and twisted bit that involves the children.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

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It's probably not oversimplistic to say - because they can.

They know your weaknesses, which buttons to push and delight in pushing them."

And often they still want some control or at least I know that's why my x does the stuff he does but little does he know he has no control whatsoever!!

I would like go add there are lots of good dads and I know many just unfortunately not my daughters dad but there's also lots of mothers who are twats too using the kids as control!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have my son every other weekend ,and the saturday day time every other week , but when i want change any access to go out or even work my ex gets shity why ,seems she can av a life and i cant "

Well when its not every other weekend or saturday daytimes and she wants to work or have a life.. Does she put the kids onto u?

No I guess she has to deal with it and work her life around the kids..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex is'nt too bad making sure he sees our son every Friday. Least its regular but it is never all weekend.

Does he see the boy during the week at all?

Well I take our son to the ex;s mums once a week, and they all have dinner together there, so yeah, he see's our son for a few hrs there also. Why?"

Just wondered - it often seems that 'ex' time is reserved for weekends ...perhaps it's too disruptive during the week with school and all that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well. . He just rang to say my son has puked.

Well as much as I want to go get my son I am gonna let his dad deal with it. Maybe will show him what's its like a little bit!

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By *U1966Man
over a year ago

Devon

Go collect my daughter after work on friday take her back sunday night every week long trip each way but well worth the effort ex gets to go out every friday and saturday night

I wouldnt swap that precious time with my girl for a night out

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By *andm288Couple
over a year ago

oxford

just for the record we are not all arseholes ! i have mine every Wednesday and every other weekend and more if needed due to my ex`s work commitments and i pay a fair share in bringing them up !

M

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Between when we split and my youngest daughter hitting 18' my ex had them a total of 30 times (days only)..... In 16.5 years.

Ladies.... if your ex has his children regularly..... Be thankful.... Because there's a lot who don't give a shit.....

And gents...come to some agreement about every other weekend.....you ex also needs to be able to go out but not take the piss... You are also entitled to a Fri/Sat off.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Never had a problem with my ex: still used to pick up our youngest after school, fix her tea, listen to her read etc.

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By *eaverfeverCouple
over a year ago

nr Manchester


"Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

Every single time without fail mine starts on me texts phone calls etc.

I end up in a really bad mood and now I dont wanna go out because I am totally hacked off.

Or is it just my ex!!!!!!!!!!!"

Change your num. Dont give it him

.et a trusted person to arrange visits. Only way!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"All exes should be sent to an island called Loserville. Lmao "

It's my ex-husbands birthday tomorrow. Our three girls, their husbands, partners and his two sons from a previous relationship, his mum and me will all be celebrating his birthday with him.

Can't believe he's 62...he was 30 when we married, where has the time gone...but I digress...not all exes are losers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All exes should be sent to an island called Loserville. Lmao "

All?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two sides to every story !!!!

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

I have to say mines pretty good, he has my 3 every other weekend and for tea in the week, and a bit more sometimes in school holidays ........... He also pays the proper amount of money too.....

When we first spilt I used to get a lot of texts and phone calls while he had the kids, I think he found it hard on his own with them, but he's a lot better 2 years down the line........and also better since he's on his own and the girlfriends not pulling his strings!!!

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do exs start giving the shit when its their night to have the kids!!

Every single time without fail mine starts on me texts phone calls etc.

I end up in a really bad mood and now I dont wanna go out because I am totally hacked off.

Or is it just my ex!!!!!!!!!!!"

9 years on and I still suffer such joys?!

I no longer allow it to affect me, that gets his goat even more. Very entertaining. Lol.

Its just so bloody tedious and boring.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Very tedious indeed. Been going on for two years now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine has ours for a weekend every 6 weeks ....

I don't know why there has to be an element of ' but why every weekend'

I didn't get a free weekend for nearly 3 years now Im going to be lucky if I have 8 in a year. Children shouldn't be used in ' free time wars'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine has ours for a weekend every 6 weeks ....

I don't know why there has to be an element of ' but why every weekend'

I didn't get a free weekend for nearly 3 years now Im going to be lucky if I have 8 in a year. Children shouldn't be used in ' free time wars'

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Too true!

My son has no contact with his dad.. Last time he did it was only cos his gf had kicked him out and he came to sponge off me.. When she took him back he disappeared again!

He contacted me again recently and I see its cos they have split again. So told him if he was totally dedicated this time then it had to be regular and consistant and so seeing a solicitor and getting an agreement in place won't be a problem!

I do what's best for my son not cos I want freetime!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My ex doesn't want them I dont think but I want my kids to see him so that's why I continue even thou I suffer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine has ours for a weekend every 6 weeks ....

I don't know why there has to be an element of ' but why every weekend'

I didn't get a free weekend for nearly 3 years now Im going to be lucky if I have 8 in a year. Children shouldn't be used in ' free time wars'

Too true!

My son has no contact with his dad.. Last time he did it was only cos his gf had kicked him out and he came to sponge off me.. When she took him back he disappeared again!

He contacted me again recently and I see its cos they have split again. So told him if he was totally dedicated this time then it had to be regular and consistant and so seeing a solicitor and getting an agreement in place won't be a problem!

I do what's best for my son not cos I want freetime!"

This is how it should be

I know how hard it is not have free time , I did it for long enough even when we were together. I know some ex's use this as a weapon too - try and make it as difficult as they can for the other party whilst they go out on the tiles every weekend - but it makes my blood boil. These children don't need that they need to know they are loved and wanted when they visit

Off my soapbox now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex doesn't want them I dont think but I want my kids to see him so that's why I continue even thou I suffer "

That's hard ... why do you suffer - is it knowing he doesn't want to know ??

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

Had very restricted access to my daughter for 7 years, spent short of 11,000 on courts fighting, had tue 5 till 9 Thu. 5 till 9 Then fri thru till Sunday, Eventually got. Tue. And thu overnight with alternate weekends, all thru court. Guess what, for last 2 yrs my daughter lives with me , and access is the other way, Daughters choice, Maybe this dad wasn't all that an a-hole after all, Restrictions on children regarding exs can come back to bite you later on, Too many out there think there doing it in interest of there child, when its really just using the child as a tool.

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

Sorry above message was from MR. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My ex doesn't want them I dont think but I want my kids to see him so that's why I continue even thou I suffer

That's hard ... why do you suffer - is it knowing he doesn't want to know ??"

Well for 18months he had them at my house so I had to sofa surf. And I would return back to kids in pjs still and a lot of mess. This changed when he moved to a place he could hav them but I just get constant texts and calls the whole time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex doesn't want them I dont think but I want my kids to see him so that's why I continue even thou I suffer

That's hard ... why do you suffer - is it knowing he doesn't want to know ??

Well for 18months he had them at my house so I had to sofa surf. And I would return back to kids in pjs still and a lot of mess. This changed when he moved to a place he could hav them but I just get constant texts and calls the whole time"

Not good xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what about when your ex is like my ex!!! Has the kids as she is primary care,, can't really look after them, screams and shouts at them especially when things are not to her liking,, can't clean the house and just is plain lazy! Yet I want the kids but in the eyes of the law she is primary care there fore gets the rights and all the benefits there attached,, I get bugger all, no financial help at all, very limited time with the kids,, have to work all hours just to pay the bills as she gets twenty percent of my wage, I'm still expected to pay for outings etc and she gets told to drop your hours of work to sixteen hours per week in order to get a house payed for her,, maximum tax credits etc,, systems all wrong,, grrrrrrrrrr rant over, blokes get a raw deal too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should state that I work six days a week,, 50-60 hours each week, for a crap wage that only just covers my out goings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wait till the kids get to there teens and they don't want to go stop and Dad/ Mam for the w/end, try sorting that out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sure there are lots of ex's like this but if you feel so strongly im sure he has what he wants and its to have got a reaction.

Best thing is to ignore unless its about your kids.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

my ex once wanted my best t shirt to sleep in, palmed her off with a ripped one saying it was egyption cotton. We split up 5 months later - and I still have my best t shirt... and it feeels lovely!!!

Ex's can be good

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