FabSwingers.com forum: Grrrrr! Jealousy!

By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
14 weeks ago

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Do you experience it and how do you deal with it in your relationships?

Tell me how you navigate this normal, complex feeling?

Inspired by a random thoughts at 3am.

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By *ruceyyMan
14 weeks ago

London

Fuckin worst right!

I used to get so jealous. I just distract myself with new people. But I haven't been in love jealous for a long time. That stings. I think I would still try and distract myself with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

I don't anymore, but I don't do relationships anymore either.

I do kinda get off on guys I like seeing other women.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
14 weeks ago

North West

I sit with it. Try to work out why I'm feeling it. Is it fomo, insecurity, a recent lack of quality time?

Sounds simple but is anything but. 😂

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
14 weeks ago

The Continental

I haven’t felt jealousy for a long, long time.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
14 weeks ago

North West

I won't lie i have been jealous at times but I try not too. Especially as my ex was extremely jealous and paranoid. Got to the point where she was constantly messaging and ringing me at work and would assume because I couldn't answer straight away I was cheating on her with a work colleague or with anyone. Wouldn't and couldn't understand that I can't answer straight away especially when I'm working in the job environment that I work in.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
14 weeks ago

Norwich

I think your experience of jealousy changes as you age. I used to feel jealous of many things, inside and outside of relationships. Less so now. Contentment, perhaps. Or resignation?

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By *ruceyyMan
14 weeks ago

London

"I don't anymore, but I don't do relationships anymore either.

I do kinda get off on guys I like seeing other women. "

Ooh I have something for you! Or, I did once. Now.

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By *amie HantsWoman
14 weeks ago

Atlantis

No, pickle. I don’t feel jealousy. I’m so evolved I’m completely immune to that human emotion.

I find it embarrassing in 2024 that someone dare to feel jealousy. How primitive. You’re no better than a caveman!

I wish.

Same as Julie, I try unpick what’s behind it. It’s easier to unpick with someone. I’ll usually speak with a neutral friend first. I find sometimes it helps to get perspective from someone away from the immediate situation

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By *andynecklaceWoman
14 weeks ago

Someplace

I get jealous really easily tbh but I'm better than I was before

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By *icecouple561Couple
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14 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't get jealous unnecessarily. If a line was crossed I would get angry.

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By *eliWoman
14 weeks ago

Well for one, sometimes it's an umbrella term. Or an accusation thrown at another. I also think that we label jealousy as this great Big Evil when it's a normal human emotion.

I rarely feel jealous. Jealousy. I don't want to be one of many, does nothing for me but it's not because I get jealous. I like people who make me happy to be happy. Despise lies and that's when the negative feelings creep in.

Sometimes I can feel a bit meh. The last time I felt meh I discovered that I was right and they were unethically dicking around. It's good to listen to why I'm feeling that way.

I try and avoid weaponising when I'm feeling insecure and work out why that is. Is my period due? Am I overtired? Eaten too much cheese recently and not feeling particularly attractive? Sometimes I'll talk to a friend and say, hey, I'm feeling uncomfortable about this situation, am I being an unfair twunt?

Sometimes just a good night's sleep is enough.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
14 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Yeah, I've experienced it. I sit with it and try to figure out what's behind it. Is it caused by the internal or external? Is it fear of being replaced/fomo/envy etc?

Then I talk about it in a non-confrontational way.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
14 weeks ago

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"I get jealous really easily tbh but I'm better than I was before "

Sorry. Off topic but your face card is ridiculous. 🥵🫠

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By *ceKweenWoman
14 weeks ago

Bolton

A little jealousy is good as it shows there are feelings but paranoia and possessiveness is a no no

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By *ansoffateMan
14 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

It is a complex and contextual feeling for sure. Jealousy can be thrown as an accusation, to deflect from all kinds of shitty behaviours.

Is she angry with me because I bailed on her 3 times in a row or perhaps I broke some form of agreed boundary, or is she really just jealous. Perhaps I should sit down with her and point how she needs to own her feelings and insecurity. I'm sure she'd appreciate my profound wisdom, at this juncture.

Oh look she told me to fuck off, what childish behaviour. Clearly she can't control her jealousy. Not a real swinger that one!

I think once you accept that it's a normal emotion your resilience starts to build over time. It ceases to be alarming. Once you have a relationship where you can talk about it openly, rather than the fuckery of head-games, it's even better.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
14 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I've never suffered from jealously. Its one emotion I don't suffer from. I don't think I would ever have been a swingers if I suffered from it.

I've had guys in my life do things to make me feel jealous and I've just walked away

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